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I bite my nails, it's a nervous habit (a bad one too). I think it's because my parents put a lot of pressure on me and my sisters (one of them also bites her nails). I like chewing on things, and nails are just convenient. I don't like gum, though- so I don't want to chew on that. I don't want to chew on food because I don't want to stuff myself because of a nervous habit. I hate carrots. How can I stop biting my nails? Sometimes I don't even realize what I'm doing and then my nail is gone!

I know! I get stuck like that sometimes too. But heres my solution. Buy glue on nails from a nearby pharmacy and buy them as like a regular thing... they're cheap, and really pretty. You'll get used to not being able to bite your nails and after a while you wont need them anymore unless you just like having them... good luck with it... xoxo

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Does anyone know how to make any healthy snacks or drinks that i can make at home? Im trying to loose weight so ill be fit for school. Ill rate you.

well try drinking more juices and water. They're all natural and arent packed with sugars. Snacks-- try eating some veggies with a fat free salad dressing or some fruit. Rice cakes are yummy and they really wont effect you at all. Also try eating different low fat cold cuts on pita bread-- delish! And totally healthy!

good luck xoxo

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I hate basketball. well i don't hate it i just dont like it very much. Everyonr says I should play even our school's coach but i don't know. im 5'7 so they say ill be a good rebounder or defender??? but i cant shot! i miss everything! should i play?

definetly! give everything a go! Practice makes perfect.... some famous bball players sucked in their school years.. but they were determined. Determination is the key to it all ;-)

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Hi, MFS here again...

This is not really a question, but a request...

Can we please stop it with the "I rate" and "Rate me!" crap? Are getting ratings THAT important to you? Does it somehow make your life complete? This site isn't a game, people... ratings are not for keeping score. There is no competition - just advice. The ratings are supposed to be for keeping the bad advice off the site, much like we have the moderators in place to help keep the really bad questions off the site.

I mean, when I see a question that says "I rate!" in the body or even subjet of it, it just screams "OMG! PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!!!!" It is getting kind of pathetic, as we're seeing it ALL THE TIME!

Let's give it a rest.

i see where your coming from... but sometimes people like to know what people think of their advice so they can learn or grow from what they said. Its good to be rated to be informed, but you are right, it doesnt need to be all over the place. The sucky thing is no matter how much people realize it, there will never be an end to the rating crap... lol... stinx...


xoxoxox

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how do i flirt without seeming desparate? im too afraid to play hard-to-get because then it might make them uninterested. and i want a way to flirt without putting myself on the line(just in case he doesn't like me)

Be honest... and giggly. Dont go as far as hard to get, but like if somethings funny, let it alone, and dont keep repeating it. Plus if theres no friction and things arent clicking, walk away, and dont try to make it work when the other person is being silent and not being flirty back. This should help you out for the most part.... good luck and happy flirting xoxo

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ok well here's what happened...i was dating this guy who ended up bein a total jerk and tried to get me to have sex with him so i dumped his ass and then i met this really nice guy who i liked alot but we didn't date and now for some reason he just wont talk to me or is all of the sudden completely uninterested in me and i dont know why. so i;'ve been talking to my ex boyfriend and we're thinkin abt gettin back together and i know he's worhtless but i want to anyways cuz i feel like if i sit around waiting for something better it's never going to come....i don't know what to do at all...anything anyone can say to help would be great...i rate. thanks!

You shouldnt settle for less. Even if you dont date someone for a while whats the worst that can come of you? Dont let despiracy let you get back together with the jerk that was pressuring you and made you feel all uncomfortable. You'd only punish yourself. True love waits! As sucky as it will be you'll be so proud of yourself for not settling for the trash bag. Plus, he might even pressure you to do things that you arent up to, and you might one day give in when your not even looking. It would suck. Go with what i say and i promise you'll benefit 100%....

xoxoo Muah

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ok well me and my whole family always fight and they always blame me for everything and they make me feel like they dont love me and everything and i started to think does my family love me? and i think they dont so now i got the feeling that i shouldnt be living becuz i have no one that loves me so i think i should just kill myself i've always solved my problems by cutting myself becuz i think it makes the pain go away but now im starting to think i should kill myself or something what should i do i really need some help and quick becuz i might do osmething i might regret later on

Alrite, first off DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. Even if your family for some strange reason 'didnt love you' theres someone that does. Not to be all religious on you, but god loves you. Whether you believe it or think its fake or not its true. Plus you have such purpose in life. You may be so important to someone but they may just not express it enough. Plus your family is related to you, I know it in my heart they love you. Id bet my bottem dollar they love you to DEATH. They would probably be sooo upset if you ever left them. Plus killing yourself is quitting, giving up, you've let depression overcome you. Do you want to end your life knowing you've given up, knowing that you could have grown up and found the love of your life, had the chance to be famous... who knows. Your chances are endless.. your possibilites... LIMITLESS. But you need to hang in there. Get a therapist... explain how you feel. Get a journal... anything you can do to help yourself. Also.. try talking to your family. Just say, i feel like im not loved... i feel like you just dont like me. Be straight up.. and ask them if you'll help eachother make an effort to be somewhat non-argumentative. Please, whatever you do, dont leve this world by choice. I beg of you...

if you need help... IM x mercy me 14 x

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ok..well i have some fat on my stomach..its bothering me becuz i cant get rid of it. It like sticks out and stuff..and ive been doing crunches and stuff to try to get it toned and stuff but its not working..any other ideas to get it toned??

Yep. I can help you out there.Look at food labels before you consume. If it has 'trans-fat' thats the kinda stuff that goes straight to your stomach. I read it in several magazines and know from experience. Dont let yourself eat anything with trans-fat. Cut sugary things out of your diet, like candy, soda, crap like that. And try drinking LOTS of water it helps so much you'd be suprised. If you need more help let me know.. just try not to get obsessed on the topic of wieght.. its a dangerous state of livin ;-) hehe

good luck xoxo

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I am going into 9th grade. My boyfriend and I have been together for about six monthes. I love him so much, but lately he's starting to be a jerk. He seems to care more about what he thinks than what I think, and he makes really gross jokes on occasion. I really want to tell him that unless he starts acting better, we're done. But whenever I see him I start going girly and I blush when he smiles at me. I don't know how to tell him, and I just can't seem to do it, but I know I need to. What can I do?

Well dont lecture him so to say. Wait till he makes one of those jokes and be like... hunny please cut the raunchy humor... i dont appreciate it. If hes acting like a jerk, be like stop it whats your problem. I wouldnt save it for one long talk, b/c he might say 'what are you talking about' now if you wait till the moment after he says something or acts a way you dont like, then you have total proof b/c he cant deny what he said 2 seconds ago. I hope i've helped. Good luck sweetheart xoxo

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hi ok i really want a thong i am 14 and i am in 9th grade. i asked mi mom if i could get i last year and she said no i wuz too young well i am a shy person at times now i wunt to ask her but im scared !!! help

Ohh i totally understand you. Well for most people 9th grade is high school so im going with the assumption your going into high school. Tell your mom your entering high school and your mature enough. Also calmly explain that you dont want to wear it for any old reason you like how it doesnt show under tighter clothes. I have the feeling she'll ease into the idea... thats what always works.

xoxo good luck sweetheart

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how do u kiss a guy????

Hmm.. thats not really a hard one. If its just a regular kiss without like tongue you just go and peck them like anything else. But if you mean like with tongue, you kind of like take it slow and move your tongue around on his. I hope i helped, nd if you wanna know somethin more specific, inbox me

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My friends keep..."teasing"..me about something and its not really a big deal or anything but im getting embarrassed and i want them to stop, i told them that and they said they would but they havent....what should i do?

Next time they tease you walk away with a really solemn face and just leave them and avoid them for a while. You'll probably need space from them and they'll read the fact that what they are doing isnt right.... GOOD LUCK xooxox sweetie

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i just moved from new york to virginia. im going into 9th grade and into a new high school. ive been with my friends in new york ever since pre-k and now im scared to make new ones.. what should i do?

Hunny dont be shy it will kill you. Make friends just like you have in previous years. Introduce yourself, crack jokes, compliment people, be fun !! For the first day of school spice up your look.. go for a really cute far out outfit that screams YOU and spend some Xtra time on hair and makeup... its not hard once you set your mind to it. You'll present yourself as fresh and creative!!! exotic!

x0x0 cutie

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ok i'm almost 14 and i've known this guy since i was 7 everyone thinks that we will end up together but he's 5 years older than me i've always had a crush on him but it's one of those little girl crushes and everyone won't shut up about it how do i get them to stop

How about you tell them you dont like him anymore. Of course your feelings are your feelings but why does the rest of the world have to know them? This will get them to stop and you can just like him at peace without stupid freaks bothering you all the time. Good luck.. i kno it gets tough :-P. And this is the best way to do things, I know from experience... xoxo

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okay my cousin is here everyday because my mom has to babysit him and hes 10 and im 12 and in the past he has chocked me locked me in a car when it was 100 degrees out side he has banged a softball against my ear locked me in his rooam and bathroom he has pushed me in the shower and made me hit my head and yet he still does things to hurt me and now im stronger so i just wanna sock him really bad and i think he learns these things from his dad because his dad abuses him but still he does it and it hurts and sometimes he can be really cool like the best cousin ever but he abuses his little brother and makes fun of my sister and teases her how do i get him to stop should i just leave him alone i dont wanna get hurt again...

First off, tell your Mom. It may sound like the odd way out, but she'll scold him to stop. Just explain to him be like when you hurt me it makes such a bad relationship between us and its really not cool... if you stopped you would be such a cool person. Really explain to him in detail. He needs more attention is what it sounds like. Question him why he does those mean things. If he doesnt stop, just start giving him silent treatment, talk to him as little as possible , and when you are forced to talk to him talk in a low really hurt voice. He'll get the hint. But whatever you do dont be violent back, you'll be just as immature and he'll think that hes been right to be hurting people b/c you do it too.

good luck xoxo

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hey im a 15 year old girl and i need sum ideas for my room ! i wanted to do it pink but now im not sure plz help
kate

Pink? Perfect! I have a great idea... why dont you go ahead and paint the walls like a magenta, do big white polka dots, and then get silver or gold sparkle spray and spray down the walls. You can also sponge paint. Looking for a theme? Try doing french cafe, or marilyn monroe, or something really girly. Take an old lamp and cover it with 'sticky fabric' (you can buy it in walmart or craft stores, its dirt cheap and sooo pretty) or you can sew on some beads to dangle from the bottem. There is a variety of things to do! Try using fake flowers and look at teen pottery barn... your options are open! *Good Luck* xoxo

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any tips of what to do not to do or what to watch out for with having a boyfriend?
THANKS!!

Dont talk about past relationships, and dont gossip about people. B/c then its obvious you have nothing better to talk about and your relationship isnt all that fabulous. So take it slow, watch some movies... haha try chickflicks lol... and just good luck w/ it sweetheart. You can do it ... just be a girl!

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hio i am going into high school and i have never had a boyfriend... how can i make a guy lyk me.... i am also shy how can i lyk not b shy to a guy. wut kind of stuff do b/f and g/f talk bout??????
thx
!~me~!

be yourself. if you try to be something your not it will rub off on people and they most likely wont really like that. Plus they'll know. So spice up your style, spend some Xtra time on doing hair. When you wanna talk to someone but feel shy, think of how much you want to be friendly with guyzz.. and be straight up and just say heeyy and laugh and flirt and etc! Also just know that going out with a guy isnt like the most important thing in life it can sometimes just suck anyway. Try focusing on making friends with guys... b/c it is totally cool to have guys that are friends.. after all thats where any relationship should start off.


good luck sweeetie xoxo

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im 5'5 and i weigh 70 pounds am i underweight? my shrink said i was please help

I definetly think you should atleast try going up to 80... its rather unhealthy. Good luck xoxo sweeeti

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I am going into 7th grade and I really want to wear eyeshowdow. Just eyeshwdow but I don't know if my Mom will let me. Should I wear it or not?

yes... go for it... just tell her you wont wear anything too bright or too heavy. Start off natural and you should be fine..

good luck sweets xoxo

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