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well im a female/18. Me and my ex ended like 1month ago, after almost 1year of dating.
I dont know how to move on :(
basically im his first love right , he ended it..
and do uno what i cant stand is the fact that he said he loved me, yet when i asked him about his feelings he said he didnt know, i really dont want him to move on, i know he loves me cause couple weeks ago he said "its as hard for u as it is for me" , i dont know what more i can do..
I still have him on my blackberry messenger, i dont wanna delete him.
Then on twitter he wrote 'the best thing we ever had and we took it for granted'..
I don't know if he'll ever come back. No1 understands him the way I do, i keep lying to myself saying im going to move on yet i cant.
Like this is the first time i've cared and loved someone this much, after we ended i love him even more.
Also.. i went back to him twice and he rejected me :( hmmmmmmm sometimes i dont even know if he had an excuse to end with me. Cause how can u say you love someone days before ending, and then if i ask u, he says he dont know? :/ makes no sense..
sighhh :( (link)
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I'm going to be honest with you in this answer. I have to be because you need it.
Rejection is the worst feeling I know because I've been there many times in a different kinds of relationships. Here in the honesty part is that if he really wanted to back with you he would have gone back to you by now. You need to move on.
Moving on means totally cutting ties which means no blackberry and no twitter. Block him. Looking at his stuff will definitely leave you depressed and it will make it harder for you to move on. Please do this for yourself and know that you can move on and you will. Good luck and things will get better xo
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I got into a fight with my boyfriend. I really upset him by saying he doesn't love me. Truth is I don't even know why i said it. I was hurt. I thought he was ignoring me. He wasn't of course. I already admitted my wrong and apoligized. But he said i made him feel like a joke and he doesnt love me anymore, but he still really likes me. I need help, how can I fix this?
My heart is aching. This guy, he means the world to me. Im sorry for all the grammatical errors, its hard to see when your crying. Please help, I want my sweet and loving boyfriend back. (link)
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Sometimes when we are angry we say something horrible to counteract with how we are feeling. And sometimes our anger goes to people with whom we truly love. You might need to just give him some time to cool off and figure out what he needs. You did your part. I'm sure he still loves, its probably he's really hurt and he wants you to know it. I would talk to him again and then maybe give him some room to think about it. I'm sure everything will be fine! Good luck!
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14/f
ok me and this boy have been datin for 7 months and i met another guy a few weeks ago and he really makes me happy.
The more time i spend with him i lose feelings with my current bf and im not sure how 2 end it with him. Tho my current bf is kinda pushin 4 s3x and its really gettin on my nerves.
How do i end it with him?? Oh and btw i cant see my bf im currently in a different state than him.
He doesnt call i have 2 be the one 2 call so im just waitin for him 2 call me he has done it b4 so i know he can. So am just wunderin how 2 tell him its over without bein 2 harsh.
Plz and thanks in advance!! (link)
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I think you just need to be honest with him. Tell him that you don't think this is going to work out and that you would be better off as friends. You're right in the fact that you don't want to burn any bridges with this guy. In the end just tell him how you really feel you don't even need to tell him about the other guy at all. Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year now, about 15 months. I met him 2 years ago through a friend and knew that moment I loved him. We have always been a ways away, we live about 45 minutes away from each other. We have managed to see each other at least once a week during the school year and a few days a week this summer. In less than a month, he will be studying sports management at a private college a half hour away from me. He will also be playing for the school's rugby team. I however, have one more year of highschool and I am not allowed to visit the campus, nevermind sleep over. We are used to the distance, I am just worried that we will just be too busy for each other. We have talked about this before and he has assured me not to worry, and as silly as it seems for a 17 and 18 year old, we do wish to someday get married. We've seen it happen and have hope. I guess I am just wondering how I can make this relationship last? Perhaps find a way to talk to my parents maturely to allow me to at least visit his campus a few times?? (link)
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It's not silly what you're thinking. I met my boyfriend when I was 19. This is hard because for us college was hard on our relationship. It can be tough due to the different schedules you both have. I believe in fate and I believe if its meant to be than its meant to be. Do your best to stay in contact with him but don't over step boundaries. Give him a little space to hang out with friends and do the things he wants to do. After all it it college and I'm sure he wants to get the college experience. Trust each other and have open communication about any problems that may arise. Don't worry too much about it! I'm sure everything will be fine. Good luck!
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Im a 14 year old female . I fell real hard for this one guy. We were together for almost three years , we didnt have sex or anything but how do i know if he still loves me? We talk rearley case he says he doesnt want me to still love him or feel stong feelings for him anymore. He was my frist love and we always got into fights but he's always saying comments that makes me think he sill does. How do I know for sure?
He wont tell me straigh up though so can someone help? Please & thank you !!! (link)
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Didn't you take anything away from this:
"We talk rearley case he says he doesnt want me to still love him or feel stong feelings for him anymore."
That to me sounds like he wants you to move on. If a guy wants to be with you he will be with you there's no excuse. I'm not trying to sound harsh I'm just being realistic which is what you need to hear. I understand he's your first love but you're young there are plenty fish out in the sea. Don't settle. Move on and meet new people see what else is out there.
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Ok so i dated this guy and we met on a cruise and i was totally in love with him. Oh and im 14/f. And like 2 months ago he broke up with me and i was a mess. I thouggt i could get over him and date someone else and i did and it didnt work out and i still have HUGE feelings for him and i cant get over him and i get soo sad and i dont know how to het over him. :( (link)
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Was this your first boyfriend? I'm just wondering because when my first boyfriend and I broke up it was tough on me.
You cared for him of course you're going to miss him its only natural. You are still upset so maybe dating isn't the best thing for you right now. Maybe right now you should just enjoy being single. I felt that way about my first boyfriend for a long time. Took me a long time to realize that I didn't need him but he did break my heart. I never thought I would ever be with anyone else and it turns out I did find someone that made me happy.
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right mt friend is always pushing me out of the group of friends she think shes all it but she isent i think im getting into the wrong crowed deffo with her in the group what shall i do guys??? (link)
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I think the best thing to do is find a new group group of friends. I realize that may be scary and different but you could find people that share the same interest as you. Friends don't treat friends like that and in the end you're realizing you don't deserve to be treated like that. Good luck!
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I know getting over someone takes lots and lots of time but sometimes in order to move on we need to actually know that there is someone else out there for us. Anyway, I can't help but get angry over my ex's new girl in his life. The reason for our separation is a long confusing one which isn't even worth the discussion because I have faced the fact that it's over. But yeah, I don't think she likes me very much, I don't know why. But it angers me that she doesn't like me for some reason. I just don't want drama with anyone. I, at least, have a right to be angry at her, it's natural jealousy. And yes, I do still have feelings for him, but I can't and shouldn't anymore but I just can't help how I feel. I want to be over it and I want to move past it. I want to be like those other girls who can move on and not think about their past truly. I want to be able to not feel sad or mad whenever I hear about them or even see them, either together or separately. Please tell me something! Anything! Anything that will help me get over him. I'm leaving my hometown, where he stays permanently in a few months and I know I'll be rid of him then, but until I go... I just need something to help me get over the feelings I have inside. I just want to feel happy again and I can't because I keep thinking of how happy he seems to be and how unhappy that it's not with me! (link)
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You're right getting over someone takes time and there's no way of rushing that. The reason the ex girlfriend doesn't like you is probably because you're a threat to her. You had a relationship with her boyfriend and that scares her and makes her jealous. When we get boyfriends we become very territorial. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and there are two exes that I'm not crazy about. Now in the beginning of our relationship I use to worry about the two of them trying to contact them. Later on I realized that he was with me for a reason.
The girl is most likely jealous of you and there's really no way you can change that.
What helped me get over my ex was to think about all his bad qualities that things that pissed me off. And now I can't even stand talking to him he kind of annoys me at this point. It takes time...just starting thinking about YOU more than him. Good luck!
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I cheated on my boyfriend today, i really dont feel bad about it though. i dont know why i dont feel the need to tell him, the only thing i did was make-out cuz and he fingerd me only cuz he didnt have a condom. i sound so stupid i have no clue what is powering me to do this and i feel like i just wanna be bad and its not like this my bf treats me bad he actually is amazing i just feel trapped like i had a 4 year relationship 7 months ago and another one 2months ago. this guy is perfect like too perfect to let go so help me make sense of myself! (link)
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Think about how you would feel if your boyfriend did that to you. Think about how crappy and hurt you would feel that the person you are with is hooking up with someone else. It sounds like you really don't have the feelings for your boyfriend like you say you do. You need to tell him what happened and maybe considering moving on. Being in a relationship is between two people. It's meant to be faithful and you have to have trust.
I'm telling you right now if my boyfriend ever did that to me it would break my heart. Mind you I don't even have my eyes on any other guy but him. Of course I thought some guys were cute but I knew nothing would come of it because I love my boyfriend. My boyfriend knows me like no one else does. It sounds to me like you don't really want to be in this relationship that you would rather be single. If that's the case you need to be honest with yourself and with him and tell him what happened. Good luck!
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I need advice on boys. 13/f. So I've like this guy for about 5 months now right? And I know he likes me because my friend overheard him talking his friend about me. So now it feels kinda awkward around him. I get jealous when he hugs his female friends. We barely interact during class and outside of class. I'm tired of waiting for him to make a move. I want action! What should I do???!!! (link)
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If he isn't making a move then you need to. Coming on here and talking about how you want him to make a move isn't going to help. If you want something done sometimes you just have to do it yourself!
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I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 46 yeards old! We have been to together for a year and a half! My parents don't wants us together! They don't think he is financially stable enough, to old for me, and they don't like him!! So I'm not sure how to break up with him cuss he is very sensitive and possible might hurt himself? (link)
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Well are you breaking up with him because your parents want you to or because you want to? Do you love him? Could you see a future with him? You need to think about yourself and what you want. If you love him than you should continue the relationship and if you don't see a future than I would say move on. Yes he is older than you but who am I to judge? When you love someone you love someone. You can't help who you fall in love with. If you want to work it out with him than you should if you truly love him.
As for him being sensitive you can't help that. You can't help but hurt someone when breaking up with them there is no way out of it. If you think he may hurt himself than I would contact police or may contact a help line. If you know any of his family or friends I would contact them and tell them your concern.
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Female, 16
Okay, first off I'm a lesbian. And my girlfriend is bisexual. We've been off and on for about a year. She flirts with guys a lot and that didn't really bother me at all until a guy came up to me and asked "so, who broke up with who?" i didn't know what to say. I really need some help. I dont even know those guys. I just feel so useless... like i'll never be good enough. Any advice? Please. (link)
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You're hurt and it's understandable. I think what you need to do is walk away from this situation and move on. Don't put yourself down because the relationship didn't work. You shouldn't feel useless or like you're not good enough because you are good enough and you do deserve to be with someone who is going to treat you right. Clearly this girl hurts you so why go back to her? I understand you love her, but think about it what would you tell your best friend if she or he was going through the same thing? You can grieve and be upset you have the right to be. Think about what you can take from this relationship and move on and start dating. Confidence is the key!
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I don't think my boyfriend's mom likes me. I mentioned this once to my boyfriend but he said, "No, she LOVES you!"
Go with what my boyfriend said or go with my gut? Can't you tell when someone doesn't like you? (link)
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I wouldn't worry about it too much. You boyfriend's mother probably just wants to make sure you are treating her son right. She just wants whats best for her son. It's probably like your parents making sure that your boyfriend is treating you well. I'm sure she doesn't hate you. Have you given her a reason not to like you? Have you been disrespectful? Have you pushed her?
If you haven't then I'm sure it has nothing to do with you and just continue to be nice and respectful. Don't worry about it! :)
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I love mg boyfriend more than anything. We have been off and on for 2.5 years. Im 20 hes also 20. We are long distance now. Well for the past couple months he has been horrible about calling me/texting back etc. It drives me insane. People im not talking like every hour..sometimes i dont hear from him for a week...or more. Now we are like in the process of getting back. So maybe that has sometbing to do with it..
But this weekend he came and visited. I told him i was so sick of the not knowing what was going on and was sick of him talking so much about the future and marriage when i was so unsure if we would make it till next week. He kept saying he would get better and couldnt lose me. He said he wanted a happy and healthy relationship too.
Well its a week later and ive yet to see any kind of results. Im warn out of worrying about him and rethinking why he could possibly be ignoring me.
Why does he say these things then act a different way? Is it just time to call it quits since even when i talk to him nothing changes?
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Guys are not good with the phone. It's just a fact. My boyfriend is not fond of the phone. He'll call me but it will be for a short period of time. My boyfriend also likes space. Just because a guy doesn't call you often doesn't mean he doesn't care. I can understand how it would bother you and how you would want him to change. I'm been with my guy for almost 5 years and we have had our ups and downs. My advice is maybe scare him a little bit and then he'll realize what he's missing. Maybe you ignore him for a week or so, or when he cares ignore his phone calls. The other thing you can do is just move on and if he says no than tell him you already warned him about what he was doing wrong. Maybe that will make him think! Good luck!
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I'm twenty and he's eighteen. He's still in high school and I'm currently out of school, working. I've known him since I was twelve and I use to be good friends with his sister(she's the same age). He asked me to be his girlfriend a week ago and I said okay because the way he asked was really sweet. I also care about him a lot, he's been a friend to me a long time. He's a descent guy. I don't feel that we really have a chemistry and I believe I have more relationship experience than he does. Since I have said yes to being his girlfriend, I have been really stressed and I've been feeling really weird since the day. I think it's very strange for me to date a younger guy that's in high school. I need a second opinion, I don't think I have it in me to say no or end it. I also wonder what his mom thinks or feels about it, I've known her well also over the past decade. Thanks in advance. (link)
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If you aren't feeling right about it chances are this isn't a relationship that you want. When you think about it when you're 21 and you can go out he won't be able to. I found when dating younger guys it was very hard because of the immaturity but also because I felt guilty going out anywhere. I had a boyfriend when I was 21 and he couldn't go out...it made things hard. If it doesn't feel right chances are it isn't. Good luck!
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Ok so I recently broke up with my boyfriend and he kind of flirts with my best friend, it bugs me but I dont really seem to mind much. He talked to me today and gave me a hug and said he loves me and started begging to get back together with him, he said that he cant move on, I said no because I dont want a relationship right now and he walked away upset and almost started crying, instead, I started crying. =( Btw, we were going to kiss today for no real reason but didnt because we kinda fought instead.
He sent me a message on facebook saying that he wants to kiss me tomorrow and everyday until he moves on and I said no because I dont want him to feel "the spark" if we kiss repeadidly and not ever get over me. I want to kiss him once but only once, should I? (link)
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It's NOT a good idea. If you are trying to move on then move on. Kissing him would give him the idea that there is a chance that you want to get back together. And you have clearly stated here that you don't want to get back together. You can tell him that you can still be friends (if you want to) but that's all you want to be. Good luck!
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Alright so my boyfriend (well.. now ex-boyfriend :/) broke up with me on Tuesday night. He said he was so nervous to come over and do it and he was shaken up. He said he has been thinking about what to do for a little bit and even when he said he wasn't thinking about it, he was thinking about it. He said he made lists, wrote things down, cried at night, read my notes that I gave him, but he said he thinks it's best that we be done right now and if it's meant to be, we will be together.
It didn't end bad for a beakup. I said "I can't hate you, I can't be mad at you, I can't call you a dick or a douchebag or an ass. All I hope for you is that you find happiness because you deserve to be happy and you deserve the very best. And if you need anything you know I'm here for you and my door is always open for you." Then we hugged and I gave him a kiss on the forehead. He said that killed him to hear that and he doesn't deserve it and I deserve to he happy.. he was crying a lot .. He kept apologizing and saying he is sorry. He hates hurting me. I know he is hurt by it.. he said he will always be here for me and if I need him to call or text. He said he will still bend over backwards for me
He has only had 3 girlfriends, including me and I know his last two ended up bad. I know he has been hurt in the past and it kills me that people hurt him because he is the sweetest guy I have ever met in my entire life. I keep thinking that maybe since I was the first person to actually give a damn and who actually cared more about him then about themselves, that maybe without knowing it, it freaked him out. He has been confused lately. And I do think it's because he was scared because he found someone who really and truly cared about him.
I keep thinking that maybe this summer when we are both at home and we have time for ourselves, space, and everything, we come back to school and we can work things back out. He said that it isn't me, that I never did anything wrong and that's why deep down I feel like we can work through this. We have an online class together next year and he said that we would study and whatnot together.
That makes me think that maybe we can try and work things back out. But I don't know. I've never cared for someone as much as I care for him. He's so different from anyone that I've ever met. It kills me knowing that I may have lost him.
I told him that I still want him in my life and he said I know and I want to still be in your life too. He said I was never a bad girlfriend and to never think that. He said he is always going to worry about me and he still cares an awful lot. He said he didn't mean to make me feel this hurt, not at all. He kept saying he's truly very sorry for everything. Idk something is telling me deep down that we can work through it. There is something about him that is different. I know a good thing when I see it. and with him I see it, feel it, and know it.
I guess what I'm asking is if you guys think there is something still there between us or what? (link)
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I wouldn't over analyze this too much. At the end of the day you two aren't together and that maybe harsh but its true. Don't wait around or get your hopes up waiting for a guy. If a guy wants to be with you he will make it happen I truly believe in that. He's right you deserve to be happy, but don't depend on him to make you happy. Make yourself happy and do what's right for you. I'm sure he still cares about you but in a friend way and its great that you guys are on good terms after the break up.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year and a half. and his dad doesn't seem to like me. because he has told me that his dad said "she just wants to take you for a ride" and last weekend he sorta said that i should go to our lady of peace (a psychiatric hospital). i've asked him why he doesn't stand up for me and he says he just wants to keep the peace. my opinion there's a difference between keeping the peace and not standing up or defending your girlfriend while someone who talks badly about them. should i just give up? (link)
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That's not right! He needs to stand up for you or else what is the point? You need to talk to him about this and tell him this shouldn't be allowed. And if he doesn't change than I would consider leaving him because why would you want to be with someone who isn't going to stand up for you?
My cousin was dating this guy whose mother was so cruel to her. She would make my cousin feel like crap. Finally my cousin's boyfriend told his mother to knock it off and stopped talking to her completely. My cousin and her boyfriend later on got married but to this day he still doesn't speak to his mother. Not saying that you should suggest that they stop talking but if you really love someone you will stand up for them! Good luck!
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I am crushing on this guy. He said he wants to be friends and go from there and take things slow but hes physically and emotionally attracted to me...whats he mean? (link)
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He feels a connection to you! It's normal to take things slow before getting into a relationship. He probably wants to get to know you and find out what your like as a person. He's attracted to you by your looks and emotionally is attracted to you because he feels a connection with you. That's great! See where it goes from here and then see how you feel about him. Good luck!
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I'm with this boy, we arent' dating or anything but we are a "thing" lately he hasn't been himself. I'm really good friends with his best friend and he's dropping hints like "trust me i know him, just keep your guard up" and when i ask him to explain all he says is "I can't really say much on this subject but just know i have your back" i'm not being told something important and apparently i'll find out "sooner rather than later"
i know there is something going on with this guy i have a "thing" with but i don't know what.....is my guy friend preparing me for a hearbreak?
i am 16 and a female (link)
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It's hard to say but those aren't good signs from what you have written. I would say this is a red flag and that you should run. First off this "thing" you have...why can't he be your boyfriend? Was it his idea to be a "thing"? If that's the case than he either has commitment issues or he doesn't really want a relationship he just wants a hook up buddy.
Second off if his friend is warning you about him that's a HUGE sign to walk away. If his friend is telling you to keep your guard up than you know something is up with this guy.
I was with a guy for 7 months...can you believe it? 7 MONTHS!!?! His friend kept warning me about him and I just ignored it. We never made it official I guess you could say we had a "thing". Finally one day I realized I could do better and I moved on.
I'm sorry to say but this just sounds bad and the sooner you walk away the better. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
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