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I have a few questions regarding acne, blackheads, etc..

* Is there ANYTHING at all that get`s rid of facial acne ? ( i`m skeptical about proactiv.. )

* How do you get rid of blackheads ?

and..

* How do you get rid of acne on your back && shoulder`s ?

Thank you sooo much

Well acne is different for every person, everyone has different skin types, as you probably know.
But one thing you can do for facial acne is first wash your face, to open your pores, then use clinique facial wash, or astrigent, something like that. But dont do it too often, every other day or so, because you dont want to dry out your skin. Also your skin is affected by what kind of foods you eat, so if you eat a lot of junk food, that would be why you have breakouts.
&How you can get rid of blackheads, use black head remover astrigent, it works much better than the sticky pad things you can put on your nose.
And.. finally a lot of people get acne on their back & shoulders because they dont wash the conditioner off their backs when they are washing their hair.
So a smart thing to do is take a rubber band or clip with you into the shower and after you wash your hair and rinse the soap out, pin your hair up, and wash your back, then it wont let the oils seep in. To get rid out it, use astrigent, or a clensing pad type thing.

hope i helped.

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first i gote know this girl in my uncle home she is one of the son's of thee ministers of the country and we gte konw each othe before but we didn't any hey or handshake just we gote know by an eye know she is one of the city pretty girls i gote fall in love with her ,the only thing i neeed from her is her body ,and i start to make some move and i say one day hey i wanna ur mobil number and she gave me i have called to her and i have lied that we have part and if she can come and she say i think no and the nextweek i have called that i want to talk with her she came but late after 30min and i left and i have called in the next and i told her that i want to meet her and i tell her where she want to meet me and she told me the place near her house but she told me that she come at the time (e.g4pm)but i came (4.15pm)she wasn't there and when i came to the downtown from the place she was hanging with her friend and i don't say hi just i left out but she have tried to say hi anyway what i want to say is ,what can we say form here is she ready with me i'm cute but alttle bite thta i don't want put my self in begging her so plz help me.

Okay first of all. "The only thing I need from her is her body". That is a very shallow, shallow, SHALLOW, thing to say. So I would just leave her alone, because your whole question was confusing, but I dont think she wants you.
I dont care if you rate me low, because this question was cruel towards the girl, and low on your behalf.

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Hey, I have a picture phone and I was wondering if I can upload pictures from the phone itself onto my computer. I have a plug for it and everything but I don't have software. Do I need a disk or something to get those pics on? I already tried but I'm no computer genius.

Thanks guys, I need this more than you think.

Well I have a camera phone too, and usually you go into your image gallery on your phone, and press send, and you can email it to yourself, or to an online photo storage album.
Hope I helped.

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I have been getting really sad/depressed lately, and for no reason or for small reasons. I overreact to everything or just have breakdowns. I have been getting more and more of them recently, and I don't know what I should do. Sometimes I'll be really happy and then sometimes I feel like I have no friends and want to die. Is there something wrong with me? Do I have manic depression?

You are a teenager. And you cant really control your hormones, but what you can do is go out with your friends, or just sit in the sunshine, it will boost your feel good hormone. :]
Try focusing on doing things that make you feel good, and when you start to feel sad or upset, dust the feeling off.

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Well, I'm not sure how to put this. But I am extremely sensitive. I can't really take jokes around my parents but I'm great around my friends. I cry for like, everything, and I don't know how to stop.. is there something wrong with me?

I rate 5's for good advice.

Theres nothing wrong with you,
its being a teenager, I have days where I'm really sensetive, and then days where I just dont care what people say.
Try not to let them get to you, but go ahead and cry, because sometimes it helps.

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i like this guy. i want to find out who he is into and if he likes me back. i asked him once if he liked anyone and he said "ehh idk. kinda but not really." what does that mean? i want to find out but i dont want to ask him directly again or ask his friends..what are some ways i can get it out of him?
I RATE HIGH ;)

Hey, I'm pretty sure that if he did like you,
he might have admitted it to you, since you did ask him straight up.
I wouldnt bother him though, or his friends, because bugging a guy just makes them like you less, but the best way to find things out, is to just flat out ask.

So try again maybe? & be like, I was confused the last time I asked you this, what does "kinda" mean? ..
tell him your just wondering, and if he doesnt you'll be fine with being friends.

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She always complains about my other best friends. I ask her to stop, but she just doesn't get it! And she's way to emtional, I want to help her, but how can I when she never tells you what's wrong?

Okay, well first of all, in the nicest way you should tell your friend that you dont like it when you talk about your friends, ..and if she asks why or gets defensive, tell her because well.. they are your friends and you care about them. And if your best friends are her best friends too, remind her that.

Its also pretty normal for girls to be really emotional, but sometimes your feelings need to be hurt. Also tell her that you cant read her mind, thats why we have mouths.. so we can talk to each other. And consume food. haah. but thats besides the point, let her know that you are there for her, and remind her what comes around goes around. ( when shes talking about people, tell her not to get upset if people talk about her. )

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i have a little pot belly nothing big just a little one i have been doing 60 legs lifts a day and everytime i did it i felt the musells in my stomach get tighter.. but the thing is that doing that exercise was making my stomach fatter so i stopped doing them and i realized that my bellly has gotten flatter when i stopped doing them.. i kno that may not sound normal but why did it do that? is there something wrong with me?

hope you can answer my question

You need to be eating healthy with your exercising, its not that your getting fatter you are probably just getting muscle.

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hey im 14 i have a question..ive been going through alot of problems lately and now everytime i get mad or kinda annoyed my heart starts to hurt...and then my fingers kinda hurt when that happens..i dont know what it is but im worried ..thx!

Well um I'm not sure what exactly the problem is, but anything that has to do with your insides, I'd ask an adult, or doctor would be best..

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Over the past couple of days I've had the wierdest illness. I wouldn't really consider it the flu, I've had the flue before plenty of times and it was not like this. On Sunday night I started getting a soar throat and the back of my neck was starting to hurt. By the end of the night my whole neck & lower head was hurting and I could barely even turn my head. My whole body ached and I was getting the chills. Monday and tuesday was the same thing. Sore throat that totally affected my whole neck & head. Have you ever had this or know what its called?

I've had that before, and really maybe you should go to the doctor..
It could be the flu, because it effects your whole body. But the best thing to do is to go to the doctor and get medication.

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I met this guy last friday and we had a great time hanging out w/e and we exchanged emails and hes was born in another country and he told me that he loves me in his native language. What does this mean? he won't tell me what it means but i looked it up and thats wat it means.

P.S He's friends with my best friend thats how we met

Aww, well he is probabbly shyy, but if you hardly know him, then maybe he doesnt.
Otherwise ask your best friend what he/she thinks?

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what do you all think about guys wearing bras.

one other question why do women always say bras are a pain to wear. I don't see why.

I dont think guys should wear bras..
they werent invented for them.

& not all women say that, it depends on the person, and ehh you know their situation.

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I don't have caller ID. And this girl Alyssa keeps calling my house and saying stuff about me and being all rude. It really upsets me; she has been doing it on Wednesdays starting last week. She calls me a dirty whore and making fun or me and stuff. I don't know what to do. If it happens again I'm calling the police for harrassment. Is that the right thing to do?

Yes, and I wouldnt wait longer for her to do so, she shouldnt get away with it...
trust me, if i were in this situation, i would call the police, because big scary law enforcement will freak her out and she will stop.

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ok well i was watching rent and rosario darson or w.e. her name is really skinny and i was wondering if anyone knows how she stays skinny because i really want to lose weight, and im running and doing this fitness thing for your stomach and it works [the stomach thing] and i was just wondering some exercizes for my legs, besides running.

ill rate 5's

Honestly, I think everyone is beautiful.
And sometimes people just have big bones, but that doesnt make you fat. My point being, even if you lost a lot of weight, your bones would be the same size.
& i agree with the advice before this, Rosario probably doesnt have a very healthy died, because shes that skinny.

But try pilates, or squats, those work very good!

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well im 13/f. i used to hang out with this group of 5 girls. but then 4 out of the five started ignoring me slowly but surely. the other girl stayed with me and got ignored too. the girl and i decided that we would not talk to them as much. then we gave them antoher chance and became "friends" again with the other 4. that happened again 2 more times. so then it was happening again so we decided to make new friends and not talk to the 4 girls forever. it was going as planned. we made new friends and had fun. but then the 4 girls called and said sorry and asked for another chance last night. so seeing that we all knwon each other since we were 3 we missed the 4 girls, so we gave in. our parents knew about this whole thing. so today instead of sitting with our new friends we sat with the 4 girls for lunch. the friend that stuck with mes mom found out. now the girl is forbidden to sit with them and hang out with them. because he mom doesnt want her daughter to hang out with people who ignore her. also one of the 4 girls from the group is labelled as a slut. so the girl who stuck with mes mom doesnt want her daughter to be that. now the new friends we made are mad at us, because we basically didnt talk to thjem at all today. so my mom doesnt really care and is letting me make me own decisions. so now i want to talk to the 4 girls, my friend who stuck with me, and the new friends. i cant talk to all of them. also about sitting with them at lunch. i cant just ditch my friend who stuck with me. but i really want to sit with the 4 girls. my friend either sits by herself or with the new friends(if they forgive her). what should i do? i need help ASAP!

Well this is a very confusing,complicated situation..
Well first of all, if those girls ditched you in the beginging, they should have known that it was wrong, and they should have never done it.
But you did the same thing to your new friends by ditching them, but if you would have invited them to sit with your old friends, and you all could have been friends. I know its easier said than done, but nothing is impossible.

& who cares what other people think.
This world is way to focused on social status, and clothing brands. If your really true friends with this girl who you think is nerdy, then you wouldnt think shes nerdy. Partys arent all that cool, and its horrible to exclude people. Because you know very well what it feels like to be left out of a group or something you know?

hope ihelped.

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i used to feel so at home when i hung out with friends. i had plenty. but ever since i moved things have really changed and i feel like ive done something wrong and they all hate me, i don't want things to be this way, i really don't know what to do. i feel like i don't have anybody to lean on

Aww, that sucks, I'm sorry.
Moving changes a lot of things, your right,
but maybe your friends have changed too? as crazy as that sounds, so try making some new friends, Iknow its easier said than done, but your old friends cant be much 'friends' if they arent acting like it because you moved.
Join clubs, or sports teams, you can meet new people through that.

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My 1st cousin or basically like my sister.. well her boyfriend gave her a condom.. and her mom found it and now she thinks she had sex and she didn't she wasn't even planning on it.. she told her mom that the condom was our papaws(he's a player/my granny died long back) and me and her was just blowing them up I don't think her mom believed her cause she said why would you have a man/a condom for? I don't know what I should do for her.. How could I help..?.. to make matters worst my cousin was sleeping and her mom slapped her when she was a sleep and she goes F**k!! Please and thank you in advance!

Well this is a hard situation,
maybe if you were honest about it in the first place, things would have turned out differently? She still would have been mad, but atleast you wree telling the truth right?
Well it doesnt help that your cousins mom swore, and slapped her. That was just out of place, but the best thing I have to say is that I really think you should just leave the situation be for now, if things get worse, message me.

i hope i was some help!

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Hey Mom, i'll try to make this sweet and simple.
I kinda want my underwear back.
I'm not exactly sure why you took them, but i have an idea. Maybe you thought i was trying to 'impress' somebody? Maybe for punishment? Maybe you thought i was growing up too fast?
i'm not exactly sure but i think its one of those.
I just wannna let you know i'm not trying to impress anybody.
Its kind of a personal preference, its more comfortable & stuff.
i don't like, show people or anything, like some people i know.(aka sluts!)
I don't know, do you want me to earn them back?
well write back.
mmkay
bye


is it good? i don't want to sound like a smart aleck though. and i don't wnt to beg her either.
is this good? any revisions i should make?

Um.. yeah i think thats a nice letter.
dont mind the girl who gave advice before me.
I get what your saying, so you have some 'sexy' underware? like a thong or something? & your mother doesnt approve so she took it?
but yeah I think its a good idea to write her a letter.
good job, hope it works out. ;]

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14/f
I am in love. I know your probably thinking "A fourteen year old can't be in love!", but i am. Last night it all became clear to me. This is what happened:

There was a dance. I was kinda pissed at my friends for something so I hung around my guy friend who I used to like instead. Of course, we danced and stuff. We slow danced to two songs and grinded to one. As I said before, I used to like him, and then I realized something: I still did. I started liking the person I liked before last night just to get over the one I was dancing with. But the truth is I can't. I feel hot and cold at the same time when I'm with him, happy and sad. When he holds me in his arms I feel safe, like nothing in thee world could possibly happen to me. I want him more than I want anything else.

Now the problem: as far as he has told me, he likes my friend. He told me last night before we got really close. I think he still does. Now everyone, even teachers, think we are/should go out. And I want to but I don't know if he does. What do I do? Sorry, this was long.

I dont really know what to say to this.
But to your additional info.
It really only takes a day to love someone, and it takes forever to forget them.
♥

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My best friends dog died, and I know the dog meant a lot to her mom. I love her mom to death and I want to do something special for her to make her feel a little better. Any suggestions?

Well you could make her something,
or tell her how much you love her!
And just be there for her,
i wouldnt buy her a new dog though,
because thats like trying to replace her old one.
But aww i hope i helped.

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