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i am 14 and i met this girl at a place i go to hangout we started to talk and were flirting a lot and we were having a lot of fun then after we left we started texting and we got really deep saying that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and i really felt that way i know i could grow old with her but for some reason in the pit of ny stomach i think she is just saying that stuff please help me i don't know wether to take her seriour or what should i confront her and tell her?? please help
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I think that you should definately take it slow. You could be right about spending the rest of your life with her, but unfortunately nobody knows the future, so just let life play out one day at a time. If it is meant to be then it will happen. Its hard to make a decision at 14 to plan to spend the rest of your life with someone. If she was just saying stuff to please you, then you might be overwhelming her with all of your plans. Just remember to take it slow, and see which path life takes you. You are only 14, you have your whole life ahead of you yet.
Good luck!!!
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I think you have that feeling in the pit of your stomache, because you know that it is way to soon for you two to feel that way about each other. Sure it can be somthing that you both secretly hope will happen, but you are smart enough to realize that it is too soon to KNOW beyond a doubt that you want to spend the rest of your lives together.
Some people have just awful lives, and when they spend some time with a member of the opposite sex, and they experience feelings that they have never felt before it can be WONDERFUL. But true love takes time. (I know, sounds corney, but it's true) That doesn't mean that you two can't get to know each other better. Tell her that you are interested in getting to know her better and that you two can talk about spending the rest of your lives together after you have been together for a while. Tell her that you would like to plan just a week or two ahead, and not much further.
Also, you may not be ready to even go steady with one person exclusively. At this time in your life you should be meeting lots of people and each one should help you to grow and help you to learn about yourself and about what kind of person you do want to spend the rest of your life with. You need to get to know her better. She could have some bad habits that you find intolerable, or a family that will hate you. You never know. Just tell her you want to take the time to get to know her better because you respect her to much to lead her on.
HOpe this makes things a little clearer for you
- Michele
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