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My name is Danielle and I love to help people. Ask my anything and I will try my best to answer as accurately as I can with personal advice from my expierince or knowledge.. Good luck and God Bless all!
*Keosha*

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I broke up with my bf of nearly 4 years about 3 months ago. He was emotionally and mentally abusive to me. I had been in councelling for a while and I thought I had nearly got over him. Well yesterday I decided to sign up for a dating site. I actually received about 4 responses to my profile. Instead of contacting these guys that wrote me; I got freaked out and deleted my profile. Does anyone know what is wrong with me?

Sure. Your not weird or anything. Your just nervous and scared of being hurt again. We all go through it. It takes time to get over it. Just take it as a lesson learned that your not ready yet and you dont have to be.

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Hi.
I've heard that when you have sex for the first time that it hurts extremly bad. I know it varies from person to person. But is it possible for it not to hurt on the first time?
I have a low tollerence for pain, and my boyfriend has a rather large penis. Its 5 inches WIDE. So, will it hurt really bad? Is there a way to make myself not be so tight?
I don't use tampons and don't want to, I can't even get one finger up there.
What do I do, I really want to make love with him but I'm just scared of the pain and bleeding.
Do you bleed right after you stop, during or later? Cause when your hymen breaks you bleed right?
18/f

5 inches wide is highly unusually large. And if you haven't expierenced anything into your vaginal area before it will hurt worse than ever. My b/f cant even get 2 fingers in without it hurting so and i bleed everytime we have intercourse..but making love is your choice and its not the only way to show your affection and love towards him. Yes you will bleed. Some do and some dont but with his size and your size you definately will..IF you can even get it in. No joke..i really doubt it will go in..even with lubrication. Good luck.

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when do you ovulate? i have a very irregular period, is it before the white stuff comes out of you or after........is after the stuff comes out then you can become pregnant really easy or before ?

You ovulate 2 weeks before your period and if you have a regular period its every month, even sometimes twice a month because its technically every 2 weeks. Your most fertile when you ovulate but you can become pregnant at any given time.

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after you have sex do you bleed???


14/f

It depends on your body type. Like me, I do. But I am also 15 and very small down there. Sometimes if a guy is too rough you can bleed. If he hits your cervix in the wrong spot you can or too hard. Or if you have an infection you can also bleed. (I just asked them at the Health Dept. the other day because I too have this problem.)

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theres this girl in my school, she is a good friend of mine and i guess i kinda like her too and lately she has been gettin alot more plaayful with me is this even a remote sign she mite like me back?

and how can yoou tell if a girl likes u?

Yes, that is a sign of flirting which means she probably does like you. There are plenty of ways to tell if a girl likes you. Flirting is the best way but try this site : http//:www.links2love.com
Its pretty cool.
Good luck.
-Nelle

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hi im a 15 year old guy that likes this 15 year old girl ive told her in the past how i feel but she says she just wants to b friends and not ruin our great friendship..i told her theres nothin to worry about and i wouldnt ever let anything get between us...ive tried to go out withb other girls but none of them compare i want to tell her and get her to change
Thanks in advance for your help

First off, you cannot change anyone. And you cannot help anyone who doesnt want help. Before trying to get her to go with you..make sure she feels the same way as you. If she doesnt dont run her off by pressuring her. (That may be how she feels.) Give it time..if she doesnt come around then just continue to be friends. Good luck.
-Nelle

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14/f HELP ME SOON PLEASE....

Ok, well right now im crying. I was supposed to go to my boyfriend Ian's house but my mom just wouldnt take me. She left a note on my back so that I saw it when I woke up. It said," Sorry Rebecca, I love you. I just cant do this. You will be mad at me but I still love you. I dont want you dating anymore until you're 16. I dont want you to see Ian anymore. I love you." She's doing this because of my grandpa. I know she doesnt mean this because she approved of me and him. Its just because of what happened to my grandpa last night...

Right now we are experiencing a hurricane in my area and it has rained for the past four days now I think. My garndpa walked 3 miles in the rain to the cemetery where my great-grandma was buried, laid there for almost an hour, and talked to her. He told my grandma that my great-grandma said that she would see him soon, he would die soon. He told my grandma that no one loved him, no one cared for him, he was just too afraid to kill himself. He walked half way back and then started getting chest pains so he stopped and got someone to call the house. It was like 10:00pm. It's 7:00am right now, and he's still in chest pains, denying that he lives in th house, and my grandma is going to send him to an asylum. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT. IM A BAD PERSON. MY GRANDPA ALMOST COMMIT SUICIDE BECAUSE OF ME. IM A BAD PERSON. Rihgt now I just want all o this to go away but I love Ian, I dont want to stop dating him. I know that may be selfish in my current situation but I love Ian. I really do. And he loves me back. I dont want to break up with him. What should I do? I'm still in tears and the middle of a breakdown and I feel terrible about all of this. Please, if you're goingto give feedback, advice, ect., please dont say to break up with Ian. I dont want to do that and will not. I'll find a way to make this right for us. But I need help with my grandpa situation. I need help. Please...

Im really not sure what to say because i dont understand how Ian has anything to do with your grandpa. But try and talk to your grandpa and assure him that he is loved and that you'll always be there for him. Try and build a better relationship with him but this doesnt mean break it off with Ian. It just means spend a little less time with him at the moment. Good Luck.
Nelle

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I just bought brownish courderoy pants, and tanish courderoy capris. Basically the only shoes i have left that fit are white etnies with black and white checkered e's, these white ballet-flat-ish things, and old white air forces, which are pretty dirty, and tan birks. I really don't know what to wear with them without clashing. any ideas? thanks


ooh yeah i need shirt ideas too

First of all..clean your shoes..The only ideas i can give you is wear the white and black etnies with a white and black shirt..thatd be cute or wear the tan birks with a white or pink shirt.

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I've been a competative cheerleader for 4 years, I cheer on my schools squad currently. I used to throw a handspring layout as my running, and a standing three handspring tuck as my standing tumbling. All the sudden, I freak out at tumbling class, and I've never tumbled since. (It's been about 2 years) People make fun of me cause I'm the only one on the squad who doesn't tumble, I won't even throw a handspring, I just can't make myself do it. Tumbling classes had to stop when my dad got a few paycuts, so thats outa the question. What should I do to get my tumbling back, and get over my fear?

I am a cheerleader too and the same thing happened to me and I got scared..but the only way to get rid of your fears is to face them. So just do it and dont even think about it. Lemme know what happens..Good Luck and I hope I helped!
Nelle

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whenever i eat mi stomach bloats very bad.
so i try not to eat so it doesnt stick out.
does anyone know what i can do to make it not bloat?
please hlp me and sometimes when i eat it hurts and makes me want to puke what should i do?

Its called mal-nutrition. It tends to happen when your anorexic and to me it sounds like you are. I was the same way for 4 years. You need to eat properly and drink a lot of water and exercise..screw not eating..thats what makes your tummy bloat in the first place..take it from me i know!!! Im also having some trouble with this too but my boyfriend makes me eat. I hope I helped.
~Keosha

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i have natural hair and i really wanna get a perm but every website i go to says DONT RELAX YOUR HAIR and there right i shouldnt but something inside says you have to get one

and another thing is if i dont get a perm what kind of styles can i do with my natural hair

Okay..well just make sure you dont get something that would damage your hair. I have naturally curly hair so i can do a lot with it. You can wear it down..put it up in pretty up do's and just put it back in a head band and let the curls flow. Good luck.

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I need a fast way to lose A LOT of weight, I weigh about 140 lbs. and I'm 5'4", its may not sound fat, but believe me, it looks really fat. I want to lose about 20-30 lbs. in about a month, but I don't know how to without hurting myself or using diet pills. Please, help.

Im in the same boat...but at this point im not going to give you advice that i wont take myself...im almost to the point where im going anorexic again..the best thing i can tell you is just work out and eat less fattening foods. Sorry i couldnt give you better advice..but like i said i wont tell someone to do something that i wont...

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what does the school do if they found out that you skipped a class or something??

I have some expierence in this section so i can answer this truthfully...they will call your parents and let them know what class you missed. You may or may not get into trouble like a detention or ISS or something. Hope I helped!
Keosha

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hey, thanks for reading.
so i'm working at a summer camp this year and i became really great friends with this kid, josh. we started talking online and last night i hung out with him , his sister and her boyfriend, and his sisters best friend. ( i know his sister and her best friend really well .) so we went out to eat and hung out for a little and then saw a movie. we sat next to eachother , and we were both kind of leaning towards eachother on the arm rest, but we werent touching or anything. today he called me and we were talking about the movie , and he goes, so my sister was pretty convinced we were on a date last night, do you know anything about that? and i just kind of laughed and said i didnt think it was either. i am really beginning to like him, he's two years older but it seems like we click really well.
what do you think? i'd really appreciate opinions, good or bad.

thanks:)

Years doesnt make a huge age differnce these days so dont worry about it. If you like him..either wait to find out if he likes you or ask him. Im in the same situation right now...lol I wish I knew all of the answers but I dont. Things will fall into place. Trust me. If they dont..shoot me. lol good luck. If you want to talk AIM me
Keosha15
~Keosha

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I don't understand why boys my age think I'm not that pretty but then guys 6 years older then me think I'm soo sexy. I can't find a boyfriend my own age but then I find a boyfriend whos 5 years older then me who thinks I'm gorgeous and loves me !! When my dad is driving me to somewhere and I feel like waiting in the car all of these 20 year olds park their car right next to my dads and they stare at me and start whistling and then honk at me when they drive away and start waving. But then I walk into school and the boys that are in my school could care less about me. I don't get it!!! Why are guys 10 years older then me think I'm attractive and random dudes come up to me saying I'm hot when they are like 22 and the ones my age think I'm just okay?!!?

Because most guys that are older only want you for one thing..sex. And the younger guys,,(dont get me wrong im sure they do too) are more interested in other things i suppose. Dont go around looking for love anyways. It will find you. Pray about this. Prayer changes a lot of things! :)
Keosha

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Well, I have been googling a lot lately about diet & excersize & have found that the "key" to good & faster weight loss is to eat 5 to 6 small meals a day. Now, I have to work, of course & I have kids & they are in activities. So, my question is...since most people don't have the time to eat like that, what can I replace those meals with so that I am still getting the same affect? Can I replace the meals with protien shakes & stuff like that? Thanks.

Most definately you can do that and try maybe a cup of sunflower seeds and a yougurt..you know just something small like that. Thats what i do and i seems to work.
Hope i helped!
-Keosha

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how can you tell when you're getting a little chubbier.. i mean, my armpits have these weird little fat thingies that aren't supposed to be there. its flat on most people. help! what are they-underarm flab?

I dont know what they are called but i have them too. Most girls do have them unless they are REALLY skinny. The way to get rid of them is to do push ups with your legs propped up and do the exercises at the gym that work out your chest. Good luck
~Keosha

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ok so i have 26days to tone my legs or lose weight in my legs

i was wondering if like an hour of riding my exercise bike on the hardest setting would have any improvment???

thankss

Yes. But also you should try the stair master and also ride the bike a lot...everyday. Diet has a lot to do with this too so change up your diet. Squats do help..I would do about 2 sets of 20 every night or every morning.
Good Luck
~Keosha

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i didnt know what to put this under but whatever.

so im a cheerleader and all the cheerleaders are popular. but the thing is none of the popular people like me. i used to hang out with them and be wicked popular but not anymore. i love my friends to death but it seams like all the popular people get the guys . im not trying to sound stuck up or anything like that.

if this helps-- im wicked preppy i shop at abercrombie . im a ton of fun and everyone says im very pretty.

I have the same problem and the only and BEST advice I can give you is to stop trying to FIT in with people. Be yourself...if people dont like you for who you are then they dont deserve to have you as a friend. Im sure your a really good person and fun to be around...just accept and love yourself and your REAL friends and people will too. Dont try and change to please or try to fit in with other people..it only makes you stuck up and fake/phony/flaw...and then people will see right through you...I hope you take my advice and dont think im trying to sound too stuck up...Good luck with this.
-Keosha

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My nephew is being orn today so im wondering ow long a c-section takes and how long will the child and mother be in the hospital following the procedure

I dont know honestly but i just wanted to tell you how happy i am for you and i think youll be a great uncle. Good luck
♥Keosha

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