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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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WHat if the whole skool find out that your pregnant. But you didn't want errybody to know. You told the one person you thought you could trust, and they told. What do I do? Should I deney it or should I say something to that person I told?
The best thing is to not say anything to her. If she was truly your friend she will tell you that she told. Dont deny it just dont say anything. Because you say something to someone that asks they may tell someone else and the story will be totally different. By the time it gets back to you it will be something totally opposite to what you said. If you dont say anything it will eventually blow over and something else will happen that they will be talking about. Dont tell that friend anything else because it sounds like you cant trust them.
my ex boyfriend of over 2 months is talking to another girl but yet he still talks to me when he sees me and talks to me on aim and everything and he toild my friend that we was gettin back 2gether but we dont never get to talk about it becasue everytime we finally talk she calls him...he told me that it would be easier if we went to the same school and im moving to the school that he goes to next semester but i cant go right now like he wants me to because that would be crazy to move in the middle of the first semester ya know...he told all my friends he still likes me but he needs time to think and that he cares about me and likes me alot but its hard so what should i do?
He needs some time to figuare out what he wants. Which gives you time to finish out the semester and then transfer. HE is talking to this girl because he doesnt know what he wants. I know it is hard to talk to him about it because it seems like she is always around. The best thing is to keep him occupied until you move to his school. The best thing that a guy likes is a patient women and you shouldnt worry things will work out the way they are suppose to.
One of my friends think that i have been practicing witchcraft and black magic. She thinks i have become a witch and she keeps scolding me. I told her im not a witch and she keeps lecturing me; What should i do?
If she is accusing you of such things then she is not your friend. A true friend would believe you no matter what. A wya to get her to stop is by proving that you dont do thigs like that. Invite her to your house and show her that you have normal things in your normal room. If you show her that there is no witchcraft in your home then she will finally leave you alone.
if i ask a question on here like just a random one like this can you see who its from?
Not unless you type your name we wont ever see it. Whatever you write is what we will see.
my best friend since auguest is a grade lower than me. well obviously she knew my crush (in my grade) because i would obsess over him every day. well she went out with my freind in my grade. they broke up. but then today, i head that she was going out with my crush and its true!! im so mad at her! how LOW is that?!!! shes like "i thought you didnt like him anymore" im like "COME ON thats why i talk about him and obsess over him every day!!???!!!! give me a effin break!" so i was a crying during school. i HATE THIS. she broke up with him but im NEVER going to forgive her for this!!!
what do i do? thanks 4 reading
I know friends like that. Tell my friend a secret and what does she do makes sure that it doesnt happen for me. Your friends are suppose to support you know matter what and they are not suppose to make sure things that you want not happen. If she is goin gto do that then she is not your friend. The best thing to do is to either forgive her this time but tell her not to do it again or not forgive her and get him. Maybe if you just asked him to go to the movies with your friends and his friends you could get him to like you instead of your friend.
Hey, there's this guy,...let's call him *Gavin*. Well, i dont know *Gavin* that well. but this is what i do know,...he's a football player, he's not real smart, he friends with alot of people and he's nice and funny, and a little retarded sometimes,...and i think he's shy,...but i kind of like *Gavin* but i dont know him that well,...what should i do to get to know him better? or for him to notice me?
Well you could invite your friends and him and his friends to do something. If you hang out with him more outside of school then you will get to know him personally. If you get to know him better then it will increase the chance of you guys dating.
Ok, my gramma has cancer and shes dying. We dont think she will make it until Christmas. I have a big family, and we are all very close, so it's a sad thing. But for some reason, i just dont feel sad. I feel guilty, it feels like i dont care. I know i do care, but i dont feel sad. It seems like everyone else is sad except me. Am i like a bad person? Is this normal? Please help!
No you are not a bad person. My grandma died from cancer to. I didnt cry at her funeral and i wont go to her grave. I just acted like i didnt care but i did. Sometimes we like to hide our feelings and not show them to anyone so they dont know how we feel. They told us my grnadma wouldnt live no more than 3 months but she lived 4 years. No doctor can predict when a person is suppose to truly die. It is normal for a person to feel that way. Dont worry your not alone. Just try and make the best out of what little time you have.
my best friend is acting werid! she got mad at me because i told her i wanted my straightner back and she got all mad and didnt talk to me for the rest of the day and took me out of her profile.. what should i do?
Well i dont think you deserved to be treated like that unless you meant it in a mean but i doubt that if she is your friend. I think maybe you should write her a note and ask why she got so upset about soething like that. If she gets mad over things like that then she isnt really your friend. At least most friends dont treat you like that. Maybe if you ask her what her problem is will you be able to solve the mystery to her behavior.
Ok im a BOY and 14 years old...i like another girl...she is pretty kind to me and is 16...idk how i shud tell her that i rlly love her...ask her e-mail?go to a movie with her?please help!
I think that going to the movies is a good idea but invite more friends to come along and that way you gte to know her better and it is not awkard for the both of you. If you go to the movies you can find out if she likes you to. You can actually get comfortable with a person this way.
ok i'm 13 yrs old and i' a lil bit emberaced to say this bu tmy boyfrind wants to finger me and i'v nvr done it b 4 i mean i wanna do it but i'm just thinkin ...will it hurt...and thoes kinda questions...what should i do..please help meeee
It is the same as wearing a tampon but it doesnt really so i have heard from my friends. Dont worry about it. If you dont want to do it then he souldnt put any pressure on you.
ok this is my problem.whenever am about to haave a confrotation or fighting with anyone,my heart starts beating really first and its not like am afraid of the person its just i hate drama happening to me and i hate fights.i just want it to stop but i dont know what to do.anyone out there please help me i cant stand it no more.
girl in despair
Sometimes when we are angry with someone your heart begins to beat really fast. The best way to get out of those situations is to not get into any fights. I know sometimes people just get you into a place where you just want to blow-up. If you dont say anything you wont have to worry about these things. And eventually you learn to confront people in a calm way without violence or fighting. Tyr and getting along with someone for one day then try two days and then see how long you can do it. It will get easier i promise.
my hair isnt naturally straight..its wavy and puffy. and i use a staightener in the morning and i walk to school. by the end of 2nd period my hair is wavyish and puffyish. does anybody have and techniques on how to straighten hair so it doesnt do that?? thanx
Well i have the same problem. What i do is wash it. Then blow dry it but i blow-dry it in sections. First i put it in a half-ponytail and then after it is dry i take some hair off the sides and then blow-dry it and then i take the rest. When you do this it blowdries straight. Then you plung in your straightner. You do the same technique. Divide the hair into a half-ponytail and straighten it. But when you straighten it do it very slowly it makes it straighter that way. When you are done straightening the first section you put that straighten hair ina ponytail that way you keep the straightened and unstraighten hair separate. When you straighten this way you are getting the middle and the layers. If you keep doing it this way your hair learns to be straight and will eventually be trained to be straight.
SORRY IT'S LONG BUT PLESE HELP
Ok where do I start?Let me first explain that as a girl I'm not pretty but I'm not ugly either,I don't get attention from boys especially not popular ones I only get attention from older men and other people that I would so not like to date
But recentley a quite popular boy has seriously been onto me and he tells all my friends and everyone else how much he likes me and how he thinks I like him.He is like really popular and can have any girls in schoool he wants so why me?the thing is I don't actually like him. I mean I want a bf and all cause I've never had one but I'm not that desperate,he's like really sweet and all and my sister and most of my friends like him and think we suit eachother but I just don't see it.I have been trying to come up with plans that can get rid of him but none of them ever suceed and last week I over heard him telling his friend that he was going to ask me out and when he does I don't actually want to say yes but I need a good reason to say no don't I? just incase he asks why I don't want to go all in explaining how I don't feel that way about him so my only option is to say that I already have a bf but I don't like lying so can someone like tell me how to get one and QUICK PLEASE
I think that you should tell you want to be friends. Or find a different guy. You could probably find one in a chatroom if you dont want to lie. Or you could tell him you like someone else. I always did that to get a guy not to like me anymore so i am sure it will work for you to. You just have to think of a person that you like. In case he asks b/c if you dont have a person he will knoe you dont like anyone else.
I recently asked a question about my ex boyfriend but ne'wayz. He likes this girl and i dont really want him to go out with her because i still have feelings for him! i dumped him tho so i shouldnt care but i do! I can't go back out with him cuz I need to obey my parents (at least for awhile) how can I stop loving him???
Thanks,
Missing him to death!
There is no easy way for you to forget him or the feelings you have for him. The best thing to do is to find someone that you like and date them. Or do something that takes time to finish just to keep your mind off of him. Its hard to let someone date even though you still like him. If you focus all your time on yourself then you wont really think about him.
I'm not normal. I never have been, but I used to have friends. When I went to college I stayed in touch with two high school friends for three years, then lost touch with them. I graduated from college six years ago. I have no friends from college. I had a friend where I worked during school, but when I got a new job we lost touch. I even swore to him we wouldn't lose touch, that I wouldn't make that mistake, but it happened anyway. All my acquainances now are co-workers, and I don't hang out with any of them. My brother is three years younger than I am, and we spent two years together in college, where we grew very close and spent a lot of time drinking together. But that was six years ago, and since then he has lived 2 1/2 hours away. We don't drink anymore. We have common interests, such as backpacking, hunting, and skiing, but lately I get the feeling that he does these things with me more out of obligation than anything else. He has a closely knit social network, people he's been friends with for years. It's me. Something's wrong with me. I've rationalized that I didn't need to make new friends because I have my wife and my brother, but now I feel him slipping away. Life at home is business as usual--not an active, close friendship so much as a partnership. Our common interest is our child. I guess I'm feeling lonely and alienated. Yet I aknowledge that I've alienated myself from others, not the other way around. I didn't mind losing touch with my other friends, because maintaining long-distance friendships is a burden to me. But I never thought I'd lose touch (emotionally) with my brother. I'm convinced he enjoys the company of his friends more than my company. He's on his way up to see me for a few days. We're going deer hunting. I thought he'd be staying for the weekend (it's Wednesday), but I spoke to my parents today and he told them he'd be leaving Friday night, because "sitting in the woods for two days is enough." This is what's eating away at me. Is two days with ME long enough? Why didn't he tell me he only wanted to hunt for two days? Why hasn't he considered the possibility of staying the weekend and doing something else with me besides hunting. It's as if he's only coming up here to hunt with me, and only to please me. And once he's fulfilled that obligation, he's going home to be with his real friends. You're all going to tell me I'm reading too much into his comment. But the fact remains that I feel as if we're estranged, and it's really upsetting me. He seems to get irritated with me easily. I feel as if I have to walk on eggshells around him. Obviously, considering the backstory I've given you, I don't blame him for this situation--I blame myself. He's the one with a group of old friends, and I have none. But I'm afraid to tell him what I'm telling you guys because if I'm imagining it all, I'm afraid he's going to be put off. (Eggshells!) OK--what are your reactions to my story?????
I think that you are so afraid of losing contact with your friends that you really did. When we dont conquer our fears they sometimes conquer us and let them happen. Maybe you should go into a chatroom and find people in your area. Meeting people on the internet is sometimes a bad thing but if you just want to be friends with them then thats ok. Find someone that you can really talk to as a friend. If you wish to find your old friends try a search for them and regain your touch wit them. I think that your brother is not getting irritated with you at all. He may seem that way. Sometimes when people act like that there is somehting wrong or they feel a certain pain that they really want to share with you but cant. Maybe you and your wife should go out for a night just to get your life back on track. Its not good to worry to much. Maybe you should just concentrate on yourself for now and that way you wont think about what has happened. When your brother comes just make the best of what time you have with him. If you do this i promise it will help. Take it one day at a time and you should be ok.
hey i dont have a question i just wanted to tell you i also want to be a phsciatrist!!! or give ppl advice that is y i made mine!!! lol um good luck!!!!! buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
Thanks for the luck. I hope you do well to lol.
Ok Me and My boyfriend broke up the other day due to he liked another girl! It broke my heart, I was mad, and I could have pinched his head off. But now he acts like he likes me AGAIN! Like when I was sitting at lunch today with some girls he kept looking at me for long periods of time. He does that even when I pass him in the hall. And when he sees me on the bus he will look for me and when he sees me he will smile. And at other times he will ignore me and just look at me. So Whats going on???!?!? Signed Confused! (Smarty Pants will be reported.)
He is not even worth. If he truly liked you then he would have not even done that to you. I" think you should like someone else for the reason that you can do better. I think that he regrets not being with you.
Do any other girls have a list of qualities that they want in a potential boyfriend? I have a list of about 20 things that I want a guy to have before I date him.
For example, he must be a non-smoker, have a good job, live on his own, be neat in appearance, have a vehicle, and no children from a previous relationship. These are just some of the things. I had one guy ask me out but because he lived with his mother and smoked I turned him down. Another guy asked me out and he had a 5 year old daughter, so I turned him down to. Some people say I being too picky, well I tell them I just have high standards.
Part of the reason for this is because my last boyfriend was a total loser. He was on welfare, he didnt have a car or a license, he was dirty, he smoked, and was financially and mentally abusive to me.
Do any other woman have high standards? And do you think I'm being too picky? Also do you think I'm scared of being hurt again so that is why I strive so high, and subconsiously I'm doing this so I won't have a boyfriend again?
I like high standards. I am christia so i was raised up to have high standards. I always made a list especially when icking the right guy for me. We have alot of the same qualities about finding the guy. You will find someone that has the same beliefs as you and you will be very happy.You are not picky at all. If you hang out with someone that ahs those bad habis then he will rub the bad habits onto you and you wil start to do them so you want someone that doesnt do them.
Lately ive been so stressed , its not even funny... my best(guy)friend who i kinda like, I dont even know whether or not anymore got a new gf and shes like my friend and she told me that if i wasnt ok with it that she wouldnt go out with him but what am i supposed to do be like no you cant when i know how much my friend likes her... i couldnt do that to him now i dunno i dunno whether i feel like i want to cry or what, im thinking if i try to like a guy and get a boyfriend i wont be stressed about it anymore and crap like that but i dunno i do like him but im so happy for him at the same time cuase he likes her so much and i cant find anyone to like or who i thinks cute, and i cant stop thinking about it, and today i saw him kiss her, whats my problem why i cant i just be like no i dont like you you have agf whos my friend and now who likes you... ugh something inside of me just wants to break... :( anyhelp...
I know what it is like to have bite your tongue especially for the guy you like. I know you dont know what to do. Maybe if you didnt so much as concentrate on him but yourself. If you concentrate on yourself then you wont be thinking about him. Your fried offered to give him up and i know that you cant let her do that. I had a friend who dated my other friend and i tryd to break them up b/c i liked the guy. Well i succeeded but i lost the guy and my best friend. Dont do what i did. I knwo that you just want to break and that is nderstandable. But you should look around at people in your school and find someone you find attractive. Or go to the mall and see you find anyone hott. This is your life you have to make yourself happy or you will always just be miserable until you meet another great guy.
might be long but I'll try thanks for that,I broke up with my boy friend its about 6months now We had good relationship until the day we broke up we never had any problems we were 1year and 4month dating,until the day he got interested to one of the ladys he said they are friends ,we broke up within a week he dated the friend, so the problem is I can't get over him, we break the contact for two months we had to because the girl friend was on action too through our break up, suddenly he starts calling me , sms, e-mailing me just wanted to know how I am and so on, I know he is got a pride he is difficult we even discussed the fact that to what he is doing what is he gonna do when he finds that he misses me he said he is gonna call me when he misses me,deep down I know I dont want him back a lot has happened through our break, but I feel like my soul needs him even if I dont since we broke up I lost love for anyone, so now since we talk shall I tell him how I feel? but I dont he is gonna think I'm sycho he new that I loved him, the other problem I'm not sure what he wants, he is organising to work in my town but you can't predict him he is so tough, sometimes I feel like I'm a treat to him he always make sure that he does nothing which make him seem like a fool to me such as to swallow his pride especial now we no longer together, it was easy b4 coz I used to confront him about that he admitted so it was easy to solve things. what do i do
I dont thin he is the right person. I knwo that you think you cant love another person but that will change when you meet someone that you cant live without and this guy that you broke up with is ot the guy. If he truly cared about you he wouldnt be doing what he did. You sound like a nice and smart girl so dot make the wrong decision. If you get back together with him he is just going to break your heart again. A way t get over him is to find an activity you enjoy doing ad do that and that will keep your mind off of him for awile.