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Ex still loves me
An ex-boyfriend who I dated for 2 months when I was 15 is STILL trying to contact me.
It wasn't even a real relationship. There were a few kisses, but nothing sexual and no "I Love You's". But I WAS his first girlfriend so I can kind of see why, but we all kind of know he is still in love with me.
He has tried a few times to contact me through my friend online, saying that he just wants to be friends again. Truth is, I always forget that I ever went out with him and that he even exists. It was such a long time ago (about four years) and never a big deal to me.
I have no interest in speaking to him again. That was YEARS ago and we're not the same people. I don't hold anything against him, we didn't even have anything in common!, but he really creeps me out.
What should I write back to him to set him straight? I don't want to sound like a bitch but I want to make my point. I kind of want him to know that he didn't really mean anything to me and that he should quit being so heartbroken about it and just drop it.
Also, is this something I should tell my boyfriend about?
I probably never mentioned this guy to him, but my boyfriend might be pissed about it. Nevermind, I probably won't tell him if it's not that big of a deal.
Thank you in advance!!
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How revealing, the one person you should be able to ask advice on this and you don't feel you can, ah, but he's not the topic, or is he?
Your already doing what you should, ignore it and if that doesn't work, don't be mean. Simply tell him, "I have no room in my life right now to build another friendship, I'm sorry, it's been nice hearing from you though." The longer you ignore him, the more he will believe you don't have the time for a new friend.
Best of luck
P.S. I don't understand why everything has to be confrontation with your generation. Maybe you can explain that to me.
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If you and your boyfriend have been dating for a while now then first off tell him about it. if he can be an understanding boyfriend he will. with your other guy problem hes probably so "attached" to you because you were his first girlfriend and be honest with him and just tell him how you feel wheather you sound like a bitch or not because if you were in his shoes would u want some guy making you wonder how you felt about him. try to tell him i have a boyfriend i like him or love (whichever way you feel) and be nice about it and just tell him the truth and if that still doesnt work just dont do anything sooner or later he will and i promise you this that he will move on. good luck hun, hope it helped!
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The best way to fix this, it to be completely honest.. even if it hurts him a little bit. There's no reason to be mean or anything, because obviously even though you've let go, he hasn't. Tell him in a strict but civil way that it's time for him to move on. You have a boyfriend who you're happy with, and he needs to back off.
If you really have no interest in pursuing a friendship with this guy, make that known, too. Tell him you have nothing against him, but it would be awkward since your not 15 anymore.
If you have more details to provide, or anymore questions.. my inbox is very much available.
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