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My family has tried to help my grandmother fix her house but it is beyond repair. Her house is coming up out of the ground, you can see the foundation outside. Most of the rooms don't have electricity, so she has lamps. She refuses to move in with other family members or get another place because she's been living in her house for 40 years and spent a lot of money on it and doesn't want to leave it. She is 80 years old and refuses to get help. Her walls in the house are splitting, she now has water leaking all over the house and won't call a plumber or electrician because they cost too much and she doesn't want to get her house condemned.
She's a hoarder and has junk all over the house piled up in most rooms. She has roaches REALLY BAD and she has rats. She has holes in the ceiling and she throws food all over the kitchen. She can't cook because the gas isn't on. she refuses to throw away junk and trash.
There's no gas, no bad plumbing and the kitchen and bathroom are beyond repair. Also there's mold growing out of the vents and she has rats living in the attic. The electricity works but the electrical wiring isn't proper and she's has to run like 5 heaters & fans, a computer and 3 TV's off of extension cords because most of the plugs don't work, not to mention lamps.
Famiy has welcomed her to stay with them if she please, it's not healthy for her to stay in that house. The restroom is gross and she has to heat up water to wash off and she has to pour water in the toilet to flush it. (link)
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If your grandmother is 80 years old it is possible that she is starting to experience some dementia. She is in a very unsafe environment right now and she needs to be removed as soon as possible. Your parents(or their siblings) need to step in and take over her affairs. She is obviously no longer capable of making good decisions for herself. They need to have her checked out by a doctor to determine the cause of her behaviors. If her doctors decide that she is capable of living on her own then your parents could find her a small easy to care for apartment and bring only the things she needs from her house. It sounds like she will need a lot of checking up on. If there is an agency on aging and home nursing available to her those may be some services that her doctor will recommend as well. I don't think the house needs to be condemned in order to get her out. In some areas once a house is condemned then the owners only have so long to repair it or have it demolished. This could put additional financial and emotional stress on your family. I think if your parents get the agency on aging involved they will help to go through the courts if necessary to get her removed from there and into safe housing. You are a very caring granddaughter and your grandma is very lucky to have someone who cares about her so much! Good luck with this!
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So I'm a 14 year old girl and my family and I moved from Pennsylvania to New Jersey 4 months ago. At first the transition was difficult, changing schools at end of the school year and all of that (it's summer break now) but I'm a friendly person and I make friends quite easily. So for the first moth we were here I was cutting my arms and crying at night, just straight up depressed, and then I was ok after I got control and started getting use to this place. But now I'll I want to go back to Pennsylvania. My stage of being alright was temporary. I want to start cutting again but I'm trying not to, I cry every night and I'm getting into depression. I don't know why this is coming back again and I know that I'll never be happy here in New Jersey. I don't complain though because I don't want to hurt my parents. My friends here are great and all but I just want my old ones back. My family and I move around a lot but we ended up staying in the last place for a long time, that's why I'm so broken up. My dad was making a joke out of moving to New Jersey the other day. Here's how it went:
Dad: so do you like it here yet?
Me: no
Dad: will you ever?
Me: no
Dad:well we'll move again like always. Tell me when you have sine good friends and we'll move. (Whole family laughs, but I have to hold back tears for the rest if the car ride).
I don't think he meant to make the joke sound mean, he doesn't realize how hard this is for me because like I says, I try not to complain too much. So how do I cope with all these feelings and what can I do? (And it's not like we can move back to Pennsylvania, my dad's company wants him to run a store in New Jersey). (link)
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I can honestly say I know what you are going through. My family moved Georgia to Pennsylvania while I was still in school. It took a long time for me to adjust. I remember not wanting to get out of bed for days at a time. This is pretty normal when you are grieving for your friends and everything you left behind but I am more concerned that you are cutting. My advice is to tell mom and dad that you feel depressed because of the move and you need them to make you an appointment with a counselor. You really need a safe outlet for your feelings right now. Please don't be so hard on your dad. Sometimes guys joke to lighten up a situation. He probably thought it would make you smile! Yeah, parents can be clueless! In the meantime maybe give your old friends a call, but also try to get closer with your new ones. Remember those old friends will still be there in PA and you can always choose to go back as an adult if you want. I know it is hard(it has been over 40 years and I still get nostalgic for Georgia)but try to see it as a growing experience. All through your life there will be changes, some good,some bad but how you handle them will determine the person you become. Please get that counseling appointment. If mom and dad are not willing then please go to your school counselor instead. There is nothing to be ashamed of, they will understand what you are going through and give you a chance to vent your feelings. Sometimes that is all you need, just an understanding person willing to listen. You sound like a very mature and caring daughter to be worried about your parents' feelings before your own, I am sure they are very proud of you and love you very much. They would never want you to harm yourself in any way so please take my advice and go to a counselor, okay? Best of luck to you in the future!
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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It is honestly too bad that you can't love him back, but the heart wants what the heart wants(which leads us back to HIS problem)! He has very deep feelings for you and they are not going to just go away.The best advice I can give you is to back off in a serious way. It is the only way he is ever going to accept that you don't view him as more than a friend. Every deep conversation, every intimate moment that you share with him only gives him hope that you will change your mind. Please examine this thoroughly and make sure of YOUR feelings. Sometimes it is only after losing someone that you realize how much they meant to you. He sounds like a special guy and it would be a shame to realize later what you passed up on when he is no longer available. If you are really sure that you could never love him romantically then distance yourself. Tell him you are busy, whatever it takes but he needs to spend some time with the girl he is calling his girlfriend. This is WAY unfair to her and you need to stop playing your part in it by continuing to be so close with him. If you really don't want him,then back off and let him move on. It might take a while of him continuing to try to win you over but you have to stand firm. It is too late for you to just remain friends with him. He has crossed that line and he can never go back to just being friends. You really need to move forward and make the message clear to him that his girlfriend IS his girlfriend!Good luck!
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My mom and dad divorced 2 years ago and she has been in a relationship with this guy for 10 months. He was always kind of off but I never thought he would actually hurt my mom. He has bipolar depression, drinks a lot, and does drugs. My mom is an alcoholic and when she drinks, he beats her. These 2 people lived with them and they told me about what he does. He would drag her by her hair across the floor, he would throw bottles of liquor at her, he also smacks, kicks, punches, and grabs her. She would stay the night at his house over the weekends and her room had no bed, she would have to sleep on the floor like a dog. Everytime she would try to sleep, he would bang on her door until she finally let him in and then he'd hit her. She has pictures of the bruises and cuts.
He is also verbally abusive and calls her names like bitch, fat, ugly, whore, and c*nt. He uses her for her money and once she gives him what he wants he kicks her out of the house and calls her multiple names.
She is "too in love" to tell the police. She is afraid he will hate her.
My dad, siblings, the 2 people who live with them, and I went to the police to report it and they said nothing can be done unless she files a report. We are trying to help her with her drinking and she won't let us do that and just says to take her back to him. She also says she deserves to be smacked. I really have no clue what to do. I really need help. I don't like seeing my mom like this. (link)
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Your mom is sick. She has a disease called alcoholism. Unfortunately she has to WANT help in order to get better. Check your local newspaper for the closest Al-Anon meeting. The people there are going through the same thing you are. When you are alone with your mom ask her if she would consider going into an rehab facility or to an AA meeting. There are also agencies that help battered women in the event that she would decide to get away from him. Perhaps you could contact some of these agencies and get some information for her so that she knows the emergency numbers and who to call if she is ever in danger. Ask her if she is willing to see a therapist. She feels totally worthless right now and a good therapist will not only address the addiction issues but will help her rebuild her self esteem as well. Make sure she knows that she is loved and that she is important to you and your siblings. If you really feel that she can no longer make rational decisions and she is a danger to herself or others you have the option to have her involuntarily committed to a psychiatric ward for 72 hours for observation. However if you make this choice you do risk alienating her completely. This would be a decision best made with all family members in agreement. You could also stage an intervention, where ALL family members come together and encourage her to get help for her addiction. Sometimes this works, sometimes it backfires badly. You are the best judge of your mother's personality and whether or not this might be an option. If you choose to try this you have to take her away from this man to a place where all of the family members are gathered. There is usually a neutral third party such as a minister or advocate from an agency present as well. In the event she agrees she must be taken IMMEDIATELY to a facility or hospital for help. If she is allowed to go home for any reason he will make sure that she doesn't follow through.I hope she will get a moment of clarity and realize that she really needs help. At any rate please go to the Al-Anon meetings, they can better help you decide how you want to approach her. Even if she totally refuses all help Al-Anon can help YOU to understand how to deal with the situation. Best of luck to you and your mother!
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My friend has fallen really hard for this guy who acts like a total jerk to her. (They are both 19 years old) No matter how mean he is, she just won’t stop and I don’t know how to convince her that this just isn’t good for her. She’s had an enormous crush on him for years and nothing seems to be able to break her blindness. Every time he treats her badly, she plummets into overwhelming sadness, but she still won’t give up on him. It’s gotten even worse this past year and it’s gotten to the point that I am starting to become worried about her mental/emotional wellbeing. How can I help her to get over him?
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You can't. She will not give up until SHE is ready! The only thing you can do is be there for her. Try to talk her into seeing a therapist, but it is unlikely that she will. As hard as it is for you to understand, she is getting a payoff from this relationship. Even if it is that one brief little moment of kindness from him, that is what she is focused on. That is her payoff and she needs it as surely as an addict needs heroin. What you are calling a crush is actually an addiction. This type of relationship is destructive, not only to the people in it but to those who care about them as well. Try to keep your friend engaged in normal activities outside of the relationship so that she doesn't completely lose her sense of self. Take her out for a day of fun and try to engage her in a heart to heart talk. Tell her you are concerned and you will always be there any time she needs to talk. That is really all you can do for now. I hope she will agree to see a counselor, it is the only way she will ever break this addictive pattern. Good luck with your friend!
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End of everything i want to die
So this all comes to this , let me tell you readers about me
I'm not gonna mention my name but i really need some help and hope that you guys can give me some :(
Its midnight here and its raining quite heavily , and here i am a lower middle class boy who is about to lose everything he had .
Well i am a university student , even though I am a middle class my parents worked so hard for me to get into the university i am not a scholar guy I'm just average at first year in first semester i had 3 ATKTs and because of that i had to give 9 subjects this semester
I worked hard i did my best there was a time when i didn't even slept well for 6-7 days and keep studying hard
Now exams are over and i need to pass in at least 4 subjects to get in second year and i know that I'm gonna fail cause how badly I've done in my exams
My results are on next month
Plus i hace a education loan from bank and they cant continue my loan if i fail
Worst of all guys I'll drop out of the college
And i couldn't stand the embarrassment of it i couldn't stand look on my parents wyes when they will find out i droped out :(
I know guys results are not declared yet but i know how i done in exams and I'm surely going to fail
And ill get a drop :( i just don't know what to do
I cant stand the shame
I can't sleep in night
My dad got 2 heart attacks already and he cant work for much long and i feel really terrible now i am crying at this very moment
I messed up everything life disent give another chance
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Did you know that Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and Ted Turner all dropped out of college? Those 'ol boys didn't do too bad for themselves either! Their parents didn't disown them and no one died from embarrassment over it. I am sure their parents weren't too happy at the time but I'm willing to bet they got over it! The point I am trying to make here is your life isn't over because you are not going to get your degree right now. Take a little time off, get a job and maybe pay for some online classes to finish your degree. You said yourself that you did your best so why are you beating yourself up? The one thing you said that really makes NO sense is how you are worried for your father because of his health and yet you believe he could handle your suicide just fine! That would be the most selfish and inconsiderate act you could EVER do to a parent!Don't you realize a parent always blames themselves when their child commits suicide? Your father would always blame himself because he couldn't provide the finances you needed to stay in school. Make your first decision as an adult and go explain your situation to your parents. Tell them you did your best and you are sorry but your future is going to be a little different than what you had planned. This is what becoming an adult is all about my friend!Turn this into something positive!If you can change your thoughts you can change your life! Good luck!
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So, in 4th grade religion school the teacher asked who wants to be an alter server and I didn't raise my hand. He wrote down the names of kids who did raise their hand, and then when I got home my mom for some reason called the church and asked when rehearsal was. When they said I wasn't on the list she asked me why, and I realized she wanted me to do it and wouldn't stop until I did, so I let her sign me up. It's been about a year and I've tried to get used to it but the more I try the more I hate doing it. I don't want to do it anymore, but I'm afraid to tell my mom, and I'm afraid that everyone in the church will hate me if I quit. Can someone tell me how to tell my mom the truth? (link)
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Okay, I'm going to tell you straight up where your problem is: You are not saying WHY you hate it. If you have any hope of convincing mom to let you quit you are going to need a very good argument. Just saying you don't like it is probably NOT going to cut it! Let's say you feel uncomfortable with everyone watching you. You could say to mom, "Mom, I know it means a lot to you for me to be an alter server and I have have been doing it because I love you and I don't want to let you down, but the truth is I really don't like it. I get all jittery and sort of feel like I have to throw up every time I do it. Could I please be excused from doing it for now? If I feel differently when I am older maybe I will try it again. I am serious, mom this would really mean a lot to me. I am REALLY uncomfortable doing it so please don't force me." I am sure no one in the church will hate you if you stop! Hating is NOT what church is about! Good luck!
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So my mom has a boyfriend that she's had for 13 years now. He has a son that i do not think of as a brother.i have had a crush on him for many years now. His son in a few years older then me, but I'm also over 18. I would like to tell him that i have had a crush on him n think sexual thoughts about him at night. We don't see each other very often but I'm dying to know if he feels that kinda way about me. Im not sure about it because some signals he sends seems like he's flirting but I'm not positive. I don't know how to ask him or tell him. Please help me somebody. (link)
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Please stop and ask yourself this question first: Out of all the boys in the world to choose from, why are you crushing on your step-brother? Thirteen years of family togetherness should have put him in the brother category by now. Surely you think of his father in a fatherly way after 13 years as well! I can't help but think there are underlying issues here. You have to know this would be awkward at best and possibly devastating to your mom's relationship with his father. Do you think perhaps you have a secret desire to destroy their relationship? My advice is to not pursue this but if you feel you must, please don't act first and then surprise the parents with it later! You must also consider the possibility of the relationship NOT working out and both your parents being drawn into it and forced to take sides against each other. I'm sorry but I just can't help feeling this would be a very selfish thing for you and your step-brother to do. I think you should consider your family first. Good luck!
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So I'm a freshman in college and I'm planning to get a penny board to get around to classes. The only concern is that I've never been on a skateboard before and people say penny boards are difficult. I really want the penny cause of its size since it's easy to carry around. I'm a tiny girl with tiny feet do I don't worry about it being too small. Just worrying about using a hundred but not being able to ride it. And any advice on learning it please?! (link)
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The next time you see someone riding a penny board approach them, tell them you have been thinking of getting one and ask if they would mind giving you a quick lesson. Most people are more than happy to share their knowledge with a newbie! It might take a couple of tries until you find a willing teacher but go for it! You will probably even make some new friends in the bargain! Good luck!
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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
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It seems as if it is important to you to find a girl who hasn't had any sexual experiences yet(I gather this is why you chose the girl you thought was innocent). If this is true you had might as well forget about this girl because it is far too late for that!Even if this girl would change her ways and you two would get together she has already told you things that can never be unheard. What I mean by that is you will always carry the knowledge of her past sexual experiences in your mind and be disgusted by it. My advice to you is to find an innocent girl who has strict moral values. I don't think you would ever be happy with the kind of girl who gives oral sex to random guys because she is horny. Your own self respect is at stake here as well. My advice:forget about this girl, she is not the right one for you.Good luck!
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So, I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. I have a bit of proof. The girl I think he's cheating with has done this to me before. I was sitting right next to her and I looked over and saw she had a conversation with my ex boyfriend (boyfriend at the time) and it was extremely dirty, talking about how what they would do to each other once they saw each other later. My boyfriend now, talks to her until 5 in the morning sometimes. He ignores me and texts her. He once told me he has cheated before, on a ex girlfriend. I just want to know what I should do about it. I've been cheated on before, but I honestly love this guy and I'm confused on how to confront him, or if I should. Do I have enough proof? (link)
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You already have proof that he is a first class JERK, what more do you need?!!! He texts HER and ignores YOU! It is time to kick him to the curb! (And by the way,please do it in the most humiliating way possible!) He needs to learn a lesson ASAP so that he does not continue to use girls this way! As for you, please try to understand that YOU are better than this. You may think you love him but this sort of relationship has nothing at all to do with love. You want to be loved and so you are allowing him to humiliate you and hurt you in the hope that he will see the error of his ways and change into a wonderful loving boyfriend. This is NOT going to happen. Let it go and move on. The next time be sure to choose a guy who thinks YOU are great as well!
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K well I'm 13 years old and I'm gonna get a straight hair perm but my hair is really curly and frizzy so I was wondering if a straight hair perm would Ruin it and I also wanted to know how do I take care of it cuz when it grows back out won't it be frizzy at the top where it is growing out please tell me what to do... Thnx (link)
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I know you probably won't want to hear this but ...girls with straight hair are PAYING to get what you already have! Embrace that beautiful curly hair! Go to a salon and learn how to use product and styles in a way that will minimize the frizz. You can always use a straightening iron if you want to wear it straight sometimes. Personally. I think the damage you will do to your hair for something that is only temporary is not worth the money. I would invest that money in some good product instead. Go online and look up hairstyles for curly hair. You will be amazed at what you can do with it! I loved Kristen Stewart's curls in Twilight!(Even if you don't like HER you have to admit the hair was pretty!)Good luck!
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Ok, so I pretty much can only drink water. I can drink juice too, but only small amounts at a time.
Anyways, I drink, on average, 36 ounces of water a day, but one a few random days I have to force myself to drink water...it's like I can't stand it and I feel water logged.
On the other hand I get random days where I drink probably double that, it's like I can't get enough, because it tastes so amazing!
Also, I have city water that is filtered using a Brita filter. And, I don't know if this pertains to it, but I'm a female in my 20's.
Any ideas as to why that happens sometimes?
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Not sure why this is,but I am the same way! Sometimes I just want water and other days I want anything BUT water! Sometimes I add a splash of juice or lemon to give it a little zing! Tea is also a good choice as long as you don't add a lot of sugar. I add a little honey to mine and sometimes lemon. Maybe if you keep a water bottle with you at all times and just sip it here and there it will help you to drink more. My daughter bought one of those bottles with the filter inside. All you have to do is fill it and the bottle filters it for you as you drink it! You can't add flavors to these bottles though. I hope this helps. You do need to up your intake a little, 36 oz is probably not enough for the whole day. You should be aiming for around 64 ounces of liquids per day if possible.
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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First of all, please calm down! I know you are worried but unless your boyfriend engages in risky behaviors, such as drug use or unprotected sex with many partners your chances of having AIDS are very slim. You did the right thing though by making a gyn appt.so please make sure to go. There are other stds you can contract from oral sex and you DO need to get checked out. I am almost certain you will need a blood test but they are relatively painless as long as you stay relaxed and don't tense up. In the future ask your boyfriend to wear a condom for oral sex as well. They even sell flavored ones to make it more pleasant for you! Boils in the vaginal area are not uncommon especially if you are shaving or waxing the area. They are also more common during summer months when the sweat glands are more active. There is an std called Herpes that can cause painful blisters on the genitals. Condoms do NOT protect you from this so please be sure to ask your partner for any history of stds and be on the lookout if you see anything suspicious on his genitals. Do not ever engage in any type of sex if you see a blister or lesion present. I hope this helps ease your anxiety a little bit. The best precaution against having this happen again is to always use protection! Best of luck to you!
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So my family - my mom, brother, and my friend all live in a one bedroom apartment. We've lived like this for 3 years this month. But my brother has recently told us that he wants to live by himself. Either he keeps the apartment and we move out or he will move out and we keep the apartment. So me and my friend were thinking about getting a place together. But my mom wants to move with us too. But I really dont want her to. I really dont want to live with my friend either, I just want my own space but someone to go half with on bills would be nice. But my mom would have nowhere else to go. She got fired from her a job a couple of months ago and she has bad knees and hips. She also has a drug habit. So shes trying to get disability. And my friend has a job but she also doesnt pay her bills on time. For the last 4 months she's given my brother like 200 total for rent. She makes enough to pay him. But she spends it on food (eating out) and buying she really doesn't need. They both dont like to clean. I also dont want extra baggage I just idk I feel like its mean but I also feel like I should give them a chance. I also dont want my mom to get comfortable because I dont want live her forever. Any suggestions??? (link)
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If your mom has an addiction moving her in is the worst thing you can do. It is called enabling. As long as someone else is taking care of her needs the only thing she has to worry about is drugs! It may sound harsh but it might save her life. If your friend is irresponsible with money it could be a bad decision to bring her with you as well. Why don't you look for a small efficiency apartment that you can afford by yourself but no on else would be allowed to move in with you(in case you have a moment of weakness.)You should be the first one to move out of your current apartment because it will be much harder to leave mom alone after all the others are gone. Addicts have an amazing capacity to manipulate loved ones and make them feel guilty. If at all possible look up a local chapter of NA(narcotics anonymous)for mom and (Al-anon)for you. They will help you understand how and in what ways you can help her with out hurting yourself or enabling her. If she refuses to go, you should go anyway. It will help you to learn how to deal with her addiction. Good luck on your first apartment and your new life!
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Why do i have a small pain in my tummy befor sex or when i get horny .my wilfe is 47 I am 61 i am a man my wife a good woman .how can i explain my discomfort to her.I am Canadian (English ) she is Mexican (link)
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You need to see a doctor. Any pain associated with sex is not normal. At your age you should already be getting regular prostate exams so I would make the appointment early if I were you and get this checked out ASAP! Just tell your wife the truth, I am sure she will agree that you need to see a doctor. Good luck!
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Alright so I'm having a serious issue with one of my best friends. Tonight we were having a conversation and started talking about what we wanted to do when we are older. He had no idea but I told him I want to pursue acting and kind of started motivating him I guess. Next thing I know, he's telling me I inspired him to go into the Air Force. I'm so scared because not only is he my best friend, but I've known him since I was 6 and have been in love with him since I was 12(I'm a girl, he's a guy). I'm so scared because he's talking about how he's willing to die for those he loves, but I don't know how I would live with myself knowing it's all my fault. What do I do? (link)
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Step back for just a minute and breathe! Do you really believe your friend would make a serious life decision based on one conversation? If he chooses to join the military I am certain he will put a lot more thought into it before taking that step. I am not sure why however that you automatically equate the military with death! He may never get anywhere near a battle zone. I don't think you are looking at this from the proper perspective. He could be killed doing a civilian job as well! Joining the service is a very noble and brave thing to do but in most cases it really isn't as dangerous as you might imagine. I think perhaps you have both been watching a few too many war movies!Suppose you want to be a nurse but he says "no, you could catch some awful disease from a patient and die." So you decide to be a chef instead, but he says, "no,you could get scalded with hot water and die!" All of these things are very real but do you see how ridiculous it sounds? If you are properly trained there is a very good chance none of these things will ever happen. It is the same with the military. Whatever he chooses just try to be supportive. He will appreciate that the most!
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hi everyone! next week I'm going to an open casting call for disney and, though i have been taking acting for a long time, Im new to auditioning. I can act well but I haven't had to audition much in my town( not many people act and the people who put on the shows teach me so they just contact me and ask me if i want the part) I don't know what to read or how long it should be. i found a script online for disney auditions but that is the type for making a video and sending it in. i also don't know if it could have two people in the scene? would they read the other part? (link)
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Try to find out the name of someone who has auditioned before. They should know the ins and outs and what you can expect once you get there. I am pretty sure you will be reading from their script. Don't sweat it, there is really no way to prepare for this sort of thing other than to remain confident in your talent and acting ability! Break a leg!
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22/f, 27/m
I'm seeing a guy, we're not sure if we've exclusive or not, but he came over to my house for the first time and he met my parents. He slept over at my house. Yes, we do have an intimate relationship as well. The morning after, I showed him a big stuffed animal I had that was in my closet. I told him I had no idea where to put it. He jokingly said, "well, since you don't have a boyfriend, that means you can cuddle with that at night."
I laughed it off but it has been lingering in the back of my head for awhile. Was that him just saying he was considering me just as a fuck buddy? Was he trying to talk about being exclusive and that's the way he tried bringing it up? Or was that him just joking about it? We've been dating and talking for awhile. He told me he'd be upset if I was seeing other people and same vice-versa.
He's still talking to me everyday so I'm wondering what may have been the hidden message of what he said (if there was any). (link)
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Well, he obviously does not consider HIMSELF to be your boyfriend and there was nothing "hidden" about how he put it!If I were you I would just ask him "WTF did you mean when you said that!I thought you wanted us to be exclusive! Doesn't that make me your girlfriend?" If he says no, then you are just a fuck buddy! You will have to decide if that is enough for you or not. Good luck!
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I have a extended warranty on my macbook that covers accidental damage and spills. If I wasted something on it or dropped it could I get it replaced with another macbook?
I don't think they'd be able to tell I wasted water on it on purpose, so would that work? (link)
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I am trying to make sense of your question. Why do you want them to replace a perfectly good computer? If you are trying to upgrade to a newer model I don't believe they would handle it that way. They would probably refund a store credit for the amount you paid for the computer you have. When people do get away with this sort of thing everyone loses, because it just ups the prices for everyone on down the road. I am sure you are not the kind of person who would feel right about doing this. Your conscience would bother you every time you used your computer knowing you got it dishonestly! You may not have the most up to date computer but you will have your integrity and that is worth a whole lot more!
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