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Q: i hate talking about this but im bulemic and i seem to go through this cycle i cant get out of. i eat too much for a few days-a week, then i eat and throw up for i dno how long and then i over excercise and just dont eat at all.

right now im at the part where im starting to throw up again cos im eating too much.. how do i stop this and just eat normal????

i hate this!! its taking over my life, and i know im not fat but i feel like i am all the time.
[im 157cm tall and i weight 57kg]

iv been struggling with this for 2 years and im finally getting help wich is scarey. iv been to the doctors three times so far and the doctor thinks im depressed. so im on anti-depresents which arnt helping at all.

what should i do? i dnt want to become obsessed again and over exercise. HELP!!

i am not sure how old you are or anything. but get out go out with your friends.. anti depresents may work for some people but they made me so much worse i was getting sick and my dad chewing food or breathing drove me insane!!! okay stick to a diet.. give your self goals. if you fail the goals instead of getting upset with your self and making your self throw up eat veg. fruit, yougrt. healthy things. exercising.. okay. maybe get up in the morning each day run a little bit... or home exercising movies. limit your self. the most 1-2 hours a day.

Q: Is age 16, female, 'very beautiful' (what most men call me) normal to STILL be a virgin ? I think something's wrong with me ! I'm starting to feel depressed that all my friends arent. help !

oh hun please wait at least until you are sure you are ready. I am 18 years old now. Dont get my wrong i do not in any ways regret my son, i wish i would have waiting longer but i got pregnant at 15. it was hard trust me. saving your self is amazing to. i wish i could have.

Q: Just wondering if you would hire a babysitter from this website.

Is there anything I should change on it?

It's at www.flowersitters.com

We're also trying to expand to reach more families and babysitters; any tips or advice on doing so?

Thanks!

i think your website is a great idea. are you willing to allow the mothers to interview you before they decide to go with you i know with my son im very catious to whom i allow watch him.

Q: Is it really that important to live near family?

1. Wherever we move, we will set up a business, therefore it will not be an option to "pick up and move if we don't like it."

2. We are in love with an area where we have no family, and ideally would like to move there.

3. Would like to have kids in the next few years and ideally want family around us.

4. So which is it? Live in an area you love, or live near family?

The decision has damn near become unbearable.

you dont have to live near your family. my family is crazy. my mom and brother is in ohio, my dad and i are in missouri, my elder brother is in cali. the distant stinks.. but think about how far away you will have to travel to visit. how often would you be able to visis?

Q: hi, 17/m. Ive been going out with this girl for about 2 months now. We really liked each other in the begining. She's on holiday, and is coming back next week (she will have been away for a month). I'm not sure if its because i havn't seen her or anything, but im starting to have second thoughts. I know she really likes me, but i dont know if i like her as much as i used to.

Im not sure what the reason for this change in thought is. One of my female friends told me that if i dont like her, i should end the relationship, because its not nice to lead her on, and the longer i stay in the relationship, the harder its going to be to end it. But she also said, that if i was unsure, i should stick with it, because i may regret it if i ended it.

Any help people? im rather confused. Cheers

I think you should wait for her to come home. take her to a movie go to the park see how things go the night. if you still feel the same way then end it.

Q: So, I'm 17 year old female and I lost my virginity about a week ago, to a friend that I've known for 2 years. Now, I find myself getting so angry at him so easily, over the silliest things. We have kind of been in an argument for the past 3 days, and I really do keep insuing it. Could this be a sub-concious kind of anger, like that I'm mentally angry at him for taking my virginity? Is that possible? I've already had my period so I know it's not those hormones. I'm just trying to figure out why Im so mad.

where you ready for sex? did he force you into it. sometimes deep down after you have sex for the first time you think of your self as a slut and you blame the man because he is the one who took it. it doesn't make you a slut trust me. i had a child at 15 and pregnant with my 2nd now that im 18. i know im not a slut because i dont sleep around comfront the man about it your keeping your feelings inside.. tell him sorry you have been a bit angry lately you just dont know if you were really ready for what you two have done.

Q: 15/f

I'm generally really happy, but I can't enjoy doing ANYTHING because I'm always worrying about my parents dying. I know it's stupid, because they will die anyway one day, but I'm ALWAYS worried, no matter what I do! Can anyone help me with stopping worrying?

dying is part of life. is there a certian reason you are worried.. you are young im sure your parents arnt that old. my mother started dating this guy over a year or two ago. he drinks and smoke weed all the time. well she started doing it and popping pills im really worried about her. my father has talked about suicide but he knows my brother and i need him. if they are doing things to endanger them selfs it should be told to a grand parent or something. but if they are just normal parents and your worried about dont be. think about all the good times they are going to get to see.. you graduating high school. going to college?? getting married children. they are looking forward to all the stuff.

Q: Today I bought a couple of shirts at Zumiez. It was sort of like a back to school sale I guess, and I bought 2 shirts for $25. One of the shirts I got, I thought I saw the right size for me, but I guess I didn't grab the right size. Does anyone know if I'll be able to exchange it for a smaller size? I still have the receipt, and the tag is still on the shirt. I'm just worried because usually on-sale items are final... Thanks for the help :)

I am sure it should be okay. you can call the store and explain your situation.

Q: I hope you can help me. I can never get enough of sex. Women break up with me because I want to have sex ALL the time. Morning, noon and night!

I would rather be with one woman but I'm not sure if it's going to work. What should I do? Are you involve with anyone?

there are woman out there that are the same way. i was. not that my fiance and i are getting married we have sex about every other night. but when we first got together it was every second..women dont stay because they feel you are only with them for sex. do romantic things with that woman to find ways to control your self. jack off before you go on a date (movies and dinner or something.

Q: Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?

I use tampns (tampax plearal) dont get me wrong i used pads for a very very long time!! whe i was 17 i decided to use them they are alot more comfortable takes a little while to get used to.

Q: there is this girl at my school that is a total bitch to everyone including me. she is really rude to me and my friends and says bad things about them to me. it bothers me alot but i just keep my mouth shut. i want to stick up for myself but i want to be the bigger person and blow up on her. should i keep quiet or say something?

you should stick up for your self but it is not worth fighting over. people are iggnorant like that. i went through it in high school as well. although i only went to that school for my freshman year. you may find other things you could do talk to the girl about it. she is probably inscure or jealous.. not many friends so she takes it on other people.. maybe family problems. be nice to her.

Q: Hey i really a good diet because all i eat is fatty stuff but i cant seem to stop snacking, im not realy over weight but i need a good diet before i do get over weight! HELP!! thanks xx

once i began pregnant. i started eating no junk food no soda with caffine. i eat celery and peanut butter lots of fruit and veg.

Q: ok, so yesterday I went to davids bridal and found 2 dresses I really like. I tried on the first dress, and it was pretty when I looked in the mirror, but inside I felt like it was just another wedding dress, and I didnt feel like myself....but the 5 girls that were with me all really loved it and thought it was beautiful.

THEN, I tried on a beautiful princess looking dress, with lots of tulle in the skirt, and the top was a beautifully beaded Halter. Not only did I think I looked pretty, but i FELT beautiful in it, I couldnt stop smiling!!

Then I asked the others what they thought...

every single person preferred the 1st dress over this one.

Yesterday when I tried on those two dresses, the pretty poofy princess dress made me feel the prettiest, and I basically had my mind made up that thats the one I wanted for sure.

Then I texted a picture of it to jay and melissa. my fiance's mom and dad.

Jay, He said he liked it and asked me to email it to him. So i emailed him 2 pictures.....

One of my favorite, the poofy princess one...

A pic of my 2nd choice, the other dress I tried on...just added it to the email to show them.

I thought everything was great....

Until I got an email from melissa.

She said, "I like the 2nd dress better..."

It really upset me because i felt like everyone preferred the 2nd dress over my favorite....

The other dress was pretty when I looked in the mirror, but I felt so uncomfortable, and felt like just another bride. I considered it a dress that people would forget what it looked like as soon as the wedding was over....

The poofy dress made me feel like a princess, and I know people would remember that dress for days....

So I'm stuck. should I go with a dress that everyone likes to see me in and thinks I'm pretty,but not really feel like myself?

or go with the dress I feel the best in and have people think I'm not as pretty?

Why did she even have to stress her opinion about the dress she preferred when I clearly stated in the email which one I wanted????

I'm just getting aggravated because she keeps trying to change my mind about almost everything!!!

If she makes me change
My mind and i have to get my 2nd choice dress I'll feel like I'm settling....

:-(

well i went to davids bridal as well to get my wedding dress. first dress i tried on it was pretty but i didnt like it.. second dress.. i think is the exact same dress. i bought it. i loved it i felt like a princess. i was so happy sweetie its your wedding day do it goes your way. you are your fiance pick everything listen to there advice but go with whats deep down.

Q: i think my boyfriends cheating and i was wondering if anyone could be really nice and write down a few signs of cheating that could occur in a relationship that he might be cheating on me PLEASE! thanks so much!

before i meet my fiance i dated this guy everything seemed perfect we moved in with each other.. i found a earring and pony tail in the bed which werent mine. he tried to say they were mine.. a phone number i didnt reconized called his phone. he started accusing me of cheating i had a bad feeling i called the number and it was a girl on a day i was supose to work sunday.. he said how long are you working are you talking a lunch at what time. can i drop you off and pick you up etc.. so that thursday i had a bad feeling he left his phone in his jeans in the bedroom shut off i took it plugged it in turned it on and found text messages that said i loveyou xoxo i cant wait to see you sunday. im so happy we are talking etc.

Q: My bf of 4 years told me to take a break about three days ago...i dont understand why he would ask me that bcoz he was the one who messed up..we constanly aruged becoz his girl friends from school kept texting him, and it really bothered me alot..i even cried and told him that i dont appreciate them texting you and he seemed to not do anything about it...so we got into this really deep arugement about the girls texting him....n now he wants a break..i dont understand why he would want to take a break instead of trying to change and work things out for me....He thinks that since we been together for long and wanna get married in the future that its ok for him to take advantage of me and do wat he wants bcoz imma always be with him..idk what to do.....im just really mad that he taking a break with me...

Sweetie.. guys will be guys you have to find the one who will give up almost everything for you and still be happy. I wouldnt want boyfriend texting other females either.. he doesnt want to give up them girls.. he figures he can take a break with you and still talk to them girls.

Q: I have a huge problem! My parents will never accept my boyfriend because he's not Mexican (like me). Actually none of my family approves (cousins annts ect.)! The only person who has accepted it is my older sister and my family is mad at her for it even. I'm afraid this will tear me away from my family,
Is he ever worth that? I'm 15, he's 16, and we've been together for 3 months. I don't LOVE him but I like him a lot. Should I just break up with him because I heard family comes first and I don't want my family to break up because of this!

I know you are going to hate my answer but here i go. Its your choice. you dont love him but thats a good thing your love you can have plenty of relationships.. my mother is white and dating a black guy.. her father hasnt talked to her since. but her boyfriend is a jerk i dont like him either any who not the point if he is a good guy why not give him a chance.. if you are real close to your family you may be better off with out him. i dont know how your relaionsip is

Q: I keep hearing about Michael Jackson's doctor prescribing propofol to him before he died and that the doctor may have overdosed him. Just curious, I guess, but what in the world is propofol? Is it prescribe for pain or something since Michael Jackson had all of those facial operations? I've never heard of this drug before.

he was having problems sleeping.. i dont know to much about it but the doctor shouldnt have gave it to him period.

Q: 23/f

ok so i have a problem getting into the mood. i do find my fiance attractive and i love him its just that i cant get into the mood. is there a problem with me?

Find things that will really turn you on. My fiance and I were still having great sex. We just decided to buy a porno one night.

Q: well i have a boyfriend tht i like alot but hten theres is this other guy tht i like too..i just dont know wat to do..im 16 yrs old...gettin ready to turn 17..my boyfriend is 19 and the other guys is 22....

if you honestly "like your boyfriend alot" you woundlt be liking another guy.

Q: my girlfriend and i had sex in her fourth day of menstrual period and i inject my semen inside her and we did it twice. and now we are afraid that her period didn't come on the expected date and she is 2 days delayed. and no signs of any discharges which she always experience before she has her period. and i am scared of getting her pregnant. is the fourth day of her menstruation is safe or not? what are the chances of getting her pregnant? or is it just her menstruation period is delayed? please help me.

well first off i am going to give you the lecture. if you are not ready for a child please please use a condom and some birth control. i had a baby at 15 and it was the hardest thing ever i dont regret it i just wish i would have been older. if she is stressing out about the thought of being pregnant her period will be late. wait a couple weeks and take a home pregnancy test.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.