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long sorry. but my life is complicated
Okay, so here's the story.
I'm 15/f and my ex boyfriend is 15 too. When we were about 7 months into the relationship, I became pregnant, I decided to keep the baby. This put a lot of stress on the relationship. We went out for just about a year. I decided it was time to breakup with him because I was feeling like that was the right thing to do at the time. I regret it extremely, but it's something I have to live with. I do still believe we have feelings for each other.
(With the pregnancy thing, please don't judge me, I used protection, and I still don't regret having sex with him.)
The problem is, I've had 4 boys in my life before, and each was different, and I learned sort of how to compare one to the other and realize if I loved or not. He's never had another girlfriend but me, so he thinks he loves me, but he really has no prior experience and it can be hard to tell with your first.
This boy, my ex boyfriend now, I believe is the absolute love of my life. I just simply can't get over him. It's been about two weeks now, and I think it's best to let him just move along and date again because then he may be able to just get a little bit more of an idea of who he likes in a girl. It's really hard. I can tell that I'm having a harder problem with it than him, because I'm constantly thinking of him ect.
He still calls every once in a while, and we get along. He will text me occasionally, and we have yet to hangout, but he told me that in the next few weeks we will.
(he will still be here for me and the baby, he has made that very clear)
So I really don't know exactly what I'm asking here, maybe for some advice, and if you agree that by him going out with other girls, he will gain more experience and knowledge about what he wants in them/life/expectations etc.. and he will really be able to tell he was in love with me or not.
Because with my first boyfriend I swore I thought I was in love, but in the end, realized I wasn't.
Just help!
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Hey sweety,
First of all, I want to say CONGRATS on keeping the baby. I was 15 years old when I had my baby and everyone gave me hell..So I know how that causes stress not only in your relationship, but friendships and social networks too...Im 19 now and the baby's father and I have been broken up a while and it took me until a couple years ago to know I didn't love him like I thought I did. KNOWING when you love someone does take experience and a lot of trial and tribulations. However, even though you want to know if by him dating other women will make him realize if his love for you is stronger, I don't think it's a wise decision. I think you two should try to work it out now and try to make it a trial and success rather than a trial and error. I hope I helped :)
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He doesn't have to go with other girls to know if he loves you or not.
You two are about to have a child together if you haven't already had it.
I know when I got pregnant with my first child I was very very young. I new I wouldn't be with my son's father my whole life. But it was nice pretending. The whole time I was pregnant he cheated on me. After I had my son he moved in that lasted a week. I broke up with him and kicked him out. All he did was sit there eat and watch tv. oh and sleep.
If you have a guy who feels he truely loves you and you truely love him. don't let him go even if he lacks in the relationship ways. he obviously knows he loves you and for your kids sake try and work things out.
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hey heeey... you know what i think is that you need to stop over analysing the situation and try plan for his future. he can make his own decisions and i rekon love isnt something that needs to be experimented on. your really not going to like it if he was with another girl. its really going to hurt you and i dont want you to go through that. give him some space to clear his head and let him think about what he really wants. if theres still a connection adn still a spark between you two then let him know before its too late. dont wait until hes with another girl because what if that girl wont let him go??things can get conplicated. just give him space then tell him that you still miss him and want to try work things out
P.S dont worry i dont judge you at all
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Just give it time. it has only been two weeks....I have been trying for a month to get over a somebody. If you two are meant to be, it will happen...We never know about the future, but just remember no matter what you do, the way things are suppose to happen will happen..^^
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