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Help me decide where to move
Is it really that important to live near family?
1. Wherever we move, we will set up a business, therefore it will not be an option to "pick up and move if we don't like it."
2. We are in love with an area where we have no family, and ideally would like to move there.
3. Would like to have kids in the next few years and ideally want family around us.
4. So which is it? Live in an area you love, or live near family?
The decision has damn near become unbearable.
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
The problem as I see it is one of possible future regret; regretting not trying something you thing you love. As to whether it is important to live near family? That is a very individual question and depends on how important family is to you and your spouse. Regardless of how close your family is, you will manage to raise your children with or without their help. You’re business will succeed or fail with or without their help.
So the real questions come down too: 1) How important is family to you and your spouse? 2) Just how in love are you with the area that you have no family in?
I cannot answer the first question for you, but I do have a suggestion for the second question. Statistically most new businesses fail in the first year. Given the present state of the economy I would not think this is not an ideal time for a start up business. The economy is slowly turning around and in about a year things should be looking better. Why not take this time to go to this area you like, find an apartment, job(s) and use the next year to explore the area. This suggestion will serve several purposes; you can find a location for your business and see if the area will support your business. You will also have the time to really explore the area and assure yourselves that this is where you want to put down roots and raise your family. Last you find out if being this far from family is what you and your spouse are comfortable with.
A one year trial period is not that great an investment in ones future. Trying something and finding out it is not to your liking is not a failure. It is a proper investment of time and energy to assure that when you do invest more than just time you have invested properly. This move appears to be a major step in your lives. My suggestion is one of caution that will bear the best results for a better life in the future.
Best of luck
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you dont have to live near your family. my family is crazy. my mom and brother is in ohio, my dad and i are in missouri, my elder brother is in cali. the distant stinks.. but think about how far away you will have to travel to visit. how often would you be able to visis?
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I would live near family. Who says you can't learn to love the area near family?
I think if you want kids, you should stay near family. They deserve an upbringing around cousins and it's good for them to have a closeness or a bond.
I know living near my family made all the difference growing up. I don't live near them anymore (I'm 2000 miles away) but I wish everyday that I was.
Definitely near family. You'll learn to love the area.
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Being near your family is always good, but...
If you love something you should give it a shot right?
There is nothing worse than loving something, but not doing anything about it.
I think that you should go with the area which you love, because your family is going to be there for you and your family no matter where you are.
Sorry if that rambled, I am not the best with words.
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