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Hi.
I've heard that when you have sex for the first time that it hurts extremly bad. I know it varies from person to person. But is it possible for it not to hurt on the first time?
I have a low tollerence for pain, and my boyfriend has a rather large penis. Its 5 inches WIDE. So, will it hurt really bad? Is there a way to make myself not be so tight?
I don't use tampons and don't want to, I can't even get one finger up there.
What do I do, I really want to make love with him but I'm just scared of the pain and bleeding.
Do you bleed right after you stop, during or later? Cause when your hymen breaks you bleed right?
18/f
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heyy.. having sex tha first time does hurt but it only hurts for like a minute && theres nothing u could rele do to make it not hurt it is a natural thing but tha pain isnt rele that bad.
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from what you said, im pretty sure it will definetly hurt since you cant even get one finger up there.. and 5 inches?! ..ive never heard of someone that big but to tell you the truth, i dont think it will even fit.. and if it does, it will definetly hurt
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5 inches wide is highly unusually large. And if you haven't expierenced anything into your vaginal area before it will hurt worse than ever. My b/f cant even get 2 fingers in without it hurting so and i bleed everytime we have intercourse..but making love is your choice and its not the only way to show your affection and love towards him. Yes you will bleed. Some do and some dont but with his size and your size you definately will..IF you can even get it in. No joke..i really doubt it will go in..even with lubrication. Good luck.
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It is possible for it not to hurt the first time, yes. But it's also very unlikely for most girls.
It will probably hurt your first time for 3 reasons.
1) Your boyfriend's penis is 5 inches wide. Ouch.
2) You have a low tolerance for pain
3) You apparently have a tight vagina from what you're saying about the tampons and not being able to get one finger up there.
The best thing you can do is let him finger you for a few months and maybe consider tampons even though you said you don't want to. At least you could get used to the idea of something being up there. If you want to move the process of loosening up your vagina, try masturbating. That way you and your boyfriend both can help loosen you up.
Another thing, when you do decide to have sex, use a condom. I'm not saying this because i'm a poster ad like everyone else on this website, but because the lubrication on the condom will make it slide in easier. And/or try KY Jelly. It works wonders and makes it slide right up in there making the friction, tension, and pain somewhat less unbearable. Also be sure to let him finger you before you try to get it in. That way, your vagina can be getting used to the penetration.
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when you say 5 inches wide do you mean from left to right, or the entire thing, you know like circumfrence size?? i'll edit the answer once you tell me
okkkk hmm thats strange..i've never heard of somebody having a penis that is 5 inches wide. well for girls sex is usually painful the first couple of times, but i would think with someone that had that wide of a penis that would hurt even more..not to like freak you out or anything but yeah thats wide. i would just suggest to start using tampons to get used to it, but only when you have your period. its obviously a lot harder to try to put it up there if its dry...
but from what i've heard, it will bleed during and after sex.
good luck
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Don't worry after the first time(s) it won't hurt. It usally does (Did for me) hurt.
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5 inches WIDE..? If you can't even stick a finger up there of COURSE that will hurt! I think you should try masturbating first and get comfortable with yourself, and you might be able to predict how much it will hurt.. But don't worry, after you have sex enough, it will not hurt.. unless you have a problem, in which case I would go to a doctor, but I doubt that you do :)
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