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I have all these little red bumps on the sides of my face, back and chest..has anybody had this, and if so..what is it?
Sometimes the material of clothes you wear irritates your skin. It could also be from excessive sweat tightly copacted against your skin by your shirt (I know, gross). But if it doesn't go away, consult a doctor. I know that is very cliche of us advice-givers here, but doctor knows best. But, wait it out. They might go away.
&& Wouldn't that be nice?? :]
good luckkk
What do you think about a guy that you ask over on a date, and he continually disses you?
I invited this guy over that I had liked for a long time.
I have a small but clean and nicely decorated appartment. Well he would say mean things about it, like when his tea got cold I told him I could zap it in my microwave and he said sarcastically "oh you have one of those"? Then when I asked him if he wanted to watch one of my movies he said "oh, it's the movie queen,". But the way he said it wasn't complimentary. Then he started asking me questions about my finaces! I kept trying to enagage him in conversation by showing him pictures but he looked completely bored. I felt very uncomfortable. I thought if I guy was into you he would say things to make you like him better. But the way he was acting it's like he was purposely trying to make me not like him.
Why do you think he was acting like this? He's still trying to be my friend. What should I do?
Wow, from the sound of it, this guy was either nervous or just naturally a jerk. He could've been nervous. I know sometimes when I'm nervous I say stupid things I don't mean. But usually not around people I am attracted to.
All I can say is that maybe he is just really terrible at first impressions. While a lot of people are rooting you on to just forget about him, I think you should give him one more chance.
You don't know a persons WHOLE life story from one date. If you are very attracted to him and personally think he's worth it, I say you try a second date. If he starts offending you again, get very quiet after he makes those sardonic comments. Maybe he'll get the hint that you're not appreciating it.
And if he proves to be a jerk the second time, then you can be done with him. I know some people come off differently then they actually are if you don't know them.
Good Luck!
hey it's the america's most wanted sad love life
i want your email i don't know you but thanx for your advice. it's so weird to explain but you think like my best friend she has the same mind as you. but yeah he is SUPER FLIRTY. thanks alot
Your welcome. You think you can give me your e-mail, because I don't want to post mine on my column. I'll definitely e-mail you though.
Why do you think that punk is wearing band T-shirts and a certain kind of belt? And Goth has to do anything with blood and skulls?
Again, that was just my little summary of it.
Why, you ask? It's only what I observe. And I observe many, many people. Please do NOT flip out on me. I clearly stated that I was sorry if I was off a bit.
I will not get in some battle over music, labels, and posers and what not. I answered a question to the best of my ability, please don't judge me. I did not state anywhere that I was 100% right. I clearly stated that everyone has their own take on these styles.
sorry if for some reason you are offended. Maybe explain to me your offense?
Hey
I am in 8th grade, and my social studies teacher is really tough and he gave us an assignment to write a 3-4 page essay on an amendment. But I got stuck with articles 5,6,and 7 of the constitution. Its due this friday and today is tuesday.
Im just so confused. I started writting my draft, and it just seems like it all doesn't make sence to me. I cant seem to organize all the information which seems like a diferent language to me.
Im just really stressing out about this.
Will anyone give me some websites that you think would have correct information for me to understand? I tried google and I couldnt really understood what came up.
Or does anyone have any advice or knoledge about this? Thank you so much
Don't stress out!
I know what it's like when teachers throw these big, monumental things at you. The key for any Social Studies essay, or any essay at all, I have found is going to be how you work in your vocabulary.
Large words will indeed SAVE your butt. I'm not the best when it comes to SS, but plenty of times last year when I was in 8th grade, and I would get DBQ's (Document Based Question) Essays on topics I'd never even heard about...well I'd heard about them but I'd never conciously listen cause I was busy talking during class. Needless to say, I don't recommend TALKING during class at all.
What I mean is, use a thesaurus or dictionary online or at home to replace some mediocre words in your rough draft. Sometimes, if you don't like your rough draft, you have to start over.
Starting over can be scary. It's like throwing away all your old ideas. But, not quite. You don't have to throw the old ideas away. Shape your new, revised, vocab infiltrated rough draft off of the ideas in the old rough draft.
Unless the rough draft really is terrible, and does not by any means represent your task, then I'd say hold onto it.
Here's a website with all of the amendments.
http://caselaw.lp.findlaw.com/data/constitution/amendments.html
I don't know off hand info. on the amendments, nor do I wanna wing it and throw you off. Don't stress out. If need be, have a friend thats good at SS tutor you and help you out. If that's no good, maybe a parent can help you?
And whatever you do--don't delay. Don't wait till Thursday on midnight to start your intro. Try writing your rough draft today or tomorrow based on the guidelines I just gave you. If your still really struggling, inbox me with your AIM address and I'll IM you when I can (I'm pretty much always on) and help you out a little bit.
Good Luck && Don't stress!
*TIP*- Try making it a little longer than 4 pages if your teacher isn't restricting you for whatever reason from 3-4 pages. More work looks good, as long as your teacher didn't give you an absolute maximum.
What is the difference between goth, punk and emo? Also, can you be christian and goth, or punk.
I'm preppy with a tinge of country. Where I don't have upfront experience with any of these in particular, I'll give you what I know.
Goth- Dark clothing, hard metal type of music, deadly vibe (skulls, death,blood, all that), spiked jewelry
Emo- Emotional. Meaning, you like to express your emotions alot. The guys wear tight jeans, and their music is very complain-y.
Punk- Band t-shirts, bullet belts, rockerish type of thing going on. I picture this as more of a way to dress then anything else.
Can you be a christian && goth at the same time? Hmm I guess it depends how much you are into your religion. But I would say if you revolved your life around deathly, 'evil', things, it would be hard to follow Christ at the same time.
I think you could be punk and christian. But then again, it depends the extremity in which you follow your religion.
And then how far you take your style. Some people dress goth but they're not all about death and what not. Well, not everybody. It varies. This is the type of question that will be very interesting to look at MANY different answers for because everyone will have a different take on it.
Compare && Contrast
(and forgive me if I don't know everything perfectly straight for those of you out there who are goth/punk/emo)
And remember...it all just comes down to labels :\
I mean...in the end we're all people. It's just these names we humans like to throw at eachother. When it comes down to it, everyone has a different way of expressing themselves. Some are mixes of punk && emo, goth && emo, or punk && goth.
Some people take these already made styles and make something new out of them. So, for the most part, no two people are the same. Names are only names.
Well good luckk finding info && inbox me if you need more help
I'm going to NYC with my crush and his family this Friday. He's 15 im 13. I was wondering if my outfit sounds okay.
I'm wearing these comfy "yoga pants" from American Eagle. They're grey and have foldover waist. I'm wearing an American Eagle shirt that says Be Bright on it. Since we're going to NYC im wearing a white northface over it with a white knit hat that has a pom pom on it. Any other suggestions would be welcome!
Hmm, where this does sound cute. It might be a BIT too casual. I'm gonna critique, but I must say, if you stay with what you have, it's still cool. This is just my personal opinion.
Ripped jeans have this great vibe about them. Especially those darkwash, ripped up jeans. Mm! Delightful. And a belt with ripped jeans, depending on that belt, cannn so rock anybodies world with ease. That with the "Be Bright" shirt might be simply adorable.
You can wear a blazer over the Be Bright shirt. Orrr we can do some layers. Polo under the Be Bright shirt perhaps??
Hat sounds cuteee! Maybe straighten your hair/scrunch it? I'm thinking straighten but it depends how it'll go with the particular hat.
Sounds like a blast!! If you need any more advice for your night out, inbox me.
Good Luck && Happy Holidays!!
A guy that I'm good friends with just moved to another state for a job. I was hoping one day we would be an item. Well right before he moved he was acting like a real jerk to me. He said he would visit me before he left and never did and also didn't phone me like he said he would. It's been a month since he moved and since then I havent received any emails from him.
My question is that I had wanted to get him a Xmas gift, but since he is being such a jerk and just stopped contacting me I don't really want to. After all this I still have feelings for him. Should I wait for him to contact me and get me a Xmas gift first? If he does then I will still get him a gift and will know if he still is interested. Otherwise, if he doesnt get me a gift I'm not getting him one.
What do you think I should do?
Don't even bother with a gift for him! I mean, generally, I would say give the guy a break. But he's made no attempt to contact you.
Who knows what the future will bring. Maybe you two will one day be together. But not until he can atleast make some attempt to contact you. It's basically a guys way of saying that don't have tons of interest right now.
Not to mention why should you spend all that money only to find out he never calls or never buys you a gift? It'll lead you to heartbreak.
Worse comes to worse, if he does come around late into the season, and you guys do get together, just give him a late gift. It won't hurt. If he gave you a gift for whatever reason just say, "I'm so sorry it slipped my mind, I'll get you a late christmas gift."
See the magic in that?
Perfect..and you'll have the ball in your court. In other words... you get to be in control :]
Good Luck && Merry Christmas
hey!it's america's most wanted sad love life,
i'm 13 years old. and i'm a female
well here's how this all started. i know this boy(same age, same grade, different school) this boy is my older brother's friend.Me and this boy always flirt around with eachother there's not one day if he passes by me, that he doesn't say something sweet or funny. i love him, alot i've never kissed and never had a boyfriend(this isn't the point)my best friend asked him one day if he liked me, he said no. cuz i'm ugly. But deep down inside me and my best friend know that he likes me. we almost got into a fight 2-3 weeks ago. Not just a fight but a fist fight. Now he's going around telling the whole neighborhood he beat me up. I'm mad because
1. we don't talk anymore
2. he's spreading lies about me
3. i still love him
4.i just don't know what to do
5. should i give up?
6. on top of that i'm not allowed to have a boyfriend!!!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO ABOUT EVERY SINGLE PART OFTHIS MESS. PLEASE HELP ME!!! YOU CAN EMAIL ME YOUR THOUGHTS AT MY EMAIL: otnotuandme@yahoo.com@ there's no spaces nor capitals in my email. thanx lots!!!
aww listen up...
this is NOT by any means your fault.
So, yes, the situation does sound a little bit peculiar, but I'll try and make sense of it. :]
And make sense for you...so you can sort through this and either move on...or just BE together already. Although I'm not sure he's THAT worth it at this point.
Maybe he's just one of those SUPER flirty guys, and really doesn't like you. Now thats just worst case scenario, but we have to lay that down because if he LIKES you the way he should, why the HECK would any guy in their right mind come close to having a fist fight with a girl??? That's just really indecent for a guy to be doing. Even when a guy doesn't like a girl...he usually wont fist fight one. Thats the lowest of all lows. Unless he's got some big apologies or explanations, that guy has a jerky side to him! And by the way, does your brother know he almost tried to fight you?! Your crush has got some big respect issues. BIG.
Not to mention...he called you ugly? if he DOES like you...he's doing everything in his power to cover it up. To me, that's plain immature. I think he really ought to apologize if all of this was some stupid joke or something. Weird joke if you ask me. And spreading some HUGE rumor around the neighborhood??? That is the last straw. You've never even had your first kiss yet. There's nothing wrong with that...but don't let this jerk have the opportunity to give it to you. He's a horrible person!
I mean maybe one or two screwups is understandable...but he did 3 outrageously rude things to you. He does not by ANY means deserve you. Don't even subject yourself to that stort of hurt. Because guys like that will be miserable...m-i-s-e-r-a-b-l-e to date.
I know you still 'love' him...but you need to find a way to get past him. I know it's hard right now but try and ignore him if he comes to your house or get out of the situation && walk to a friends house or go see a movie or something. Point being--don't be near him. He's not good for you right now. And if in the future for whatever reason he changes, fine. But for now, give yourself some room to breathe. So atleast if you can actually live without him you'll know once you get some time away and whether he starts to fade out.
I guarentee eventually a better guy will come into your life and atleast distract you from the other one. And if your not allowed to have a boyfriend, I guess the whole thing isn't a problem right now. Worry about that when it comes, anyway. Plus-- how would your parents know? Couldn't you just tell them you like eachother but your not 'dating'?? You don't nescesarily have to be officially going out.
If you need any more help inbox me again or ask for my SN if you want. I don't generally do e-mails, but if you really prefer me to, let me know and I will :]
Hey,..like lately i have been inraged at guys. even my friends. Expecially my best friend's boyfriend ((he's my friend as well and my ex.)) And one minutes i'll be laughing and the next i'll either be screaming or giving him ((or any other guy)) the silent treatment. It may be I just start my period for the month ((i've had it before)). And i just dont know what to do so i'm not so angry. i'm usually not. i'm usually very perky and flirty. Tell me something that helps and that i dont know and i'll rate 5's!
Yeahh I guess your just PMSing. Just apologize to them and be like "sorry, I didnt mean to snap at you". Just tell them your having a bad day or something.
Guys are used to being beat on. haha, so hopefully they'll get over it. Just try and hold your tongue && think before you speak if possible.
good luckk && cheer up ;-]
Is there any way to read books online. I want to read The 5 People You Meet in Heaven. Is there a website or something that I can go to so I can read this book? Thank you!
If anyone will have it, it's www.pinkmonkey.com
I'm pretty sure you can atleast read SOME of the book but I don't think all. It's illegal. I mean think about it, if you were an author and spent all that time writing a book, and people started getting unlimited access to it for free, you might not be too happy about it.
(A library would be different...
because the library buys the book in the first place)
Anyhow, give this a shot :
http://pinkmonkey.com/search/albom.asp
What are some good musicals like Rent and Wicked?
Hairspray
Beauty & The Beast
Wonderful Town
Jekyll & Hyde
Ok, for school I have to choose a book for this book report thing. Any books you like apropriate for a seventh grade girl? (Only if they're really good, because I hate a lot of books!)
Thank you! xoxo abercrombiebabiex3
Inkheart!
It is lengthy, but boy is it AMAZING! It really will draw you in wehther or not your a reader. It also just came out with it's sequel, Inkspell. Inkheart is on the virge of becoming a movie! So if you read this book, you should be able to go see the movie too (that's always fun).
Here's a summary of Inkheart I found on the internet: Twelve-year old Meggie Folchart lives alone with her father, Mo. Mo is a talented book binder who's love for books is only superceded by his love for Meggie and for his lost wife. Meggie had never been told where her mother went or why she left, all she knows is she has been without her mother since she was three-years old. In spite of that vacancy in her life, however, Meggie's life with her father and with her learned love and respect for books is near idyllic; until one night when a stranger, with the unlikely name of Dustfinger, comes to pay Mo a visit. A whispered conversation between Mo and Dustfinger, behind the closed door of Mo's workshop, then starts an odyssey that begins with a rushed trip to Meggie's great-aunt Elinor's home and ends by nearly killing them in the village of a villain named Capricorn.
It isn't long before Meggie learn that book binding is not her father's only talent; he also has the ability to people and objects right out of stories and into the real world, with a sometimes devastating side-effect for those who might hear him as he reads. Meggie must also come to grips with two other unsettling revelations: the story of how her mother disappeared and the discovery that she has inherited her father's strange talent.
Capricorn is after Mo because of his unusual ability and is also after a book in Mo's possession, a book called Inkheart.Capricorn and his band of remarkable thugs will stop at nothing to capture and control Mo and gain possession of the book.
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And trust me, however good the summary makes this book sound, it's 10x better! I think you'll really, really enjoy it. It'll be great to do a project on as long as you have 2 weeks or more to finish the book. (You could probably finish it in one week...but you'd really be squishing things in)
i really like this guy a lot. He's in one of my classes. I can't tell him that i like him because i know for a fact that he does not like or even notice me (he's really popular and i'm not). So if i told him that i liked him then it would be weird in class with him for the rest of the year. I need a way for him to notice me and talk to me first. Any suggestions?
Definitely don't tell him you like him. Even if you guys were close friends...I wouldn't recommend you just splurging the news. You gotta be friends with him first. Pick up conversation one day. It would help if you guys sat together or did a project together by chance and then that would give you an opportunity. Make a joke or ask him if you have any hw in another class.
Casual conversation to begin with. I'm just warning you...I've been through middle school... (if you're in middle school) and liked a bunch of 'popular' guys. For me, it usually wound up screwing me over with a broken heart. I'm not saying you don't have hope. I'm just saying things get easier when you get into high school and everyone pretty much assimilates and there is no popular.
Good Luck && Talk to him tomorrow :]
Haha, just kidding, I've been dressing myself for years, but the problem is that I've just now discovered my fashion sense. I actually know what looks cute and what doesn't! Before I used to wear hoodies and jeans, or t-shirts and jeans to school every day,(I'm a little bit chubby, so I liked that extra padding to hide it) but now I know what looks ok. The only problem is that I'm afraid to wear it. It's my junior year of high school, and right in the middle of the year is kind of a weird time to "re-invent myself". How do I get over this fear? I want to wear scarves to school, and nice jackets, and skirts, but I'm scared! Thanks! (I'll rate high if your advice is good, which is generally the concept or rating anyway..)
Don't be afraid!!
Are you HONESTLY going to hide behind baggy clothing and T's because your afraid of 'reinventing' yourself and having people notice? Nope! If anything, now is the best time. Make a smooth transition. Like, a little at a time.
The only way to get over the fear is by knowing this much; you owe it to yourself for the time you spent wearing unimpressive clothing.
What other people think DOESN'T matter...although the only thoughts they can have are gonna be good ones. Like..."Wow (yourname) looks really cute today"
my friendships with my lifelong 'best' friends are really fading away . for example, they were gonna leave me out of this thing we have done every year since grammer school .. some friends :[ when i found this out i broke into tears because i really don't know what to do i want friends but not if they treat me like this and make me so angry & upset and everything . any advice ? i rate fives
All this is is a part of growing up. Peoples groups of friends alter all throughout middle school & high school. People make different decisions and part ways. As sad as it is for you right now, hang in there. There's a sweet group of friends on the way, even if you don't see it right now. The only thing you can do if it's really important for you to save these friendships is invite them over your house to hang out or confront them and tell them you miss them. Although, I'm not even sure they deserve your friendship. After all, they ditched you && left you out!
hang in there && good luck
you answered my ? about costume for celebrities. you had some really good tips, i might go with angelina jolie if i can come up w/ something. if it helps, i'm half asian.. do us till think i can pull it off? there aren't many peopel i look like b/c of my races
Yeah, you can still pull it off! You don't have to look EXACTLY like her. Just create a costume similar to one of the outfits shes worn on the carpet. You could start with something simple.
http://eur.yimg.com/i/xp/premier_photo/7/739d6e8756.jpg
here's a black halter dress. you might already have on of those at home! If not, try Charlotte Russe or something to try and find it. You could wear your hair back just like she has here. It's VERY chic, and VERY Angelina. You could get bobby pins and just push your hair back and pin it on the back of your head or something. She also wears a lot of chokers, maybe a pearl choker would be good to top that off.
(Btw she wears that dress in Mrs. & Mr. Smith)
Good Luck!! Inbox me again if you need any help... && Happy Holidays :)
I Got mad today at my Best Friend Amber. The guy I like (Which Is my Ex) is my friend to. They were flirting all day! He would chase her and poke her in the chest and I got mad and she grabbed my coat and I said "DAMMIT AMBER GET OFF MY FRIGGEN COAT!!!!!!" Really Loud and My ex Kody was standing right behind her and I looked at him and he looked at me! And she already has a boyfriend. But They Won't Stop! He might be trying to make me jelous cause there was a insadent at the ballgame where he moved VERY close to me and I said "Fuk You!" and he looked at me and smiled and said "I know you want to fuck me. But We can't right here!" Soo Whats Going on with this guy??? If anyone can Help Send me A Private Message and I will tell you what happend. The WHOLE Story!
He's obviously trying to make you jealous. If they're going to be that way, you need to understand that your friend has some serious issues. Confront her...just be like I know you have a bf but let's be honest...what's up with Kody and you? If you like him just say so and spare me the time and the difficulty of prying it out of you. Hopefully she can be honest about it. If he's never shown interest in this girl in the past...it's all about him making you jealous. And if I can recall, and this is the same person && Kody I talked about with someone else, he got mad at you for talking to some other guy. Soooo maybe hes just trying to do the same thing.
Good Luck && Don't lose sleep over it.
guys do this ALL the time.
so I am "seeing" this guy right now. I feel really comfterbal with him. I could lay with him for hours! I have had a tendancy to be a prude in the past and all though I havent done anythign with this guy yet I feel like I could just let go and be comfterbal with him. He even admitted to me he has a past with being called a pimp so when he is "with" someone people think its weird. But we are "seeing" eachother.. I was just wondering if you think this is safe for me emotionaly? I mean so far all he has been is great. He has made me feel so comfterbal and I have really fallin for him. What do You think i should do?
well that's what all those playerish guys usually do. Lure you with honey, and then leave you bawling and emotionally messed up with no virginity. That's just the blunt way of saying it. But if he can admit to being a 'pimp' something isn't right. I know it's probably difficult, but just because you feel comfortable with him right now, doesn't mean the future isn't going to be painful.
Good luck && guard your heart, please, for your own sake.
Well, i dated this guy last year(my freshmen year, i'm now a sophomore). I broke up with him b/c we dated for two weeks and haden't even held hands yet. I totally regretted it and I know that i should have just talked to him about it instead of ending it right there. Finally this year, I told him how i felt but he said that he just wanted to be friends. Some friends we are, he gives me the "go to hell" look everytime i see him. He's now dating this girl for 2 months and he's STILL all i ever think about! I know that he doesn't feel the same way about me as i do about him but i'm still not over him!! HELP!!
Atleast if anything comes out of this you have LEARNED. There are people left and right on this website complaining about clingy, needy, desperate boyfriends! This guy was shy and taking his time. Two weeks is a short span of time. Some guys get really nervous and you have to give it a shot and wait things out before you jump to conclusions and fall into a predicament. There's nothing you can TRULY do as of right now. He has a girlfriend...honestly...I don't know if he feels like you deserve him. I'm sure it hurt to be dumped like that :(. He's probably afraid of hurt and is only guarding his heart like anyone else would do. I mean...try maintaining a better friendship with him if there's any hope for the future. And, I'm sure there's hope. If he ever breaks up with his girlfriend you guys can start really talking about why you two didn't work out. I wouldn't bring up apologies and your past though while he's with this other girl...it might start trouble.
Good Luck &&
Don't give up!!
These things take time.