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[13/f] a friend of mine is being really bitchy. She goes on and on and on about her love life and is always feeling bad. Then when shes feeling bad she turns on me and makes fun of me. Most of the time I understand that shes feeling bad and just take it. But latly it's been going to far. I just feel like crap around her she makes me feel stupid, she doesn't laugh at my jokes. The worst thing about it is that we go out to lunch with each other every single day and only the two of us. (We do have another person who sometimes comes to lunch). The only reason I keep hanging out with her is because I think that she needs my help with her problems, but I'm getting sick and tired of her whining.
Can you help me? Thanks.
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What are YOU getting out of this friendship? Your friend is mean to you, you don't enjoy spending time with her, and you are trying to help her all the time with her problems.
Now, friendships can go through good and bad phases. If it's a true friendship, though, you should be able to explain that even though she's down, she has no right to treat you like crap. And I hope you know that she doesn't.
It's not your responsibility to feel bad about yourself in order to try to make her feel better.
Nor are you responsible for her life.
I'd spend some time really thinking about what this friendship is and is not worth to you. Once things are clear in your head, it'll be easier to talk to her.
Your options? Start spending more time with other people and gradually end the friendship, talk to her about your problems and keep the friendship, talk to her about your problems and end the friendship.
Try to follow your gut feeling on this, considering everything you know about yourself, this person, and the friendship's history. Best of luck.
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