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Q: I have a puffy face as a side effect from taking antidepressants. I hate it. My face is so puffy, my eyes look like they're being swallowed and they look all tiny. My cheeks are huge too. Anything that will help with this?
Thanks.

ice and contact the doctor whom gave them to you.. its probably a good idea to stop taking them but if you have been takin them from a while yuo wil lhave to slowly stop taken them.. you may be allergic

Q: 16/m
Well there is this girl who is my best friend, and she has this boyfriend who she's not so crazy about. Anyway, I hate the fact that she's dating this guy, and I think I would feel the same way about any guy who she dated. I want to se her happy even if that means her dating some guy, but it absolutely tears me appart seeing her enjoy being with a guy that isn't me. I just have no idea how to handle any of this, and just avoiding the situation and not having her in my life would be horrible because she is so nice and fun to be with. Any ideas??

Do you believe you really love this girl? If so tell her how you feel. First off you have to decide if telling her while she is dating this guy when they break up would be better. I know you say she isn't so crazy about this boy. Are you sure? Is she unhappy. Now what are you going to say to her and how to say it. First off say it to her face not in a not, not in a text message not online. In person. Tell her what you have said on here. That you want her to be happy regardless. It tears you up to see her with anyone. now decide if you want to tell her you love her.

Q: is it true that when you put butter on your boobs, they grow bigger???????/???//??//?

unforantly no it does not work lol.

Q: 14-f

ok so last night i went to a party and i met this REALLY hot guy who is 17, after a while i drank a little bit too much and this morning he sent me a text saying that i was the best he ever had, need to do it again soon. and im pretty sure u know what im talking about when he said best i ever had, considering i woke up in his room...... what am i supposed to do????????????????????????? should i see him again??

i if you want to see him again see him.
but i think you should get to know him.

Q: i heard this saying in a song " find your calling"

and i dont really understand what it means. haha.
can someone explain?

well in my situation i am weighing out my options for college trying to see what im good at and what i will ba happy with doing. its just trying to say find what god placed you on earth to do what makes you happy doing and you could be sucessful.

Q: a guy asked me if i wanted to try smoking with him and i said sure because i like him a lot. and so we were walking to his brother's apartement and he started making out with me really randomly,,he was going a little too far and i told him to stop. he got really mad and started yelling and then he walked away. wht am i supposed to do, i dont want to ruin our friendship!!!

hun if he was yelling at your and stuff just because you told him no he is not a friend and you don't need to be treated that way. he just wants to have sex with you. you may not feel like that is what he is going after but it doesnt always look that way at first. I know you really like this boy but he doesnt care about you enough to respect your decision it is not worth the pain and suffering you will go through when he hurts you. im sorry and good luck.

Q: i bleached my hair about five weeks ago and i'm really sick of it. anyone who is experienced with hair or who has personally done this before, is it too early to dye it back dark?

start light and work your way dark i would honeslty wait 3 months. before trying. but you dont have to dye it light brown wait 2-3 weeks and try a little bit darker then 2-3 weeks and dye it the color you want.

Q: 19 female. i like and HAVE liked this guy joe who is 18, for awhile now. we're pretty good friends too, so you wouldnt think it would be hard for me to ask him to hang out right? WRONG.

i'm always so nervous of getting rejected, who isnt? so i never ask him to hangout, i rarely text him first, it's how i am. lately i've been getting better. my friend gave me 4 free tickets to a major league baseball game sunday, so of course i think about asking joe to come. this was our conversation:

me: hey my friend is giving me four tickets for the baseball game friday. i'm going to find two other people to come, but do you want to come?
him: i have a football game.
me: on a sunday? werid. just thought id ask.
him: you said friday!
me: oh sorry i meant sunday.
him: what time?
me: 1:10
him: i have a hockey game.

...REJECTED:( i mean i know he's not lying, i know he does play hockey and football, he wouldnt lie to me but i just feel dumb. and i have these handcuffs and he stole the keys from me so then i was like:

me: will you like leave my keys at your neighbors tomorrow since me and my friend will be over there (i didnt want it to be a hassle and bug him so i said that..)
him: just come get them
me: will you be home?
him: sometime yea
me: ok i'll just text you and see if your home
him: alright

is it me or does he always seem short with me? or is that how boys just are? and now i have to see him tomorrow, i will be embarassed because i asked him to go to the game and he couldnt. maybe its just me overanalyzing but i dont know. what do you guys think?

guys are like that. hard to understand. it is easier to be straight forward with them instead of hinting around. with my husband when we were dating i used to be that way. i learned to just tell him if i want to spend alone time with him. i tell him hey i want to spend alone time with this day this time. and he agrees lol. just tell him you want to hang out with him or ask him if you could attend his games? or tell him you have liked him for a while. with the keys you could do like hints hed understand like.. can i get my keys back to the handcuffs or ill have to come use them on you something like that.

Q: I like this guy at school, and he likes me, he asked me out at the start of the year like 2nd day of school and i said no because im not the most confident person around guys. I gues is how i would put it. He told me a couple of weeks ago he still has feelings for me and that he loves me. Then he asked me what i thought of him i told him i do like him to and yeh from then on we got closer. He is now my boyfriend. Im a shy kind of person and im happy to admit that but it gets the better of me. The other day after we said goodbye and hugged, he kissed me, i froze, and kind of stepped back. I didnt expect him to kiss me. the next night he asked me whether i think of him differently because of what happened but i dont. i love him just as much. But he asked me why i stepped back. i answered "i wasn't expecting it, i gues." he didnt mind. but since then we hug and stuff but we dont kiss. I Havent kissed any one ever before and it kinda freaks me out. He always askes me if we could kiss. I always say yes but i chicken out when it happens at the last minute. I dont know why. It gets really awkward. I want to kiss him but ive never kissed someone before and i just chicken out :( hellpppp...

ok i think it is the point that you have not yet kissed someone before, besides when he kissed you. so you are nervous, nervous you wont be good? let him know that he would be the first guy for you to kiss so you always chicked out. it is perfectly fine to be shy. but to get over this. you have to suck it up sorry if that sounded bossy lol. just look your self in the mirror and say i am going to kiss "his name" next time i see him. walk up to him put your hand on his cheek tilt your head and kiss him. dont be scared he really likes you or else he wouldnt try so much. its a kiss its not like sex or anything like that.. now if you really feel you are not ready hold off.

Q: The other day i was talking with friends and then my boyfriend came over and we walked over to the side of the building were no one was and then all off a sudden i froze and started crying :(. I dont know why. My friends say it might have been from all of the emotion over the last few days, but i dont know. Its like when im around him i mentaly crash but when im near my friends i can hold it in i dont know why.. it was awkward between us for the rest of the day because i walked off on him when i started to cry.. he thought it was because of him but i explained it wasnt and that i had no idea why i was crying.... (i walked off coz im self consious and i hate getting embarassed)i hate crying in front of people.... Can anyone help???

well there are alot of reasons it may have happen. such as are you scared to be around him. maybe you feel he could be cheating or you dont trust him. or you feel you are being dishonest with him. have you told him why you have been emotional the last few days trying talking to him about everything. let him know whats been bothering you.

Q: Please, i just started my 4th round of my period. And i need to wear a tampon, but i don't want to. But i go swimming and stuff like that a lot, so please, what should I do!!??

Once you get used to wearing a tampon which may take a while they are much more comfortable than a pad.. place your foot on the seat of a toliet or something to place it in its easier. i use tampax pleral.

Q: umm ok, me and this girl got in a fight about a year ago (im in 8th grade) and we used to be like best friends, but now that we got in the huggeeeeee fight, i just want it all to be over. i still lke her as a friend, like well not really. but shes friends with all my other friends.
i have heard that she has been talking about me behind my back, and now its all really akward between us. what can i do so we can just be friends?

from - can i fix this?

Well I am not sure what the fight is about. Just tell her I don't really like that you are talking about me behind my back. I just want this fight to be over with. I am sorry for the fight that we got into the year before. I think it is stupid we are still fighting and are not friends because of it.

Q: i thick i am gey but i dont know how to tell my mom i am onlly 14

You are probably not gay. Well that isn't true. You could be.. but you are probably just confused. There are websites and stuff that can tell you more about it. You could also be bisexual. Where you like men and woman both. You may turn Gay or Straight later down the road if you find that one. Someone who just knocks you off your feet. Remember you are wanting to tell your mother and I am most certain your mom loves you very much and will support you through your tough times and in your confusin of not knowing what you are yet. Just tell her. Say mom. I know i am only 14 but I am not sure if i am completely straight or straight at all.

Q: Now that I am or anything, I swear I'm not that young, but I'm just curious :)

Depends.. if you are saying love, to have sex or something like that. more and likely no i would say dont do it. dont think it dont plan on it etc. but i am a mother of young children.. my husband and i both had a child before we were 18 so we are kinda tough on our children to not make the choices we did.

yes it is possible. but more and likelt in high school.
i say this because you are very young.. i mean can you honestly sit down and write down was love really is?

Q: What are the signs that a guy is cheating on you?

ah.. well we will base this one off my last ex boyfriend..

first sign.. if you live with them, you find a earing or a pony tail things like that... they tell you i dont know how it got there and you know it is not yours..

he is always accusing you of cheating when your not.

when you feel deep down that you just know hes cheating he acts akward.

i am sorry if you have a boyfriend who is cheating on you. just remember there are plenty of guys out there who wont cheat on you or wont make you feel that way.

Q: I just can't stop having sex. It's awful. I seem to wake up every morning with a new woman in my bed. Sometimes more then one. I always use a condom, but the thing that bothers me is I'm homosexual. Why can't I stop having mad sex with women?

maybe you havent yet accepted what you are. or you are bi sexual you like men and woman or you are just not positive. something inside of you might say you want woman but you say you want men.. life like that is confusing. as well as having a sex addiction. off the top of my head i cant remember the name of it. i am going to give you a web site to go to.. when it says molesters and things like that. dont listen to that that is only some people.

http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm

also you can google sex addiction. or how to get help for a sex addiction..

there is help i used to be one.. and i dont know how i got over it.. sometimes i am horny all day long. my husband has no problem with it lol. but it may be harder for a man to settle down if they dont get help because a lot of woman dont like it. good luck.

Q: I want to be a social worker when i grow up. I would like to volunteer at an Abuse Child Care center but it has to be in Colorado.

If you can help me, i would be very appreiciative!

you are just like me. I waas to be a social worker but there is no college near me i may try and take the classes online. any who.. finding a shelter.. you can go to a counsler or look in the phone book for social workers. also going to your job and famly services or career center they could help you find a social worker. meet up with on and get their intake on the job. my cousin used to work as a social worker.. when you go to a home to take a child out of the home that is dangerous to them you usally go with two police officers. it can get dangerous. but remember you are doing it for the child you have to keep your emotions inside you. and be the best person you can be for that child. my cousin wasnt able to handle it but that doesnt mean you cant. a social worker can help you find a shelter for woman. and you can help the woman that come in with there children. something like that.

Q: ill try and keep this short.

- met a guy here where i live. we get along fine, but sometimes we don't much to talk about nor do we seem to have much fun.

- met a guy online (never internet dated before/kind of against it). real sweet, we webcam all the time, we always have things to say, we make eachother laugh, etc.

i'm so confused, what do i do!?!? i like both guys, but obviously one over the other. but he lives in a different state/havent even met him in person. the other guy lives by me but doesn't fit me like the other guy does.

help! D: thank you guys so much.

you don't have to pick a guy right now. honestly. your could wait 5 years and still be unsure about what you want. obviously the guy that lives by you isn't your type or what you are looking for. i would just be friends with him talk to him here and there or not at all. The guys who lives in a different state could be tricky. but a lot of people are doing that site now to meet someone. so internet dating must work sometimes. if you two are truely ment to be together you two will find away to be together everything will just work out. make sure you take your time in getting to know him. internet dating can be very risky.. but since you have seen him on webcam that does make a difference then those you talk to a guy and havent every meet him. take it slow though.. i meet my ex boyfriend online. and meet his cousin through him.. i ended up marrying his cousin. he was jerk. good luck hun.

Q: is it okay for a 19 year old to date a 24 year old? just curious to everyone's opinions :) thanks!

My husband and I are 5 years apart as well. I am 18 and he will be 23 in November. Its perfectly fine.

Q: Okay, so here's the story.
I'm 15/f and my ex boyfriend is 15 too. When we were about 7 months into the relationship, I became pregnant, I decided to keep the baby. This put a lot of stress on the relationship. We went out for just about a year. I decided it was time to breakup with him because I was feeling like that was the right thing to do at the time. I regret it extremely, but it's something I have to live with. I do still believe we have feelings for each other.

(With the pregnancy thing, please don't judge me, I used protection, and I still don't regret having sex with him.)

The problem is, I've had 4 boys in my life before, and each was different, and I learned sort of how to compare one to the other and realize if I loved or not. He's never had another girlfriend but me, so he thinks he loves me, but he really has no prior experience and it can be hard to tell with your first.
This boy, my ex boyfriend now, I believe is the absolute love of my life. I just simply can't get over him. It's been about two weeks now, and I think it's best to let him just move along and date again because then he may be able to just get a little bit more of an idea of who he likes in a girl. It's really hard. I can tell that I'm having a harder problem with it than him, because I'm constantly thinking of him ect.

He still calls every once in a while, and we get along. He will text me occasionally, and we have yet to hangout, but he told me that in the next few weeks we will.
(he will still be here for me and the baby, he has made that very clear)

So I really don't know exactly what I'm asking here, maybe for some advice, and if you agree that by him going out with other girls, he will gain more experience and knowledge about what he wants in them/life/expectations etc.. and he will really be able to tell he was in love with me or not.
Because with my first boyfriend I swore I thought I was in love, but in the end, realized I wasn't.

Just help!

He doesn't have to go with other girls to know if he loves you or not.
You two are about to have a child together if you haven't already had it.
I know when I got pregnant with my first child I was very very young. I new I wouldn't be with my son's father my whole life. But it was nice pretending. The whole time I was pregnant he cheated on me. After I had my son he moved in that lasted a week. I broke up with him and kicked him out. All he did was sit there eat and watch tv. oh and sleep.
If you have a guy who feels he truely loves you and you truely love him. don't let him go even if he lacks in the relationship ways. he obviously knows he loves you and for your kids sake try and work things out.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.