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Hey, i'm a young teen who leads a normal life, or about as normal as it gets. i love to help people and hope to some day become a psychologist. You're welcome to ask me anything you want and i'll answer the very best i can.
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I have alot of friends, but not alot of best freinds..people i wuld consider bffs. ANyways, i'll be talking to one freind and then another one will come and we'd all be talking, then the 2 would have to go to there lockers and would meet me at class or lunch soon, but i have a huge feeling in my gut they are now talking shit about me at there lockers. do you think they r or do u think that im being paranoid. becuase at times i feel they are since they are SOMETIMES during some convos before they go to' there lockers on each odd day b4 lunch, they sometimes say when i say outrageous things "your so weirdd *giggles alittle*". it seems after they leave that they are saying like 'omg shes so annoying. wowww"
PLEASE HELP!
everyone has that paranoia and its pretty logical considering the way girls behave but in truth no one can really tell if their talking trash about you except them. but be careful who you trust because they can hurt you.
ok well i have a friend thats anorexic and she hasnt had her period in a while. But now she's eating again will she get it back ?? also i told her that if she eats her boobs will get bigger (hers r really small) is this true i need an anwser to the period question please !!
yes it is true, when a person if anorexic their breast become smaller and they stop having their period. if she eats again she will get her period back and true her breasts will get bigger.
The truth is, I'm a virgin.
13/f
But whenever i see a hot guy i think to myself "damn, if i got the chance i'd have sex with him." or i might back out in the end...
and it scares me because one day i will get the chance..
and want to do it..
HELP!!
ok calm down, your at the age where all these things go into your mind, and no one your age really admits it to each other but they are all thinking it. so relax, your not so different, just realize that there are a lot of bad things that can happen if you have sex, for example a non-curable STD or an unplanned pregnancy that can ruin your life. condoms and birth control aare not 100 percent effective. so its ok to look but don't touch, of worse comes to worse and you need an outlet the safest thing to do is masturbate its embarassing to talk about sometimes but its better than having sex.
I've liked this guy for awhile. neither of us have gone out with anyone before. i was convinced to ask him out, and being the idiot he was he didn't answer, just invited me, my friend and his friend to a chat acting as if the whole thing was a joke. so as i continued to ask if could answer the question my friend was fighting with me saying melissa take a hint the answer is no, get over him, blahblah. the fact is he didn't answer, i don't know what his answer is idk if he's telling me. but even after my friend stopped fighting with me i feel so pressured to get over him. but i don't want to, i don't care if theres no point, it's my life. and he called me yesterday and i answered and he didn't even say anything which makes it even more confusing. i have a right to still like him, it's my feelings, idc about other guys, it's not like i need a bf desperately at this age anyway. but i feel so pressured to get over him and i hate it. i have a right to still like him if I want right?
absolutely, you can like him if you want. the guy probably didn't answer because it was really awkward for him. i suppose there is a possibility that he does like you but it seems a bit slimm. but yes you can still like him if you want. there is no rule that says if you ask someone out and they say no you can't like them anymore so keep at it. maybe he really does have a little something for you. never back down as i like to say, unless of course he straight forward hates you but im sure he doesn't so keep it up, you got balls kid. its a lot harder to ask a guy out than people give us credit for. you have a great quality of bravery.
ok so my ex has always been my best friend and we are still really in love with each other (i know this for a fact) and well you see he just started talking to my friend. and if i know my friend she will fall for him and it makes me really sad. i cried all day today because i saw them together. it really upsets me but i can't be mad because i really love my friend and i really love him i just don't understand how they could do this to me. so here is my question:
1) How can i approach him and talk to him about our feelings for each other?
2) What should i say when i'm talking to him about this?
3) What should i do about my friend?
Thanks for any advice i need it bad.
first you need to talk to your friend and tell her that you still have feelings for him and make it clear that he is off-limits and it will really upset you if she and him have an intimate relationship, you should approach your ex in whatever way works for you, if you are uncomfortable face to face call him and tell him how you really feel. tell him you realize that you still really like him and if he still likes you too he can understand what you are feeling.
if your bf of one year physically hurts you..like kicks you in the leg..punches you in stomcach..throws you on the ground..pins you down..grabs you by the jaw..you get the picture..well anyway if that happened to you..and you have been together for a year and nothing like that ever happened..what would you do? would you forgive him? after how long? would you make him get help? i mean..we've all done really dumb stuff before...
17/f
he= 18/m
HE SHOULD NOT BE ATTACKING YOU! so many people in abusive relationships dont know the signs. you need to make him aware that if he ever EVER touches you like that again then you are going to dump him, that is much too dangerous, you may still really like him but if he's hurting you its unacceptable and it can never happen again. if he threatens you, then you need to talk to an adult and work on getting a restraining order because if he has anger issues he could seriously hurt you.
How do I know if im a good singer? I usually just sing at home when I'm bored, sometimes when my family is around, but usually when i'm like in a room by myself. I dont really mind singing for my family, but like how do I know if im a good singer? nobody in my family really knows that stuff and i wanna enter a competition in my school. i dont wanna get embarrased kinda like the people on american idol where they think they have talent when they really dont. :/
sing in front of your friends and have them critique you or try singing along with a cd, or if you want, go to the teacher holding the contest and ask for a private session.
i wish i had 1 best friend that i could share all my secrets with, and that would be like better than all my other friends and stuff. but most of my friends are just good friends and stuff.. but what do you consider to be best friend material? idk if we're more than good friends yet.. even the ones i've known forever. or maybe they are, but like i still dont think i've found someone that like completely blew me away and that i'd totally know is my best best friend. :/ how do i get one? How do i find one? im always hoping for a new kid in the neighborhood or in my class at school and that we'd click and become best friends. -sigh- what should i do?
13/f
awww! i know that feeling, i'll be your best friend, im an awesome secret keeper, but anyway, you can't really find a best friend, best friends jsut sorta happen, it starts out with just good friends and then you start talking to someone more and hanging out with them more and then yuo sorta just become really close, not everyone has a best friend but everyone should, try hanging out with one of your good friends more or if none of your good friends seem good enough go to a gathering like a teen church gathering or join a club, keep an open mind and you'll meet tons of new people.
15/f
Since the day I met this boy, Alex, in September 2004 I have liked him. I'm sure he felt the same to me but things dragged on and never happened. I recently found out some things that allowed me to get over him.. mostly.
Despite RARELY talking, today he sent me a message with one of those poems about sex with "YOU'RE FUCKIN SEXY" at the end. Sure, he can think that of me but I also have a 4.0 GPA. Alex clearly isn't right for me.
I am wondering what I could say back to his message. I want this jerk to lust over me but think he has no chance. I am feeling quite bitter and would like a little revenge for all of the time I wasted thinking of him.
I was considering replying with a simple "oh" to him, so he would just be confused/defeated. I am not interested in sending the poem back or not replying.
Thanks, any suggestions or overall insight is greatly appreciated! =)
PS: For more info, just ask!
you could reply like this:
i know or
yup, too sexy for you
or you could do the steven from that 70's show:
thats cool
ok, most people that i know tell me that im not a prep. but on the other hand people that dont know me that well tell me that i am. I dont want to be (dont get offended) but somehow people end up telling me i am. Ok heres me, yes i have some things from american eagle and aeropostale, mostly jeans because most other jeans dont fit me right. Most of the time i wear a hoodie. One from american eagle, and the others just came from miscellaneous places. When i dont wear a hoodie, i wear just tee shirts, like sports teams tee shirts, well that style. I straighten my hair and take a shower and put on makeup every morning and i run my fingers through my hair throught the day. And at school i dont hang out with all the popular preppy people. Im not saying theres anything wrong with them, so dont get offended. So am i a prep or am i not? Got any advice of some sort for me?
ok, who said you had to label yourself, no your not a prep, clothes from a preppy store doesn't make you a prep, you run your fingers through your hair because you have long bangs they get in the way or its a habit, and next, just because you straighten your hair and put on make up doesn't make you a prep, it just means you care about your appearance, and taking a shower everyday means you care about hygeine so those people who tell you that you are a prep can eat it b/c they don't know you!
xoxoxo hope i helped
what exacly does understanding means? can you give me an example?
im from korea
understanding in the dictionary means identifying the meaning, an example would be that you do not understand what the word understand means. you cannot grasp the meaning of the word.
Friends change...How do you kno who is your real friend. I mean people can be soooo sarcastic. How do u kno if they are playing or mean it...
if someone is constantly putting you down, you know they aren't your friend so if you know someone who is, distance yourself from them or approach them and tell them that if they want to be your friend they can't treat you like they, if they continue to treat you badly dont bother trying to be friends with them any more.
when someone says "how do you drive a stick?" what does that mean? i know it's related to cars lol but what kind?
yes its related to cars, they are talking about cars that use stick shift and they are usually very hard to drive, not a lot of people know how.
ok so like. i like this guy and well today my friend told him..again. lol and hes liek i dont believe it. and my friends liek what? and hes liek i dont believe it that she likes me. and shes liek but she does! and hes liek no she doesnt and shes like why do you think that? and hes like because she likes my friend "richie". ok. what do i do know?!? i dotn like richie i liek him!
tell him and it seems to me that he wants to hear it from you, or ask him out, that would be the best solution. tell him to his face.
ok i know some of you will say google so please dont...this is for anyone who looks up lyrics often...what is the best site that you would reccomend to go to to find accurate lyrics of songs.
www.azlyrics.com, have you tried that?
ok theres two george's in this, so the guy i fancy is george1, and my mate is george2.
so recently my mate jack, found out i like this guy, george (from my previous question). he found that out yesterday. but the thing is, i like this guy jack aswell. so today my mate george2 said to jack "donna fancies you" but like messing around so jack said "no she dont she fancies george1" nd he looked over, i smiled nd he just looked away. but before he knew, he was real flirty with me. i just wanted to know, does this mean jack likes me?!?
oh, forgot to mention, jack has been kinda.."off" with me like he werent talking to me as much, nd he werent himself coz he's normally like ...erm..friendly. but he's been acting weird like ALL day!!
he definitly could be jealous. yeah, i definitly think he's jealous and maybe a little hurt because he doesn't think you feel that way about him. if your comfortable with telling him you like him then get alone with him and you could say something like, girls often fancy(i love that word are you british?) more than one guy at a time and lead it up to him. or tell jack you really do fancy him. but if your not comfortable with that just rebuild up the bond and be flirty with him and that might be a more subtle way of telling him you like him. hope i helped. good luck
this guy that i like, he's really nice and all, but i dont understand him. ive tried starting convos with him but they never work out or turn out to be a few sentences. im friends with his friends and vice versa, but we always end up talking indirectly. here's an example. we would be in a small group at school. i would say something about 1 of the guys were talking to & he would reply back talking to that guy. that probably doesnt make much sense. it would go like this- me:heyy remember when this happened him:yeah dude [to the other guy] that was really funny. never directly talking to me if that makes sense?? anyway, even if i am talking he wont join in the convo and just watches me talk. does he really not like me or something? also if im sitting near him in groups, he'll automatically just move. i never did anything to him & everyone thinks im a pretty nice person and really funny. he doesnt act like this towards anyone else that i noticed. yes he might be shy but it seems different. if something is funny he'll laugh about it in groups and if i laugh he'll just stop. what did i do?! the only somewhat communication we'd have is if hes watching me talk to someone else. any ideas??
well, i have one, he may just be too nervous to talk to you directly so he retreats back to the safety of his friends. or becuase he's nervous he may be uncomfortable to sit near you. if this is the case then you need to show him that he can be comfortable around you, maybe when he responds to a friend instead of you, butt in with a comment like, when he says dude that was so funny, be like yeah i thought so too. make it normal and natural to talk to him and he'll warm up to you
mk, this girl who is my best friend and has been since 3rd grade is the biggest hypocrite who has even been born on this earth.
for example, she said she hated when people go, "umm okayy?" or, "okay..." and then she does it. she said she hated the word drama and she uses it. she said she hated this girl, amanda, (who is supposedly her best friend) and then she suddenly loves her when she feels like it. she said she hated this girl, nicole, & then she acts like they are really good friends. she said she hated ae, a&f, & hco .. then she goes out and buys 30473982423 things from those places.
GOD! i can't stand it. what should i do to make her stop!?
lol, this is an interesting problem. i really don't think there is anything you can do to make her stop. maybe bring one of those elements to her attention like if she comes to school wearing an ae, a&f or hco shhirt to school, be like "i thought you hated that store?" and maybe she can give you an explanation. or maybe she is bipolar and thats just how she is. good luck. lol
im 13/f
i keep getting signs of deppression i used to be a cheerleader until i quit and iv just seemed to give up on everything im smokeing weed now i enjoy just getting drunk and stoned and iv lost all interest in boys and girls (im bi) and even sex at times i dont know what to do iv even cut my leg a couple times please help
*sleepiesheep*
ok, first i'd like to congratulate you on recognizing that you have a problem. that is the first step to getting better. if you feel suicidal in anyway please go to my myspace www.myspace.com/dripping_with_sin it gives facts and treatment for people who are suicidal. how you can help is ask a parent to take you to a psychologist or psychiatrist. medicine helps but only if its prescribed by a doctor. or if your not comfortable with that or don't know of any you can go to your schools social worker or psychologist and discuss how you are feeling with them. but if you go to a doctor and they prescribed you medicine you really need to not take drugs or drink alcohol becuase it can end your medicine. you are still so young and it would be something very precious to lose. im 14/f and i get depressed all the time. i never drank or did drugs and i think those elements are adding to your problems and depression. u need to gradually wean yourself off of them because they are not good for you or your future. and don't look to sex to make you happy, because next thing you know you'r going to end up pregnant or with an STD. so please. do yourself a fovar, stop having sex, drinking, and doing drugs and go see a professional who can help. if you need someone to talk to IM me at xcrimsonxsinsx6 i don't want you to hurt yourself and i care a lot about the teenagers of our generation. every 18 minutes someone in this country takes thier life, please dont let that be you!
Hey I have this really werid twitch in my butt(lol) and its been happening on and off sense last night. Is there anyway to help it go away. Or does it mean anything bad??? thanks
it doesn't mean ANYTHING bad so relax and don't freak out, lol. its probably just a muscle twitch so see if you can relax the muscle and maybe try adding some heat like putting a heating pad on it. but if your still worried or want an absolute remedy for it try going to www.webmd.com and type in muscle twitch. it might help.