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HE'S TO BLIND TO SEE HE'S A FLIRT
My bf of over six months is really sweet and kind and I love him so much and I know he feels the same for me. But he is just to nice and he doesn't notice that his friendliness is kinda flirty but it doesn't bother me because I am the same way. Though lately theres this one girl that likes him and she hits on him all the time and he doesn't notice it and it's really bothering me so what do I tell him becasue he dumped me before for not telling guys to get off me so what should I tell him. I will rate high!
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You should walk up to him and ask him if he notice that chick hiting on him and what is he going to do about it and if he doesn't do enything then ur should
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well honestly i am the same way as you and your b/f so i would tell him that this girl is out to get him and you notice it....way more than he does. and you could offer him a comprimise, you could try not to flirt as much if he will try to realize he's a flirt. especially around this certain girl.
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Go ahead and tell him. He probably does notice it but is to nice to say anything. I would say something but, let him deal with it.
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Thanks for asking.
As for your boyfriend, he probably knows hes being hit on and won't admit it and likes the attention, but you have to fix that. I know being jealous is a bad feeling and nobody wants to feel it, and the last thing you want to do is tell him, but he gets jealous with you too. So I think that you need to express your feelings and tell him to tell this girl to back off. He should tell her because it wouldn't be fair to you if he refused. You need to say, "Hey, you know that girl that you talk to, [Sarah]? Well, I don't like the way shes being towards you, so can you make her back off of you?" Now, don't take no for an answer. You and him know that hes being hit on, and you have to take control, if he doesn't stop her, then you need to dump him to show the consequences that he gave you for not telling guys to back off. If you let this go on, you are giving him more power with this relationship to do more to you, you will let him take advantage of this. So you have to put your foot in when you aren't satified with the way you are being treated. I really don't think hes blind, I think he likes it and doesn't mention it because he knows you will say something about it. Don't let him take over your relationship and tell him.
-TheTeenGirl
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The only thing I will tell you is that when someone having a relationship doesn't flirt at all or ignores a flirt like your bf, then it is time to worry. Those who want to do something behind your back won't flirt in front of you or talk nicely to someone. The most important thing is trust, if you don't trust him then it doesn't worth being with him. I am a guy and i see this problem from his (your bf) point of view. Sometimes we behave like fools (men), chatting with girls and so on but that doesn't mean that we are in to something. If you don't really trust him I would advice you to tell him about it, that you don't like him doing that and ignoring a flirt, but this may result even in a break up so be careful about what you are going to say. However, if you really trust him, then forget about it, you are the one being with him, not someone else...
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well this is a toughy if you say he dosent reliaze it then make him reliaze and well if that dosent work than shit make that flirty bitch reliaze that hes your man not hers good luck
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i kinda am going through the same thing but we didnt brak up and we are in different places...i think that you should tell him that she is always hitting on him and that it bothers you and that he should remove hisself from the situation!
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To be completely honest... I think that' complete bullshit if he tells you that he doesn't notice this girl flirting with him.
I used to have a boyfriend like that. He flirted constantly, and had a couple different girls flirt with him constantly. It was always the same girls. I always asked him to stop, or stop the other girls, and his response was ALWAYS:
"I don't even realize these things. I'm sorry, I'll stop"
It never stopped, and recently, after breaking up a year or two ago, I found out he was cheating on me with those girls the entire time.
Seriously, guys aren't as stupid as they try to sound. It's just easier for them to say that, then to say "I like the attention that I get when I flirt and am flirted with."
If it really bothers you, then you need to say something and actually make him listen to you. If he doesn't care enough to listen to you, like my ex, then break up with him because he isn't worth it.
If you don't do anything about this, then your just going to end up being extremely bitter and untrusting of any guy.
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i think that if he chucked you for the reason your annoyed with him for then you shouldn't sound to annoyed as this will not go down well... instead i think you should remind him of when you last broke up and the reason why then gently tell him how you think he's doing it with other girls, but don't sound as if your blaming him! if he thinks you are over exaggerating then you can get slightly annoyed... after all he was obviously very angry with you when you where flirty with other boys!! Good Luck! But remember don't go on about it, forgive and forget!
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tell him that you dont like girls flirting with him the same way he didn't like guys flirting with you and he should understand.
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