Member Since: September 18, 2009
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Last Update: September 21, 2009
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16/m
Well there is this girl who is my best friend, and she has this boyfriend who she's not so crazy about. Anyway, I hate the fact that she's dating this guy, and I think I would feel the same way about any guy who she dated. I want to se her happy even if that means her dating some guy, but it absolutely tears me appart seeing her enjoy being with a guy that isn't me. I just have no idea how to handle any of this, and just avoiding the situation and not having her in my life would be horrible because she is so nice and fun to be with. Any ideas?? (link)
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try telling her how you feel. whatever happens, happens. at least you wont be sitting here thinking what ifff
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I just broke up with my Ex... 3 days ago...
This other guy, whom I've REALLY, REALLY liked for
AGEESSS!!!! asked me out today, I told him I'd let
him know.
Do you think it's too soon to be with somebody else?
Because I really care about this new dude... And
have very few feelings for my ex.
What's your view on the situation?
xx (link)
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no go for it. you owe to yourself to be in a happy relationship. definitely do it and im happy for you.
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Ok, I'm 21/F and have a pretty good life. I have a few good friends, a great family and go to college. The problem is, I am extremely closed off. I don't let anyone get too close. If I feel a guy or even a friend is trying to get closer, I back off or start to become a big bitch. I have been hurt in the past badly, but I'm not even sure if that's why I am this way. My mom even says I have this big wall in front of me and haven't dropped my guard down for years. I'm terrified I'm going to always be alone because of this. I do attract many good guys, but as soon as they find out how emotionally unavailable I am, they get frustrated and back off. My friends have said that I won't even let them get too close. What am I supposed to do? I want to be more open, but than an open heart can allow pain and hurt to get inside. My thought is it's better to be safe than sorry. Should I just start taking the risk? (link)
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well its like this: you take alot of risks, have a lot of fun, make a lot of memories, but of course there will be a time when something happens and you regret doing something or letting someone in. but when that happens, just remember you had some great times and now you need to move on and make new ones. i used to be just like you. never telling anyone how i really feel. not being able to keep boyfriends because i could put in what they wanted. it does feel good to hide behind a wall and never feel pain, but its more fulfilling to make mistakes and have healthy experiences.
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17/f
my mom is really annoying, about stupid stuff. like i don't like football games, i used to but now were not allowed to walk around, and you just stand there in the crowd, and you can't talk, because its too loud, and i don't like football, so its just not enjoyable. well my mom is like why don't you want to go, why aren't you going, you'll regret it. grrrrrrrrrrr. & like homecoming, i don't like dances, i never have.
how can i explain this to her, so it will sink in? (link)
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just explain to her that youre just not into those things and even though you can image that she'd love to do that stuff all over again, that you too are different people. you have your interests and school activities arent one of them. its not something you should be ashamed of or guilted into doing.
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i was watching the movie "Adventureland" and they were... im guessing 18-19 and smoking pot and drinking. I know smoking pot and under aged drinking is illegal and that its just a movie but, is it ok to do those things at that age? Does everybody do it? i'm usually 100% a good girl (A+ student) etc. And would never consider smoking pot or drinking, but i can't help but wonder... HELP! i am currently only 13 though and will not smoke pot at this age. but
1.) is it ok at that age?
2.) does everbody do it?
- so confused.
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i smoked when i was 12. its becomes known as you leave middle school and extremely popular in high school. yes, a lot of people smoke and drink. they're just having fun. of course you dont have to do these things. but it is common.
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16f I have been talkn to this guy for a while now like over 6 months on and off. He did something messed up to me that we stopped talking. that was a while ago so weve been fine now and then he got mad at me and we stopped talking for like a few days and its been a week that were talking again but its like we never have a full conversation, he answers my texts really late, or doesnt at all. So i heard that to get a guy to want you more its good to act like you kind of dont care and dont be waiting by the phone or let him text you. So guys, does this work when a girl doesnt talk to you.. do you want her more and does it make you talk to her? (link)
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it's not that they like us not calling. its that they need their space. they dont wanna think youre obsessed with them and need to talk everyday. if you wanna be with him tell him straight up and if hes into it, he'll tell you. if not, stop texting him. either he'll come around or you need to move on. but dont waste your time wondering if he'll talk to you. and wait til he texts you. if he wants to talk, he'll talk.
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Every day's an argument with my boyfriend, and it's only on ONE topic: my really good friend who happens to be a guy as well. I think that makes him uncomfortable. We've talked about it before, this has been going on for weeks. I've tried to make him understand he's strictly my friend and nothing else, and that's it.
Example: I went out with my guy friend & a few other girl friends, and we saw a movie my boyfriend wanted to see with me. He spazzed the fuck out saying that I went against my word when I didnt promise anything. Everyday's a fight over my friend. I can't do it anymore but I'm not gonna drop my friend over this since they didn't do anything to me or him. (link)
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If you were to drop anyone in this situation, it should be your boyfriend. tell him you can't have a relationship where someone doesnt trust you or gets jealous over a best friend. either he changes his ways or dump him. why be together if its going to be a constant fight. thats not love.
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15F US.
Hello,
Me and this guy started dating about two weeks ago. He seems to really like me, And I really like him.
But then just last night. He broke up with me out of no where. He told me we should give eachother time.
But the thing is he and I dated for about three months. (We broke up, And started dating again.)
I really think I loved him, Because everytime someone would bring him up I would just cry. I got a text from him saying "Just because I broke up with you doesn't mean we cant be friends." And well- I don't want to be friends. It hurts so bad that he broke up with me.
I thought the only way to get over him was to move on. So I started dating this cute new guy from school. But everyone wants to fight him, Because I guess he talks crap. I don't care what anyone thinks, Because I might really like him.
But I still think that I like my Ex. So how long will it take for me to get over my ex. Should I stay with the guy I'm dating right now? Or should I take time. My ex found out I was dating him, And he thinks that just because I'm dating this new Guy that I should be happy. And I am. For sure. But I heard that my ex was going to date this other girl, and he shoves it in my face saying how hot she is. But I could never shove anything in his face like that. He's calling me a slut because I'm dating this new guy. This is basically my symapathedic cry for help. ):
-Lost and in love? (link)
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You need to tell him if he wants to be friends, he needs to not be so immature. tell him he should be happy for you and remind me that you dont judge his love life. you should stick with this new guy. the faster you start liking him, the faster you'll get over your ex.
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There is this girl at school and she hates me. I have no idea why because she hated me since middle school. I'm 15. She keeps asking me why I am staring at her and when i try to answer, she says to shut up and says not to talk to her. Everyone else in her posse laughs. I even lost a friend to her. The rumor that she (the bully) spread to get my friend on her side was saying that I love her boyfriend and he hates me when, in fact, it's the opposite. One more thing, I am trying to ignore her. A couple of days ago, I was just coming out of the cafeteria when she said, "What the f*** are YOU looking at?" I didn't even look her way. Dad said to ignore and if it continues to go to the vice principal but that rarely works. Any advice would be helpful...THANKS!!! (link)
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you should change schools. when a bully makes her target, she'll never leave you alone. it's fun for her to make fun of you. it makes her feel like a bad ass in front of her friends. if you really want to get away, leave the school. you should get a backbone and start talking shit back to her. play her game or leave.
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i ate like 3 or 4 fiber one bars today, i had one for breakfast, one for lunch, one when i got home and one after dinner, i never had them before and they were really good, haha.. whoops, i didn't see all the calories in them, but anyway, should i not have ate so many? because i got a really bad stomach ache.. just wondering if that linked it to my stomach ache. (link)
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fiber boosts your digestive system so if you ate that much, you probably just have to go to the bathroom.
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I asked you for some advice quite a few months back and I got a very good response for what I needed to get out in the open. Things are a little different now than then, though. Looking in from the outside I'm sure people are confused as to why I should have any reason to complain about my life. I still have so much more than I could have ever asked for. Two jobs, I'm graduating high school next month, going to the college of my dreams this fall, a good car, I recently got casted as the lead role in a movie, I'm always out and about, almost never sitting at home with nothing to do. However - when it comes to any sort of trust in people, I have none. I recently lost the two people who I considered the closest friends I've ever encountered in my life. One, Johnny, is no longer talking to me because his girlfriend told him not to talk to myself and someone he's known since they were little, John, after we told him about her cheating on him. (We tried to get through to him that she's controlling him but he's become obsessed with her, it's kind of frightening, actually.) My other so-called best friend, Elaine, moved away and has barely contacted more than 3 times since. The few months prior to her leaving I was picking up on a lot of insincerities in what she would say to me and the way she acted. Yes, I have people I hang out with but I don't trust any of them worth a damn. I'm so sick of always being in a crowd of people, the one cracking all the jokes and making everyone laugh, but inside feeling so alone. I try my best to make everyone else happy but no one tries to do the same for me. No one seems to understand the concepts behind friendship, trust, love, caring... I'm so tired of it. I've been breaking down more than usual because of this. How can I let go of this anger that's building in my heart for humans in general, just sit back and wait for a day when someone will come into my life worth trusting rather than searching so hard for something that's not there? (link)
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you can never really trust someone but you should be around the people you have FUN with. people that make YOU laugh.
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alright, i think my friend likes the boy i like and she isnt giving up, but she said she can tell he likes me by the way he looks at me. she said he has that look in his eyes like im the only girl in the world he cares about. if she likes him but she thinks he likes me why wont she give up? i really like him, but he wont talk to me, why is that? is he to nervous to or what? shes the type of girl who will go up to anyone and make conversation. i would be devestated if he liked her but, hey, what can ya do. here are a few things, he looks at me alot and when i look at him we keep contact for 3-5 seconds then he looks away. he never says what he is planning to around me. idk what happens around my friend and him. but to make a long story short, do you think he likes me or her and why do you think my friend wont quit if she has a feeling he likes me?
thanks! (link)
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you must not be making it clear you have an interest in him too or else she would back off. but she would think you were a bad friend for taking him when you know she likes him. it would be awkward to have her around him while you were going out. and if he did start liking her, you need to tell her it would be awkward for you if she was going out with him.
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14/f
22/m
.........I was never plagued by the crushes my friends had for their male teachers in grade school. I always thought it was so stupid. Why like someone you OBVIOUSLY can't have?
But, now, unknowlingly, it's happened to me.
When I first met my History teacher, I thought him to be very odd, if not a bit unself-confident and awkward. I didn't really think I'd enjoy the class at all.
Then, suddenly I've realized a month later I have a small crush. A pat on the arm makes my heart leap. A smile makes me warm and happy. A note of approval on my work makes the sun shine. You know the feeling you get with a regular crush, except this time the crush is 8 years older than you.
I am VERY VERY good at hiding crushes, but... still.. this is a really really awkward situation to be in and I don't want it to happen. I want to get over it ASAP. I can hide my feelings, but I'm bad at getting rid of them. It's only natural I'd like this teacher, as we share almost all the same interests and get along well, plus he's just overall very goofy and fun to be around, and treats me with respect no boy my age does. Even though he isn't very attractive, I like his personality.
I know, I will get over it. I know I like him because he's so kind and mature, and this is my heart screaming "I want a guy like this when I'm older!!" But... how do I get over it more quickly?
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try to focus on someone else. that always helps me get over someone.
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I am in seventh grade I am going out with this girl that really likes me and I like her but alot of stuff has been going on and her friends make fun of me behind my back Say stuff to her about me and I have heard other stuff but. How do I break up with her!? Through a note or something? HELP! (link)
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dont break out with her through a note! not over the phone, do it in person. it'll make it less awkward to see each other after you break up. and dont tell her the reason for breaking up with her is that her friends are making fun of you. she WILL tell her friends and they WILL make fun of you even meaner than before. and always be nice to her after. dont be those couple who break up and hate each other. trust me.
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i have this friend sierra well shes been my best friend ever sence kindergarden and i started dateing this boy robert and i love him so much i think shes geles and robert asked me if i would go to a carnivel with him and i said yes but now sierra wont talk to me eney more what should i do (link)
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you need to talk to her and get her to confess why she's not talking to you. and you need to get a new best friend because shes immature
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i thick i am gey but i dont know how to tell my mom i am onlly 14
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if you think youre gay, then youre gay. you shouldnt tell youre parent until you are much older though.
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ok so i started workin out and lifting weights and running at shit like that but i was wonderin if it would make me loose my boobs or my ass beacuse last year in track when i did that shit it seamed like my boobs shrank!! and my friend said that it did....does it??? (link)
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your ass and boobs ARE fat so when you lose weight of course you lose them too.
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16/f/UK.
So I started college a couple weeks ago, & there's a guy I really like there. Basically I want to get his attention but I'm not sure how to do it.
The first day I met him I sat down opposite him in a class & as we didn't know anyone around us, we worked together. He was really friendly & smiled at me a lot, & I noticed him looking over at me a lot.
We had a few classes together, & I'd catch him looking at me a lot. I'd notice him staring at me whenever I walked into a room. Later, we had a class together, & he came & sat near me, even though he already had a really good seat in another room & we were talking and I'd often make him laugh, & when we weren't talking, we'd sometimes make eye contact and smile. He always uses my name & he asked what my last name was & kept checking that he knew how to spell it (I thought this was maybe so he could add me on facebook, but he hasn't). We don't really speak much, but sometimes he does things like poke me on the shoulder, and we smile like we have this understanding.
However, there's this other girl that obviously likes him (I'm pretty sure she said she has a boyfriend but he doesn't go to our college) and she's SO flirty with him, she always sits next to him & whenever something funny happens in class they look over at each other & smile. And now they hang out a lot.
So, what should I do to catch his attention? I'm really shy so find it hard to do the upfront stuff this other girl does. I was wondering if maybe I should do the more mysterious thing so maybe he'd start to notice me instead? But that might not work, so what do you think I should do?
Thanks, x (link)
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Look the best you can, starting talking to him more, tell him if anythings going on with him and the girl and admit that youre a little jealous.
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Now that I am or anything, I swear I'm not that young, but I'm just curious :) (link)
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its not love its infatuation. A crush is very passionate but youre not in love until the person you adores, adores you back. More like worship each other. He loves you so much and you love him so much. Youre "in" love.
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What are the signs that a guy is cheating on you? (link)
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1) accusing you of cheating or becoming jealous easily 2)not being jealous at all as if its okay to be with other people. 3) acting shady 4) spending less time with you 4) acting uninterested or less interested
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