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this guy who is getting on my nervs
so there is this guy (i'm a girl). well he is my best friend. and we hang out all the time and spend 2 hours on the phone every day. but the problem is that he is totally in love with me.he tels me that almost every day and he knows i like someone else and he always askes me: do you still like him? and that really sucks. and he asked me to go to a movie once. i said yes because he even TOLD me that it's just friendshiply. so after the movie he kissed me.
after that i acted like it never really happened because i just like him as a friend and he knows that. but he just can't leave me alone and he always hugs me when my crush is somewhere near. i tried talking to him and told him in a nice way that he should stop. then he stopes for 10 min. and after that he starts asking me if i still like him and why i even like him and he sais so mean stuff about him. what should i do??
by the way i used to have a crush on my best friend but that was 2 years ago. we werent even friends that time and he did'nt like me so i gave up. and i know i will never love him. i just like him as a friend. and he knows that he is my best friend. is'nt that enough?
please help sorry this was so long
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Saying hey i dont like you obviously isnt working. For some reason its just not going to his brain. Of course you want to be nice because you value the friendship but it can get out of hand very easily. Tell him how much his friendship means to you but STRESS the fact that you only want to be friends.
If he doesn't get it, give him a good slap in the face and go get some coffee.
But seriously, if he can't respect your wishes as far as the friendship goes, let him go. If he really wants your friendship he'll realize he made a big mistake and ask for forgiveness.
Unfortunately, us guys usually don't learn our lessons.
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you need to sit down alone with him and just be honest. tell him you're sorry, but you don't like him that way. you only can see yourselves as friends and nothing more, and you like somebody else and he knows it. and let him know that if he still wants to continue a friendship with you ( and i'm sure he does ) at least, then he can't keep telling you he loves you everyday and always hugging you around your crush and everything it's making the friendship between you guys awkward and everything, and you don't want anything to ruin your friendship with him. just let him know that he's a great guy and everything and you really love hanging out with him, but it's just friends and nothing more. it might hurt his feelings, but you got to let him know. and hopefully, everything'll get better over time. i hope i helped.
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hey you should definetley confront your friend and tell him straight out that you only like him as a friend and always will. make sure he knows that you value his friendship a lot but in a friendly way only. you may also want to mention that his negative behavior -- i.e. talking bad about your crush (he's probably just jealous) -- has to stop, because making by him making your crush look bad isn't making your best friend look any better. i hope i could help you if you need anything else just drop one in my inbox!!
love always,
xoxo amanda
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