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Do i keep oin or just stop?
Hi guys, im sure that you get tons of questions like this and almost dont even want to answer them anymore but please i need help and i cant keep going like this. theres this boy. He is/was one of my good friends. But i started liking last year and he found out and the feelins were not mutual. the realationship of friends got very rocky So we stopped for awhile and became friends again. of course i developed feelings again. But of course there are problems... first he likes this girl..we will call her Tina. He says he has always liked Tina and they flirt alot But of course we flirt alot too. But sometimes it seems he always chooses her. We have eyecontact and flirt and lately he has been extra great, paying attention to me,sitting with me at lunch, flirting non stop, he even told me he doesnt like Tina that much anymore but there is always another girl from past experiences. i dont know what to do because with him there is already enough drama and it's not like he stops flirting with Tina or any another girl for that matter. He sends mixed signals and i am tired of my day depending on how he treats me. I cant deal with it anymore and i cant stop liking him. do i keep going, maybe get what i want but i have a huge risk of getting hurt 100 times worse or do i let go? and if i do let go, how do i do that?
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It's your choice wether you want to continue talking to him or not, I can't really tell you exactly what to do, I can only help.
I suggest since he likes to flirt with other people, you might as well too. It seems to me like he's not that much into the dating game, and even if he is, he's flirting or thinking of other girls anyway, so there's always the back possibility of cheating. So save yourself now. Also, I think he's just liking you as a friend, I'm not too sure either, but he can just be an over-flirty guy and not even realize it, or while he's thinking he's just being friendly, 340394 girls are thinking he likes them.
But anyways, other than the possible cheating and what not of the relationship, why would you want to be with someone who is going to sit there and be bringing up past girls, past experiences, and drama? There's no need, just focus on the future.
And that's what you need to do. Forget him, and move onto future possible guys. You're young. Live life, have fun, and find a guy who'll like you and want to be with you and not make you wonder. You just might need to take a little seperation break from this guy ( not like complete seperate but dont have as many conversations with him ) and focus on other things too. Don't make him your top priority. And while you're focusing on you, your feelings for him may fade, and you guys can at least be friends.
I hope I helped.
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Why is it that a guy can simultaneously like a hundred girls, and a girl automatically thinks she has to like one guy and it is do or die if he does not like just her, back? Yes, that is a rhetorical question. Maybe it is in our genes to be more loyal or we bought into the cinderella story of one prince coming to rescue us. Well, until you put that fantasy away...at least until you have a commitment and a ring on your finger, don't expect so much and more importantly don't GIVE so much. Girls become to focused and narrow in our hunt for the perfect guy...which of course does not exist. The guys just put out the vibe to any cute chick they see and hope that at least a few will take the bait. Your crush is not going to stop flirting or enjoying himself. You are not getting mixed signals. He likes flirting with girls...you included. Unless the two of you make a commitment to date and flirt only with each other (good luck with that), ease up on him. You should be doing the same thing. He does not deserve your exclusive devotion, when he is not giving the same to you. Start enjoying your youth and life as a free single gal while you can. He may see you in a different light when he realizes that you are attracting more than just his attentions. In the meantime, you won't waste another day waiting for him to propose.
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