I'm a twenty year old chick from Wisconsin. I could sit here and ramble on about my life, but I'm not going to. I'll spare you the boring details. God knows we've seen one too many profiles with "OMG, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AND A DOG. GOD I LOVE THEM BOTH, I CANT CHOOSE WHO I LOVE MORE. IM SO COOL. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. SHOUTOUTS LYKE THX!"
So lets cut to the chase, I'm only here becuase a friend reffered me and I have a knack of giving advice. I'm very blunt and in no way am I going to paint some pretty picture and tell you things that you want to hear.
Have fun kids.
Gender: Female
Age: 20
Member Since: September 21, 2005
Answers: 184
Last Update: December 20, 2005
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Hey, ok i am a 19 yr old girl. I've had a total of one boyfriend, and i've never been on a date with anyone other than my ex boyfriend. I think i am an attractive girl, i have a good personality and a lot going for me, but guys just dont seem to go for me. I will get told that i am "hot" and "beautiful" and all that, but no moves are ever made. It's starting to get really annoying. I also don't get much opportunity to meet guys since i am not in school and i dont go out a lot. Would it help if i was more forward with guys that i have an intrest in? Does anyone have tips on meeting them? Getting dates? Anything?
And please--no 13 yr old answers. (link)
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Try being more flirty with a guy you see, be loud and make yourself heard. Just don't be obnoxious. Give off a certain body language that says 'I like you' Smiling, winking, a seductive kind of stare. That sort of thing.
Definatly show a guys that you're interested in otherwise they may not persue you.
Goodluck.
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Hi, I live with my grandparents. My grandmaw doesnt want me to wear thongs or use tampons. I was in the shower last weekend, and I had two thongs in the dryer with my clothes. My grandmaw took my clothes out and saw them. I think she threw them away. So let me get to my question; what can i do about her, because she is so old fashion, how can i have thongs and use tampons with out her knowing about this and doing something stupid.
Thanks, i Rate 5's
signed,
Confused (link)
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Try to do the laundry when she isn't around. Hide those thongs! Hide your tampons good too. If you have to, keep them in your room and only take one to the bathroom when you need a change.
You can always try a talk with her too, sometimes it helps but with grandparents... it's hard to change their mind on anything different. Meh. Goodluck.
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i just found out my best friend is pregent, she is about 5 to 6 months along and is due in january and she is going to make the kid call me aunt because we are so close, like sisters. i feel totally shocked because she is only 17 while she is gonna marry the guy, i know its gonna be hard for her, and im just not sure what to do for her right now, i just need some ideas because i am completely in shock. (link)
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You just have to be there for her. She'll get really emotional and she'll probably really need you. Help her stay happy and in a good mood. Talk about some things she plans on doing with the baby and when the baby gets older.
My best friend had a kid as well and the kid refers to me as aunt, it's not all that bad. It's kind of a really good freeling actually.
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Look, im in 8th grade and I'm a girl. I'm 13 years old. There's this boy I really like, and I don't know if he likes me... We were really good friends since 3rd grade, and in 4th grade we were going out. In 5th grade we were just friends. In 6th grade we weren't. Then in 7th grade we were friends. Now in 8th grade he's my friend again and he smiles at me a lot. We just got partnered for an interview project and he looked really happy about it. I hope he likes me because I think im in love. I really like this guy and I hope he likes me. Please give me advice on how to confront him and talk to him and maybe tell your opinion on if he likes me or not. Also, should I tell him I like him? I don't know what to do. Please help me. (link)
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When you work on your project hopefully you two will have some one on one time. Why not bring up how you guys have known eachother for a while and bring up how you used to date and how you might think it'd be fun to give it another try?
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I'm 13/f in the 8th grade.
Why do boys always beat each other up? Every morning, there's always at least two boys beating each other up in the hallway or by the lockers. For example, this morning this guy stole another guy's backpack and tied a piece of twine to it, letting it swing over the balcony. The kid who owned the backpack got really angry, and the one who stole the backpack jumped on top of him and tried to throttle him. Why does this happen? Is it hormones, or are the boys in our school just really violent? (link)
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It's a matter of pride and who is the biggest and baddest around. It has to do with hormones I think.
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So I am going to start taking BC Pills and I was just wondering...
1. Will I gain or lose any weight or will my appetite increase/decrease? Is there any chance of that?
2. My friend was really PMSy when she started her pills. Was it because of the pills?
3. Can I get pregnant in the first week/two weeks of taking BCP? (link)
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1)It can work either way, sometimes on the pill women will normally increase weight.
2)Yes, your moods can fluctate and become less desireable because of the pill.
3)I'd give your body a while to adjust to the pill before you start having sex. You should still use a condom, don't know if you're considering that still or not.
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what is hte best type of birth control. my fiance and i want to have sex but i told him not until i am on birth control. he said "we can use condoms" and i told him no, b/c i don't want an accident. im 18 and i dont need a baby right now. he understands, but i want to have sex with him so bad. that is why i want to get on birth control, but i dont know what kind of birth control is the best. i have looked into the different kinds and i am down to the pill, the monthly shot, and the three month shot. which is better or any advice on which one is hte best one to use. what are side effects and thigns like that. please help me out! (link)
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I'm currently on the depo-shot. The three month shot. It's good to use, some people gain weight, I never did, I lost weight in fact. No horrible headaches or sickness. It stops your period though, so that's always a plus!
I was told though by my doctor that you should really take calcium pills or something with it. It does something to the calcium in your bones. So yeah. Depo works for me =)
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im more of a sports girl and i was thinking about joining martal arts again(i had to stop when i moved). the problem is i dont use tampons. i am worried about getting a leak when i do kicks and stuf (i have to wear white). how should i keep this from happening? should i start to wear tampons? (link)
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I would suggest tampons for that kind of thing. Pads can be rather uncomfortable and you'll always be worrying if you're leaking which could really take a toll on your performance in class.
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I kno this guy and i have been going out with him fer a lil under 4 months and i really want to french kiss him, but i have never frenched kissed a guy be4.. idk what to do, how should i start it should i say i'm gunna french u cause how will he know? my friends say i am obsessed with him so i looked up the word and the definition was thinking about it all the time.. i allways think about him.. i think i am pethetic.. what should i do? please i really need help, i asked my friends and the just sorta are sick of me talking about him.. i am so confused! (link)
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It shouldn't matter what your friends think, but maybe if you're thinking about him too much you should lay off of him just a little or try not to talk about him so much to your friends.
Just whenever you kiss him go for the plunge. Just slowly work your tongue into his mouth. Lick around his lips, and then try to press onward. He'll either open his mouth or back away a little.
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well... i am 13 and i weigh 176 pounds... this really takes a toll on my social life ... especially with guys... i really really really want to lose at least 20 pounds ((to begin with)) asap... but i dont want to go on a major diet... does anyone know a good plan for me?
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Just eat less of what you're eating now, that way you can enjoy food and learn that you don't have to eat that much to be full. I'm not saying eat a pea and a piece of meat and that's it.
A good tip is to drink a lot of water before each meal. This way your stomach already feels kind of full.
Try to stay away from anything fried. If you can.. have it baked. Stay away from fast foods and soda too!
Try walking around the block maybe a couple times a week. This will kick in your metabolism, or it at least should.. eventually you can start walking at a faster pace and start burning more calories.
Most of all though, don't care about what other people think or say about you. You're beautiful the way you are and you shouldn't change for anyone.. unless you want to make the changes for yourself.
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me and my friends have this bad habit where we talk bad behind EVERYONES back...i mean EVERYBODY... including ourselves... i hate wen people talk about me when im not around...
idk how to stop me and my friends from doing this (link)
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Kind of hypocrital I'd say. Well, I guess the best way to stop it is to just.. stop it. Talk about yourselves more, or other things.
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Okay my question is long. This is something I am so confused on. Some people say demons do not exsist, but how can they not? We have reports of actual exorcisms and demon possession. Some people have their doubts and still say it's some sort of mental illness and an exocism drives thaty out of them. I believe demons are real, and if I believe demonic possession is real could a possession happen to myself? Now, I am trying to be rational in all and I know there hasn't been a possession/exorcism reported since the late 1940s. But the cases I have read throughly, they sound like real demonic possession and not just a mental illness. In the cases there was supernatural things going on such as levatation, sexual obsenities, foreign languages going on, self-mutilation, vomitting, moving of furniture, etc etc...now how can that be catagorized as a mental illness? But initially some people still believe it is. As for myself, Im really intrested in this sort of thing, I am also wondering if learning too much and sort of becomming obsessed with this sort of thing could open me up to possession? Sometime possession can occur differently for other people, people say the devil is always with you, and filling your mind with thoughts you can't control. Lately I have been having many of those thoughts, evil thoughts. Contemplating suicide, self-mutilation, alot of anger, could I be getting into this too far or could it be something else like depression etc, I know none of you can give me a straight answer but I would like input on what your beliefs are about this whole thing, it's very very hard to understand and complicated. (link)
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I believe in things like that, some people need to see it to believe it though. You can't really blame them for being skeptical. After all the crap they see hollywood dish out about the supernatural happenings it just makes it out to be an extremely fake and unlikely thing.
I think if you believe in it, you're not really opening up to it. A lot of people that have had supernatural expierences say they've never really believed in anything like that. I think if you believe in something hard enough you mind is actually going to click into thinking something is happening to you.. I don't know if that makes sense.
And honestly. I think you are indeed suffering from depression.
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I like this boy and I think he could grow to like me if he knew I liked him 2.Problem is I'm too afraid to find out in case it's the wrong answer.Even if he does consider it my ex(bastard)would surely steer him in the other direction not out of jealousy but out of spite .Plus he didn't go out with me for me .He just wanted somebody to kiss.Besides he used to flirt with my friend right in front of me. (link)
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Hang out with him and find out if your feelings for him are true. Then you'll probably be able to tell if he likes you as well. Just give it a little time to let things kind of open up themselves. This way you don't have to go through with asking.
If this guy really did care about you, he wouldn't care what your ex said. He'd ignore him. What a dirty dog your ex sounds like. Glad you're not with him anymore.
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OK there is this boy who rides my bus & we are always fighting & picking!! I have one class with him & during the class when i have like nothing to do i am always looking & him! I wanna keep telling myself i dont like him but does all of this mean that i do? (link)
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Stop telling yourself, and just listen to yourself. You guys might not be more than just really close pals. Try to get to know him more before you decide you like him or not.
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I am a 24 year old female. Please tell me how to choose between two 30-something year old men that are both in love with me. One I was engaged to but he had to be put in jail for domestic violence The other lives aproxamately 1,500 miles away. My fiance` and I are required to go to a councelor by the courts,but I am in love with both men at the same time too.( My fiance` was drunk at the time of the incident, he is really sweet when he is sober.) I don't know who to choose. Please send me some good advice on who to keep in my life! (link)
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A guy should try to control himself at all times. Sober or not, he should never hit you. I'd go with the other guy.
There is no real distance when it comes to love.
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How do you get rid of stretch marks or flubber on your butt so you have the perfect butt? and how do you get rid of stretch marks on your thighs. (link)
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I've never tried anything but everyone always tells me coacoa butter with a combination of skin firming lotion too.
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ok this question is for girls only lol. i have my period & i can't use tampons..but i have swimming in gym class & my teacher is being a jerk about it, so i have to swim for the rest of the week. i'm not sure what to do exactly. my mom told me that your period stops & slows down in water, soo should i juss jump in fast? any ideas?
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Swimming in the water does slow it down, but seeing how it's probably more comfortable to be with a tampon and you can't use one I'd just put your foot down with your teacher and tell her you're not doing it and you'll make it up somehow.
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ok so there is this guy i like and he says he likes me to and sometimes when i send him a text message or something he doesnt answer like he is ignoring me but when im with him in person he is all over me what is going on???im confused??what should i do?? (link)
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Maybe he can't respond to your text message or doesn't want to put up the fees for responding to you when he figures he can just do it in person?
Be straight up with him and ask him, that's the only way you'll find out. I'd just say try not to be too paranoid about it but then again.. you really don't want anything to do with a guy like that who is trying to play the field with girls.
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I recently found out that my bestfriend cheated on his gf. And it wasn't just a make out with another girl type of cheating. He lost his virginity to this other girl. And he has no intention of breaking up with his real gf or even telling her. She lives about 2 hours away from here so unless someone tells her, she wont find out. She's also a good friend of mine so i'm questioning if I should tell her. I know if my bf was cheating on me and she knew, I'd want her to tell me. I'm not speaking to my bestfriend right now becasue of the fact. So should I tell his gf? (link)
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You answered your own question. She should know if he's cheating on her. It could really make things sour though with you and this guy because you snitched about it when you probably found out somehow in confidence.
But yeah, I'd totally tell her. Or either that be firm with her boyfriend and yell at him. What he did wasn't right and now he should have to deal with the consequences of his actions.
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I'm sixteen and I've never made out with a guy (or anything above that...and I only kissed once) is that a huge turnoff for a guy? I havent really had any boyfriends, but now I'm interested and I'm wondering will this scare guys off? (link)
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It won't scare a quality guy off, and that's what you want anyway.
Some guys are really out there looking for one thing and probably do want a girl who really knows what she's doing. You don't need men like that anyway ;)
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