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Best Friends
My 3 best friends and I have been best friends for 2 years now and we're extremely close. But here lately one of our friends Kim has been saying a lot of lies like to get one mad at the other. I love her to death but this year she's gotten pretty stuck up and its gotten so bad where none of us call her back when she calls us because we dont believe anything that comes out of her mouth. I dont want to loose her as a friend because I love her i really do. Should the rest of us comfront her and let her know about all the lies we've caught her in? (I dont want her to think we're attacking her or anything) i mean what should we do?
Please help!!
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I think you guys should confront her. Don't do it all three of you at once, cause that'll definetely feel like an attack to her. I would have just one of you do it ( probably you ).
I would just be honest, but try and do it in a nice tone and calm tone so it doesn't sound like you're trying to gang up on her or anything.
Just be like,"Hey, I love you, you know I do, it's just me and ______ have been noticing lately you seem different. I'm not trying to like, attack you or anything it's just you keep lying to us, and we've caught you in a few lies." ( or something like that ) and just explain to her your feelings. If she really was your friend, she'd understand and try and resolve this and fix it. And just explain to her that you really love her and want to remain friends with her, but she can't keep acting this way and lying to you guys. That's now how best friensd act towards one another.
I hope I helped.
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Don't confront her!
Talk to her one-on-one and let her know how much she means to all three of you and that the group wouldn't be the same without her.
She may just be insecure- lying can be a form of attention seeking. Don't try to catch her out in her lies, it'll make her feel worse.
Be understanding and you'll all be closer for it.
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Absoloutely you should confront her about it!! This girl is lying to you all and trying to make you all hate each other and for what reason? You need to speak to her or you will never find out and you will never get it to stop.
On the other hand, I know this might sound far fetched to you and I could be wrong but have you considered that this girl may not be lying but rather passing on information she misunderstood? The only reason I suggest this is that I was in a similar situation when I was at school and everybody thought I was trying to turn everyone against each other. In actual fact, I heard about something and misunderstood the truth.
Speak to her about it. Don't shout or accuse or behave angrily towards her, because chances are that if you do that, she'll be a deer caught in headlights and that will make the situation worse.
Instead, all agree to meet her somewhere and tell her the things she had told you and then the truths of the situation, one lie at a time. See what she has to herself when you are done. If she apologises, forgive her and tell her she has to stop telling people things that she doesn't know are true, otherwise you can't keep being friends.
If she denies the whole thing, you really need to work out what to do about the situation. Unfortunately, lying friends, who then lie about lying are the worst to deal with and it's really up to your friends and you to decide from that point whether you wish to continue your friendship with her or to refuse to put up with her any longer.
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Well first of all what do you like about Kim??? Think to yourself what do you really like about her? Now what did you like about her when she was herself when she doesnt say any lies... what do you like about her now that she says lies?
If you really really want to continue being friends with her, I suggest confronting her and telling her how you feel. Tell her that you are upset that she's saying these lies and if she doesnt stop you'll be mad.
However, if you feel like she's no good and she doesnt deserve a friend like you, tell her that she's change alot and you simply dont want to be around her anymore.
I hope I helped!!!
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