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I think people @ skool hate me! pls help!
So i liked this guy a lot last year and he was in my school and then in the middle of the school year he switched schools and the day he was leaving our school this one girl told him that i liked him and then he started hating me because i still lived in his neighborhood and he thought i stalked him even though i didnt and he went and told everyone at his new school. So like now hes back in the US( i moved from there and im really far away) so yeah and me and my friend switched schools to the school he was going 2 cuz we hated our school and now i think a lot of people hate me because he spread rumors about me and like i know most of you r gonna say just b urself and ignore them but thats easier said than done because like i dont want people to hate me and stuff...wat should i do?? PLEASE HELP!!
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Honey, the simple fact of the matter is that High School sucks the big one. But this is Life, and you have to learn to deal with people that are jerks. This is hard to hear because it is not helping you, you think, but it is a reality.
If anyone brings it up just laugh as if you find it amusing, because people like that feed on the response, causing pain and embarrassment is what they feed on. Don't give it to them.
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I would suggest talking to people and spreading stuff around your own. Facts, not rumors. Let them know whatever he said you did, none of it is true, you only had a crush on the guy and for some reason, he began hating you. Let them hear your side of the story. Do you have any friends there at all? Ask them to help you spread the word around about what really happened.
If people are going to just listen to some dumb rumor and not really try and get to know a person and make their own judgement about them, that's stupid. They don't even know you ; if they gave you a chance, who knows? You could be their new best friend, but they're too busy listening to what others have to say about stuff they don't even really know about.
But just realize ; new rumors start, old rumors go. So before you know it, people might not even start to care anymore about whats-his-name said, and make take the time to get to you know.
Just start talking to people and be as nice as you can and show them you're a cool person to hang and talk with and you're not as "horrible" as you seem. After awhile, they're opinion on you'll change and hopefully it'll become positive and slowly they'll start to let their friends and other people know you're cool.
I hope I helped.
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Wow. Did you realise that your question has only 2 sentences? Anyway, such stuff aside. I've read and re-read your question cos it's a little hard to understand and I hope I did interpret it correctly.
Firstly, why did you switch to a school where he's currently going? Correct me if I'd interpreted this wrongly.
Are you sure people at school hates you just cos of the dumb rumours that he spread? He may hate you but that doesn't mean the others do. Verify that fact first before jumping to conclusions.(because in your question you said you "think" people at school hates you).
Besides, I don't think people will be pre-occupied with such trivial rumours he has to say bout you.
Imagine yourself as someone whom he has spread the rumour to. What will be your reaction? I guess you'd probably say 'ew' and forget bout it after a while.
People have their own things to do , own lives to lead and own pre-occupations. Even if there are really idiotic people out there who'd care so much bout this rumour, what can you do to stop these assholes? Why do you even bother to care bout what they think? People who indulge in gossips and in critising other's bad points are in fact the ones who are the most insecure.
If there are people who refuse to talk to you cos of this, I guess you shouldnt even be friends with them. While you're in school, you'll slowly make new friends. And these friends, (assuming they've heard bout the rumour) once they start talking to you, their misconception bout you will start to shake off. Don't worry bout things that are beyond your control.
If you are at a total loss bout what to do, take things one step at a time. Force yourself to concentrate in your studies first and throw away all those worries bout people hating you. Don't brood over the matter. The more you think bout it, the longer it seems to stay. The more you try to ignore the problem, the faster it'd go away and it'll be gone even before you know it.
Talk to people in your class, don't behave like you're very conscious bout the whole rumour issue, be nice, be friendly, don't try too hard though just let things go with the flow. Time will heal everything. Don't stress yourself too much. Don't worry. Tell yourself to shut out the worries of tomorrow and concentrate on doing your best for today and today only.
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