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i really like this guy a lot. He's in one of my classes. I can't tell him that i like him because i know for a fact that he does not like or even notice me (he's really popular and i'm not). So if i told him that i liked him then it would be weird in class with him for the rest of the year. I need a way for him to notice me and talk to me first. Any suggestions?
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Hi. I have a suggestion. I think you should first try to get him to notice you. Try to sit next to him one day in class, that way it would be hard NOT for him to talk to you. Especially in a class that he doesn't do well in (he'll ask you for help). Try to develope a friendship with him first. It'll help him see you as a good friend, not just somebody who wants to go out with him just like that. See what happens from there. Good luck!
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Definitely don't tell him you like him. Even if you guys were close friends...I wouldn't recommend you just splurging the news. You gotta be friends with him first. Pick up conversation one day. It would help if you guys sat together or did a project together by chance and then that would give you an opportunity. Make a joke or ask him if you have any hw in another class.
Casual conversation to begin with. I'm just warning you...I've been through middle school... (if you're in middle school) and liked a bunch of 'popular' guys. For me, it usually wound up screwing me over with a broken heart. I'm not saying you don't have hope. I'm just saying things get easier when you get into high school and everyone pretty much assimilates and there is no popular.
Good Luck && Talk to him tomorrow :]
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I know what it's like to be attracted to someone and you feel as though they don't even notice you. That does feel pretty crummy. You say that you "know for a fact" that he doesn't like you. How do you know this? Has he or anyone else told you this? It's not healthy to make assumptions - about anything!
First off, do you know for sure that he doesn't already have a girlfriend? If he does, you might want to put your attentions on someone else, as hard as that sounds right now.
As far as trying to get him to notice you: I'd start by trying to make eye contact with him and just give him a sweet smile. When you pass him in class or in the hallway, smile and say hi. Continue to do this and see what happens. Do you guys have assigned seats? If not, can you try to sit near him? If he doesn't seem to respond to any of your efforts, then he could just be overly involved in himself and/or his own "crowd," which I know may make you feel bad - it would anyone - but sometimes that's just how people work even if it seems narrow-minded and insensitive...and it is.
Another thought: What kind of class are the two of you in together? Can you ask him to partner with you on a project assignment? I know you'd rather him talk to you first, but without telling him you like him, you could always tell him that you admire his school work (if you do, that is) and tell him that you think he could really help you and would he be willing to do that? You could also ask him to help you with your homework, or work together on your homework if you don't need help, but only if that feels comfortable to you. If there are no class assignments to do together or you're too shy to ask him to partner with you or work on homework together, then just begin with what I suggested above, which, in all honesty, I think is the best way to go.
Mostly I suggest that you play it cool and just start slowly - like going for the eye contact, smiling and saying "hi." If he does respond well and begins talking to you, try to focus on this relationship as a budding friendship and see where that leads you.
Good luck and let me know if any of my suggestions help. I've been where you are and I understand completely how you feel! But remember, just because he's "popular" doesn't mean that you can't have some sort of relationship with him. NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING! Try to move on if this guy remains aloof. There's someone out there for you who will give you all the attention you deserve. Please remember that and try not to focus all of your energies on just one guy. You might not be leaving the door open for some other cool guy to walk through!
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