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Okay well 14/f. My best friend in the entire world has been being REALLY mean to me lately. I'm thinking that she's jealous, but I don't understand why...She is only mean when we are around other people usually, and I've noticed she always makes herself look better than me in all situations. She always says mean comments and does things to put me down, but that's only when we are hanging around with our group of friends. When we are alone or on the phone, she's nice to me. Online,she makes fun of my guy friends because they are apparently "dorky" to her, so she was making fun of them. I was really angry at her and I confonted her online first after she made the comments about my friends. I told her "why are you saying that about them?" she said "I don't know, I thought you didn't like them" I said "well, they are my friends, just like you are. So please don't talk bad about them, even if you don't like them". I think she got the point because she appologized. But now today in lunch at school, she bragging about herself and then making comments about how I don't have what she has. It was mostly about material items, which I could care less about.
I really don't want to stop being friends with her. I love her to death. She's been my best friend for so long, and I really have more fun with her than anyone. She's like a sister to me and I don't want to lose her.
Please& thankyou
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You will tend to notice, as you get older, that the friends that have been your friends "your whole life" start drifting away. That may not be the case here, however. It sounds to me like she's just been in a bad mood lately. Talk it over with her. Let her know how much she means to you as a friend. You have plenty of time to fix this.
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you need to confront her again, only even more serious this time so she def. knows you mean business. over the week or so, i would save IM conversations and such and little tid bits of what she says and show them to her, and just be like,"do you see how insulting you can be to my friends sometimes? it really hurts my feelings when you make fun of my friends cause you're my friend too, and i wouldn't want somebody making fun of YOU." and just let her know all your feelings about everything ; best friends should be able to be honest with eachother about things. tell her you love her to death and you don't ever want to lose her friendship, but she really needs to stop insulting your other friends because it's really hurting your feelings.
as for the insulting YOU, you need to talk to her about that too. let her know it hurts your feelings when she says things like that cause it only makes you feel bad about yourself. also let her know you don't care whenever she talks about having more material items then you. you just remember that she's just jealous and desperate to look good infront of people, whereas you don't even need to insult people to. and it sounds to me like she has insecurties and is really worried about how people view her and what they think of her. as for insulting YOU ( which she shouldn't even be doing to her BEST FRIEND ), whenever she starts talking about it, just shrug it off and be like "i don't really care for material things." and hopefully that'll make her quiet.
but like i said, just show her the insults she says about you and other people and let her know the way she's behaving towards her best friend isn't really nice and isn't really acting like a best friend should at the moment. best friends shouldn't be dissing on thier best friend.
i hope i helped.
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okay i had the same situtation like 2 months ago the same thing happened! but what happened with us that it got so bad she started thinging that i wasnt good enough for her so she started hanging out with the more "popular girls" and yeah the 1st 2 weeks i was so sad but then i relized it was for the best. you need to confront her and ask her if shes going to act like that or change to be ur friend. and if ur friendship ends i bet u'll make a better friends
hope i helped!
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