Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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my friend is constantly trying to leave me out of stuff with some of my other friends. i'm not talking about just like hanging out at someone's house or something, i mean other stuff. it's hard to explain. why is she doing this? how do i avoid it? or what should i do? (link)
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I would talk to your friend about it and see what's going on. I did this once along time ago with an old friend of mine, and it was just because I wanted a little space from her, you know? Spend some time with my other friends. Sometimes this could also mean a slight hint that she's moving on, moving towards other friends, which can tend to happen throughout the years during school. Friendships come and go. But that just might be some of the many options.
Like I said, talk to her. Let her know how you're feeling and how you've noticed lately she's been sort of leaving you out of stuff that her and her other friends do, and why does she do it? Is she mad at you or what? And just let feelings out, talk about it, and hopefully resolve it.
If she's just going to ignore the question though and not resolve it, it sounds to me like she's not being a very good friend to you, and I might want to reconsider continuing it.
I hope everything works out okay, and I hope I helped.
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Okay, so if a guy asks you to slow dance with them, that doesn't make them your boyfriend or anyhthing...does it? And it's perfectly normal to dance with more than one guys..right? Also if you're going to the homecoming with a guy, are they considered your boyfriend...or if they aren't can you dance with other guys at the homecoming too...? (link)
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Haha, no. Not at all. I went to my last school dance with my guy friend and that was it and we slow danced, but that didn't mean we were boyfriend and girlfriend. You can dance with whomever you want to without it meaning you're dating them or anything. I hope I helped.
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Is there a way to delete all of your past google searches and your entire internet explorer history (you know how when you start to type in an adress or a search the word pops up)
Thanks in Advanced! (link)
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Well, I have Firefox, but it should be pretty much the same on every kind of internet.
You just go to TOOLS or OPTIONS, whichever and go to PRIVATE DATA/PRIVACY and find the history area, and then there should be two things you can do. You can either just click "CLEAR HISTORY" or there might be a little thing that says "Remember pages visted after the last __ days", and you can just change it to 0 so it never remembers. And then you just click whichever and save, and then check to make sure all your sites are gone!
Hope I helped.
If I didn't answer good for your internet, just message me again and explain to me what it's like and I'll help you out more. ( If you do, don't forget to remind me what question you asked cause I answer alot of questions a day, so I might forget! )
But I do hope I helped.
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i want to get my belly button peirced
and im 13
and my mom said i can
but im afraid it will hurt
like really badly
and im getting it with the needle cause you can get aids and all that stuff from the guns
so does anyone have it!?
and does it hurt!!!?
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Different kinds of people kind tolerant pain differently. For some people, it might hurt alot, others less. So I'm not totally sure how to tell you.
But out of all my friends who have them ( and quite alot of them do ) they say they just felt a little tiny pinch, that's all. All they did was talk deep, calm breaths and relax yourself cause making yourself all anxious won't help.
Just whenever you sit down maybe bring your ipod or ask your mother or friend who whoever to keep talking to you to keep you distracted. My one friend did this and said in the middle of her conversation, they told her they did it, and she didn't even realize it!
I hope I helped.
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back in april me and my boyfriend of a year and 3months went on a break for personal issues, we decided to be fully back togehter in teh summer. plans changed and one day he told me he didnt love me and had a girlfriend, who lived in LA (we live in Sanjose). It broke my heart and we parted ways and i pleaded for a second chance. we both left with alot of hatred towards eachother, and just recently, he contacted me. He texted me and asked if i wanted to hang out, i plan on seeing him this thursday night when he drives me home from SAT class. He said he texted me becuase he missed me, and wasnt sure exactly why he suddenly missed me. He says there is ' just something about me'. Now whether that is BS i dont know. I dont want to fall again for false hope. But it is odd that he asks to hang out, considering he refuses to be friends with any of his ex-girlfriends.
I'm not sure what to do. I know i shouldnt expect anything, but his contacting me out of the blue has really confused me. I wonder if hes just calling me up becuase hes lonely and things didnt work out with other girls he liked. I need help. I am not sure if i should never go back to him, or to see where this may go, and just take it a day at a time. I have no idea what to do..please help. (link)
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You're right, I'm not quite too sure myself. But it's good you're not wanting to give into false hopes. So many girls would just think this immediately means that a guy loves them or something.
Whenever my ex-boyfriend did this, he did the same thing. He just IMed me out of the blue randomly and started talking, and it turned out his relationship he left me for didn't work out. So that is probably why he's contacting you his LA girlfriend might've not worked out as great as he was hoping for. But my ex just wanted to remain good friends and now we just talk to eachother every once in awhile and I have no feelings for him and it's all good.
I would suggest to you what I did ; just go and hang out with him and talk to him and see exactly what he wants. Ask him about his girlfriend and see what's going on with them. Just get it straight out in the open so you immediately know exactly what he wants so you can keep your mind on all the options you have. Cause obviously, if they are still together, then he just wants to remain friends and he just misses talking to you. But if he says they've broken up, you can now keep your options more open. This could mean he just wants someone to fall back onto because he's sitting there feeling all lonely and unloved and of course he thinks,"Hey! ____ loves me." Or he just might want the comfort of a friend. Like I said, just ask him as you guys hang out why he called you exactly and why he missed you so much and everything so you guys can just talk about it and get it out into the open.
It's your decision wether you go back to him or not, but just think carefully. Remember, if he had the first chance to just drop and leave you, whats to say he won't just do it again for another girl?
I hope I helped.
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There is a boy at my school who really likes me..but I absolutly hate him. I went out with him once for about a week cause my friends wanted me to, he then dumped me cause my frineds told him to and recently he asked my friend to ask me if I would go out with him again saying that he loves me and if I say no I would break his heart...so i said no cause i hate him and everything and all my friends have been saying hes a good guy but i dont think he is cause there was an incident earlier this year and I was there and he said I did it and I didnt...and my friends dont realise this so they are pressuring me to go out with him cause I am one of the only people in my group of people that doesnt have a boyfriend and at the moment I dont want one cause I dont like any of the boys at my school at the moment so Im going to wait until next year when new people come to our school but they dont know that and Im to afraid to tell them... what should I do??? (link)
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You shouldn't have to be afraid to tell your FRIENDS anything. Your friends should be able to understand you and shouldn't be sitting there pressuring you to do anything. You make your own choices, you like who you want to like, you say what you want to say.
Just explain to your friends that you don't like him like that, and don't they think it'd be better to break his heart now then later on when finding out he'd be getting dumped AND it was just because you were pressured into it? I'm sure your friends'll be able to understand where you're coming from.
And tell them even though they all have boyfriends, you're really not wanting one right now. There's nobody in school you really like anyways, and you just enjoy being able to relax and have fun with everybody. And let them know, someday you'll get a boyfriend and you guys'll all have one, but not yet. They'll just have to wait until a guy that you like comes around.
I hope I helped.
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itz this boy i like alot his name is booshi. i have had feelinz for him the longest and one day we were at my friends house and he was telling me he love me and kissing the back of my neck tounge kissing me down and thatwas the last i saw him bcause he got locked up then when school started he got out and my friends told me that he was kissing another gurl and that everything he did to me he did to her. did he just forget about me. then i would see him often but just recently it was him and his friend and me and my friend and we walked past them 2times and they said nothing i guess cause they were around there other friends then he comes and start rubbing down my back and kissing me everywhere then my friend said dont touch her and as bad as i wanted that from him i couldnt let him do it for long cause i want a boy who can handle me and since hes older 17 exactly i still feel lkie he could only handle me around one of his friends should i love him or move on? (link)
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Pft, move on, duh!
This guy, Booshi, only seems he wants one thing from girls, and I think you know what it is. A guy who goes around telling all the girls the same thing and kissing all of them and everything is just a big player, and you don't want to get involved with that. Cause even if you dated him, god knows what he would be doing behind your back.
If there's another guy you want, go for him instead! You deserve a guy who'll treat you right and want to be with you, and only you.
I hope I helped.
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im 15. i still love my ex, travis. but he treated me like crap. so ive been trying to get over him and i met this guy named dillion. he is really nice, cute, and would never treat a girl bad. and i was considering goin out with him. and then my ex starting talking to me and he was saying he thinks we will probably go out again. i was so happy but i dont want to get hurt AGAIN but i cant help it no matter how many amazing guys i meet he is always the one i want. dillion is goin to be upset. and i will feel really bad because he was so great to me. what should i do (link)
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Even though you're happy you two are going to get together, why be happy now whenever you're just going to be sad and upset for alot while longer? Even if you don't want to be together with Dillion, I would suggest staying away from Travis too. I know that's not what you want to hear, but you wanted some advice, right? If Travis really liked you and wanted to be with you, he wouldn't be sitting there treating you like crap. You deserve better that that. I would just either take a chance with Dillion, you never know, feelings can always change with people, or I would just remain friends with the too. So at least Travis could be in your life, but he wouldn't be putting you through all the hurt. But if you feel it hurts too much to even be friends with Travis, I might want to try and stop talking to him. He's only hurting, and you don't need a person like that in your life, and plus, you'd never be able to move on if he's there talking to you.
But, basically. My advice: Take a chance with Dillion and forget Travis. Or don't even date Dillion, just don't get together with Travis, you'll only get hurt.
I can't tell you exactly what to do, that's your choice. But I hope you make the right one and are happy with it.
I hope I helped.
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Why is the skin on our faces generally oiler than the skin we have everywhere else? (link)
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Well if you want to read this site, it'll answer your question a little bit and tell you what to do about it:
http://www.indiaparenting.com/faqs/beauty/oily_skin.shtml
But basically, I've skimmed it and it tells you that because of possible pollution, dust, and just regular oily kind of skin will make your skin even more oily..er throughout the day. Also, eating alot of greasy and oily foods doesn't help your skin much either. It's said to drink lots of water, and it'll help your skin look cleaner and nicer. Also, sometimes if you wear mosturizer, it can be that too. If you wear it, check it and make sure it's oil-free. Alot of people also just regularly have oily skin, and whenever they break out in sweats and such, it doesn't exactly help.
There's also this site:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060908190358AAostoL
I know you didn't ask on how to get rid of oily skin, or even if YOU have it yourself, but I'm just assuming. But I hope I helped.
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So i liked this guy a lot last year and he was in my school and then in the middle of the school year he switched schools and the day he was leaving our school this one girl told him that i liked him and then he started hating me because i still lived in his neighborhood and he thought i stalked him even though i didnt and he went and told everyone at his new school. So like now hes back in the US( i moved from there and im really far away) so yeah and me and my friend switched schools to the school he was going 2 cuz we hated our school and now i think a lot of people hate me because he spread rumors about me and like i know most of you r gonna say just b urself and ignore them but thats easier said than done because like i dont want people to hate me and stuff...wat should i do?? PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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I would suggest talking to people and spreading stuff around your own. Facts, not rumors. Let them know whatever he said you did, none of it is true, you only had a crush on the guy and for some reason, he began hating you. Let them hear your side of the story. Do you have any friends there at all? Ask them to help you spread the word around about what really happened.
If people are going to just listen to some dumb rumor and not really try and get to know a person and make their own judgement about them, that's stupid. They don't even know you ; if they gave you a chance, who knows? You could be their new best friend, but they're too busy listening to what others have to say about stuff they don't even really know about.
But just realize ; new rumors start, old rumors go. So before you know it, people might not even start to care anymore about whats-his-name said, and make take the time to get to you know.
Just start talking to people and be as nice as you can and show them you're a cool person to hang and talk with and you're not as "horrible" as you seem. After awhile, they're opinion on you'll change and hopefully it'll become positive and slowly they'll start to let their friends and other people know you're cool.
I hope I helped.
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So i recently got a bus referal for throwing one piece of gum out the bus window, said the f word once, and the bus driver accused me of crossing behind the bus and i didnt because i dont have to cross the road to walk in my development. so anyways my busdriver is making me sit up in the front of the bus for awhile and i really dont think its fair how i have to sit up there. im also a senior and all the freshman sit up there (no offence but the freshman just annoy me) my question is what should i do to make my time in the front of the bus shorter? because i have been sitting there for 2 days and i dont talk to neone. ne ideas would help. im just hoping he doesnt stick me up for the whole yr. :/ (link)
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Just for doing those things, you shouldn't be referred to the front of the bus the whole year, that'd be majorly unfair. First of all, find out your time so you at least know, haha. Either ask the office or the bus driver himself ( but seeing as how he made a false accusation I wouldn't really trust him ).
To preoccupy yourself, do you have a cellphone? Text somebody and talk to them. Or, do you have an ipod? You can just sit there and look out the window for awhile and listen to music, or bring a magazine or a good book to read. ( If you were to bring a magazine, say 80 pages, and you have to sit up front for.. 10 more days you could look at 8 pages a day ). Or even just bring a little video game with you, there's so much stuff you can take along with you. Or even focus on writing somebody a note to give to them tommorrow. And before you know it, the bus ride'll be over.
I hope I helped.
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Hi guys, im sure that you get tons of questions like this and almost dont even want to answer them anymore but please i need help and i cant keep going like this. theres this boy. He is/was one of my good friends. But i started liking last year and he found out and the feelins were not mutual. the realationship of friends got very rocky So we stopped for awhile and became friends again. of course i developed feelings again. But of course there are problems... first he likes this girl..we will call her Tina. He says he has always liked Tina and they flirt alot But of course we flirt alot too. But sometimes it seems he always chooses her. We have eyecontact and flirt and lately he has been extra great, paying attention to me,sitting with me at lunch, flirting non stop, he even told me he doesnt like Tina that much anymore but there is always another girl from past experiences. i dont know what to do because with him there is already enough drama and it's not like he stops flirting with Tina or any another girl for that matter. He sends mixed signals and i am tired of my day depending on how he treats me. I cant deal with it anymore and i cant stop liking him. do i keep going, maybe get what i want but i have a huge risk of getting hurt 100 times worse or do i let go? and if i do let go, how do i do that? (link)
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It's your choice wether you want to continue talking to him or not, I can't really tell you exactly what to do, I can only help.
I suggest since he likes to flirt with other people, you might as well too. It seems to me like he's not that much into the dating game, and even if he is, he's flirting or thinking of other girls anyway, so there's always the back possibility of cheating. So save yourself now. Also, I think he's just liking you as a friend, I'm not too sure either, but he can just be an over-flirty guy and not even realize it, or while he's thinking he's just being friendly, 340394 girls are thinking he likes them.
But anyways, other than the possible cheating and what not of the relationship, why would you want to be with someone who is going to sit there and be bringing up past girls, past experiences, and drama? There's no need, just focus on the future.
And that's what you need to do. Forget him, and move onto future possible guys. You're young. Live life, have fun, and find a guy who'll like you and want to be with you and not make you wonder. You just might need to take a little seperation break from this guy ( not like complete seperate but dont have as many conversations with him ) and focus on other things too. Don't make him your top priority. And while you're focusing on you, your feelings for him may fade, and you guys can at least be friends.
I hope I helped.
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hi ,
it is my girlfreinds birthday on sunday which is 5 days away and i want to get her sumthing really special but not too meaningful and she has been having a hard time lately and i just want her to be happy but im not sure what to get her and idea's..?sumthing that will say i love you and neevr want to let you go but then somthing tht is funni and that she will cherish..and really like would be greatfully appreciated
thankyou..tyron..:) (link)
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What I've read somewhere in a magazine is once a boyfriend for his girlfriend told her to come over his house at a certain time. And whenever she'd get there, there was a balloon sitting there for her and she popped it, and inside was a paper and a memory or a compliment for her. Then she walked further and there was another and another and another with all sorts of things inside them about her that he loved, or was great about her, or how he never wanted to let her go, and how much he cared, etc. Then when she walked inside the final room, he was sitting there playing a guitar with a song he wrote for her. ( But I don't think you need to take it that far if you don't play ). I think a bouqet of roses could do just as good. So you can put the good times, the funny times in the balloons, anything and everything you've wanted to tell her.
You could also make a couple of CDs and make them all songs that remind you of her funny songs, weird songs, pretty songs, the whole shibang. And just write a little message on eachother of them letting her know how much you love her and everything, and write something even on the CD case and maybe include a picture of the two of you.
Speaking of pictures, that's another thing you could do. Take all the pictures you have of eachother, and make a scrapbook and insert little pieces of things in there too. Like paper hearts and what-not. Or, if you had a memory that included a flower, tape a flower on the inside of the page next to the picture, or say, a piece of candy, tape a candy wrapper on the inside, get it? And just write her a message on the first/last page and leave maybe 10-20 pages blank and tell her you can't wait to be able to fill the whole book up.
:)
I hope I helped.
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I asked my mom the other night if I could dye my hair black she had replied no and told me she didn't have to give me a reason as to why she said no.
Finally, she still said no but said she would change her mind if I could come up with 20 valid and good reasons as to why she should allow me.
I believe I have 8-10 at this moment.
My main reason is to express individuality because I'm outgoing and charismatic but she just doesn't seem to believe it.
What do I do?
I've been wanting to dye my hair black for at-least 3 years.
I've tried negotiating and I'll be 15 October 5th and it doesn't even seem like a possible present unless I have 20 reasons. (link)
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I asked my dad about it, and me and him came up with some answers. Sorry it's not 20, but I hope I helped somewhat:
1. It'll express your individuality.
2. You and other people think it'll suit you. It looks good on you.
3. You're becoming 15, and you feel a sense of change and this'll help show you're getting older.
4. It shows independence.
5. Makes my self-confidence rise.
6. It shows in my ability to make choices and decisions, and to deal with the consequences.
7. It'll expand my self-image to people.
8. It's better hair than drugs or some other dangerous thing.
9. Weren't you my age once? Didn't you want to be different and change yourself?
10. It's helping me look towards who I am and who I want to be ; it's helping me find myself.
11. If I don't like it, it's always changeable. I can dye it back.
12. Makes my personality stand out more and it matches with it.
13. I've been waiting for 3 years until I thought I was mature enough to make the decision, and I think I'm ready to dye it.
14. I'LL LOVE YOU FOREVER! ( to crack a joke, make her laugh haha )
15. I'll pay for it, or do it myself.
16. I'll do chores or do lawn work or whatever if I need to work for it and show you I'm mature enough and ready enough.
17. Who knows? You might even like it better than the hair I had before.
18. I will also pay for each time I need to get it re-dyed every so often.
Like I said, I'm sorry I couldn't come up with 20 reasons, but I hope some of those reasons helped. ( Sorry also if you already had some of them written down ).
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okay promp is coming up soon and I want to go but don't ANY girl friends for me to ask/ I hardly ever talk to girls but I really want to go (link)
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Ha, it's okay if you have nobody to go with! I know it's prom and it's going to the best night of your year and where everybody has fun and everything, but you can have just as much fun being dateless and hanging out with all your friends! Plus, you'll save some money from corsages and tickets, haha.
But if you really do want to ask a girl, start talking to some now, and try and progess a friendship. Make her laugh, show her you're a down to earth cool guy, and if any of your other friends have some friends that are girls, join in their conversations, introduce yourself, and get to know them and invite them as your date. Plus, it wouldn't be uncomfortable since you'd have your/her friends hanging around and you all already know eachother.
But like I said ; nothing's wrong with going alone. You can still have just as much of a good time as everybody else. And don't never NOT go. It's a once in a lifetime thing that you won't get back, and don't let the lack of girl ruin that.
I hope I helped.
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i am a 13 year old female and me and my boyfriend have been goin out for alittle longer then 3 months and everythings great but we dont really get to see each other often so our relationship kind of depends on the phone my problem is though that we get on the phone and just listen to each other breathe! Theres nothing at all to talk about and we both always complain,especially him. what am i suppose to do? (link)
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I'm not sure why it is exactly you guys don't get to see eachother often, wether it be sports or whatever, but try and make plans together more, wether it be on the weekend or during the week. You need to be able to see eachother, or else your relationship, just like listening to eachother on the phone breathe, is going to get mighty stupid.
But whenever you guys ARE on the phone, just talk about anything. It's okay to be random ; I'm sure he'd rather prefer it than absolutely nothing. Tell him about your day in school, what you're doing this weekend, where you're going, where is he going? What is he doing? And just ask him what's new and what's going on with things, and try and take the conversation from there.
Otherwise, if neither of these plans work, you need to have a serious talk. Let him know this relationship can't continue if it's only based on what happens on the phone - which is already nothing. And if you two don't start to make more of a commitment to see eachother or talk, it might as well just go and end. Maybe by taking a break you guys'll realize how much you guys need to work at it and how much it's worth seeing eachother by missing eachother, or it's just a good wake up call.
I hope I helped.
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I feel like I am jealous of my friend, and that she is jealous of me, too. I am not sure if this is the case, or if it is, why we are both jealous of eachother. I don't know why, but we have been competing lately over the stupidest things like who has more friends, more attention from guys, and just attention in general. I feel like I should not be doing this because she is my friend and I don't want to think of her as some kind of competitor. I want to be her friend like we used to, back when silly things like this didn't matter so much and we never argued. It probably sounds like I am referring to kindergarten, but things were better just maybe a month back. But lately she has been putting me down and such, but when she does this, I say something to make her feel bad about herself as a comeback, but then she will do the same thing to be back. It only happens sometimes; and she starts it. I guess I am just asking for someone to tell me what I should do to get her to stop doing this. What can I tell her that will convince her that putting me down is not what friends do? And how can I stop from fighting back and putting her down when she does it to me? Any ideas why this is happening to me and my friend? What can I do?
Thanks!!!♥ Luv Ya All!!!
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I would just sit down and talk with her about everything that's going on. Just be like,"You know you're like, my best friend and everything but lately we've been going at eachother's throats it seems to try and make the other jealous, I don't know. I DO know that we keep putting eachother down and hurting eachother's feelings, and friends shouldn't be doing that to eachother. And I really don't want to be fighting with you and putting you down and what not. Can we just try and not to do it?" And just talk it out with her and try and resolve it and just let her know you're feelings on everything.
The reason you're doing it is because you're two teenage girls. You're going to be jealous of 340930493 girls, even your friends. And of course you're going to try and make yourself feel better about yourself by making the other girls feel bad about themselves, it's basically nature. We must "survive in the social jungle", bahah. Anyways. It just may be ( I'm just saying, not incinuating ) that you and your friend might just have some insecurities about yourselves and you find something in one another, some quality you wish you had.
You both just need to learn to remind yourselves to keep all your thoughts to yourselves, and replace them with thoughts of the good things about eachother, and all the good times you guys have had together and how you want to keep her as a friend, and not lose her. Even if a remark slips out of one another's mouths, even though you WANT to say something, shut it. Keep it to yourself, like I said. Just remember you don't want to be arguing. And if something is SAID by one of you, have the other let you know you're putting them down, and just apologize and change the subject and try and forget about it.
I hope I helped.
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Over the summer my parents found out I was drinking (early July) and instead of not being able to go out, they banned me from seeing any of my friends that were involved/they didn't trust. I was only aloud to see my best friend (who was at camp at the time) boyfriend and some mutual friends. They lighted up and I was allowed to see them at the end of July. I went on vacation with my friend in late August and during that time they went through my friend's xanga's and found out a lot of stuff. I haven't seen any of them since then. They were my closest friends and it hurt so bad when I was permanently banned form seeing them. Now all I do is come home and get into fights with my parents and end up crying and falling asleep in the mid afternoon. I'm stuck hanging out with the same people all weekend & I'm going insane. They won't even let me go certain places because of past experiences and I have absolutely nowhere to go and no one who I actually like to hangout with. To make matters worse my boyfriend is going down the shore with one of my friends this weekend so I won't be seeing him. Everything's just pissing me off and nothing is looking good anymore. I'm going insane inside and just don't know what to do anymore. Going to school is the only thing making my happy anymore because at least I seem them in the hallways. I just can't believe I had all my friends ripped away from me and they (my parents) don't realize how hard its hurting me. I don't want my highschool years to be this way ): (link)
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I suggest you having a serious talk about this situation with your parents. Banning your child from her friends isn't going to help any. ( I'm not saying you but ) Whenever most parents "ban" their kid from doing something, it only gives the kid more incentive to do it, so they're not exactly helping you out.
I would just talk to them and tell them you've realize the horrible consequences for your actions and you really won't do it ever again. You just miss your friends alot and you want to stop fighting with them and being all moody. You're only a kid, this isn't the way to be living life right now. Just try and come up with SOME solution. Ask them if there's anyway you can re-earn their trust, or at least make them believe you're not going to drink or do anything else bad. You really just want to be able to hang out and talk with your old friends.
Maybe even suggest to your parents just having them over at least while your parents are home, so it's not like you guys could be doing anything anyway with your parents in the house in the room next door. And then slowly, maybe you guys could move from house hangouts to some other places like the movies and wherever and then hopefully sooner or later, you'll be able to go wherever.
Oh, and talk to your friend about posting things about you, and ask her to stop. Let her know how much trouble you got into because of it, and make sure no friends post anything bad about you again.
I hope I helped.
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About a year ago i met this guy. I have such strong feelings for him. Hes all i think about all day long. Well i used to work with him and saw him maybe 3 times a week and for maybe about an hour each day. Well i havent seen or spoken to him in about 3 weeks. And i probly wont be for a long time because he quit. Well this past week i have been having dreams about him. And in these dreams hes holding me, kissing me, and all that good stuff. And as stupid as it sounds these dreams are causing me to think about him even more and it hurts because i can Never have him. i need alot of help with this and nothing is working i have talked to friends about this and alot of them say that hes on my mind for a reason. But whats the reason?
thank you.
- i left the ages out for a reason. (link)
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Well of course you're going to be dreaming and thinking about him! You have really strong feelings for this guy, you even said so yourself. And the fact that he's gone is going to cause you to be saddened and be thinking about him more because before you got to at least see him a couple of times so you didn't have to dream/think of him as much.
It's just because you probably really still like him, and you really miss him, and you want you guys to get together and be a couple. Or at least him be hugging you and like you and everything.
I know you didn't ask , but if you really do miss him alot, try finding out his number or his myspace or something and try contacting him and talking to him. Just let him know that since he quit work you've been all lonely with nobody to talk to ( and maybe add a laugh at the end to sound all jokey ). And then maybe suggest a hang out to possibly rekindle a friendship and catch up on what's been happening with the both of you guys in the past 3 weeks.
Anyways, I hope I helped.
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Patty and I have been friends for many many years. More than most of you have been alive! When we are together we have a great time, or at least I think we are having a great time. It's a fact that we both have always led busy lives. It seems that if I didn't make an effort to nuture the friendship we'd probably talk or see each other very little. At one point I got tired of being the one to invite, and wait for an answer or wait for the phone calls that never came, so I backed off. I was getting mixed signals, and thought perhaps she wanted distance. From time to time I rekindle the friendship, only because I miss her and I miss the good times that we had, I do really enjoy our conversations and the company. I may be wrong, but I feel like Patty takes my friendship for granted. I may have allowed that because I don't like to sound childish or petty. I always accept whatever apology or excuse she has for not reciprocating, and tell her it's okay and that I understand. When the truth is, usually I don't understand. It's not like me to be rude or unforgiving, but the one-sidedness hurts me deeply. I have tried to discuss this with her, and it is obvious that she doesn't see it the way I do, and I have never wanted to put our friendship at risk of dissolving completely. Talking about it is really not an option here, because I know she will say what she is doing is not intentional, and maybe it isn't, but it still hurts. My question: Do I cut off all contact and move on with my life? Or should I just be a casual part time friend? Either way will hurt me, but I am hurting now, so what is the difference? (link)
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Well since you're aware you're going to hurt either way, that's good. People always find there's some easy way out where nobody get hurts. But I suggest you don't break off all contact. I mean, you love hanging with her, she loves hanging with you, why stop all the good times from coming?
Just have her as a casual friend. Just because you guys don't hang out all the time, doesn't mean you still can't be best friends. Just try and call her inbetween whenever she has plans or is getting ready to go somewhere or text her so you can at least talk to her a little bit before she's busy or your busy. And just try and make plans with her still every now and then. And then if she wants to hang out with you more than you're planning to, she can call YOU then and make the rest of the plans. Sometimes that can happen. I wouldn't take it as an insult or anything. Sometimes a friendship lasts so long they don't realize anymore how amazing it is and they feel they don't need to worry as much about making plans alot and everything as people would with a brand new friendship.
So like I said, just keep it a casual friendship and enjoy the times you guys DO have together.
I hope I helped.
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