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Ok well im a singer and i sing in like coffee houses and stuff. Well i sing like country music and the 2 songs i always sing are Whiskey Lullaby with a guy and God's Will, and whenver i sing them i always start crying and i dont do a good job, how can i get over this? (link)
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Why do you cry? Is it because the words of the song affect you?
The easiest solution is to sing different songs. I understand that these songs might have an intensely personal and special meaning to you, but that is affecting your ability to perform.
There's nothing wrong with picking other songs that show off your talents and saving these two songs for yourself.
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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened? (link)
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It could mean a lot of different things, but here are the two most likely:
1. You were both together helping kids, so there probably weren't a ton of girls around. He could be a player type of boy that would act this way with girls.
2. He could really like you, but felt too shy to put it into words.
I guess it's up to you to figure out which of these options feels the most true, and then decide what you want to do about it. If you think the second choice is more realistic and genuinely believeable, then you could take the step to get in touch with him.
You're both members of the same church (or I assume) if you were both at the same retreat. Talk to him after services one day, see if he's in the youth group, or ask a mutual friend for his phone number, screenname, or email address.
Whatever happens, or doesn't happen, I wish you the very best.
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Ok this guy really likes me. He asked me out today. I didnt want to hurt his feelings by sayin no so I said I dont know. And he started crying. I felt soo bad. What should i do?? He's 15/m and im 13/f. Please help. I rate high. (link)
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You shouldn't date people because you feel sorry for them. That's not fair to you or the other person.
While it can feel uncomfortable to turn people down, you are not responsible for everyone's feelings. The most you can do in a situation like this is be true to yourself - and polite and warm when you explain to the boy that you don't want to date him.
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Okay so I am 16 my boyfriend is 18, he is leaving for college in august, We were talking last night about how we go so well together and he was telling me how lucky he felt to have me and such. I asked him about what he thought was going to happen after he left, if he thought it would still work and he said "Whell prolly not" I thought he was kidding maybe, so I looked at him blankly and he replied with "well not to be an ass but those situations never really seem to work out, I hope it does but I just dont know" So then I just let it go and said "well we dont have to think about that yet". Ugh it was just really sad, I want to know if I should get out before I fall in love and then he leaves and I have my heart broken or if I should just wait it out and see what may happen, I think that I could be already falling for him...and Im not sure if I should tell him that and if I do im not sure how.....thank you guys :) (link)
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Well, there's always a risk of getting your heartbroken, no matter the situation you're in. That being said, this particular situation does have a pretty high risk factor.
College changes people. They are given huge amounts of freedom, meet tons of new people, and often try things they've not done before. They almost always grow away from those they've left behind.
Some people do stay together, but it sounds as if your boyfriend is already planning on ending things. If he was deadly serious about you and your relationship, he wouldn't already be preparing you for the end of it. A relationship doesn't just happen or not happen, both people have to be committed to putting in the work. And it sounds like he's not that committed.
Your only true choice is to think about whether the risk is worth it to you, and then to talk with your boyfriend. You'll need to explain that you need a real commitment - and that if he can't provide that, you want honesty from him.
If this ends, it'll hurt. You can't escape that. But in the future you'll find someone at the same level as you - in age, relationship readiness, etc.
Best of luck.
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This is SO random..but how much champagne does it take a small 13 year old female to get drunk? Like number of glasses (link)
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A small female that doesn't drink much? My guess is that she'd be feeling the effects of just one glass.
Please note, while many people want to get drunk to feel confident, happy, relaxed, etc - the side effects of drinking too much can totally outweigh any benefits the person was drinking for. These are your typical vomiting and headaches.
Something less people know about is called alcohol poisoning, and it can cause you to die. If you decide to drink, drink responsibly with people who care about you.
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well ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months. we're both 14 and pretty conservative. im not sure what everyone else does but im not sure where we should be in our relationship. if you have any experience with this at all, any help is greatly appreciated. (link)
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It sounds like you already know your own mind, and it also sounds like your boyfriend is on the same page as you.
Those two things are the most important things in regards to relationships, no matter if you're talking about emotional or physical things.
There's no checklist of where you should be at any given time in a relationship. I understand it can be comforting to sort of compare yourself to other people your age, but you'll find 14 year olds that are pregnant and 14 year olds that have never been kissed.
The only thing you can measure yourself against is how you feel. If you're happy with the way things are going, and this relationship makes you feel empowered and joyful - well, there's your answer.
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The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what? (link)
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I think people normally respond with a 'thank you' when they feel they've been given a compliment, and that's what you've done. It makes people feel good to know that people like them - especially when it's someone they care about as a friend or more.
I don't know if he likes you. The obvious two options are that he doesn't - but is flattered - or that he does and was caught off guard.
Either way, I think he was surprised by your comments....especially if he had no idea. I've give him a couple of days to reflect on what you've said. If he doesn't bring the topic up in that time, then YOU bring it up.
You're obviously a girl in touch with her feelings AND her bravery (good for you - it's rare!), so taking the next step to ask his thoughts on what you've said is well within your reach. And as a friend, he must understand that you'll need some sort of response.
Scuffing his feet shows he was nervous, and the smile shows he wasn't displeased. I'd say things are looking up.
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I'm almost 35 years old, and I've never had a sexual relation, therefore I'm a virgin.
However, I'm not sure if I might have already ruptured my hymen.
Because when I was 17, I was once exercizing (quite moderatly), and all of a sudden I felt something rupturing.
It didn't hurt AT ALL...
I just felt something going through my vagina...
I can't tell if I bled because of this, since I was in my period.
(But there was a piece of unknown matter to me on the sanitary towel...)
So, I would like to know if this might have corresponded to the rupture of the hymen, and if I might bleed if I ever have sex.
(Furthermore, I've been a victim of some serious calumnies in the past, and I would be glad if I could prove my virginity if I ever have sex with a man...)
Thank you very much for your reply. (link)
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Your hymen can break while exercising, you're quite right about that. If that was the case, however, you should not have felt any sort of rupture. And if nothing was in your vagina, again, that sensation of something being in your vagina was probably not related to your hymen.
I will say that hymens, when unbroken, start to naturally disintegrate in the mid-teens. It's not uncommon for a 19 year old virgin to have no real hymen left. Chances are that you've not got the idealized version of a hymen - a tightly stretched piece of skin that will 'pop' when you have sex. This isn't reality at all.
As for proving your virginity, if you decide to have sex, have it with a man who would need no proof other than your word. If your partner does not trust you, then he's probably not the best person to sleep with.
Finally, I will point out that you need to be having regular appointments with a gyno. Regardless of whether or not your've had sex, there are still tests that will be done to detect cervical cancer and other problems with your reproductive organs. These tests should be done yearly, and that time will give you a good opportunity to ask a specialist any questions you may have about your sexual health.
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This may seem like a weird question to ask, but sometimes i get vaginal discharge. It is like gooey white stuff in my underwear. I read in magazines that is normal when you are about ready to get your first period, but its been along time and i havent gotten my period yet! I wash around there every night and i wear pads to keep it from not killing my underwear but it still smells bad and keep coming! What should i do? (link)
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You're right - it IS normal for discharge to happen. It will happen before your body is menstruating and then throughout your adulthood. Pantyliners can help, though most discharge is not heavy enough to ruin your panties.
One little known fact is that while hygiene is important, too much washing can actually rid your vagina of healthy bacteria. This can cause strong odours and even infections. When washing your bits (not more than once daily), make sure you clean the folds of your labia (vaginal lips), but DO NOT put soap into your actual vagina. Your body can clean itself out.
As for your period, all you can do is wait. If you are extremely concerned about why it hasn't come, then your doctor is the best person to ask. Likewise, if your discharge is noticeably smelly, a weird colour, or if there's pain in your vaginal area - get to a doctor.
Everything is probably fine. Just have patience for your period AND your vagina. Your body is working to no deadlines, but it's inescapable that sooner or later your period will come.
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is ther any other way to masterbate beside fingering/ plez tell everything!!!! (link)
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Many people think female masturbation is just using a finger to penetrate their vaginas, but that's a common myth. Most females don't masturbate by fingering only, and it's rare for a female to be able to orgasm without some sort of stimulation of the clitoris.
Everyone has different things that make them feel good. You just need to lock your bedroom or bathroom door and spend some time exporing. Use your imagination. Sticking with your washed fingers/hands is the safest, though if you choose to use non-food items make sure they are washed and/or under a condom.
Most females don't need anything aside from their imagination and their hands; you'll need to experiment when you are feeling ready to. If you're just bored and not feeling excited, it's unlikely that anything you do will feel exceptionally good. Some women like to take baths to relax them, some feel most aroused when they first wake up, some read things or look at pictures they find sexy.
Everyone's bodies are different, so you'll need to learn your way around your vaginal area. See which areas feel good when touched. Figure out the sort of touching you like - light, hard, etc. While masturbation can be a tricky thing when you're first starting out, you'll find you've got all the tools to figure out the best way for you.
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ok i have this friend. WE have been friends forever. But last year i started feelin like i was starting to like him as more than a friend. So i saked my friend to ask him out for me (really bad idea) and he said no cuz he didnt wanna ruin our frienship. So another friend asked him and he said no once again. I really really like him and now everytime i see him i feel so awkward and i dont know what to say to him. I feel like now that i have asked him, we arent really friends anymore. But i still really like him and i really wanna gou out with him. Please tell me what i should do, or even what you would do if you were me. Thanks so much (link)
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Well, I think your friend has made it pretty clear that he doesn't want to go out with you. This means that unless you want to make things extra awkward and possibly lose the friendship, you should stop asking him out.
If you are close friends, you'll be able to weather this storm. Let him know that you feel awkward, but that you really want to work through it and remain friends. This conversation can be scary, but it's something that needs to happen if you want to stay close with this guy. The ball is also in your court as you are the one that asked him out.
I think you were really brave to recognize your feelings and act on them, and it's now going to take as much bravery to work through your hurt feelings and this awkwardness.
But I also believe you can do it.
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Ok sorry that this is long but please don't pass over it I really need help.
My parents aren't divorced but they both cheat on each other they basically both get with anything that moves of the opposite sex. My dad is always drunk and is very abusive. My mom isn't physically abusive but she just tells me that I'm a waste of life and that she wishes she never had me and that I'm such a huge mistake and bla, bla, bla but her boyfriend Tom hits me all the time and even rapes me sometimes. I've gone to the police before and they took my parents side because to everyone else they look like such nice people. But at night they're druggies and alcoholics. I even went to social sevices they put me in a home for a week where I started cutting and then they put me right back with them! Lately I met a guy who uses drugs and I've been going out with him. And we were using and did some things and now I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. He was arrested for possesion so I can't go to him. I can't go to my parents. I really don't have any friends who aren't stoners and all they care about is how they're going to get their next fix. I don't know what to do. I've already tried killing myself and it didn't work. I'm soo scared I don't know what to do. I was going to run away but I know that I'll just end up somewhere where there's drugs and I'm really trying to stop. What can I do about all of this? Please help me (link)
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It seems to me that you have several big issues going on, and that maybe you should think about prioritizing them. The pregnancy seems to be your biggest current concern, because you have no safe space to talk to people about it.
I think you need to decide about the pregnancy in your own mind. Your three choices are keeping the baby, getting an abortion, or giving the baby up for adoption. Whatever you decide, you can get professional advice and support from your doctor, your local health clinic, or Planned Parenthood. They have specialists that can talk you through your options and help you make an informed choice that you will feel secure with.
Whatever you decide regarding the pregnancy, you'll also need to start making some choices about YOU. You are being emotionally, physically, and sexually abused. None of it is your fault. If anything, the adults you have confided in have been slack in offering you the type of support and guidance you need.
Was your social worker someone you found easy to talk to? If so, give him/her a call and explain that the situation with your parents has remained the same - and that you are now pregnant. If you didn't like your social worker, you are within your rights to ask for a new social worker. Please know that if you do not wish to contact them directly, you can tell a teacher or other staff person at your school about your home life - they are required to inform social services and will take responsibility to do so. Plus, your school will better be able to offer support.
Getting out of your home, and deciding on what course to take regarding your pregnancy, are your two most important considerations. Once you are bodily and emotionally safe, you're in a much better position to begin to heal - cutting and drug issues are issues that you'll need to get professional help to deal with. Your school might have a counsellor you can begin to work with.
Please note that if you intend to carry on with the pregnancy, drugs could have a very bad effect on the baby.
Now is the time to start worrying about yourself and not about your family; move in with a foster parent, a children's home, or another supportive family member. Being in a safe place can make deciding about the pregnancy and dealing with your additions much more doable.
Best of luck. You CAN do this.
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okay well ive had really bad lower stomach cramps for like the past 4 weeks or so... i got my period like 2 weeks ago adn then i just got it agian last night-- im really scared bc i dont know what could be wrong--could this be some sorta probelm?? or should i just like not even worry about it (link)
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Whenever you are in pain (especially pain for this long) and are worried about it, you need to see your doctor.
Only a doctor can examine you and let you know what's going on, and many issues only get more complex or painful if left untreated. Chances are this is something that can be explained or treated fairly easily, so hurry up and make an appointment!
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i have this BeST friend we have been best friends since pre-k... well just this past few months it seems like i just can't take any more from her.. she always puts me down when it comes to guys.. yeah i have probably had more boyfriends then average.. but atleast i dont hurt them .. and she always gets on to me when i go out with someone knew... its like im gonna kill them or sumtin.. and she always puts me down about it.. she puts me down soo much that some times i wanna die! nd i still wanna be great friends.. but if this is what ahvin a best friend is... then i dont want one...bc im tired of cryin...tired of trying.. i just wannt it to be the way it was....=/.. what should ii do?? (link)
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This isn't what having a best friend should be, but sometimes what should be and what actually is happening are two different things.
If you want to stay friends with her, you'll need to talk to her. Explain that you do not need her judging you, and that you think a friend should offer support and respect. Also firmly but nicely tell her you don't want her to put you down anymore, because she is not helping you - she is hurting you. Let her know how upset you have been.
If she's any sort of friend, she'll listen to what you are saying and try to change.
You also might want to think about how you see yourself. If you feel fine about your dating habits and are genuinely pleased with yourself, you do not have to take to heart what your friend is saying. You are the only one who can judge what is absolutely right for you. Others may try to guess what is going on in your head or tell you that you are wrong, but ultimately YOU are the only person who can make those sort of judgements about yourself.
Find your inner strength, realize you don't need her approval, and then tell her that you will not put up with her disapproval. Even though you should be your own biggest cheerleader, it's hard when your best friend is acting in a way that makes you feel depressed and under pressure.
Best of luck.
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how do you measure your bra size at home?
i need to get a bra I just don't know what size I am. It's been awhile since my last one. (link)
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Many stores offer a bra fitting service; while this can be embarassing for you, the women who do this job have seen all sorts of breasts and can probably even measure you with your current bra on - or even a t shirt.
But to get a rough guide of your bra size from home, you'll need a flexible tape measure.
First you'll need to measure yourself around your torso, underneath your breasts. You need to add 4 or 5 to whatever that measurement is in order to make it an even number. So if you measured 32, your band size would actually be 36. If you measured 33, your band size would be 38.
Next you'll need to measure around your beasts, making sure the tape measure goes across the fullest part - usually in line with your nipples. Make sure the tape is not too tight; you want it to be a loose, comfortable fit without being droopy.
Then you need to figure out the difference. So if you first measured your torso as 32 inches, then added 4, your band size is 36. Then if you measured around your breasts and that number was 36, the difference would be zero. If your breasts were 38, the difference would be two.
So.
Difference of 0: A cup
Difference of 1: B cup
Difference of 2: C cup
and so on.
This is just a rough guide, and when you go to the store you'll want to make sure the bra can fit comfortably on the loosest hooks. The bra should not wrinkle, squish you (making a line across the top of your breasts and making you look like you have 4 boobs!), feel too tight or loose, and it should support you if you jump up and down.
The style of straps, the fabric of the bra, and whether or not it has an underwire will also affect how it feels to you.
This may all sound confusing, but if you've got your basic size, your best bet is to try on loads of bras and pick the one that feels right and most comfortable - and then buy a few of the same one!!
Best of luck.
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[13/f] a friend of mine is being really bitchy. She goes on and on and on about her love life and is always feeling bad. Then when shes feeling bad she turns on me and makes fun of me. Most of the time I understand that shes feeling bad and just take it. But latly it's been going to far. I just feel like crap around her she makes me feel stupid, she doesn't laugh at my jokes. The worst thing about it is that we go out to lunch with each other every single day and only the two of us. (We do have another person who sometimes comes to lunch). The only reason I keep hanging out with her is because I think that she needs my help with her problems, but I'm getting sick and tired of her whining.
Can you help me? Thanks. (link)
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What are YOU getting out of this friendship? Your friend is mean to you, you don't enjoy spending time with her, and you are trying to help her all the time with her problems.
Now, friendships can go through good and bad phases. If it's a true friendship, though, you should be able to explain that even though she's down, she has no right to treat you like crap. And I hope you know that she doesn't.
It's not your responsibility to feel bad about yourself in order to try to make her feel better.
Nor are you responsible for her life.
I'd spend some time really thinking about what this friendship is and is not worth to you. Once things are clear in your head, it'll be easier to talk to her.
Your options? Start spending more time with other people and gradually end the friendship, talk to her about your problems and keep the friendship, talk to her about your problems and end the friendship.
Try to follow your gut feeling on this, considering everything you know about yourself, this person, and the friendship's history. Best of luck.
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I don't really have a specific question I just need some advice on what to do because I have no idea.
Background Info:
Jon and I have known each other and been best friends since we were 4. Our fathers own a law firm together so we're together a lot, obviously. I've only had one real relationship. I've had many boyfriends but only one serious one. Same with him. We're both 17.
Early Jan.:
My parents threw a big block party which Jon and I both attended. I wasn't feeling well that night so we left the street (were the party was) and went to my backyard and just hung out. Everything was going fine until he told me that he wanted us to try to be more than "just friends". I was completely blown away because it came out of no where. At the time, I didn't see him in that way so I let him down. It was weird between us for a while but eventually, things got back to normal. Around early Feb. he met a girl who he claims is "absolutely amazing" and they started dating. I was fine with it.
Now, my real problem:
About a month ago I started to realize that I want to be more than friends and that I do like him. But, he now has a girlfriend in the picture, so there's a problem. I'm not the type to break up a happy couple so I tried to forget about it. But, I couldn't. A friend told me to talk to him about it (she though he still might feel the same way). So, I did and it went horrible. I don't think I've ever known a guy that ever reacted the way he did. All he said was, "I asked you before and you said no. Now you're too F*king late. I like Lauren a lot...you should have F*king said something sooner I can't F*king believe you" and then just stormed off.
That happened 4 days ago and I haven't had the nerve to talk to him since. I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks
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I don't think Jon would have had such an angry reaction if he didn't still care for you. You've put him in an uncomfortable situation. He's probably worked hard to get over you and make a success of his new relationship, and now you're an option to him again.
He has a lot of thinking to do. While his angry reaction is understandable, it's not excuseable. You let him down gently, and he should have had the courtesy to respond in a similar way.
Your options? Wait for him to contact you, or reach out to him.
If you're best friends, you'll work through this one way or another - whether you end up dating or not. The ball is in no one's court; maybe he's sitting waiting for you to call him, just as you're waiting for him to call you.
Best of luck.
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I'm not sure where to turn. I feel like I have run out of options and I just can't cope.
I've seen a pyschiatrist, physchologist, hypnotherapist and counseller- none helped. I recently went to my head of year when things were really too much- to the extent when it was either help or die- and she, although she said she wouldn't since she saw it wouldnt help, has just asked a counseller to speak to me. I need real help. I know it can help to talk through fears and everything but it hasn't helped me in the past and I cannot put myself through the pain of living for the date where I saw a therapist and begging them to help me. It was hell and it never really helped anything.
I need SOMETHING more now. Things are really bad at the moment. It's hard to explain but basically I have complete phobias of lots of things (certain films, accents, places, anything) that I can relate to a certain person who hurt me. I don't want to go into this since it's not overly relevent to this question.
I just want to know if there is ANYTHING else out there. I really don't know what to do. I want to die. I feel like everything is helpless and no one can help me. I'm not allowed medication as the pyschiatrist felt I was too dependant on things. I don't know where else to turn. My parents don't either.
The reason I went to my head of year was for this reason- I am totally stuck. I can't handle it. I feel like I am falling and no one can stop me. I need help so badly- I just can't see anything out there.
Please reply if you can; thankyou xxxx (link)
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I would say the best option is, in fact, therapy. For therapy to work, you need to find a therapist you feel comfortable with - and then you need to stick with it.
Counselling can often uncover uncomfortable feelings and force you to really own how you are feeling at present. It doesn't happen overnight, as I'm sure you're aware, and sometimes good therapy can take months or even years.
I'd consider searching for your own therapist - you have every right to be picky when it comes to your mental health.
I'd also ask about the possibility of group sessions in your area - the community mental health team will be able to link you up with volunteer groups, social groups, or support groups of people your own age. They can also help you find advocates, which is someone who will represent you to your school, parents, psychiatrists, etc.
I applaud you for realizing you need to work through your problems, but you'll need to follow through. First, find a counsellor YOU trust. Next, try keeping a daily journal where you write about your fears, hopes, frustrations, or daily experiences. In this way, you can explore yourself as deeply as you can in therapy.
Everything will take time; wounds heal best when they heal slowly. You can't just wave a magic wand or slap a plaster on mental hurts (unfortunately!), but you CAN make a commitment to value your mental health.
Do that by working with a counsellor that works exclusively with young people, by contacting your local advice & guidance service for young people, etc. There are also phonelines you can call to speak confidentially with someone about your problems and how you feel they could best be helped.
Best of luck.
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ok this girl that i like ive heard she said that im clingy.. well im not really sure what she means. and im not sure what to do about it. so my question is what can i do not to be clingy and still have her like interested in me and what you think clingy means, like try to explain it?! thanks soo much! (link)
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'Clingy' generally means that you're cramping someone's style. This could happen if you are constantly hanging around her, calling her, texting her, etc. She wants space.
How to not be clingy? Be aware that a relationship is about two people, and if one of the people is not interested in merging completely into a couple, the other one needs to respect that.
Now, there's nothing wrong with you being you. Sometimes people are clingy if they feel a bit insecure, or if they're just over-eager to let someone know they like them. Unfortuneately, being clingy can be seen a a big turn-off - so the more time you spend with this person, the less she likes you.
Back off. Think carefully about if you want to find someone who will accept you for who you are, or if you want to change your behaviours for this girl.
Best of luck.
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i want to be a camp councillor during the summer but dont have alot of ideas about how to keep clildren occupied in a unique way. Any ideas? (link)
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Any good camp will have what is called 'pre-camp.' It's a time before the summer starts when all the staff live on camp and learn the camp songs, games, and other activities they can do with children.
Most camps have really busy schedules - the kids will be in activity after activity, and it's the just the in between time that you'll need to entertain them. Pre-camp will help you build appropriate skills to work with the kids, and you'll also find that you'll naturally develop Magical Entertainment Skills, which every good counselor becomes an expert at.
This isn't something that can be taught, but it IS something that can be learned. So interview at several camps, get a feel for them, and ask about their training. Nobody comes to camp knowing everything, but they leave knowing SO MUCH MORE than they came with.
And if it's this summer you want a job for - hurry up! Most camps begin hiring in January or February, so you'll need to move quickly to find a job. You can do a search on the internet, call your local Girl Scout council/YMCA for an application, or ask around and see which camps sound good.
Camp is an incredible place, so the very best of luck finding the right camp for you!
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