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-i wanna know how do you make tinted moisterizer i know you put foundation with moisterizer but how much
-can you list the steps to makin it
-and also will both of them mixed together clog my pores even if the foundation says it would clog pores

you can buy tinted moisturizer though.
i got one by wet n wild
it works pretty good.

i never heard of making it yourself though.
i would just think a dab of moisturizer?

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ok so like my right boob is smaller than my left. not by much but enough where its notcieable. i am 14 but almost 15 i finished my growth spurt and had my period for 2 years already because htey say after you egt that your development basically ends. so i was jsut wondering will they ever grow to be even? and if so how long?

You have about 5 more years until you stop growing though.

So most likely you're boobs are going to grow bigger and more even. Just wait a little. I've had my period for 4 years. I was an A cup in 8th grade, one boob was bigger than the other.
I went to a B cup in 9th and.. now I'm a C cup in 10th... all even and everything.

So it takes some time!
More time for others so yeah :]

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My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year now and she is pretty upset with me for "being prude". I mean, just read some of the stuff she's said about me! "Whereas most guys would be drooling at the sight of a naked woman, Kurt would be covering his eyes in horror screaming, "It's not decent! It's not decent!" What is wrong with you, man? Loosen up and get a sense of humor." AND "I am all for taking it slow.... But like Ally said, we've been going out a long long time already. Don't you think it's a little unfair that he hasn't kissed me yet? Or even shown any sign that he wants to? It's killing me! I don't think he's into me like that. Or anyone! He's not GAY, I'd hope, but god! I don't want to talk to him about it. It would just turn into a big arguement even if it wasn't supposed to be." She said that on a forum where a bunch of our friends talk. . . Anyway, what am I supposed to do? Plus, I don't want her to think all I want is a physical relationship like most guys. She swears she will not make the moves because she says that's the guys job. Help me! I'm nervous and freaking out! All I can think of are worst scase scenerios!

Tell her this.

It does seem a little strange that you haven't kissed her yet. So of course she's going to have some thoughts about this.

But just flat out tell her. I'm sure if she understands how you don't know how to kiss..she will most likely take the lead when you try to kiss her. It's going to feel awkward anyway..

Tell her you don't want her to think all you want is a physical relationship.

If you can't talk to her or anything, just write her a letter or something.. say that you're nervous and yeah.

If you haven't shown any sign or anything, she will just think like that. She likes you and whats you to show her that. So if you haven't done this already.. Just kiss her on the cheek.. and build your confidence up.. so you can kiss her on the lips.

Just tell her what you feel... it would make her understand.

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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

When your ribs are sticking out.. you're dangerously too thin.

You need to go see a doctor.

~

You asked for an honest opinion so I don't understand the whole rating of a 1.

Because you either have an eating disorder or something.. but you are too thin and it can effect your health. :\

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i got this friend he is bi but he dont wont to come out the closet what should my friend do

Don't push him or anything. He just needs some time to figure it out. Some people actually like to be in the closet so just be there for him and accept his decision. There's nothing you can really do. Just don't go out telling people. They should hear it from him.

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how do you get some of your font cursive lookin.?
i`ve seen people do it && i`ve looked for the code && can`t
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I'm 14 years old and a female.
I have a boyfriend who I have been going out with for 4 months now and at first he was so sweet and really nice to me. Over time he started getting mad at the littlest things,, like how I dressed or did my make-up. He would call me a whore or a slut and other things, and about a month after that he bcame abusive. He would always loose his temper and hit me. Never in front of anyone though, and he just got worse and worse but I never told anyone. So after school yesterday I tried to break up with him, he got so mad and punched me. He said if I ever tried to break up with him again I would regret it. After he left I was just sitting in the hallway crying when this guy I really liked(I didn't know him that well but I like him even before I had a boyfriend)came p to me and knelt beside me and asked me if I was okay. I tried lieing to him, telling him I tripped and fell but he wouldn't by it.(I'm guessing my black eye gave him a hint) He asked me if my boyfriend did this to me and I said yes. He lives close to the school so he asked me if I wanted to go to his house to get cleaned up and I said yes. When we got there he helped me wash the cut and everything and we started talking. He asked me if it was the first time my boyfriend did this to me and I told him no, then I told him everything. For some weird reason I trusted him. He walked me home and when we got their he hugged me and then he kissed me. He said he would take care of my boyfiend. I ddn't really know what he meant but I let it go. I was to happy he kissed me. I was late to school the next day, but when I got their I was just in time to see the fight between my boyfriend and the other guy (Lets call him Matt). They were broken up by the police officer. They were both pretty beat up.Both of them got sent to the principals office. Matt got suspended for a week, and my boyfriend 3 weeks. (He has previos fighting records)I caught Matt as he was leavigng and asked him why he would get in a fight over me. All he said was "I love you and I couldn't stand to see you hurt like that" and he walked away. What should I do I really need help.

Leave your boyfriend a message of some sort ..about breaking up with him. This is the only time you should break up with someone over the phone or on instant messaging. It's better instead of doing it in person and getting hurt again. It would be better now because you won't see him at school or anything.

If he hurts you again... you should call the police.

I would give this "Matt" a chance. He seems really nice. If anyone ever calls you a whore or slut, it's BEST to end the relationship right there. (Only when they are being serious though)

And if you do break up with your boyfriend (I hope you do) you should surround yourself with some friends. Just in case he tries to do something stupid and hit you there. You'll have your friends to back you up.

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I know no one can really tell me what to do. Its a "my choice" kinda of thing, but I need input.

I have a boyfriend and we'll call him Tom. Tom when we first started to go out, was nice to me and treated like a princess. Now that we have been together for a longer time, hes not. Tom behind my back to my friends calls me a bxtch, whore, slut, dumbaxs & anything else you can think of. Tom will tell my friends that they can't talk to me anymore, so now I'm down to like 5 friends when I use to had alot. He hung up on me last night on the phone and then today when I said something to him about it, he was all nice to me again.

What's the deal ? Should I break up with him ? I kind of want to, but I dont want to hurt him. I know me being happy is important but I shouldn't go around hurting his feelings should I ? ANY advice would help me alot. So thanks.

You comes first. I know you have been going out for a long time but you don't need a guy that does that to you. He's twofaced. You need someone who will be honest with you.

Unless he's trying to make you look bad in front of his friends (which i don't understand) but it's not cool.

You need to talk to him about it. Why he says shit behind your back and acts nice to you in person. Just say.. "I overheard that you called me a bitch.. So what did I do wrong ?"

He's not being nice to you when you're not there.. So if that bothers you.. maybe just dump him.

But he needs to explain himself before and see what's going on with him. He's like.. hurting you but in a verbal way. It's just not right especially if you were nice to him all the time. You just do what you think is right.

If he doesn't change, he's probably not worth it. He might take it too far and start calling you those names to your face. Would you really want that?

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hello.. i wasant sure of what category to put this under...anyways i have a problem with my breasts...the nipples are inverted and im scared that when i am with a guy they think its weird....is their any way to pop them out..i hear this is pretty common but im not sure...:/
thanks

That's really not a problem. A guy won't think it's weird, if he does.. then HE IS WEIRD.

because it is pretty common to have it inverted. There's nothing wrong with it, it's considered attractive too.

I guess the only way to have them "pop out" is when you're cold or aroused.
But you should learn to like them because they're going to be there for a long time.

Lots of areolas look different, so you aren't the only one who's embarassed or anything. If your confidence about it, I'm sure the guy won't even notice unless you make a big deal out of it.

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I have some acne on my face and I need a really good foundation or concealer or any other product that will help hide the acne well and will always work. So, any suggestions?
Thanks. =D

Yes bare minerals is GREAT.
It doesn't take long to put on.

You could just use the foundation ones.
It looks like this:
http://img.timeinc.net/instyle/images/v2/products/october/092905_id_01b.jpg

I'll get a light shade and slightly darker shade for good coverage.

And get a brush like this to apply it:
http://i9.ebayimg.com/02/i/04/e3/04/74_2.JPG



It works great. I found this picture of a woman using this product:

http://www.coastalscents.com/cfwebstore/images/features/before-after-kim.jpg

And it stays on pretty long.

The only bad thing about it.. is that it comes off with /water/. So swimming or sweating could have it come off slightly.

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okay..well im a female 14 and i went overr my friends house yesterday and we invited over her bf and our guy friend jake(

Um cuddling isn't cheating. It's just cuddling. If there was kissing then it's cheating. But you didn't say that happened.

He came over because he wanted to hang out, some things just happen .. but it's no big deal.

Just act like nothing happened, because NOTHING did happen.

I don't even think it's flirting because.. it's just a friendly type of thing. If your friend & her bf were cuddling.. Jake probably thought you might have been lonely or something.

Since "he's in love" .. it didn't mean anything.

So don't let it bother you.

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13/f

OK, so there is this guy that I like. We are friends and we sit next to each other in almost every class because our last names are 1 letter apart. We are always partners on assignments and constantly talk and flirt. However, I cant tell if it is just playful flirting or if he wants something more. Can someone give me tips on how to make him like me/date me or signs on how to tell that he likes me?

Don't listen to any "signs" people give you.
Most likely they are wrong.

Some guys just like staring or flirting with people. So it's hard to tell if they like you.

But you need to make a move.

Ask him for his number or something (if you don't have it already) to say you might wanna talk to him.

You can always say.. "I really want to see ____ (movie) but none of my friends want to see it. Will you go with me to see it? I don't want to go alone. "

Or just ask him to go see a movie with you.

Ask him to come over to your house if you have an assignment or project. or just to hang out.

You need to make a move... just to see if it will take you anywhere.

But don't do anything that would make him jealous. It's NO good. It leads to drama. Because if you flirt with a guy or one of his friends.. he might think you like them and if he likes you.. he probably won't anymore.

You can't make someone like you. Just be yourself and if he flirts then I'm sure he's interested in you. Especially if you constantly talk...Maybe he's shy so you'll have to make a move.

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can my boyfriend go to jail for us datin even if we started datin befor he was 18

No dating is fine. Just if there's sex in the relationship, it's illegal. He would only go to jail if you press charges against him or if your parents do.. But if your parents know of your relationship with him then there's really no problems.
I just wouldn't go out announcing your ages or people will get suscipious and think sex is in it. That could lead to trouble.

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15/f. it is true that if i start using proactive and then stop that my acne will come back again and worse then before? I've also heard that it works for about 3 weeks then stops working...is this true?

i guess your acne would come back.. if the skin is like..dependent on proactive. it's like withdrawal?

i used it before.. it works really good. it doesnt stop working.. but if your skin is clear.. it doesnt give you a reason to stop using it.

i think people overreact with acne coming back and getting worse
because you would be used to an almost clear face... then to acne popping up again.


it really depends on the person and their skin.

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Is it true that bird feces will ruin car paint?

No.. if it did.. people would have a lot of damage to their cars. I know people can't afford a new paint job.

From experience, it doesn't ruin car paint.

I'm sure if it did, some person would come up with a car cover against bird feces haha.

You just wash it off.

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Ever since i can remember i've had alot of litle dots on my areolas. i've always been ashamed of them and i doubt i'll ever show my breasts to anyone. sometimes if i squeeze one really hard white stuff will come out, like acne but i'm not sure because i've tried using proactive on them.

please help!

It's normal to get those. Lots of girls have those. Please don't squeeze them again. It's really not good and obviously its not acne.

You can't really get rid of them.
I guess you could squeeze them but most likely they will come back.
So its not good.

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14/f

The other day, I posted something, about my friend hurting my feelings. But, I hardly went into ANY detail. So, now that I feel a little better, I'll go into some serious detail.
-I go to a rich snobby catholic school. Which means, every girl in there, is super mean.
-Even like the loser girls, arn't even nice, no one is.
-We don't do anything in our school, like dances & junk. [ another good reason to leave. i like schools that have activities & stuff, yeah i'm weird..]
-i may hang out with the popular group in school, but i'd rather have no friends at all.
If you were at my school, you'd understand. You can't walk away from your lunch table, without worrying their talking about you.
-Their all SUPER boring. The only way they have fun, is if their picking on someone else.
-None of the guys like us, because they think were all bitches. so, therefore you can't even have crushes on guys & stuff [ they may sound like a retarded reason to switch schools.. but come on, think about it.]
-Theirs only one girl who i actually like. But, sometimes.. she even gets on my nerves, because shes kinda a slut.

So, thats my school. I got in a big fight with my 'best friend' yesterday, I was saying how I was just thinking, only THINKING about switching schools. & shes like why? & i was like.. well its not like you talk to me alot anymore & stuff. [ Yeah, sounds like a stupid reason to leave.. not. Shes one of the few real friends i have.] & she got all defensive saying no im not, oh my god! & stuff.. so then, she got one of the MEANEST girls in the grade involved. & the girl ended up screaming at me & everything. So, i ended up leaving, & i cried myself for sleep, for two hours.


Give me one good reason why I should stay at that horrible school.

The thing.. you need to change. Don't be like them. Don't just sit back and worry about things. You need confidence to get up.

You should STAND UP and walk away. Who cares what they think?

You would be a different person if you do your own thing. Don't let the popular bitch control you. Just take a stand and probably do something you haven't done before. If you do something, others will see that and probably drift away from the bitch attitude. Maybe there is a nice person there, you just haven't met them yet.

You should talk to people and try to get enough money for a dance or something. Something fun and exciting.

Yeah I wouldn't want to stay there either. If you don't have real/good friends.. you're unhappy there.. then I don't see a point in staying there. It's cutting off your life.

It shouldn't be horrible.

People are going to talk about you anyway. It's just how people are.

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The other day I was thinking, and if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and you kiss a friend. Like the person is totally just your friend and nothing more.. is it still cheating ?

You'll have to ask your boyfriend/girlfriend.

It just depends on what they think. A peck on the cheek is nothing (even though some people disagree on that). But on the lips and more would be cheating.

Some people just don't want them kissing anybody else. It just brings in jealously issues and the person might end up disliking your friend.

If you're gonna kiss someone.. it's probably a no-no for the opposite sex.

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My boyfriend is really shy, how do I hint to him that I want to make out with him without coming on too strong? please help because I really want to make out with him.. but I dont know how to approach it..

Maybe a romantic date or something. You can always have him come over to your house or something, watch a movie.. and turn the lights off?

You can kiss him a couple of times. But don't rush him, if he doesn't feel comfortable.

Maybe he wouldn't be shy if you made the first move. That's one thing guys worry about. Whether he has to make the first move or would you.

Just try to set the mood for him. If he doesn't do anything, he's probably uncomfortable and nervous.

Just start off kissing him a couple of times. He might take it by surprise the first time.

You can always talk to him about it.

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What does 'Love knows no boundary' mean?

Thanks

Love has no limits or no rules.

It jut means anything could happen in love~

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