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okay, so on the 12th of May I will have been with my boyfriend for 1 year..
It's not my longest relationship but it's the longest he has ever been with someone.
I was just wondering what to do?
Presents... going out etc
What would you do?
I'm never very good at this stuff..
But i wanted to make it a nice day.. so I was just wondering about presents and stuff..
So please help!
Thanks x (link)
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there are many things to do. My cousin once wrote down one reason she loved her boyfriend for everday they were together.
If you have and inside joke like a little thing that no one would understand like a certain candy that shares significance give him 365 of it...my bf gave be a bag full of kisses and said on a card something like "Here are your thousand sweet kisses" because I like the movie rent in which a song is called that.
In order to make it extra sweet just do somthing that only you two will understand or something that you and him both find significant!
Good luck!
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13/F so my freind for a long time likes me and i dont like. like that and i kinda like. but im still young im 13 and i dont kno how to date yet and i dont kno wut to do (link)
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This is from my experience but it is not always the right way to go. I loved my best friend and I asked him out...he didn't really didn't like me that way but he said yes anyways and now he loves me and we are getting married.
That is my experience. I think the best thing for you to do is to just think about it and weigh the pros and cons... at your age you should be experimenting it might be fun to have a bf for a little while but if you think it will ruin your friendship I definetely recommend you telling him that when you reject him... I am sure he can understand that.
I am 19 now but at the time I was 16...age doesn't matter when it comes to dating in my opinion.
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i had an assembly today and it was all the freshman girls. it was about respecting ourselves and how we should be happy with who we are. it really inspiried me. i want to do more. like i want to reach out to the 8th grade girls (who will be at my high school next year) and teach them all of this. maybe start a group or something. i just dont know where to start! like id like to make a website but pshh me and making websites, i dont know where to start. anyone wanna help? (link)
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speak to the school and ask them if they would be in on doing something like that. also find someone that is good with computers and tell them your idea they might want to help!
That is a great idea that you have. I would have loved that in my school. It won't only help girls like themselves it will probably lower the fighting that there is between girls in highschool.
Good Luck!
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my fish was hanging around the bottom of the bowl today. he doesnt look too good. his eyes are sort of bulged. he is completely off. I put in food and it did flips and got all spazzy. then went to the bottom of the bowl and stayed motionless. do you think he'll die? :( . i havent changed the bowl in a while. will that cure him? hes a year old carnival goldfish. any informations good. thankkkssss (link)
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My dad is a fish expert! lol...I think changing the water will work but if it doesn't there are some medications you can put in the water that you can find at pet stores...there is sometimes this skin (scale) disease that can occur on the fish and I think I have heard of something having to do with their eyes...maybe look up your fish's symptoms if it doesn't get better and get the meds.
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Well, i went out w/ this guy for 2.5 months, and then i broke up w. him, cause he said to another girl i'll break up w/ her if you'll go out w/ me, and then i broke up w/ him and then he said that that was a stupis reason to break up w/ him, and then he started going out w/ another girl (who's one of my best friends) not even to days after we broke up. And now i lke another guy. And i think that my ex is mad at me, so would you be mad and do you have any good advice about how to ask out a guy? (link)
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He screwed up his chances of being with you by saying that to another girl. It is a good reason to break up with him. If he wants to be immuture let him. He is the one to blame for this.
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so i'm looking for like the sexy black and white pictures of a guy n a girl kind of like a hollister ad almost but not. can someone please help me find some! (link)
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I don't know if you have a facebook but the bumpersticker app on there has a lot of cute pictures like that.
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my boyfriend putted his fingerinside my vagina do i cause any harm............
nd in d morning he di manstupation nd cleand d hand nd puuted his finger inside my vagina..........17\f.......i m 4m india (link)
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umm...are you asking if him putting his finger in your vagina harms yourself? If so, it depends on if there were bacteria that may cause a yeast infection or maybe a bladder infection but that is minimal if the guy cleaned his hands.
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me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and i love her sooo much you know it wasn't that first sight love it was that first kiss that made my world change just that first kiss and all of a sudden she doesn't love me for no reason after she has done everything bad to me and all i have done is love her, her friends hate me and put things in her head all the time, i just want to take her and leave and be alone and happy forever just the 2 of us and just start a new life i love her and i dont know what to do i have done everything she has asked lost firends everything you can think possible and now i have nothing but her i just don't know what to do (link)
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She needs to be her own person. Sadly she is not if she is letting her friends tell her what to do. Someone you love should never tell you to get rid of anything that you care about. She needs to grow up and learn from her mistakes. If she loses you and learns that that was not a decsion on her part hopefully she will come back to you a better person who can handle a relationship.
It sucks...I know but I am sorry that is probably the way it has to be...just remember that it is better to have loved and lost then have loved before...I know it might not seem like it but remember how happy love makes you and how overwhelming it is!
I hope I helped...It is a sucky situation but I believe you can get through it!
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15/F
I found out today that guys dont like talkative girls. The radio had a disucussion on it, and my class had a discussion on it too. Guys find that "unattrcative" in some cases. I talk alot, im known for that. I dont want to change the person i am to impress guys, but im hearing that guys really dont like that. I have heared it before and im still hearing it. I dont know what to do, i dont like being quiet, i have the larger then life personality. What should I do? Thanks :) (link)
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you will find a guy that likes you for exactly who you are and you will not have to change a thing. the guys who want you to change are not worth it.
who knows, you might find a talkative guy that likes you...lol
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15/f
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years.
At the beginning of the relationship i liked him alot, because you have so much to learn about eachother. Then one day i loved him. He's in love with me too, but WAY MORE then i love him. Everythings fine, we aren't arguing, or yelling.. but i have doubts. He's seriously IN love with me, and i keep thinking that maybe i just love him, and not IN LOVE. How do i figure out that im IN love or just love him like a brotha? (link)
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you need to do some soul searching. You may be having doubts that most people have who have been in a relationship a long time...like thinking what if he isn't the one, or you shouldn't be with this person because of your age.
you are really young but you can be in love at a young age. ask yourself certain questions like do you think about him all the time, and what would you do if he was no longer around...can you spend your life without him?
you certainly might not be in love with him but you are young, you will be ok!
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so i asked this question before but people did not seem to understand that i don't want slow music, i don't want r&b i just want fast rock/punk/metal music with dirty lyrics and a good beat.
that means no pretty ricky, barry white, any of that stuff please. (link)
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Ok I am seriously surprised no one has said this yet: CRAZY BITCH by Buckcherry! It is probably the best song to have hard core sex to!
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I just found out today that I have genital herpes. I'm only 15, and it was my second time having sex with the same person. Don't tell me I'm too young or whatever. I know I was ready, and we've been together for a really long time. I'm really scared though. I'm having a hard time like, dealing with it. He thought he didn't have anything, but, I guess he did. I wasn't his first, but he was mine. My mom thinks he cheated on me, because, both her and my doctor said if he had it before the second time we had sex, I would've most likely gotten it sooner. What do you guys think? I'm so scared. Please help. I also just need ideas to help me cope with this. Wow. Who thought just one stupid mistake could mess my life up forever? (link)
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First I would like to say that you will be ok. There are many ways to prevent spreading it and people can work through it.
I was wondering if maybe he did have it then he just the first time he didn't have an outbreak. I don't know much about it but maybe it can be spread other ways or maybe you did get it earlier just didn't have the symptoms till now?
Maybe do some digging around and see if he did cheat on you, if you were together for a really long time before this he might have gotten tired of waiting for you. I really hope he didn't but it is a possibility.
Most importantly just know that you have it now and make sure to prevent it from getting to someone else.
hope I helped
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19/f
(Sorry this is kind of long)
My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years now. I just completed my first year away at college, while he stayed at home but is working.
He was always against me going away to school. Obviously he wants to keep me all to himself, and I'm afraid that if I were to stay at home and commute, he's going to be a big distraction and take away the time I need for school and studying.
Even though we're more than an hour away from each other, he was REALLY against me going out. Like, I wasn't allowed to go anywhere, even if it was just me and my girlfriends. The only friends I have are my roommates and some of their friends, so they're not even really my friends. Plus, none of my high school friends go to this school. My friends are really bummed that I have never gone out with them. but he doesn't even like the few friends that I DO have.
He even interrogates me every time he calls (where am I, who I'm with) and I'm not even allowed to talk to any guys. He even checks my phone and sometimes holds on to it when we see each other. If you're wondering why he's so controlling, he kind of has a reason why because I had cheated on him in the past. That, and because a lot of guys are always after me and he knows, but I don't even pay attention to them. He also thinks that EVERY SINGLE GUY likes me but that's not the case! My close guy friends and I identify each other as brothers and sisters pretty much!
Well, he has the nerve to wonder why I have NO FRIENDS here!! I go to a huge party school, it's a big 10 school with one of the biggest campuses in the nation, so there are like 45,000 people here. But how am does he expect me to meet people if I can't go ANYWHERE??
If I were to commute to school, I will pretty much have ZERO friends. It's hard to meet people if everyone commutes and you don't live with or around each other like how it is in the dorms.
Please don't say things like it's my fault or tell me to leave him. I still want to be with him, but I would like to know what to say to make him trust me and allow me to go out.
We get into fights about these issues ALL THE TIME but I feel like this will never be resolved.
Btw, I'm not socially retarded or anything. A lot of people like me and I can easily make friends, but it's like I'm not allowed to. I have to like creep around just to go have lunch with some of our guy friends and I hate it.
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!! (link)
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I think he may have some control issues (you probably already figured that out lol). Have you sat him down and told him your feelings? I am worried that this is something he won't be able to change but you can sure see if he will try. Tell him that you have been together for so long you cannot imagine doing anything with anyone else, tell him you are going to this school to better yourself and that you can't afford to live home. Maybe he can move somewhere around you.
I am not sure if he will change but you just have to know when it gets too much. Make sure you are prepared to live this way. I don't think you want to be the girl who is made to stay at home all the time because of his own insecurities.
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hi thanks for the advice your advice was the only one that was kida positive. thanks really made me feel better but there is one thing i didn't understand could you please explain "If you want to keep your relationship that you have with her now you need to fake it!"
Thanks (link)
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ok...I meant that if you still want to have a good friendship with her you have to fake that you are ok...she might not want to be friends with you otherwise...if you know what I mean.
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I really enjoy drinking lots of water and then holding it when I have to go pee. I only do it about once a week. At first I would hold it until night time then go to sleep and I would end up wetting my bed. But now I hold it until I get to the point of it nearly coming out for about 5 minutes (literally). Then I would pee in a cup to see how much that I could actually hold and how long I could hold it before I wet myself (which I have never actually let happen). When I was a little younger, I couldn't hold it for more than an hour and now I'm getting better. Is this wierd to be doing and has anyone else done it before? (link)
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I don't know if it is weird but you should really stop doing it. If you hold it to long it might cause a bladder infection and believe me you don't want one!! They suck so much!! I wouldn't wish it on anyone!!
I am not trying to be mean just looking out for you!
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Is it possible for two people to be 100% honest with each other?I mean,to be able to tell each other EVERYTHING(and I really mean everything),and to trust each other unconditionally? I would really like any opinions on this. Thanks =] (link)
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I think it is possible, but it has to be the closest bond. I think in a way that everyone has their secrets. maybe not ones that they can even understand but they are there. so I think it is very hard to express everything. but I do think you can fully trust someone but it takes strong souls and very long time!
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I am deeply in love with a girl. She happens to be my class mate nd we are pretty close friends. I told her how i felt cos i couldnt keep it inside any longer and I thought it was best to tell her. Well she doesnt love me the way i love her. She says that I am a great guy and all. She just wants to be my friend for now (thats what she said exactly).So I asked her if anything could happen between us in the future (A pretty stupid move i think) and she said probably not. That hurt a lot and it still does. The problem is that I cant stop loving her. What am i supposed to do? Does anyone think I stand a chance. (link)
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you always stand a chance. I am very sorry for the way things occured I had a similar experiance not to long ago.
The only thing you can do right now is to leave her alone. She will see what exactly she wants (maybe you maybe not). If it was meant to be it will happen. For now just try not to let it bother you. I am not going to tell you to get over her because I know it is not that easy. If you want to keep your relationship that you have with her now you need to fake it! I know it sucks but hopefully soon it will become easier.
I really hope things work out...I know they will!
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why do a lot guys deal with their problems by partying, sleeping with lots of girls and doing drugs? (link)
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I asked my boyfriend the same thing. He told me the reason he likes to drink and do drugs when he has problems is because for a brief time he can forget. When he is on drugs or drunk he can't feel the pain inside and it gives him a break from everything he is feeling. He doesn't sleep with girls but I have a theory why they do that. I think they sleep with girls for many reasons depending on the guy. Some guys do it for a control factor, some for revenge, and some to help their self esteem. I think it is mostly control. If they feel like their lives are out of control they may think making the decision to sleep around will help because they can control it. It's like people who cut themselves...they do it because that is the only way they feel they can control the pain.
There is very little chance you can get someone to stop this and it sucks... but just try to be there for them just in case something happens and if something happens to them they might realize that it isn't the best thing to do.
hope I helped!
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Isn't there a alphabetical order button in Microsoft Word? I know there is a word count, isn't there a button that makes your stuff go into alphabetical order? (link)
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yes there is. it is under table then sort. I think you can figure it out from there. that is on 2003 version I don't know about current ones
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me & my boyfriend had just broken up, he said because he doesn't want me anymore.. which really hurt me, i started crying for 2 hours straight. then.. later on, he wanted to get back together with me.. but i told him it was kind of too late. and then i said if he wanted to, then i think it's best to be single for a while first. and he asked if we can still have the "no talking to opposite sex promise".. because he's scared he'll loose me to another guy. and i told him that i think it's best if we can talk to the opposite sex to be able to trust each other. and he said "forget it, we're not gonna get back together then." and it's very frustrating, because i need some time to think it over if i should or not, and he rushes me. and then, he got mad at me because i added guys on myspace, when we went single.. because i first saw myself off of his, and had a girl comment him. so i thought he added all the girls back, then i added all the guys back. and he got mad at me when we were single.. and he told me that he was gonna delete me out of his life and burn everything and etc. and then he said all of these harsh things to me and stuff. and then he called me so i had to pick up, and he was crying.. and he said "why'd you do this to me?" and he also said "i hate my life because of you" and all this stuff, which made me cry because he was crying really hard. and he asked to start over with me, but i told him i needed some time to think about things, and he finally gave me time to think it all through. and he said it was his fault for breaking up with me in the first place.
and yesss.. we did have alot of difficulties in our relationship, that's why i said we should be single for a while till we're ready to start over.. and to talk to the opposite sex while we wait, but he doesn't wanna do the opposite sex.
so what should i do? i don't know what to do anymore.. i'm very confused. PLEASE HELP ME! i'm stuck in between. i wanna be with him, but yet.. yeahh.. (link)
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Why did you agree to that rule in the first place? Sorry agreeing to that probably hurt you guys even more because you both pretty much told each other that "you are mine, and no one can have you." It is pretty much showing that neither of you trust each other that much. I am not trying to say that to be mean but no guy should make you not talk to guys and vice versa.
He was the one who said he wanted to break up in the first place. He should not be making you feel guilty because he was the one who made you come to the realization that you need a break. Like you said, him saying what he did hurt you and it's not like you can forgive that in a couple hours.
You two need to evaluate yourselves and your relationship. I am going through kinda the same thing and all I know is that this break may make your relationship stronger. Don't play dirty just take this time to relax and realize what you want and what you need in your life. I think he should know that too.
I really hope everything works out for the best, and I am sorry that you have to go through this too!!
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