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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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OK. My mom recently told me that sometimes she see's spirits. She's highly Christian and so am I. She told me that she's never told anyone but me, and she told me that she hated her girft and asked God to take it away from her. Now, every scince I was like 11 i've been VERY interested in the like unknown. So naturally when she told me this I got kinda interested, and I started asking her questions, but she gets upset when I ask her question. My mom is straight up psychic and alot of things lead me to believe that, not only can she see spirits, but she can sense things. Like, she can touch u and know that you're sad or upset even if you don't show it. And like at Mac Donald's, this woman who you could tell had something wrong with her, was mumbling to herself, and started laughing this weird laugh. The woman suddenly stopped laughing and stared at me. My mom goes "Kiara she's possessed, don't look at her". And i'm like, How do u know? And she didn't reply. But anyways! I just wanted to know if i'm gunna get her gift? And no, she's not crazy, I would have never known. She said she didn't get her gift till she was about 16, and i'm only 13.
I've done a lot of research on this stuff. When I was a kid, probably around 11, I would hear voices all the time. It was kind of like a couple of people in the early morning or late at night. It would wake me from my sleep, and I was petrified. If that wasn't enough, I would have the craziest dreams, and really felt like there was more to me then I ever knew.
I grew up as a Christian as well, and their beliefs on the paranormal and mediums[people who can speak to the dead], is highly questioned. I tried to push away any thoughts of an afterlife, or the fact that I might be a "sensitive" for a long time. But now that I'm 21, I get all sorts of feelings.
It turns out that my grandmother had them, too. Which yes, means they can be genetic.
But there's different kinds. Your mom sees things, I've never seen spirits. I've heard them, and felt some kind of unknown presence. I've known about horrible things happening before they happen to those who are close to me. For example, my best friend crashing her car, my boyfriend getting jumped, and the day my grandmother died.
It's strange, and people will think you're strange. But it sounds to me like you kind of want this kind, which is interesting. There's a very good chance you mind receive it, especially if you're welcoming it. But don't be disappointed if you don't, you'll still have a mom to look out for you. =)
Good luck.
ohk. so my boyfriend of almost 10 months broke up with me the other day. i woke up the next morning, felt sick and threw up also threw up that night. and it repeated the next 2 days.but it was just yellow liquid, obviously b/c i had nothing in my stomach. i have went the past 4 days without eating anything. except for today when i tried to eat a piece of bread. but i couldn't finish it. i thought i was going to puke. i think it just may be nerves making me sick and not want to eat and then throwing up. but then again. i have had unprotected sex alot and my last period was march 13th. i'm a every other monther. but its soon to be the 28th of may in a few hrs. and i still haven't started. my periods usually last 5 days. i'm prolly just paranoid.. but could i possibly be pregnant or is it just nerves.
thanks in advance
At this point you have to consider both possibilities. Having unprotected sex is a big decision, and it sounds to me like you're getting a bit of morning sickness. But, I do know that nerves and anxiety can give a person the symptoms that their most scared of when they're concentrating on them. Also, things like exercise, change in diet, even your mood, can affect the timing of your period. So, if any of those things come to mind, that's probably why you're a little late, if it's not because you're pregnant.
Th reason you're throwing up yellowish, is because you're not eating. This is the lining of your stomach, and it's mostly acids. When I get a nasty flu every year, my doctor tells to drink gatorade, any color, and water it down about half way. It really does help keep vomit down, and it'll give you some of the nutrition you need that your body is rejecting.
If your period doesn't show in a week or two, it's time for a test. But until then, don't stress, because it CAN delay your period, and it CAN create this nausea/vomiting. Or who knows, maybe it's just bad virus going around that you caught.
Ok I dont know if this goes under health but PLEASE ANSWERR..
Today i went swimming and SUNBURN and the pain will nottt go away...
And i cant sleepp..
SHower COLLLDDDD...
I need help baddd..
What stuff can i buy orr what do i doo?
PLEASE HELLPPPP
I got sub burnt really bad my senior year. The pain was so severe that it messed up the nerves from my thigh to my stomach, that I couldn't have so much as a sheet touching it for almost two months.
Aloe-Vera, or cord ozone and help.. but I suggest that if it doesn't got away in a week or two, to see a doctor. You don't want to deal with what I did.
why would a boy get all flustered when you started talking to him again? My ex boyfriend and i used to be amazing friends and broke up a little over a month ago. i have been trying to talk to him for a while but then we just stopped. im moving in 2 weeks so today when i saw him i asked him if he would be at youth group next week. he got all flustered and was like "well i dont know what im doing, maybe." and i was like "ok well do you think you will?" and he was like i dont know what im doing!!" and then i said "ok, well you dont have to yell. i just wanted to say bye" he does that everytime i ask him something like before it was if we could hangout and he would be like "IDK IM BUSY and i have stuff to do" why does he do this? neever before when we were dating would he do this just since we broke up. thank you so much!! :) ned an answer ASAP because im seeing him tonight--thanx
Maybe it hurts him too much to hold a conversation with you, because he knows you're moving. He still might have feelings for you and he's just not ready to talk to you just yet.
There's really not much you do about it.. because you can't rush a person into being ready to talk after a break up. Maybe you should leave him alone for the next week or so, and then try one more time. if he doesn't want to say good-bye, then let it be his loss.
Hi, you answered my question about friend A and B and how they were hypocritical and stupid and junk like that. It was titled "Hypocrites..." I really liked your advice it made me feel so much better. But I sorta have another question...
I went to a party last week and both A and B were there. It was kinda weird around B, so I just mostly talked to this other girl. A had to leave early, and as soon as she did, that's when B started talking to me more. It was ridiculous. And the worst part was, she was talking to me like we were close again. Now there was no way that I could tell her how she was treating me and how it was making me feel because that would seem weird after she was all friends with me again. But then it was the same thing the day after once A was back around her.
I get the feeling that if I were to tell her what she's doing to me, she would totally deny it...just like A did. Because there was that case at the party where yes, she wasn't ignoring me. She's so two-faced...but a still don't want to lose her. Without her, basically without the rest of the group too, I'm nothing. I really don't have many other friends. =(
Any advice on what I should say? Or if I should just totally drop it at this point...
I just don't know. This might be like repetitive and sorta a duplicate of the last question, but I'm just still caught up in this mess and in need of advice.
Say something. I know that it may seem horrible that you may lose out on a friend.. but by telling her exactly what you think, will put you on a pedistool. Don't conform to the kind if people that they are, because they don't seem nice to me at all. B is USING you as a part time friend at her OWN convenience.
Good friend's don't leave you hanging.. good friend's don't make you feel this alone. As much as you want to fix things up with B, and possibly A.. it's not your responsibility to do so. They left YOU. They'll choosing to make you feel like this and it's not right.
Open your mouth to B. Ask her is she thinks it's fair how she's been treating you? Now, it's funny that you call her B.. because that's exactly how she's treating you.. Like her plan B. Don't settle for that.
Next time she pulls this on you.. straight up, and loud.. own it. Tell her she's been WRONG. Tell her you were a GOOD friend to her, and that she's not paying you any respect in return. You were there when A left her in the dust.. and if she doesn't fix this, now.. then be done with both of these hypocritical bitches.
i had a super tampon in today for around 8 hours and today was my last day of my period so i had very little blood. am i at a high risk of toxic shock syndrome? if i took the tampon out around 7:30, how long would it be until the symptoms started to show (if i had tss)?
The answer below me is great.. but I want to assure you even though the possibility of getting TSS is still there.. the chances are very very low. I've been through this with my doctor before.
TSS is a staph infection from bacteria. When the blood stays on the cotton for too long and dries, it can cause this bacteria which leads to TSS.
I've known girl that have left there tampons in overnight, 2 days, 1 week.. and still have been alright-- but it's definitely not logical. 8 hours with a super sounds like you'll be good to go.
TSS comes quick.. so if any of the symptoms listed on the other answer given to you begin to happen, get to the Emergency room.
But don't go nuts until you have a reason to, 8 hours shouldn't give anybody TSS.
An ex-boyfriend who I dated for 2 months when I was 15 is STILL trying to contact me.
It wasn't even a real relationship. There were a few kisses, but nothing sexual and no "I Love You's". But I WAS his first girlfriend so I can kind of see why, but we all kind of know he is still in love with me.
He has tried a few times to contact me through my friend online, saying that he just wants to be friends again. Truth is, I always forget that I ever went out with him and that he even exists. It was such a long time ago (about four years) and never a big deal to me.
I have no interest in speaking to him again. That was YEARS ago and we're not the same people. I don't hold anything against him, we didn't even have anything in common!, but he really creeps me out.
What should I write back to him to set him straight? I don't want to sound like a bitch but I want to make my point. I kind of want him to know that he didn't really mean anything to me and that he should quit being so heartbroken about it and just drop it.
Also, is this something I should tell my boyfriend about?
I probably never mentioned this guy to him, but my boyfriend might be pissed about it. Nevermind, I probably won't tell him if it's not that big of a deal.
Thank you in advance!!
The best way to fix this, it to be completely honest.. even if it hurts him a little bit. There's no reason to be mean or anything, because obviously even though you've let go, he hasn't. Tell him in a strict but civil way that it's time for him to move on. You have a boyfriend who you're happy with, and he needs to back off.
If you really have no interest in pursuing a friendship with this guy, make that known, too. Tell him you have nothing against him, but it would be awkward since your not 15 anymore.
If you have more details to provide, or anymore questions.. my inbox is very much available.
15F
I have had a crush on one of my best friends for like 5 months now. He always flirts with me and his friends think he likes me. Everytime we go place in groups he always asks me to be his partner and whatnot. Anyways we went on a fieldtrip about 3 weeks ago and he followed me
the whole time. We went on rides together and everything.We even held hands a couple of times. The next day we had a dance.During the dance he asked my friends where i was but i didnt go. Monday when i was going to tell him i liked him
i had found out that he had asked a girl out at the dance.She said Yes.
Even though hes going out with
her do you think theres anychance for us?
Plus i found out that she
doesnt like him. She only
wants a BF. Oh and should i tell
him?
Well, I'm mingling a bit with this answer, because I don't see why you would be interested in a guy who acted like he liked you in all these ways you mentioned, and then decided to ask out another girl at the dance that you didn't attend. It sounds kind of shady to me..especially because he's your best friend. I really feel that you can do better.
But, since I know it's hard to tell any girl that they can do better then whatever guy they're dealing with.. I'll suggest that you just wait around. See what happens with them. You don't need to be the one to tell him about this other girl's intentions, because word will get around on her being fake.
After they're over, then yes, they're may be a good chance that you and him have a chance.
I wish you the best. Let me know what happens.
Okay so...
how can you tell if you are liking the thought of being in like or really liking the person??
because i have never met this boy before in my life but i know he likes me and i know sometimes when someone likes you, you start to kind of like them back...at some times i think i like him and others im like no you cant you dont even know him
haha
thanks
What is sounds like to me, is that you and this boy have some kind of infatuation with one another. This is pretty much the part right after noticing, but before having a real crush on one another.
I've been in those situation when I was just so fascinated by one guy, and not understood why.
You may not know him well enough to say that you like him.. but it's not abormal to see something in somebody that may lead to a crush.. or actually having feelings for them.
Get to know him, you never know!
My friend chris asked me out by a note last year in like february of 10th grade and now im ending 11th and i never responded and i feel really stupid because i really like him and i did then too i think but i dont know why i never responded and he liked me a lot and i have no clue if he still likes me and we never see each other any more and i want to write a note to him and tell him everything and try to give it to him if i see him but im not too sure if i should. he would always tickle me and make me laugh and the day that he found out that i read the naot he came up to me and we hugged and it was really swett but i just dont know what to do! does anyone have any advice that i could do? because i really like him and would really like another chance to be his girlfriend and he is the sweetest guy that i have ever met!!! thanks for taking the time to read and answer this!
This guy sounds like a total sweetie, and it sounds like you really care about it. I'd take the dive, and tell him. Explain why you didn't get back to him for song long, for whatever reason you had. Then ask if maybe you can start over. If he liked you enough to tell you, then give that back to him. If you can't find a way to get it to him.. try email, or a mutual friend who might see him more.
If you write in my inbox with more detail, I can probably help you further.
Okayy here I go. my name is taryn, and im 15, 16 in a few months.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months, but things are getting shaky, at least for me. and he never calls me, but when we do talk, its either quiet or we talk about nothing at all. I like always have to pick what to talk about.
But yesterday i went to my grandparents house, and i went to a neighbors farm. my uncle had told me about the boy who lived there, hes 17, and i didnt believe my uncle much, you know, he was trying to make the kid seem all that. but when i got there, my uncle was right.
and i had major butterflies all that day, you know the whole new crush thing.
but when i left, he asked for my number =]
and so when i got home like 2 hours later , he called and we were on the phone for 2 hours. it was soo fun, i never have that much fun anymore.
but i think im really starting to like this kid,
but i dont know what to do.
If having personal issues with you current relationship doesn't give you enough reason to leave your boyfriend behind, then having full-effect butterflies for a new guy-- definitely is.
You called your relationship "shaky".. which is bad. Anytime one of the two people in the relationship is struggling with that they have, this only means the cracks are already there, and the break up is probably inevitable.
If this new guy is making you happen, then let him. But do it the right way, and figure out what's better for you.. feeling shaky in an awkward relationship, or moving on to something new?
It seems really hard, but it sounds to me like you already know what you want.
i had a quick 1 nite stand and now i think that i'm in love but he doesn't like me. and in a couple of days i'm going out and i may see him. what do i do please email me @
hallebrown11@yahoo.com
Okay-- there's two parts in your question that I really want to stand out for me and for you.
1. One-night stand.
2. He doesn't like me.
Do not lower yourself for a guy who's only interested in having sex with you. This is bad.. It sounds like a fatal attraction since you believe you're in love and he doesn't even like you!
Move on to something better, and stop giving attention to a guy who plans only to use you for sex. Don't do that to yourself.. when you see him, flaunt your stuff and find a GOOD guy. Someone who will evidently love you right back.
Good luck
My hair is generally healthy, except at the ends...I have terrible split ends. I hardly ever use a blow dryer or straighten my hair (I generally towel dry and put my hair up). Part of the problem might be that my hair is coarse and need more conditioning...I've actually switched to Trader Joe's shampoo, which is mostly natural, so it doesn't have any wax or anything that could mask split ends. I really want to try growing out my hair, but with such damaged ends, that'll be hard, unless I get a trim. But....what are some other things i could do to at least mask split ends, before I go out and get the much needed trim?
I went to hairdressing school, and to be honest all my teacher would ever say to me was CUT THEM OFF. I had terrible split ends, but I wanted to grow out my hair.
Since you don't do anything really that can over-damage your hair, I'm suggesting that you start using Paul Mitchell's Super Skinny Serum. It's not that expensive, and it lasts. Since you don't blow dry your hair or use a straightener, just squeeze about a dime size amount in your hair and only on the ends of your hair.
I don't know if you have any bleach in your hair, but if you do, of if you have... it can really do a number on it. For a year after I bleached I had splits no matter what I did or how much I cut off.
Buy conditioners that are made for dry and damaged hair. Leave them in for 1-2 minutes even if the bottle tells you otherwise.
Good luck!
my ex boyfriend and i were friend for like 2 yrs before and we became close. he treated girls kinda badly and could be a jerk but when hes alone hes great. we have liked each other on and off the whole time but i had a bf and he dated a couple girls. finally after being 'together' for a while he asked me out. i had just transfered schools so he and i didnt see each other at school only at church or when we hung out. he treated me great and was so nice and sweet and always had time for me. he became my very best friend and i depended on him. he knew i was moving but as it got closer he started pulling away. this was the complete opposite of what i wanted to do. i wanted to spend all the time i could with him so i was clinging on. he had less and less time for me and i was upset and crying all the time. he said he missed me and stuff but didnt show it. finally we broke up and now we arent even friends. this is because hes avoiding me because he doesnt want to have to deal with the emotions of me moving.
he doesnt have many friends because he is a jerk with a lot of people but nice at church/one on one. i have found out that he flirted with a bunch of girls at school and stuff cause i wasn't there which makes me so hurt. i thought he was special. he and i had this bond and he was different from the other guys i had dated. he was the first guy i have loved up to the point that i can love a boy because i know I am young but i did care about him a lot. he said he truly cared for me and i think he did but i think hes too immature right now. he feels very self conscious and is treated badly at home so he needs to feel like he can get a girl to make himself feel better.
i know i should be over him but i miss having someone always there for me. i told him everything about me and he knew me as well as i knew myself. and i feel so bad and feel like i should be there for him because his home life is really screwed up. i guess i dont miss HIM but i miss having SOMEONE there for me who cared and everything. also i feel SO hurt and betrayed for him distancing from me and flirted with those girls. he hid things from me and lied. but a part of me wants to hold on because i want a person there for me. i know i need to be independant but i dont know how to get over this feeling of needing him. part of me feels so pathetic and is so angry torwards him but the other part holds on and worries about him. he wont talk to me either and avoids me so i just dont know what to do anymore. this has been going on for about a month. i NEED to get over this but i just cant figure out how. i want to feel independant and like i dont need a guy. i also want to let go of my hurt and pain and sadness and anger and frusteration and i think sitting down and talking would work but he wont talk to me. i have tried many times. and i have written down my feelings but it doesnt change anything. PLEASE HELP
The fact that you can somewhat say that you're not sure if you miss him, or just the though of the bond you two shared is a big step. Sometimes comfort is taking in quick and hard and then when that comfort is gone we have this huge void to deal with.
I'm well-aware that nobody in the world is going to know EXACTLY what you mean. Not even your closest friend can understand what you feel for another person, especially if this was love.
The only think greater then being in love for the first time, is doing it a second time. After my first love, I was broken into pieces. I really thought my life was over because he wasn't a part of it anymore. But, all that changed when I had something to compare it to. Something better.
It's going to take time, and it's going to hurt like hell. But the fact is, you're going to get passed it. Raise up, and claim that independence. Look around, and see what else is out there since he feels that he can talk to other girls. If he's moving on, don't sit around and be sad over it, go out there and get better then whatever he's flirting with. In fact, get REAL. Get something so real that you'll forget all about him.
Keep yourself busy, and confide in your friends. Keep your distance from him so that you can mend from your heart break properly.
Never settle for a guy who lies, or makes you feel like you're in any way beneath him. You moving may have hurt him, but it's not a reason to hurt you right back like this.
Stand tall, pull your shoulders back, and prance around your new school like you own it. Make friends, and find this kind of love again... only better.
ok welll heres the thing i use to like this kid named anthony untill he started going out with my friend alex... then i had to get over him, and i did. buttttttt anthony nd i are really close like we can talk bout anythin and everythin w/o judgement. now i've been having family problems and i go to him for advice and he consoles he n shi#. so when i'm talkin to him but it n shes comes around i jus stop. she thinks i'm tryin to get wit him, but i like another guy and girl.(im bisexual)so should i save my relationship wit the girl who i'm friends wit but wouldn't normally talk to nd stop talking to the guy whos like my older brother or keep talkin 2 the guy nd tell her to go fuc herself?
♥Zoey
please help my head hurts
You shouldn't feel pressured to chose between these two friends. If they make you feel that you need to, then you'll know right away if there friendship is real.
You should feel comfortable talking to this Anthony whenever you want to. Don't let your Alex get in the way of your bond with him,especially since he's been taking care of your through your difficult times.
My advice, is that you save them both-- which yes, is possible. Just make it clear to Alex that you've found a good friend and that your interests have changed to these other 2 people.
You should never have to keep one friend by deleting another..ever.
Take care.
so everyone can feel their heart beat in their finger tips if they really try. but i feel it ALL the time. and it has now spread to my feet. my feet are always throbbing to my heart beat but not hurting. it's getting in the way of everything and i don't know what to do about it! i have gotten my blood pressure checked and everything was normal. i don't know what is wrong with me or what to do about it! does anyone have any ideas or know what is going on??
and i have a terrible shin splint in my right shin and it's been there for two months and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger as a knot. i run occasionally but not very hardcore. i didn't run for a week and it didn't get better! any suggestions?
thanks in advance!
I'm no doctor. but I do know that your mind can do crazy things to you. Just think about it-- is it there when you sleep, keep you up at night? Do you feel it when you first wake up? Point is, when it's written in your head that something in your body is wrong, it's written in pen. It comes ad goes when you think about it. SO my thought is, if it's not always there, maybe it's not as bad as you think. But if it is, you may have something to deal with.
I had a constant tingly sensation in my arms and legs and I was FREAKING out. It turned out to be a calcium deficiency. And it turned out I was going all crazy over Vitamin C.
It's weird to me that you can feel this pulse all over, so seeing a doctor would be in your best interest. Also, this website can really assist you.
www.webmd.com
Click the little naked body "Symptom checker"
Type in your info. [Yes, it's free]
Then follow the directions.
This can really help you.. but if it doesn't, search on other medical websites until you can see your physician.
btw im a female
i shaved down there and there is still little stubs of hair and they wont go away no matter how much i shave
am i doing it wrong?
or is it just because i shaved the wrong way or just because i shaved?
Make sure that you're shaving against the way your hair is growing. Also, try new razors-- Venus is wonderful.
I know that's not much, but it could really make a difference.
I hope I helped you!
is there anything i can do to get my boobs bigger
Natural breast enhancements[GNC] and exercise.
i have side bangs and i don't like them because they are always seem to fall in my face and i get tired of pushing them out of the way. i want them, i just want them to kind of blend in more with my hair when its down
kind of like this:
http://tv.popcrunch.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/03/jamie_lynn_spears_zoey.jpg
is there any way i could get them like that without hairspray/gel? is there a way to blow dry them? thankss
When shampooing your hair, actually shampoo your bangs in the direction that you want them to go. Sometimes hair will kind of do whatever it wants to but i have side bangs too, and it definitely helps me. Just really scrub it in there-- even part it the way you want it before jumping in the shower, then scrub straight from the part on the side bang side, and the other side where it's just your regular hair.
When you're blow drying-- use a comb or flat brush on your side bangs.. and a straightener from the roots down.
You can also have an angle cut done to make it look like it blends more in the front. The other thing is, if your hair is long, then this will cause a choppy look-- which I'm sure you don't want.
I hope I helped.. and good luck!
i got my period 2 fridays ago and i ended it this friday. well ever since saturday i've been having dark brown stuff in my underwear. its like discharge but its real dark brown.. maybe my period hasnt exactly ended? But its monday and its still happening ALOT. idk what it is? is something wrong with me?
please respond if you have any idea
thank you
It's actually kind of strange that your period is extending beyond the 7 day mark, and even a 10 day mark.
The brown stuff is not abnormal, but a period which lasts for 2 full Friday's and still a bit until now is not.
If you're until 16, you're body is still not finished developing. In that case, I wouldn't worry-- just keep an eye on your next few periods and see if they do the same. If it continues, just ask your doctor.
I don't believe though that there's anything wrong with you. =)