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Is it possible to fallin LOVE when you're about 12-13 years old?
Now that I am or anything, I swear I'm not that young, but I'm just curious :)
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you know what you feel, who gives a shit what you call it. dont let people tell you what you can and cant feel.
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its not love its infatuation. A crush is very passionate but youre not in love until the person you adores, adores you back. More like worship each other. He loves you so much and you love him so much. Youre "in" love.
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No. Anyone that says otherwise is wrong. The end.
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Depends.. if you are saying love, to have sex or something like that. more and likely no i would say dont do it. dont think it dont plan on it etc. but i am a mother of young children.. my husband and i both had a child before we were 18 so we are kinda tough on our children to not make the choices we did.
yes it is possible. but more and likelt in high school.
i say this because you are very young.. i mean can you honestly sit down and write down was love really is?
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Depends on what you mean by love really...
If I’m totally honest about what I believe, I look at what the human brain is capable of, and from that perspective, then no, probably not.
A person isn’t capable of the kinds of thinking that leads to a healthy and happy love much before your late teens. The brain just hasn’t acquired the skills yet: the advanced ability to empathize and the recognition of shared humanity, and a strong enough understanding of oneself. The adolescent brain is actually wired AGIANST such things. On a physical level the adolescent brain is wired to be self-centered, slightly selfish, contrary and explorative. Those things run contrary to the best expressions of love. You are sixteen or seventeen are the very earliest when you start to transition out of that.
But they aren’t bad things! Being selfish is part of learning who you are and what you can accept, being contrary and explorative and part of learning who others are, and how to be good to them. The brain chemistry is still shifting and evolving. There is still a lot more information to be processed before you start to really make any sense of how to be good to another person, let alone how to love them.
In my opinion, these limits on the adolescent brain makes what I would deem ‘love’ completely impossible until rather late into your teens, and unlikely until the early twenties. Obsession, sure. Infatuation, sure. Sincere Affection, absolutely. Love, probably not.
Love, for very young teens is mostly mimicry. They take the word, and the pictures and stories they are presented in the world around them and go "Yep! I know I'm in love" the same way a toddler might say “I’m 2 years old!” The toddler actually has no damn clue what it really means to be two, but everyone says it, and tells them is means such-and-such, so it must be true. They just apply the label to something ‘cause everyone else does. They have no clue what it means. They might be three years old in fact... but if no one says that, it doesn’t matter.
Having said that, there is no reason people can't say they are in love. There is no single, definite definition of the word. Men who beat thier wives into a bloody pulp each night might claim to be in love... I'd think they were wrong too, but it doesn't matter soo much what I think. It's certainly very possible for people who met in their early teens to evolve and grow together into a mature and sophisticated love. It’s also completely possible for someone in their thirties to NEVER be capable of what the kind of cognisant, committed affection and adoration that I’m calling love.
So really, it depends entirely on your definition, but I'd encourage you to keep an open mind and realize, at least on some level, that the ways you express and experience love as an adult, will be very, very different then what you are capable of experiencing at 13.
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