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unrequited love on both ends?
All stories start with "so i met this boy..."
and mine is no different. We met about a month ago I guess...like 3 weeks ago and we've been talking. We've been out a few times, he is the best friend of the guy that is dating my best friend. It works out because we all double date all the time. So we've been on a few dates by ourselves too and I like him a lot u know its like nice hes the kind of guy I'm looking for and he told me Im the kind of girl hes looking for...
At the same time he has a big flaw. He is too conceited. Well deep down he isn't, but that's the attitude he gives off because he's actually really weak inside. (he confessed this so its not like I'm my opinion) So its an ego issue with him he will NOT make advances on a girl that he thinks doesn't like him. At the same time hes the type to get bored with a girl that throws herself at him...its hard. I am the type that will play hard to get, but mostly because I AM hard to get. I don't get into relationships that easily, and I also don't hook up. The thing is I feel like we are stuck because I'm not one to go out and ask him for attention, and he barely texts me because I don't give him too much attention. So we both like each other but are stuck...nothing is happening. We haven't kissed yet or anything and that was because I didn't want to. So what should I do in this situation...
((and please Im not really looking for "maybe you should move on because hes not the guy for you"))
THANKS! =)
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What is important if you want this relationship to grow is how you make him feel when you are together. You say that he is conceited but that this behavior really masks the fact that inside he feels inadequate. You are correct. That is what conceit is all about. But you sound like a sensible person and I think you see something good in him and worthwhile. The best thing you can do is make him feel important and special when he is with you. (and you can accomplish this without getting intimate) People will forget the things you said and the things you did, but they never forget how you make them feel. And you are right throwing yourself at him is not the answer, to many girls do that, so it is not special and does not make him feel special. You could try asking his advice about something, tell him you value his opinion, (that is a real esteem booster) Tell him you like the way he handled some certain situation. LEt him know you have confidence in him. This is going to make him feel better about himself, and also tell him that you see the best in him. He will gravitate towards you. And he will soon learn that he can be himself around you. That is what makes for long term relationships that become stronger and stronger with time. Don't forget mutual respect. You respect him, but he must also respect you.
Hope this helps
- Michele
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