Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
I'm nowhere near perfect. I'm a busy girl,so I don't have much time to get on as I used to. I'll hit you up immediately if you inbox me.
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i had sex for my first time on friday night.
it went good, although we didnt use a condom, he asked me where he should jizz and i gave him a towel then he stuck it back in..
could i be pregnant? (link)
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you're not pregnant right now, but you could be sometime soon. fair chances of it to cuz it wuz direct contact, and he just used a towel, so check if you miss your period with a doctor or those tests
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i really like this guy but he is 19 and im 15 he really likes me too and i know that im young but i really have never felt like this in my life and i feel soo comfortable with him he makes me laugh and gives me hope in life like no other could i reall would like to call this love but im just not sure anyways to the part about the whole sex thing i have had sex with him 2 times sine we have been together im on birth control and we use condoms am i a slut or a whore for having sex at so young of an age and i dont regret doing it either because it feels soo right with him please answer my questions i just need to know :/ (link)
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In many peoples opinion, you're a slut, for sleeping with a man whos 19, which now that your 15, is illegal, so people wont like that. Good thing tho is that you're using protection, you're sleeping with only him (i hope)and that you dont regret doing it now. Those 3 things are the most important part, so what other people think about it doesnt, or shouldnt matter. It only matters if you really think your a slut or not
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what age bra SHOULD you be wearing when your 13
when your 14 and when your 15
I am 28a anD I am 14 - under average help (link)
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your not under average. the bra size you have is the bra size you should be wearing.
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Hi, I gotten a job and Like it. there guy there he very nice and I hard he is funny. so now I am not in High school anymore hoply be different then hig school. i want know how and make shure i be come friend with this guy how to be friendly and not lead him on and think I am crushing on him. I don't want runie it. (link)
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try to be friends with him how you would be with a girl. no flirting just have fun with him, in groups and stuff, talk to him and smile. try not to make way to many one on one outings, unless its to shop for common stuff like cds or fishing gear, dont let him take u to a fancy restaurant or somethin more than 3 times one on one.
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I'm very afraid of storms and wind at night. I have to hand my hands over my ears to fall asleep. My heart just pounds and pounds. If the storm gets really bad, or loud for that matter, I go sleep my parents or my mom comes to sleep in my bed.
The sound of wind or thunder or rain is what scares, as well as power outages. Now that it is winter, it is a bit stormy almost every night, and it's horrible.
How can I rid myself of this terrible fear?
P.S. I am afraid right now, as it is 7:30 pm and it is windy and rainy. (link)
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I know u are scared of the noise, but what about the noise are you scared of? Noises cant do anything to you. If you are scared of their booming sound, get earplugs to reduce it, or wear earplugs and earmuffs and stuff. Really you need to target what about loud strange noises you are scared of. Once you figure that out you may find a better solution. When you grow older, make your room soundproof maybe. Sadly we cant stop nature. As for me, i hate germs and gross looking things that i know many germs are growing all over. Im scared of them making me sick, but we have antibiotics, and i rarely get sick anyways, but i hate them, just because they look gross, but I've tried this method ant it works so hopefully it will help you too.
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Am I the only one alive who thinks it's terrible that kids (13-16) are having sex? I'm only 18, but when I was 13, I was riding my bike and doing karate, not giving blowjobs on the school bus. But thats the norm now, and if you haven't had sex by the time you're 17, you must be ugly or way religeous. What on earth!? Am I the only one disgusted by this trend? (link)
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depends where you live. where im at nobody is doing that. i know some not-really virgins, like people who have done everything other than actuall penis in vagina stuff, but at least not in public. some people are religious but religious Buhhdists and Wiccans and things that really dont forbid sex before marraige. i think its weird but hey, if they wanna screw their body, reputation, and their views of themselves up, yeah let them do wutevr they want
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Isn't annoying when people type in run-on sentences and don't punctuate? It makes the question/statement difficult to understand and read. I can understand when people sometimes misspell words; but I hate when people don't even attempt at making themselves seem somewhat intelligent. It is bothersome when people type a response or question like its a text message. No, I'm not an English teacher if you're wondering. I am a sixteen year old female that is in high school. (link)
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This website is full of many young people asking stupid questions half the time, so do you really think they spell. It doesnt bother me though. I do it half the time. Doesnt make me stupid, because I know how to spell correctly, but sometimes it's just convienient if you're not the fastest typer in the world. Hopefully you won't end up an English teacher though. They don't get paid well, and you might rip your hair out at all the dumb things people write =P
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what does 69 mean.
like i've heard some people talking about sex with it but i don't understand what it means in that way.
can anyone help me out? (link)
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The person before me is right. They call it 69 because when its happening the guy and the girl together look like 6 and 9 and you get it from there
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We'll i have been going out with this girl britney for about four months, but we have been talking for a little over three years. We'll me and her dad ahve become great friends and talk, and sometimes we even hang out with out britney there. Just chill like some sweet ass dude's. lol, we are cool. We'll i have only seen her mom a few times because she is a nurse and is barely ever home. she seems kind of ignorant, but yeah. and we'll personally i think she hates my guts!! when i'm there and she comes home she never says hi or anything to me she just ignores me. sometimes i try to make conversation and stuff,but i just keep thinking she hates me!! what do i do? (link)
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Umm, first i wouldnt call her ignorant. Nobody likes to be insulted, and if she knows you say bad things about her i wouldnt blame her for not liking you.You do know that means she doesnt know something, but a nurse cant be uninformed. Just because she ignores you doesnt mean shes ignorant. Try asking Britney, because if her mom doesnt like you she will surely tell Britney. If she doesnt like you, then you need to talk to her about why. If its a good reason, compromise but if the reason is unreasonable, ignore her.
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How can you get someone's attention on AIM without IMing them? Like put something in my pro/away msg? What could I put? Thank you! (link)
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Use your preferences to make the sound it makes when you sign on and sign off very different, like a cow moo or trumpet. Sign on and off many times so the thing that appears on the side with the noice comes up alot. Then set up the away message saying wut you wanna say in it, and go away then return and away and return a few times then stay away. They will probably get curious to why you go on and off and they will probably see the message
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hey, I'm 14 years old and i really really realllllly like this boy i met this year at my new highschool. He's super nice and sweet and funny, but rather shy and softspoken if he doesn't really know you. But we've gotten to know eachother over the past 2 months and we are now friends. Recntly it seems to me as if he is prehaps showing some signs he likes me. We have 4 classes together one after the other so often we walk with eachother to our next class and he jokes with me the whole way. Also, i've caught him staring at me a few times, but whenever i catch him or he catches me we hold eachothers gaze for a few seconds before continuing what we were doing. I smile and laugh alot when he's around and he smiles when i talk to him and we always joke with eachother. But besides from school, we don't really hang out much or talk out of school, unless its a school function like a dance which we've had one and he said hi to me and we talked for a few brief moments. I don't ask much, but when i do ask he does favors for me and i do favors for him if he ever asks ( which he doesn't that often)
Now we talk comfortably in school quite often, but does he like me back? thanks for your help.
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I think he likes you, but to be sure you have to see how he acts around other girls. If you feel a bit more special in comparison then you can be sure. Maybe ask him out or dance with him at a dance and see how he reacts.
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I'm only 13 but I want to have sex really bad, is that normal? (link)
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yep. blame those stupid horemones that hit people during puberty. either ignore the urge, give in to the urge which i wouldnt do, or jack off, which i wouldnt do. but it dont matter wut i would or wouldnt do. do wut u gotta do
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there is this guy who is so cute and he says that i am hot and he always smiles at me when we see each other, but i am not that attractive or very popular and i am the freak of my group also i am a ditz. can someone please tell me if he is just joking or if he actually likes me because i like him. (link)
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Just cuz a guy says your hot doesnt mean he likes you. Im not completely sure he does, so if your doubtfull, i would take it as a no Ask him out if you think he does
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Ok im 14/m and im in grade 9. Theres a girl I like whos in my class i dont know if she likes me or not. She always walks over to me and starts a conversation with me and other people say that shes all over me. I dont think she likes me because she always changes the subject when I ask for her msn or number. If she liked me wouldnt she have given me it? Do you think she likes me? (link)
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She might like you and want to stay good friends. She might want to be just good friends, and she doesnt realize shes sending out mixed messagez. She might like you and want to be more than friends, and shes flirting like mad, or waiting for you, or playing hard to get. She might like you and be extremely confused. Determine which one it may be, depending on this girl, or ask her out. Be persistant. that pretty much always works. Ask her why she wont give u her number or msn
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at homecoming i danced. unfortunatly i danced like a complete slut. at least i felt like i did... i am not a slut though. i was just freaking with my date and we were doing it front to back, and we would sometimes get low. then we danced front to front, and we would 'get low' again. i am so ashamed!!!!!!
p.s. we werent kissing or anything.
would peoples impression of me lower? i am known to be the good girl and be all proper and reserved. i guess i was having to much fun out there. =( (link)
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Only unreasonable people would think ur a slut. I freak and grind all the time and thats not the reason some people think im a slut. Some weirdos who dont have any fun at all their jealous and weirded out but hey, thats their problem. Theres never a such thing as too much fun so go on!
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hey theres this guy and all he talks about is sex and hes in high school and im only in 8th grade and at all the football games hes always trying to touch me everywhere in front of everyone and now hes doing the same thing to my friend and he always wants me to give him a bj or do something to him and i dont want the whole school to think im a slut or anything what do i do??? (link)
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You dont do anything. If you dont like the guy and you dont like him touching you dont let him. Dont give him a bj or anything. Keep your distance from him, unless you know him and hes usually not like that, he might just be a lonely horny guy. thats how lots of older guys are you know. He may turn out to be on drugs, a rapist, a molester, something if u dont know him to well. Tell your friend to keep away from him also.
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16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to? (link)
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Where would we do it? What if i got pregnant? Im scared of pain! What if my parents found out! They would kill me! If you love me you would wait for me. I'm worth waiting for.
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The guy I am talking to has been out of town for about 3 days. This is the longest time we haven't talked. He got on the internet one day while he was gone and left a very flirty comment on his ex-gf's myspace page. Do I have the right to be jealous?
p.s. I had left a few very sweet messages and didn't get a reply to one of them. :[ (link)
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If this guy is your boyfriend, yes, be jealous. You never stated if he was your boyfriend or not, so if hes not, dont be jealous. you would have no right to be if you dont have official ties to him. Sometimes guys dont really get that a girl may think talking all the time means more than what what he thinks, so he may not think anything of flirting with his ex gf if you guys only talk alot.
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ok now one time i tried 2 jack off but after i was done my penis was all red and and it was itchin really bad the next time i tried with lotion.when i was done it still was red and itchy.people say it feels good when they do it.i try 2 do it and it never feels good and it still red and itchy i dont get what im duin wrong.no mater how long i do it,it never feels good please help me (link)
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uhmm what an interesting question! Try washing your hands and your...unoo. Try not to grab too hard and if the lotion is scented it may irritate. try vaseline i guess-------
now you wanted me to tell you why it didnt feel good. an itchy red penis will throw off the entire "feel" of the thing. as it it wont be good untill you get rid of the itch and discoloration. maybe you didnt think hard enough. maybe you shouldnt be jacking off in the first place..idk everything happens for a reason
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I was wondering, if your pregnant, can you still have sex? (link)
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Yes you can have sex if you're pregnant, but not for about the last 3 months. Just like you shouldnt sleep on your stomach for the last 3 months.
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