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my best friend makes me feel like i want to die
i have this BeST friend we have been best friends since pre-k... well just this past few months it seems like i just can't take any more from her.. she always puts me down when it comes to guys.. yeah i have probably had more boyfriends then average.. but atleast i dont hurt them .. and she always gets on to me when i go out with someone knew... its like im gonna kill them or sumtin.. and she always puts me down about it.. she puts me down soo much that some times i wanna die! nd i still wanna be great friends.. but if this is what ahvin a best friend is... then i dont want one...bc im tired of cryin...tired of trying.. i just wannt it to be the way it was....=/.. what should ii do??
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This isn't what having a best friend should be, but sometimes what should be and what actually is happening are two different things.
If you want to stay friends with her, you'll need to talk to her. Explain that you do not need her judging you, and that you think a friend should offer support and respect. Also firmly but nicely tell her you don't want her to put you down anymore, because she is not helping you - she is hurting you. Let her know how upset you have been.
If she's any sort of friend, she'll listen to what you are saying and try to change.
You also might want to think about how you see yourself. If you feel fine about your dating habits and are genuinely pleased with yourself, you do not have to take to heart what your friend is saying. You are the only one who can judge what is absolutely right for you. Others may try to guess what is going on in your head or tell you that you are wrong, but ultimately YOU are the only person who can make those sort of judgements about yourself.
Find your inner strength, realize you don't need her approval, and then tell her that you will not put up with her disapproval. Even though you should be your own biggest cheerleader, it's hard when your best friend is acting in a way that makes you feel depressed and under pressure.
Best of luck.
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