The next time she says that, say, "Please don't say that, I want my parents to stay together, and I don't really like to hear negativity from people about it, it really hurts me, so could you not say that around me please?" But your friend should be understanding and say that she will stop, but if she starts to say, "just because you don't want to hear it, it doesn't mean it won't happen" or starts to defend herself, shes not a good friend. I'm surprised your friend would have the nerve to say that, its very rude, so make sure that you stop her by asking her nicely to stop. You don't owe her any explaination why you think they won't get a divorce. It hurts when parents split up, so you don't need to add her negativity to your problems.





-TheTeenGirl

This is basically her bad choice. Nobody has taken over her, she made the choice to be a bad friend to you, so I think that you should move on without her, you know that shes not a friend for doing anything of this to you. So you should show her that you won't tolerate that kind of "friendly" behavior by ignoring her when she tries to work things out, I understand that you like her, but its already obvious that you're too good for her. So until then, you should hang out with other friends and forget abouit being her friend. Everyone gets rejected in life, and it sucks when its happening, but you have to remember that just because you do get turned down, it doesn't make you any less of a good person.




-TheTeenGirl



-TheTeenGirl

This may feel like an embarrassing matter, but its definetly not, there are people who end up starting at 16, you could be one of those girls, but that doesn't make you any less of a women. You start when you start, you don't get to control it, besides, I think lots of girls, including me, consider you very lucky, when you get your period, you won't be jumping for joy later, when you get heavy flows, have to deal with yucky smells when changing pads or tampons, and its plain out gross. And the worst of it is cramps, after you feel cramps, you'll regret ever wishing that you started, so enjoy that you don't have it yet, when you do, then you do, but try not to wait, let it come. About talking to your mom, say, "Mom, I need to talk to you about something, I feel left out that I don't have my period yet." Yes, this may seem embarrassing, but she probably had to talk to her mom too, so shes going to be willing to understand. Its always good to talk to someone about your feelings, that way she can comfort you, and explain it to you.




-TheTeenGirl

When you guys are alone before the party, say, "hey, I really liked to be called your best friend, but I don't feel like I am at your parties, I really want to hang out with you and your other friends, if I'm really not your best friend, just tell me, because I at least want to be treated like a best friend." Talk to her basically, don't wait until the party comes and not go without explaination, at least tell her you aren't going to the party if this happens again during thevparty, but also, you could try hanging out with other people, maybe theres a lot of people to hang out with that she can't do it all at once, I'm not sure, but leave the party if you just don't feel ok.




-TheTeenGirl

Your friends just sound like they have no reason to cut, but if you told someone, yes, they are going to get mad, but who wouldn't? Soon, after a while, they'll realize you told because it hurt you to look at them knowing they are doing this, not just to torture you and be a "tattle tail." Cutting is serious, even if its just for attention, its still serious that you stop, so I think its impossible to look at as not that serious, but their guardians have to know whether they want them to or not, they need help and you have to be the one to come to their rescue, even if its not the kind of help they want. So, if you're at home right now, tell your parents and how scared you are, if they don't do anything, its time to go to one of your friends' parents. In other wods, tell someone, they don't need to cut and make you feel bad, they probably have nothing to cut over.




-TheTeenGirl

You made a big mistake by even dating him, you should have waited way longer than you did. I think you and your friend need to ditch this guy, you and him making plans to date while hes dating your best friend wasn't good either. As you can see, you weren't being a very good friend to her to begin with when this guy was in the picture. You both need to get over this guy together, because hes hurt you both, he hurt your friend by dating you, he hurt you by flirting with your friend when he said he liked you. I think its obvious that best friends always overpower boys when it comes to contest. So, you need to talk to her about not seeing this guy anymore period. Remind her of how much 'heck' its caused you both in your friendship.





-TheTeenGirl

Whether its right or not, I'd say, "you need to decide now, you sound interested in this girl whose mean to you, so my guess is that you're going for her." You need to demand answers, him keeping you waiting tortures you and probably stesses you out. And you need to let him know how much it bugs you that hes not picking and just confusing you by him acting interested in you, and then asking the school what he should to about this mean girl behind your back. I don't think you are seeing the mean hes doing to you right now. Hes hanging out with you, says he likes you, then he acts like hes complaining about the other girl being mean, and now you notice that hes asking people to help him with this girl, thats pure torture, put a stop to it.



-TheTeenGirl

How old are you? 14? Of course you are, you still live with your parents. So you go to parties and drink and afraid that your parents will catch you, so you want some tips on how to "not get caught?" I don't know why anyone would even want to help you. The truth is that you deserve to be caught, if you're stupid enough to drink at parties at a young age, then hopefully your parent WILL catch you so you can realize that something can happen when you drink a lot so young. Sorry to sound harsh, but you don't realize what you're really doing to yourself, so you basically have to live with the fear of getting caught since its something your parents wouldn't approve of.




-TheTeenGirl

You aren't saying it right out in the open, when hes not all over you and you're just hanging out, say, "hey, I'm flattered that you like me more than a friend, but I don't have the same feelings, so I need for you to stop throwing yourself at me because its not working." Thats basically it, just tell him.




-TheTeenGirl

This is your decision. Not your friends, your boyfriend, your neighbor, just yours. I think the reason you think that you look horrible without make-up is the fact that you always wear it, and if you wear something all of the time around people, that object on you melts in your personality. So of course if you decide not to wear make-up, you're going to get questions and comments about it, but don't take it seriously, they are going to say something about it because they aren't use to your face with no make-up. But, in my opinion, I think you shouldn't wear make-up a lot, maybe every other week or something, because maybe after looking at yourself with no make-up for a while and you are used to being seen with no make-up, then I think you'll start liking yourself that way. Your friends probably do love you for who you are, but that dosn't mean they aren't going to comment, if they ask, just tell them you want to experiment with yourself, and you want to see what different things you can try to help you adjust more to yourself. I mean, I'm pretty sure that your friends have done something that you laughed at or commented at, besides, this is you, your decision, you dress/bathe/make-up/decide anything you do with yourself, if you let somone else do it, you're letting them pick out a wardrobe for two, you don't want that.




-TheTeenGirl

When you're younger and you shave, your hair legs were probably blond, but this changes later, you get black hairs that are stubbly and painful to touch if they grow too long, this is probably what you are experiencing. I used lotion too, but when I noticed the way I was shaving, it was too fast, and most of the time it was done with soap. Those could have caused the problems, but try keeping track of your shaving speed, and also make sure to check your razor blade, if you have a venus, you'll be able to tell by the blue line on it, if its very dark blue, its a good razor, if its faded blue, its probably time to switch. But remember to always shave down on legs, not up, you have to shave your areas in the direction the hair grows, if you do the opposite, its going to be painful. So, check these:


-Am I using shaving cream most of the time?

-Is my razor fresh?

-Am I shaving too fast, do I ever shave places without shaving cream/soap there?

-Am I shaving downwards?




-TheTeenGirl

You need to say, "hey, you're suppose to be my friend, you're dating Lee, so please stop talking about my guy like hes yours, I don't like what you're doing." You've got to be blunt with her, meaning just say whatever you have to say to make her realize shes hitting on her friends' guy. You should probably get your guy to say, "ok, stop flirting, I'm not interested in you, I'm dating [you] and not you." Yes, he needs to say that, because if he lets it happen, she thinks its ok and that hes responding to it in the way she wants. Tell Lee about this, too. Hes being "played" behind his back basically, shes dating a guy while truly loving someone else. You will probably get denial from her, but you have to bring things up, like, "oh really, what about that time at the library when you kept getting close to him?" Show a little proof and get some from your guy. He better support you in this, because you need to get your friend off of whats yours.



-TheTeenGirl

Don't ask questions like this. Do you realize what you're asking? Theres no wrong or right spot your hands go while making out, you don't need hot tips from people about putting your hands on someone or where a guy will put his hands on you. You're suppose to let it happen, if he puts his hands on your face, he puts his hands on your face, end of story. Don't make love and making out some kind of expecting game, its suppose to be mysterious, or else it would be boring if you spend your time trying to be prepared, you go at your own speed.



-TheTeenGirl

My question for you is, do your parents know any of this? Because they are the only ones you can turn to right now. You can't take care of a baby on your own, and you can't quit your eating disorder on your own, you need your support system right now. You can definetly use their help. I know you're scared of their reaction, but soon they will move on and help you, they can not and will not stay mad at you forever, they will just be under some stress. But, you've got to ask for help, or you will have this baby killed. You are putting 2 lives in danger right now, and you need to get yourself out of it. Yes, you are going to harm the baby if you keep doing this, so please get help and you won't have to deal with this problem on your own. If you need some help or ideas with how you'll ask them for help, then go ahead and "inbox" me, this is important, and I'll be glad to help you through it.




-TheTeenGirl

Don't talk to guys on the internet, block him, you'll be fine.



-TheTeenGirl

Sometimes if you're in school activities, there will be a time when you don't get things and you need help, just go up to someone and say, "ok, I have no idea what to do, can you help me?" Or just say, "How do I do this? I don't understand." That way you'll start talking to them, and you can use that, even if you really do get it, go ahead and try it next time at cheerleading practice.



-TheTeenGirl

Thanks for asking.

As for your boyfriend, he probably knows hes being hit on and won't admit it and likes the attention, but you have to fix that. I know being jealous is a bad feeling and nobody wants to feel it, and the last thing you want to do is tell him, but he gets jealous with you too. So I think that you need to express your feelings and tell him to tell this girl to back off. He should tell her because it wouldn't be fair to you if he refused. You need to say, "Hey, you know that girl that you talk to, [Sarah]? Well, I don't like the way shes being towards you, so can you make her back off of you?" Now, don't take no for an answer. You and him know that hes being hit on, and you have to take control, if he doesn't stop her, then you need to dump him to show the consequences that he gave you for not telling guys to back off. If you let this go on, you are giving him more power with this relationship to do more to you, you will let him take advantage of this. So you have to put your foot in when you aren't satified with the way you are being treated. I really don't think hes blind, I think he likes it and doesn't mention it because he knows you will say something about it. Don't let him take over your relationship and tell him.



-TheTeenGirl

So you like your best friend. This is just a typical problem with a typical decision you will have to make, if you get together, and break-up later, its possible to become friends again after the break-up, but it won't be right after. Getting over people that you are in love with and whom you've known for a long time takes a long period of time to restart your friendship. If you really like him, go for it, don't worry about what will happen later, it will come and you will get through the tough times. If you are the one thats broken up with, they won't really be up for being your friend right away because they are sad. So you can still remain friends after if it doesn't work out, but it will take time, lots of time. So go ahead and don't let this chance blow away, be with him, you and your friends and him know you two have to come together, good luck.




-TheTeenGirl

You have been her friend from the beginning, know this. You were her friend when she was happy and herself. But now shes decided that she wants to be something that will put her in the center of attention. You warned her that you like her when shes herself, but she refuses and wants to do this. All you basically can do is let her go and let her take her life somewhere here she will regret it. This has to suck, I know what this is like, to lose a best friend to popularity, sex, drugs. But your friend was probably putting on a sad act for you on the phone, trying hard to make herself unhappy, which isn't smart at all. You did not only express your opinion to her, you tried to save her, but talk to her again. Tell her how much you want the old Deana back, the one you knew. If she still doesn't care to go back, then shes off to the path of a bad life.



-TheTeenGirl

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