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it's my feelings, not their's!

Question Posted Wednesday February 14 2007, 10:53 am

I've liked this guy for awhile. neither of us have gone out with anyone before. i was convinced to ask him out, and being the idiot he was he didn't answer, just invited me, my friend and his friend to a chat acting as if the whole thing was a joke. so as i continued to ask if could answer the question my friend was fighting with me saying melissa take a hint the answer is no, get over him, blahblah. the fact is he didn't answer, i don't know what his answer is idk if he's telling me. but even after my friend stopped fighting with me i feel so pressured to get over him. but i don't want to, i don't care if theres no point, it's my life. and he called me yesterday and i answered and he didn't even say anything which makes it even more confusing. i have a right to still like him, it's my feelings, idc about other guys, it's not like i need a bf desperately at this age anyway. but i feel so pressured to get over him and i hate it. i have a right to still like him if I want right?

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Darkhelp66466 answered Wednesday February 14 2007, 9:16 pm:
absolutely, you can like him if you want. the guy probably didn't answer because it was really awkward for him. i suppose there is a possibility that he does like you but it seems a bit slimm. but yes you can still like him if you want. there is no rule that says if you ask someone out and they say no you can't like them anymore so keep at it. maybe he really does have a little something for you. never back down as i like to say, unless of course he straight forward hates you but im sure he doesn't so keep it up, you got balls kid. its a lot harder to ask a guy out than people give us credit for. you have a great quality of bravery.

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Brandi_S answered Wednesday February 14 2007, 2:30 pm:
You have the right to feel any way you so choose. Why should you feel pressured to get over him? That is something only you can choose to do for yourself.

My opinion? The guy made a joke out if it in front of your friends. That was a pretty crappy thing for him to do. He made a joke out of YOU. When your friend said "take a hint the answer is no" he didn't say a damn word. So, honestly, I don't think the guy is very interested.

Like him all you want. Get over him whenever you want. But don't let the guy make a joke out of you again. That says to me he is really a jerk and isn't worth your time anyhow.

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t0xicParadiSe answered Wednesday February 14 2007, 12:24 pm:
Yeah, you do have a right to still have feelings for the guy. You can't really help who you like, it just happens.
Don't let your friends tell you what to do. Like you said it's YOUR life, not theirs.
Maybe the reason he didn't answer was because he's really shy and is not ready for a serious relationship or maybe he really did think you were joking around.
Try not to bring the question up again and just stay friends for now and see what happens later on. Don't stress yourself about this.
Remember, whatever is meant to be will always find a way


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