14/f
so i have a boyfriend. of 3 months. i love him. and we have said i love you for about 2 months before we started dating. and he ALWAYS wants me to change, and stop talking to my best friend brandon. and he got REALLY pissed off cause when i went away for spring break i hung out with his friend rick, but nothing happened between us. i gave him a hug good bye and thats it. but we never told my boyfriend about it. and found out and now he thinks im fucking around. and he says were on break. and hes like we can still kiss and hold hands durring school. and im like whats break?
what are the standards for a break?
what are the standards when your my age for break?
advice please?
Ok sweetie. Couple of things here. First off, to answer your question about breaks. A break is like a break-up except for one small difference, you still like the person you are with. The main thing that changes here, however, is that your both trying to move on and can date other people while still technically being with the person your on a break with. It's stupid really. It's basically taking you from "relationship" staus to "friends with benefits" status, if you wanna look at it that way. Thats what a break is. It's basically an "open" relationship.
Now, breaks are ok for certain circumstances, but, hunni, this honestly isnt one of them. This guy is a jerk! You are 14, YOU control your life, not him. If he already can't trust you, how on earth would this thing last in the big scheme of things? Ya know?
My advice is to break up with him completely. I have a feeling that most guys only want "breaks" when there are other girls they are interested in. He got mad about you hanging out with his friend, not because he dosen't trust you, but because he was looking for an excuse to get out and see other people. I know it gonna be hard and I know you think your "in love" with him, but... honey, you deserve so much better.
Your 14 and chances are, your gonna find the right guy someday. Hell, it took me 21 years! Hahah. But, it will happen and when it does, he wont be telling you who you can talk to and what you can do and what you can't. I did that for years in a past realtionship and all it did was ruin my frinedships cause my friends were all worried about me. You will find a guy who treats you like you PERFECT and like nothing else matters in their life but YOU. It's amazing! Move on sweetie! You can and WILL find MUCH better. There are better guys out there hunni. Your still young. Enjoy life... don't waste it on some jerk who controls you!
Welp, best of luck with this sweetie! Lemme know if you need anything!
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my boyfriend has kissed so many girls (and boys) that its just ridiculous. i have never been kissed. the thought of kissing him makes me really nervous. i'm not asking for kissing advice. but when we do have our first kiss, how bad am i going to be? lol. i mean is he going to be really turned off by me being inexperienced? share your stories, plz, i am nervous. :(
It's kinda hard to be "Bad" at kissing, sweetie. Honestly. Lol. However, it is something you kinda have to have chemistry in order to get into it, really. Just try to relax and dont over-think it. It will be fine.
Only reason someone could be a bad kisser is because you just dont work well and kiss well together. NO CHEMISTRY! I have been there...
So, just go with it and relax. It will be fine. Don't do it til your ready!
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i submitted this question once already but it like didn't go through so i fixed it up a bit..
alright well..
one of my friends has very strict parents. so they were looking at her search history and found her myspace. they also found mine.
i'm not aloud to have a myspace. my parents made it very clear that if i had one, i'd be in deep trouble. i wouldnt be allowed on the computer for a long time and when i am allowed to my parents would watch my every move. so on AIM, i cant talk to anyone about private stuff.
i deleted my account already but i dont know what to do. my friends dad said hes going to tell my parents. her dad is going to say he saw it a few days ago so there's no hiding that i actually did have one.
i really don't know what to do. i don't want to get in trouble and loose my computer rights. last resort would be to come clean but i don't want to have to do that. i need to get out of this situation. i really need help, and FAST!! please, does anyone have any advice?
thank you sooooooooooooooo much. you dont know how incredibly bad i need advice.
Hey there! While I am not exactly sure how I would handle this situation, you could tell your parents that you set it up BEFORE they asked you not to have one and that you just never went to it after they asked you not to. That might help.
However, I am not sure what you have told your friend's father. If he knows you were on it recently then you can't do as I suggested for fear of him calling you out on that lie as well.
This is a tough one hun. Best of luck. It will all be ok.
You may even just want to explain to your parents why you want a myspace and convice them that you are mature enough to have one.
Good luck sweetie!
Lemme know if you need anything else....
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What is the best, non-rudest, least akward way to tell someone you want them to get tested before you sleep with them?
Just tell them that you would like for you both to go and get tested together so that you can be sure that your both clean and can have better sex because you won't have to worry about STDs. Thats prolly the most subtle way to do it. No easy way of going about this!
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okay make a long story short --
I met a boy last summer. He asked me out, I fell in love with him. I effed things up by making out in public, to affectionate, not hanging out too much. I was really stupid. So he dumped me a few times. We got back together everytime. 10/20/06 we broke up again, and that time we didn't get back together. I cried to weeks, and after a fews months I was 98% over him. Till he looked a me and smiled. I fell completely back in love.
He has been from girl to girl lately, and now he has a new girlfriend. I really want to go back out with him again. I was thinking about telling him [ how I really feel, and that I really messed things up, I'm still inlove, really sorry, and now I've comepletely changed and I want a second chance. ]Except telling him that online seems alittle pathetic and desprete. So I was thinking about telling him that in person. BUT HOW? I don't really see him in school much, and the only way for him to actually understand is in person. But I think he'll get the wrong idea if I actually show up at his house, or if he comes over him. But I want to be alone.
Or I don't know. I want to go back out with him, I miss him. I THINK i should tell him how I really feel.
What should I do?
This may sound harsh, but as someone with experience in this, I think this needs to be said.
You should respect that he is in a standing relationship and MOVE ON! He has a girlfriend and that means he CHOSE to be with her. I have been on his girlfriends end and its incredibly rude for ex-girlfriends to not care about the current standing relationship. Try respecting it.... you might get mor erespect from him, in the end, if you do.
Now, if he becomes single aagin, then yes, talk to him in person and tell him exactly how you feel. Trust me, I understand this... BEEN THERE! Done THAT! Its not easy. Just be honest and tell him exactly what your thinking. You may or may not get another chance. Be prepared for BOTH outcomes! But, yea... school isnt a bad idea to START the conversation, but I would try getting him alone.
Hope this helps! But, trust me... let him be in his relationship for now. Noone wants to be the "other girl" trying to take someone's man from them. And... noone likes the "other girl". Its best to let it go... for now!
If your meant to be together, it will happen eventually. Keep your head up! Let me know if there is anything I can do!
*Heidi Marie
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I've been in a couple of relationships before but never really.. french kissed.
I've tried to french kiss before but the guy.. didn't seem to know what he was doing.. He .. usually just bit my tongue or sucked on my tongue [pulling it, owies] I don't think that was french kissing.. more like pain. hah.
So now I'm with someone new and .. he kisses differently.. I don't want to say bad. I'm probably not that good. For some reason we can't 'peck' kiss.. his lips like.. go over mine and it's hard to kiss like that. Any ways to make it easier? He kisses really slow and it's hard to move/make him close his mouth a little more..
And for french kissing.. Is there anyway to make it interesting? What do you do exactly?
Kissing is something that really just comes natural for couples. Everyone kisses a bit differently. Only thing to do is practice!
Some people kiss well together.... and others dont!
I would just talk to your boyfriend and be like "Hey, can we try out some new ways to kiss?". Make it sound exciting and fun and then show him how you want to be kissed. But, don't act like your "teaching" him how to kiss. Make it fun! *Smiles*.
If this don't work, well.... I dunno.... Lol...
Part of a couple's chemistry is kissing well together. I think. Haha
Good Luck... and Happy Kissing! Lol. Let me know if you need anything, hun.
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19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?
Ok. I am going to answer this without reading what others have said.
First off, about Blake. I think he is better off without you, at least for now. You don't love him (if you did, then you wouldn't be cheating and having sex with someone else) and he could do better at this time. So... I would be honest with Blake and tell him the truth. EVERYTHING! And... if he dumps you, well... you have to be prepared for that. I think you and Blake need time apart so you can make sure that you can be faithful to him. He deserves better! If it's meant to happy, later in life, it will. But, honestly... why put someone through the shit your putting Blake through? Think about it!
And as far as Nate, its pretty clear that he only wants you for sex. Thats why he disappears for periods of time and then comes back. It may feel "right" to be with him, as you say, but I don't think he feels the same. If he did, wouldn't he commit to you by now? So... I think you owe it to yourself to evaluate your TRUE feelings for Nate AND Blake and stay faithful from here on out no matter WHO you end up with! But, I think you will find that Nate only wants sex.... and Blake deserves better! This is just my opinion.
Your going to have to be prepared to lose BOTH of these guy by the end of this. It could happen. But, you owe it to yourself AND Blake to figure it out and to stop the dishonesty!
Best of luck with this! I am not trying to be harsh in my advice. Just real! Your not a whore and your better than this! You will figure it out! Have a good night! Let me know if you need anything!
*Heidi Marie
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In my last post i asked about my bf and i. he is 21 and iam 20. we were together 1 year and 3 times he dumped and of those 3 times 2 of them he came running back to me. He told me he didnt love me i wasnt pretty enough and he would basically withdrawl himself from me when he got angry then dump me. Then a week would go by and he would want me back. Its a cycle. Well he forgot something really really imporant and his main excuse was i forgot. I got really heated and screamed at him i hate u i hate u were over. Now that a few days have gone by i have noticed the cycle is the same. At first he blocked me from his aim list , now 2 days later he unblocked me. He signed up for a dating site ( like he did last time). Now usually i would im him for some stupid ass reason. We would talk for a bit . He would come over and we would have sex and then a few days later we are back together. He is doing everything i knew he would. The question is should i im him or just let it be and see if he comes to me. I dont know if i want him back but i have this pull in me not give up. Maybe i just want him to want me back. Do you all think he will try to come back to me if i just leave him be or just leave him alone and prepare myself to move on
First off, I totally can relate to your situation. Lol. Been there... done that! Entirely!
What you have to learn, eventually, is that the reason it prolly isn't working out for you two right now is because your both a little young right now. It may be hard to believe, but not all 21 year old are grown up, mature, and ready to love the same person for the rest of their life! But, he wants to!
See, he wants to love you and thats why he keeps coming back. But.... he also wants his youth and his freedom and this is prolly where your problems lay.
I honestly think you should give him space and let him come to you. THIS IS WHAT I DID!
I love my ex boyfriend, always have, and always will. Last time he tried to get back with me, I wouldn't do it! Simple as that! I let him go and told him that he would come back to be when he was matured and grown up! NOW HE IS A MARINE! So.... you see, he listened to me! He is grown up, now, and we could now work as a couple.
I know its hard, but love isnt easy! Its easier to get revenge and be angry than to deal with your true feeling! Believe me! I don't want to love this marine who has broken my heart SO MANY TIME its un-imaginable! Honestly! But, I do! And... you will realize this is due to!
So... give him his space and let God take control! What is meant to happen, will BE in due time! I assure you, dear!
Best of luck, if you need anything, let me know! How a wonderful night.
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I just thought I'd get some different opinions from different people... The question is...
What is the meaning of Love? [define love]
Thank you
Love is....
The irresistable desire to be irristably desired!
Thats my opinion! Lol...
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This is mostly about my boyfriend, 21. I'm 18.
He says he's there whenever I need him and whenever I need to talk about things or vent but I'm not so sure.
See, my father passed Wed. night/Thurs morning and when he first found out about it he was so supposrtive and flew here to just be here and help with everything (he was at a confrence or something).
Well last night we were talking and I started thinking about my dad and everything in the middle of a happy conversation with him. I said, "I can't believe my dads not going to be there at prom or graduation or when I get married" He didn't say anything for a sec then was like, "I really wish you didn't just say that"
I know we were having a good, happy convo but shouldn't he be able to listen to me when I need to talk about it?
I apologized for bringing him down and he responded with, "Its okay...I guess"
Ok, first off. Don't freak out! Guys will be guys! He may not have seemed to care at that moment when he said that, but he does care. If he didn't, he wouldn't have come to your side. I think he is doing his best at the moment.
The reason he prolly reacted the way that he did, was because it's prolly hard on him right now. He wants to be with you, but maybe he don't know how? I am not sure. But, he obviously cares. You don't want to mess things up with him by making too big of a deal about this. He DOES care.
I hope you will take what I had to say into consideration. Have a good night! Try to relax. Best of luck with your situation and I am sorry to hear about your father. Let me know if you need anything!
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ok well i dont know if this is the rite topic..but..my friend*Whitney* has been going out with this guy*kevin*. She is in 8th grade and he is in 9th. well wen he first asked her out about a month ago she asked me what i thought..i told her that it wasnt a good idea because all he wants to do it "get down her pants". i know that from other people going out with him. She told me in the begnining of there relationship that she promised she wouldnt do anything. well they were at a football game (high school) and he tried to finger her. she told him not rite now. and i respect that brcause she didnt do it. well a couple days ago she was at his house and he figered her..she said it hurt really bad and she was scared to tell me because she knew i would get really mad. well of course i was and i tried to let it go but this guy is knows for doing really bad stuff. im really worried about her. she has it in her mind that she loves him but i know she doesnt and im scared he going to pressure her into doing something she doesnt want to do. i dont know how to come about this..or how i can look out for her because i kno anything i say wont matter..shes moving way to quickly with this relationship. i need help..thanks in advance
Hunni, if talking to your friend doesne't work (and I would prolly try again and be really serious with her and tell her EXACTLY how you feel), then I would go to an adult. Someone who you can trust and who can help you. Parents, perhaps? However, untimately, she is the only person who can fix her situation. Noone else. Worrying about her isnt going to do any good until she WANTS help, herself. I wish there was more you could really do, but there isnt. In the meantime, just be there for you friend but focus on youself for a while. I am sure this will all settle itself when the time comes. Best of Luck! Your a great friend for being so concerned!
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what do you do if your boyfriend cheated on you with your younger sister?
WHOA! Thats a definite problem. Well, to answer your question, its up to you on how you deal with it. Every person deals with things differently. Only thing I can do is offer my own opinion and advice on what I would do. Personally, I would dump him because you can't trust him and trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. You never know if he would do it again. Secondly, I would have a long and serious discussion with your sister about her actions and why its wrong to get with your bf. I would give her a SERIOUS talkin to. Thats just my opinion. You will figure it out dear. Best of luck!
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I need help on how to forget about a little event that occurred between my friend and me. We were just playing around and he bet me that I wouldn't kiss him because I was a wuss. Well, I did, and then later could not stop thinking about it. We kissed again another day, but then we both decided that it was wrong and now it's two days later and I still can't stop thinking about it. How do I get over this? How can I move on?
Hunni, it sounds to me like you have a thing for this guy. Let me give you a quote that I heard once that may help. "If you can't get someone out of your mind, then maybe they are supposed to be there". Lol. Look into it. Investigate it and find out your true feelings for this guy. Best of luck.
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what are the symtoms of yeast infection and how do i cure it? is the yogurt thing true? will the cure the infection? plz help.
Hey hun. Symptons of that are vaginal burning, itching, redness, and abnormal discharge. If anything is abnornal down there though, I would recommend seeing a doctor. If you ahve a yeast infection the doctor will give you a prescription. It will take car of it. I am not sure what you mean by "the yogurt thing" so... I would assume it isnt true though. I would make sure you get to the doctor if I were you. :). Thats really all u can do. Best if luck, hun.
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Can you get an STD from sharing underwear with someone else who has an STD, even if the underwear is washed?
Although I will admit that I am not totally sure if you can get an STD from doing it, underwear is not meant to be shared. I would just stick to your own panties. :).
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ok well im 13/f and i masterbate like 5 times a day is it too much?? its like a need i love to do it!!! is this weird?? another thing is its kinda smelly down there what should i do about it and is that normal????
Ok, I wont lie, this does sound like its a little too much. However, it is normal, so.... nothing is wrong with you there. As long as it don't interfere with you social life or anything like that, then you are fine. It perfectly normal and healthy. About the smell, well, just make sure that when you shower you are rinsing off well and that your area down there is taken care of well. I WOULD NOT USE A DOUCHE... lol.. those can be ok but they have a lot of things that can go wrong with them as well. Just stay healthy and make sure your staying clean. Best of luck to you!
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I need serious help. OK it started yesterday, I was happy given people advice. All of a sudden, there's about 50 gay people asking me to go out with them or help me get them a boyfriend. Can someone tell me how to make them leave me alone? I've tried everything I posted that im straight and have a girlfriend in my profile, I tried ignoring the questions, and I tried helping them but they won't leave me alone. It's starting to kinda scare me. Help is much apreciated. Oh, and if they're some little kid trying to be funny, cut the crap your annoying.
First off, there is a simple one word explanation for your problem. PRE-JUDICE! Would it bother you so much if these people werent gay? What if it was a bunch of straight people hitting on you? Would u mind then? The fact that they are gay does not make them bad people and it seems to me that is the ONLY problem that you have with them. I personally am straight as well, but I have a TON of gay friends and lesbian friends. You need to be more accepting of people who arent like yourself. Just a thought. Not trying to jump your case or anything but gay people are no different. Now, to address your other issue about them "hitting on you" or whatever. There is a simple solution, tell them your taken and leave u alone. If they don't then it become a PERSONAL PROBLEM... not a "GAY" problem. The gayness virtually plays NO FACTOR here... its just the ONLY reason it annoys you. I urge you to broaden your horizons and be more open minded and accepting of people. I love my friends... ALL OF THEM... gay/straight/lesbian or whatever they are. THEIR SEXUALITY DOES NOT DEFINE WHO THEY ARE! Remember that. Hope I helped and gnite.
P.S. Giving advice means taking in ALL advice... you cant be prejudice... otherwise... your not being fair and frankly not a good advisor. You have to take the good in with the bad (although Gay is in no way BAD).
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I'm 14.
To make a really long story shorter, my bff...Jane. Has an abusive boyfriend, also, she's only 13, which makes it even more weird. She's going out with a 15 year old.
And she says I'm the only one she told.
She says he doesn't like beat her up, he just hits her a lot..
I never noticed, but recently she's been wearing long sleeves. Because she's actually BRUISED.
But, Jane says she really has it under control, and doesn't want to break up with him because she apparently realllly likes him. And she says he likes her, but..
I said if I were her I would break up with him.
Then she said something like that I didn't know what love was, so I couldn't say that.
I've never really been in this kind of situation before.
Do I tell an adult?
If you were me..what would you...do?
ugh, I'm kind of confused.
And I want to help my friend.
First off, thats very mature of you to recognize that you friend needs help and to want to help her. Your friend is obviously not realising it herself. To answer your question, if I were you, I would tell an adult. However, make it, if you can, an adult that your friend trust. It helps the matter a bit cause your friend wont be so upset that u told them. I would prolly talk to like her parents or my own (and possibly ask my parents to talk to her). That kind of thing I would think would work in this situation. However, hunni, realise that NOONE CAN BE HELPED UNLESS THEY WANT THE HELP. You friend is going to have to want to fix this situation, otherwise, it is virtually pointless. Just make sure that your a good friend and are there for her through it all. It will mean a lot to her in the end and she will thank you some day. Trust me. I wish you the best of luck with this situation. Let me know if I can help you with anything else.
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My boyfriend and I are about to go to college together. We have been dating for almost a year and I just want to know how I can keep it together during college. BEcause I know there will be alot of temptation.
Ok. I am gonna be as real as can be on this one. I WAS YOU ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO! I went to college with my bf and he has his own apt. and the whole bit. Let me just say this, it will either destory what you have or make you A LOT closer as a couple. One of the two and the outcome depends upon the two of you. In my case, it destroyed us because when given the new "Freedom" that we had, my bf changed into a WHOLE NEW PERSON. A person that, in fact, I wasn't able to love. So, there really isnt any easy way of dealing with this. College is the beginning of a new mildstone in your life and it does change people and make people into the person they will become for the rest of their life. So, basically, all you can do is make sure that you don't set yourself up for disapointment. Know what lies ahead and be prepared. Its a big step and I wish you all the luck in the world. Better luck than me anyhow. Lol. Let me know if you need anything else. Im always here and know exactly what your going through.
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how do you get over a broken heart?
Hunni, in a WORD.... TIME. Time is really the only thing that can heal a broken heart. Surround youself with friends and stay busy. That always helps. Best of luck.
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