Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
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Member Since: July 2, 2006
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My school's homecoming is in six days, & I just realized that I can't dance. Ideas? (link)
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It doesn't even matter if you can't really dance or not. I don't even think how kids dance at dances is considered dancing. It's basically shaking your butt and grinding with people, that's really all you have to do, and nobody'll notice if you're not grinding like a pro or something, lol. Also, sometimes what I do if I can't dance too well to a song, I'll just stand there and talk to my friends and just you know, sway a little back and forth and tap my foot to the music. Alot of people at dances tend to just sit there and talk for awhile and just listen to the music. I hope I helped.
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15/f
i have a friend but she's not close and we both like the same guy but she nor do my/her friends know that i do.
but me and this guy let's call him G well we know eachother and he's always messing with me he's put his arm around me and is a total gentelmen with me.
But he doesn't even know her that well and her/my friends are trying to hook them up.
what should i do?
ALSO i have a feeling he might ask me out and if he does should i say yes even though my "friend" likes him?
Help please!
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I would tell your friends that you have had feelings for this guy for awhile now. And as for going for him, I think you should. I mean if she was a best friend that'd be a whole nother situation, but if you two aren't really that close of friends, I say you should go for him if he's going to make you happy. And hopefully, by telling your/her friends and her that you like him, her/your friends won't be trying to hook them two up anymore. And believe me, if they don't know eachother that well, I don't think he's going to want to try and get with a stranger. I totally would say yes if he asks you out, but if you really want to keep the friendship with this girl, just think of whats more important to you. Him, or her. I hope I helped.
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ok i like this guy at school but it seems he just wants to be friends everytime im with him i feel as if i could flyy but if im with him and he is hugging another girl my wing crack and i drop to the floor how do i know if he likes me and if i want it to go in another direction how do i tell him with out my heart breaking or being embarrassed???????????
thanks alot
i need help (link)
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Just tell him of your feelings in the best way you feel comfortable so it's more easy. IM, phone, face-to-face, whichever. Just let him know that after getting to know him and everything, you really like him, and was wondering how he felt about you. And let him know that if he doesn't like you in that way, it's totally fine and you hope you guys can remain friends. Better friends then nothing, eh? Well, no matter what, I'm sure you'll be a little nervous and embarassed. Telling your crush is a gutsy things that most girls wouldn't do ; so you doing it would show confidence which is a quality guys like in a gal. But before you tell him, just show him how great you are. Make him laugh and smile, smile at him and laugh with him and listen to what he has to say, and share personal experiences to show how much you guys have in common. And mix a little flirting here and there and see if he flirts back. If he doesn't seem to mind the flirting, then you can try and tell him. I hope I helped.
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i met my boyfriend at camp last year. he asked me out last year, and i said no, and he asked me out this year again, and i didnt want to say yes, but i felt obligated to. he is my first boyfriend and i didnt tell my parents. (dont tell me to tell my parents, becaus eim not going to). ive only told like 3 of my friends about him. but the problem is that i dont like him in "that way". i want to break up with him, but i still want to be friends with him and i dont want to hurt his feelings. what do i do? (link)
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well, no matter what, his feelings are going to get hurt. if there was an easy nice way to break up with someone, i think the world would be a happier place, haha. anyways. just the next time you hang out with him or talk to him, let him know how you're feeling. just be like,"i'm sorry, but lately my feelings have started to shift from girlfriend to just friends. i know you're probably mad right now, so i'll just leave you alone for a bit, but i'd really like to be friends still, so think about it and talk to me later." ( or something like that ) just don't tell him about the last year cause that'd kill him to know his girlfriend felt obligated to date him for that long.
just keep this as a lesson learned: you never need to feel obligated to date someone. just tell them no. it's better to hurt their feelings then, then after there's a bunch of emotions involved.
i hope i helped.
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I`m going to a party with my boyfriend tomorrow. However, the hostess are pretty popular and I know there friends will all be there. I`m good friends with most of the popular crowd, however I feel ackward around some of them.
Any tips on how to survive the night without looking like a lonley loser? (link)
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well, you won't be a lonley loser if you already know some of the popular people and your boyfriend, so you're already half way set! as for those other people you feel slightly akward with, just try your best and get to know them better and share some laughs. even though it may feel awkward, you sort of have to just keep talking to them and try and make it less awkward, and more and more slowly during the conversation, it'll turn less awkward and you might've made a new friend. :D also, if those people are talking to some of the people you're already friends with, just have your friend introduce you two and join in on the conversation. listen to what they have to say, and share a similar experience if you have one. it'll show you guys have something in common, which can be a future good icebreaker to talk to them later. i hope i helped.
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Okay well 14/f. My best friend in the entire world has been being REALLY mean to me lately. I'm thinking that she's jealous, but I don't understand why...She is only mean when we are around other people usually, and I've noticed she always makes herself look better than me in all situations. She always says mean comments and does things to put me down, but that's only when we are hanging around with our group of friends. When we are alone or on the phone, she's nice to me. Online,she makes fun of my guy friends because they are apparently "dorky" to her, so she was making fun of them. I was really angry at her and I confonted her online first after she made the comments about my friends. I told her "why are you saying that about them?" she said "I don't know, I thought you didn't like them" I said "well, they are my friends, just like you are. So please don't talk bad about them, even if you don't like them". I think she got the point because she appologized. But now today in lunch at school, she bragging about herself and then making comments about how I don't have what she has. It was mostly about material items, which I could care less about.
I really don't want to stop being friends with her. I love her to death. She's been my best friend for so long, and I really have more fun with her than anyone. She's like a sister to me and I don't want to lose her.
Please& thankyou (link)
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you need to confront her again, only even more serious this time so she def. knows you mean business. over the week or so, i would save IM conversations and such and little tid bits of what she says and show them to her, and just be like,"do you see how insulting you can be to my friends sometimes? it really hurts my feelings when you make fun of my friends cause you're my friend too, and i wouldn't want somebody making fun of YOU." and just let her know all your feelings about everything ; best friends should be able to be honest with eachother about things. tell her you love her to death and you don't ever want to lose her friendship, but she really needs to stop insulting your other friends because it's really hurting your feelings.
as for the insulting YOU, you need to talk to her about that too. let her know it hurts your feelings when she says things like that cause it only makes you feel bad about yourself. also let her know you don't care whenever she talks about having more material items then you. you just remember that she's just jealous and desperate to look good infront of people, whereas you don't even need to insult people to. and it sounds to me like she has insecurties and is really worried about how people view her and what they think of her. as for insulting YOU ( which she shouldn't even be doing to her BEST FRIEND ), whenever she starts talking about it, just shrug it off and be like "i don't really care for material things." and hopefully that'll make her quiet.
but like i said, just show her the insults she says about you and other people and let her know the way she's behaving towards her best friend isn't really nice and isn't really acting like a best friend should at the moment. best friends shouldn't be dissing on thier best friend.
i hope i helped.
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I need help!!!
I like 2 guys... and I pretty much need advice on what to do. I really like them both but I have no idea who I like better. Can somebody help me? THANKS!
PS: dont tell me to do Pro's and Con's because I already did that and they both turned out the same.
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try going on the date with the both of them. just one weekend, go out with one on Friday, and then go somewhere else with the other guy on Saturday. and then just think about who you felt more comfortable with, who you felt more feelings for during the night, who could could probably see yourself with better, etc. and just talk to them and have fun and get to know them alot better and see who you can talk to and have both serious and goofy conversations and who'll listen to you. then see if you feel stronger feelings for one of them. i hope i helped.
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Okay ijust started highschool and like im realli stressed out cause like my dad has cancer and i think im already failing classes and stuff.... sooo i went to a counsiler and like i started counseling today to help me with all this.....
so my question isi how do i tell my parents about counsiling without like freaking them out??? (link)
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just calmly sit down with your parents and explain to them what's going on. just let them know that the beginning of this school year has been stressful with your dad getting cancer, and the classes and all, so you've decided to start going to counseling because you just need someone to release all your feelings too and help out with advice and everything. your parents shouldn't freak out ; they'll probably understand you just need someone to help you out a bit and make everything a little less stressed, and i'm sure they'll stick behind you and support you. i hope i helped.
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so there is this guy (i'm a girl). well he is my best friend. and we hang out all the time and spend 2 hours on the phone every day. but the problem is that he is totally in love with me.he tels me that almost every day and he knows i like someone else and he always askes me: do you still like him? and that really sucks. and he asked me to go to a movie once. i said yes because he even TOLD me that it's just friendshiply. so after the movie he kissed me.
after that i acted like it never really happened because i just like him as a friend and he knows that. but he just can't leave me alone and he always hugs me when my crush is somewhere near. i tried talking to him and told him in a nice way that he should stop. then he stopes for 10 min. and after that he starts asking me if i still like him and why i even like him and he sais so mean stuff about him. what should i do??
by the way i used to have a crush on my best friend but that was 2 years ago. we werent even friends that time and he did'nt like me so i gave up. and i know i will never love him. i just like him as a friend. and he knows that he is my best friend. is'nt that enough?
please help sorry this was so long (link)
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you need to sit down alone with him and just be honest. tell him you're sorry, but you don't like him that way. you only can see yourselves as friends and nothing more, and you like somebody else and he knows it. and let him know that if he still wants to continue a friendship with you ( and i'm sure he does ) at least, then he can't keep telling you he loves you everyday and always hugging you around your crush and everything it's making the friendship between you guys awkward and everything, and you don't want anything to ruin your friendship with him. just let him know that he's a great guy and everything and you really love hanging out with him, but it's just friends and nothing more. it might hurt his feelings, but you got to let him know. and hopefully, everything'll get better over time. i hope i helped.
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dont even know where too start.
uh, well this all start on the first day of school. i sit down in a seat with my reallllly good friend of 6 years, heather. we have a new bus schedule and it was the first day of highschool, so i was interested in any cute guys. one stop, had this really cute guy named steve on it. i only recongnize him from being on my friends myspaces. so a few days passed and then around wednesday the 13th i added him on myspace and i got his screenname hes a junior, heathers a sophmore, we started talking alot. and i started to like him. the only thing that sucked was that he had a girlfriend, we talked a little over the weekend and he told me to say hey to him on monday. monday finally came and i was sooo excitied, when i got onto the bus i told heather that i had been talking to him and she seemed surprised, because this kid is kind of popular. and so i could tell heather was like jealous that they dont really talk. anyway, me and steve had been talking this whole week and today heather got off at my bus stop, and we were planning on going to the mall. we were sitting in front of the computer and i as usual was talking about steve, and she knows i like him. we were on myspace and we saw that him and his girlfriend brokeup. i was so happy, words couldnt describe. i was talking to him and trying to make him feel better and stuff. heather says "we should tell him to meet us at the mall, i'd probably hook up with him" ....i dont understand how she could say that. and then she kept saying how cute he was. i didnt make the connection that she was starting to like him. after that she left and when we were talking online she said that she decided to go with her friend lilly. i got pissed at that too. so i decided to go with my friend alison, so i posted a myspace bulletin saying oh yay im going with alisonto the mall, and steve i-med me saying oh yay im going to ! lets meet up or something ! i was in suchhh a good mood and then it all fell down. first alison decides to ditch, and go over her friends, then heather callsme asking me if i am coming to the mall, and she also adds that she was sending steve messages back and forth, and she told me to read them, so i go on her myspace and she lied, she reversed everything, like she said that he said that he wanted to hang with her, and on themessages it was backwards. she was the one who wanted to hang with him. anyway so now im home, and im praying that they dont hook up. because that would ruin my life and my friend ship with heather.
this is my question:
do i have a chance ? should i stay liking steve ? and should i still talk to heather ?
if you think i should still like steve.. then do you have any tips for me ?
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Why shouldn't you like Steve? He's single, he's fair game. I know I'm making him sound like a little piece of man-meat or something right now, but you get the jist of it.
Heather's just extremely jealous because you're going to get the cool, popular, cute guy while she gets zip. I'm not too sure if I would continue being friends with her. If she's going to be all dramatic and try and steal your guy, it doesn't sound like she wants you to be happy either, which isn't being a good friend. If she was a good friend she'd be happy for you.
I think you really do have a chance, it sounds like it to me. Just keep talking to him more and more and flirt with him a bit and show him how great of a person you are, and how not great of a person Heather is. And if you're going to hang out with him - don't tell Heather and don't talk to him while Heather's around, cause it's only going to make her want to compete with you for him more and make you more jealous. But in school just keep seeing him, maybe even hug him - suggest a time to really hang at the mall just the two of you since you guys didn't get to before or maybe catch a new flick that's out at the movies.
But if you want to remain friends with Heather, talk to her about this and how you're feeling and everything. She needs to know how she's acting and that she's hurting her friends feelings. And if she doesn't back off still, then like I said before, I suggest forgetting her.
I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out!
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My 3 best friends and I have been best friends for 2 years now and we're extremely close. But here lately one of our friends Kim has been saying a lot of lies like to get one mad at the other. I love her to death but this year she's gotten pretty stuck up and its gotten so bad where none of us call her back when she calls us because we dont believe anything that comes out of her mouth. I dont want to loose her as a friend because I love her i really do. Should the rest of us comfront her and let her know about all the lies we've caught her in? (I dont want her to think we're attacking her or anything) i mean what should we do?
Please help!! (link)
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I think you guys should confront her. Don't do it all three of you at once, cause that'll definetely feel like an attack to her. I would have just one of you do it ( probably you ).
I would just be honest, but try and do it in a nice tone and calm tone so it doesn't sound like you're trying to gang up on her or anything.
Just be like,"Hey, I love you, you know I do, it's just me and ______ have been noticing lately you seem different. I'm not trying to like, attack you or anything it's just you keep lying to us, and we've caught you in a few lies." ( or something like that ) and just explain to her your feelings. If she really was your friend, she'd understand and try and resolve this and fix it. And just explain to her that you really love her and want to remain friends with her, but she can't keep acting this way and lying to you guys. That's now how best friensd act towards one another.
I hope I helped.
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you know, you give really good advice, I never asked for advice but I've seen you around when I give advice and you're a really good advice giver! (link)
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aw, thank you so much! :D
i always hope i'm really helping people, and not giving horrible advice or anything, so it's nice to hear!
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My mom and dad are having some problems and I've been pretty upset about it. My mom basicaly told my dad that she doesn't like him much anymore just because of their arguments in the past. My mom, dad and I always used to go out on Satudays and do things like go out to eat, go to movies and things like that. Now, my dad and I are the only one's that do that while my mom is out with her new friend drinking at bars and things. Most of the time she even just spends the night at here friends house. I've tried talking to her but its just to akward. What in the heck should I do? Is she mabe having an affair? I don't know what to do or think. Any good advice would do me some good right now. Thanks everybody! (link)
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I wouldn't get TOO into it, I agree because it is their business, but you're also their daughter and a part of the family and what's going on between them effects you alot so you should be able to ask at least SOME questions. The next time your mothers at home, just ask her if you can talk to her for a moment. Just be like,"Mom, well, I've noticed all the arguments you and dad have latetly and you're always going out with this friend of yours.. I know it seems a little wrong to ask but, are you having an affair?" And also talk to her about if their possibly getting a divorce. I know divorce seems like a horrible thing, it is, but it does alot of good for the parents. They can be happier and the living enviroments happier and nobody's arguing as much. So would you rather have fighting unhappy parents, or non-fighting happy parents? I can't really tell you if she's having an affair. If it's a girl friend and she's out drinking and everything then I don't think so, haha. But if it's a guy friend, then possibly. I know it's awkward, but it's best to find out ; you really do need to talk to your mother about it and get all those feelings out and questions answered. I hope I helped.
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ok so i dont know how common this is but my boobs are two different sizes. It's been that way for about 2 years now but i always figured they'd just even out. Im 14/f and one is a 32A n the other is a 34A. Is that bad or normal or anything? (link)
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It's perfectly normal. I just saw a girl on tv the other day who had non-symmetrical boobs, and she got it fixed, but I'm not suggesting to get surgery or anything! Yours are only a little smaller/bigger by a little bit, hers were by alot. Alot of people have problems like this. Some people's one arm's longer than the other, some people's eyes aren't in the middle, they might be spaced out more, some peoples ears aren't the same size. And they could always even out. You're only 14 ; the body stops growing and developing at 18, so you still got a good 4 years to grow. And luckily, it's only your boobs, nobody's going to notice. :) I hope I helped.
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me and my boyfriend have had the same problem for like 8 months. he only rarely makes time for me. but we broke up for a month and we got back togheter and he said that he would fix it cuz he really wanted it. HE CAME BACK TO ME .. you know.
but nothign changed, so i confronted him. and hes like well 'well shoot for hangin once or twice a week', and so far he's made no effort.
so is it unfair of me to give him two weeks and if he still makes no time for me i stop giving effort to the relationship. im sick of feeling like its one sided feelings, cuz what he says is so different from what he does. i just dont knwo what i should do .. any ideas? (link)
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I would give him another week or two and see what happens. If nothing does happen, I say dump him. You need a boyfriend who wants to actually spend time with you and make an effort. That's half of what having a relationship is all about. You can't really have a relationship if you guys hardly see eachother or one doesn't make the effort to try. You deserve a guy that'll be there for you and everything, and believe me, there's guys like that out there ; and you'll find them. Once you dump him, he'll realize how dumb he was not to try and spend time with you and he'll want you back. But only, no more chances for him. :) I hope I helped.
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Hi, I am 15/f. I like my brother's friend, who is 17.
One of his other friends' little sister liked him. When he found out, he said he would never go out with her becasue she is his friend's lttle sister...and was pretty much like "Yuck"
Anyways, when I first met him, he already knew my name, but we didn't say much to each other. Then around a week or two later, it seemed like he might like me, because he was looking at me and talking to me and stuff. Although I liked him, I didn't know what to do. I didn't want him to be disgusted, so now I completely ignore him. (I'm weird, I know). And he ignores me as well.
My question is, should I try to flirt with him and sew what happens? Do you think he would ever go out with me? (link)
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Why not, give it a shot! Don't flirt obviously and heavily, though. Just a little bit here and then and see how he reacts to it. If he flirts back, he may like you. It'll be up to him to make the first move, though, and if none is made after awhile, I wouldn't bother with him after awhile because like you said, letting him know of your feelings would ruin the relationship between you guys and it might make things akward.
I'm not too sure if he would, I'm not saying it's because of you, but if he said no to the other girl because she was his friends little sister, then he probably means that rule for all people. :/ But you never know, his mind could change and he might've even just said it because he didn't want to date her and didn't know what else to tell her.
So basically: just flirt a bit and see what happens and if anything continues from there!
I hope I helped.
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ok! (sorry if it's a little long!!) so there is this guy that has liked me for a little while. at first i didn't mind because he's really hott and funny, it's just that he has a really bad history [including being in jail...long story] but anyways he's always waiting for me outside of my class to walk me to my next one, he's always saying how he wants to hang out that weekend and he's always tryin to kiss me [when i don't want him to]...he hasn't been totally successfull with that, he's just gotten my forehead and neck [which i STILL don't want though]. after things i've found out, i would NEVER consider dating him and honestly i don't even really want him as a friend, even moreso when there is some other guy that i really like. if people see us in the halls together or anything, they might assume we're goin out which ruins things with this other guy, and also my reputation since this guys rep is totally smashed after last year. how do i tell him i don't wanna be more than friends??
o! and i'm a 17 female if that helps! =] (link)
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The only real way is to just be completely honest with him. Not BRUTALLY honest, but just a little truthful. Just explain to him that he's a great guy and all, but you can't really pictures yourselves together more as just friends, and you also sort of have your eye on another guy. ( your decision wether you want to add that bit or not, might hurt his feelings a little too much with that info ). And just let him know you're real sorry, but you just didn't want him thinking something and wind up getting let down even worse in the end. It's your decision wether it's face-to-face, over IM, phone, whatever makes you feel most comfortable. But I suggest face-to-face cause it shows you respect him enough to and you're not looking to just blab it all out real quick and then block him or sign off or something. I hope I helped.
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ill try to make this simple. so me and this kid went out for like 2 months and became good friends. well we broke up but still talked but one day we got into a fight and he made me mad so i told him to stay outta my life and never talk to me again. that was in the beginning of summer. so we havent talked. well during the summer i messaged him on myspace and was like i miss talking to you and he said get used to it and then i was like whatever fuck it. well now that school has started im a freshman and hes in 8th grade. so different schools but they are right next to eachother. but we see eachother everyday and like we just stare at eachother & i really miss him but idk how to start talking to him again after that. but i really miss him alot. i was thinking online just send him a chat invitation and then close it and say sorry my computers messed up and then see if that just starts a convo but idk what to do. i miss him so much. please help. (link)
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Well, if you're too afraid to talk to him first in person, just try again over myspace or wherever. Leave him a message just being like,"I know you told me to get used to it, but I really do miss talking to you. It's just, we were fighting and I was upset and I said things I didn't really mean. And it's a new year, and I'd like to start over and be friends again, if you want. Please just think about it and let me know?" ( or something like that ) and just give him time to think about it. If he still doesn't want to continue a friendship, you'll just have to respect his wishes, which hopefully he won't because then that boy can realllllllly hold a grudge. But hopefully, he'll think about it and want to be friends again. Sometimes people get upset and say things they don't mean. I hope I helped.
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ok I'm really confused right now, i Dont know what to do right now. I like my boyfreind brandon, but he can be a huge asshole. he tells me what and what not to do, he critisizes me, and even yells at me, plus he has problems of his own and i can't deal with him and his problems AND my problems alltogether.he also hides things from me, lies to me, and sneaks about everything. I can't ever beleive him. all my freinds say i should dump him, but i still like and care for him. plus he's not ALL bad. i really enjoy being with him. There's also a guy named Russell who seems to be interested in me, and ditto for me. Me and him talk alot on the phone, and he helps me with alot of problems, and I like him too, but i dont want to leave brandon then go out with russell right after, but if i wait for a while then break up with brandon, then russell gets a girlfreind and loses interest in me, then that would SUCK ASS TOTALLY. i dont know what i should do. should i break up with my boyfreind, or give him 1 last chance. If i DO give him 1 more chance, then this will be the 3rd chance i have given him, and im TIRED of playing games with him. what the hell should i do?? (link)
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I agree with your friends, I would dump him. I know you say he's not ALL bad, but there sounds to me like there's alot of bad, and not that much good. No boyfriend should be yelling at their girlfriend, telling them what to do, dumping all their problems on her. That's not what a relationship is supposed to be like.
I would break up with Brandon, and then talk to Russell later that day/night, and let him know that you have feelings for him. You guys don't HAVE to go out right away, you CAN wait a bit, and I doubt Russell would go off and get a girlfriend when he likes you and he knows you like him back. Just let Russell know you want to wait a bit to start a new relationship since you just ended one, and I'm sure he'll understand and wait a bit.
I hope I helped.
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i have this guy friend called Chris and i think he's just the best. he's so funny and caring and just so amazingly awesome!
the other day we were hanging out and just before he left he said he had something to tell me. he told me that he loved me and that he had done ever since the first time he'd met me. then he kiss me and ran out. i realised after he'd left that i'd fallen in love with him too, and it just took him saying it to make me realise that i did. but have i left it too late to tell him?? i don't want him to think that i don't like him and miss my chance but i just don't know how to say it now, the moments kind of gone?!
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You have all the time in the world to tell him you love him. But of course, do it soon if you don't want him thinking you don't like him. Just the next time you're alone with him be like,"You know, I really love you too. I'm sorry I sort of didn't say anything before, I was just suprised. But I'm really happy you do. :D" ( or something like that ). Trust me, you telling him you love him, I don't think he's going to care if you waited a bit to say it. I hope I helped.
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