Question Posted Thursday September 21 2006, 10:25 pm
me and my boyfriend have had the same problem for like 8 months. he only rarely makes time for me. but we broke up for a month and we got back togheter and he said that he would fix it cuz he really wanted it. HE CAME BACK TO ME .. you know.
but nothign changed, so i confronted him. and hes like well 'well shoot for hangin once or twice a week', and so far he's made no effort.
so is it unfair of me to give him two weeks and if he still makes no time for me i stop giving effort to the relationship. im sick of feeling like its one sided feelings, cuz what he says is so different from what he does. i just dont knwo what i should do .. any ideas?
ECSTATiCrOMANcE answered Friday September 22 2006, 1:02 am: aah , i was JUST in the same position believe it or not . except it was for like a year or so . but , now i`m with someone new and i`m much happier . so , i would say maybe wait another week and if he doesn`t show any more effort than just say your done , because he`s not worth it and the person down below me is right , " actions speak louder than words " . i mean i know you like him , but if there are other people out there for you which i`m sure there are , your better off with them . i`m so much more happier because the guy i`m with now hangs out with me and makes time for me all the time . and you`ll love it . but i`d say give it maybe another week . hope i helped <3 good luck . [ ECSTATiCrOMANcE's advice column | Ask ECSTATiCrOMANcE A Question ]
t0xicParadiSe answered Friday September 22 2006, 12:26 am: Actions speak louder then words. He is not putting any effort in the relationship. It seems to me that he doesn't care much. If he chooses his friends over you, then you don't need a guy like him. He's only going to cause you pain. You shouldn't let him treat you that way. Talk to him one more time and if that doesn't work then
break up with him if you are truely unhappy.
MelLeDisko answered Friday September 22 2006, 12:03 am: I would give him another week or two and see what happens. If nothing does happen, I say dump him. You need a boyfriend who wants to actually spend time with you and make an effort. That's half of what having a relationship is all about. You can't really have a relationship if you guys hardly see eachother or one doesn't make the effort to try. You deserve a guy that'll be there for you and everything, and believe me, there's guys like that out there ; and you'll find them. Once you dump him, he'll realize how dumb he was not to try and spend time with you and he'll want you back. But only, no more chances for him. :) I hope I helped. [ MelLeDisko's advice column | Ask MelLeDisko A Question ]
xojessii answered Thursday September 21 2006, 11:57 pm: Give him like a week or two. I mean you need a trustworthy person who can back their word up, and he doesnt sound like that kind of person. you deserve somebody who will make time for you.
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