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Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)? (link)
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well something thats age appropriate first off. people tend to just buy kids things and not remember that they dont have the skills yet to use the actual item, so start with that and go from there. if you want to give her an awesome birthday party though you could do a glow stick or glow in the dark party and have it right as the sun is going down, and have glo9w in the dark stuff as party favors. just a thought ; )
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Signs that my boyfriend wants my best friend (link)
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seriously?........can you give a little more detail about whats going on?? cause just because females are friendly and your boyfriend treats them like a human being doesnt ness. mean they \"secretly lust for each other\" or something. lol
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Hi i need some advice i want to find god i'm 13 male and have had a few family problems and feel lonely sometimes and i do want to become a christian a couple of months ago i started going to church i go every week i pray to god twice everyday i feel good after praying god has really helped me i have started reading the bible i want to give my life to god what else do i need to do to be a christian? (link)
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Hi, i was raised christian went to church as a kid, and you know what they told us kids in the first day of sunday school? \"you dont have to go to church at all to be a good christian, going to church is just going the extra mile to show you care THATS ALL, and as long as you have god in your heart and mind, then thats all you need\"
They told us we didnt even need to really BE there, but if you feel like you need to believe in something to get you through rough times in your life then thats totally ok and its your choice.
at the end of the day, the goal is to just be a decent person, live a decent life, work hard, help others, and it should all work out in the end. thats what i was taught in church as a child and i follow it to this day. weather or not i read the bible cover to cover or go to church. DO what YOU think is the right thing to do, make something of yourself in life and hold those closest to you most dear. after all, god made us in his own image right? so make him proud. just be a good person thats all. = ) good luck.
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What are the best EVER birthday presents to get your boyfriend? What present do you think your boyfriend liked better than any other one you got for him?
Anything you can do to help me make this birthday extra special and wonderful after he has had such a hard year would make me really grateful to you!
THANKS BUNCHES! (link)
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well. Depends on what kinda stuff he likes? if you like to bake, and he likes cake, you could go to michaels arts n crafts and get a mold to make him a giant cupcake?? its small enough for maybe three people to eat, and small enough that you could stick one candle in the top and it would come across as something you put alot of thought into?
are you on a budget? this is a bit of a loaded question to me, cause i dont know the guy and your asking me to personalize a gift someone i dont know so thats a bit harder to answer then it appears. anyway, the giant cupcake ive discovered works for guys and girls, get some frosting and sprinkles and either one candle or one cherry with a stem still attached to top it with then have some take a picture when he sees it. ((also put tin foil in the bottom half of the mold before you bake it so the groves of the cupcake are more notice-able. ; ) good luck.
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She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
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the girl has her own issues obviously. we all do shit in our lives where we look back and say "god wtf was i thinking" only with famous people, they grow up in the spot light and the WORLD never lets them live down whatever it was they did. its sad but fame can fuck with your heard big time and change you into someone you dont even recognize.
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So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap! (link)
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yes sorry but you can still get it the way that your talking about. i would be careful and just not do ANYTHING with him until your both fully cured. unless you want to get it again of course.
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It's a silly fear I'm embarrassed to admit… I'm afraid of demons and evil spirits. It's really embarising,I practice white magic and am an altar server! But they haunt my worst nightmares and cause me panic attacks. I'd say what I'm afraid of is being hurt by them. I know God is much more powerful, but for some reason I'm still scared. I really feel I need to get rid of this, or it'll rule my life, it's the fear that makes me bite my nails, and I have a crucifix over my bed, pray the rosary when I get demon dreams. They all lead to nothing. I must eliminate this. How can I overcome this fear without telling anyone? Please, I'm ashamed of it. I once tried to hint it to my mom, and she laughed telling me it was silly. (link)
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ok, im part psychic, it runs in my family and i can tell you now we've all had dreams of "demons" or dark figures and what not. but it sounds like youve let what was only in your dreams take over your life.
heres what white witches and psychic people do to get rid of/keep these dark/negative entities out of your home. first buy some just regular table salt, take it and walk around your house with it and sprinkle a little in each corner and say to yourself or in your mind "all dark spirits are not allowed in this house, THIS IS MY HOUSE" and walk freely through your home and do NOT be afraid. whatever you think might be in your house will see that you are reclaiming whats rightfully yours and you will not be hampered by their BS. then buy some dry sage, from the store and light it like insense, anything dark and evil HATES white sage, and will be repelled by it. you can also walk around your house in the same manner as you did with the salt. you can also sprinkle a thin line of white salt around your houses whole property outside and protect an even larger area. ; ) sometimes whats in your house, could be bothering you while your asleep and causing the bad dreams. good luck.
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My ex and I dated for over a year. We broke up 8 months ago. He treated me poorly. Made me feel bad about myself, often. We fought, leaving me crying all the time. However, for some reason, I STILL MISS HIM SO BAD! We've tried getting back together more than once. It never works out. It's always good at first, but ends up crappy again. Just recently, he started texting me again. It's only every few days or so. He came over the other night. The night was PERFECT. The next morning, however, he made it clear that he didn't want to try a relationship again. (We've tried that 3 times now..)He just wants to be friends and keep in touch. KEEP IN TOUCH? With someone I love more than anything, despite all of the flaws of our relationship? It sounds silly. He treated me bad, I deserve better. I know. I don't want a relationship with him again. It just hurt to hear that he didn't want me back. Has he really moved on? Would he text me and drive an hour to see me for a night if he didn't still care a little? My feelings are so mixed up. I feel so lonely. I feel as if I opened all of the closed wounds that were beginning to heal slowly. I feel as if I should have moved on after 8 months, despite the 3 times we tried again. I just want to know if he really does still love me.. just too prideful to show it? Why else would he keep contact? (link)
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hunny, he wants to probly stay in contact because he knows your weak for him in that way so whenever he decides come around, he thinks he'll be able to use you sexually just to get some booty, only to leave again when he tires of you. Youve now become his "side bitch" which is the worst place to be, and theres no way to get out of that spot in his mind because he already told you he didnt want to try again, and usually when i guy has made up his mind about WHERE and what role youll play in his life, then its pretty much set alot of times.
maybe you need to take a break from him and re-evaluate your own life and focus on you, your friends, and bettering relationships with people around you instead. then come back to the situation with him once some time has passes and you can think with a clear, logical, focused, organized mind. Then youll probably see how bad he was for you, and how his relationship with you probly caused the issued you had with him to spill over into other peoples lives around you. people who care about you suffer when your in relationships like this too, not just you. so break off communication, make sure people know it, and over time youll start to see what that toxic person was doing to you. ; ) good luck sweetie.
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Hi,my wife is 40 and I am 49. Our love life is so so. If and when we do, we both fantasize. Hers is mature light skin men, big guy, hairy chest who can overwhelm her with his strength ( I am only 5'7")or her ex boss who tried to seduce her, she was in her 20s n he around 50. She also asks me if I was also fantasizing and I would also fantasize. After few years I asked her if she wants to try out her fantasy and also it would make me happy too but she says no. I told her atleast try it once and if U dont like then we dont do that again and for I know I may not like it. She says no. So, how do I convince her? Ofcourse men will be screened and safety will be priority. Any advise? I really want her to try it ONCE and then we go from there. Kindly advise please. Thank you.Thank you. (link)
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I think if she really doesnt want to try out the fantasy, then i think you shouldnt force it. just because a person has fantasies doesnt mean you need to make them come to life. That specific one could just be what starts to get her off when shes with you in her mind to get things going. Also with alot of marriages, this kind of thing could permanently damage the marriage beyond repair. I would seriously urge you to try ANYTHING ELSE BUT this idea.
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i have this friend that i've known since 4th grade (we're now seniors). i love her to death but there are some things that make me really ticked off about her. lately, she has given up at everything in which she can't succeed. we do the same sport, and she is quitting. she used to be really really good at it (she was #1 on the team for a while), but she hasn't been as good because she really stopped trying. also, she is considering dropping one of her ap classes because she is getting a c+. she always complains about how the teacher doesn't grade anything and how the whole class is failing, but i talk to others in the class and they say that it's not true and that the problem is her. if she drops this class, she'll be a valedictorian. if she doesn't, she won't. all of my friends and i think that she should stick it out because colleges will like her getting a c+ and then working her way up to a b/b+ (because we know it's possible) rather than her dropping a challenging class. what do you think she should do and if you think she should stick it out, do you have any ideas for us to tell her? nothing seems to be working... (link)
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Hmm have you tried talking to her while your both alone together? is all the failing a recent thing?
If so then something must be going on in her person life that maybe you dont know about, and its effecting her school work. Try to get her alone and talk to her one on one. Tell her youve noticed her failing the sports team and now her ap class? whats up with that? something like that.
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I am 16/f and my boyfriedn and I are planning to get married when I am 18, My bf is 21, but my mother said she wont except this marriage as i am too young and have to finish my education first. I dont want to hurt my mother as she is very upset. But i am absolutely in love with my bf and so is he. We are totally sure about this marriage. What should I do? (link)
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You and your bf are the same age diffrence me and mine are. We met when i was 14 and he was 21, we've been together for four years now. Hes now 25 going on 26 this year and im 18 going on 19. We love each other alot and want to get married, WHEN we have enough money for a beautiful wedding with all our family and friends there. Firstly though, makes sure your relationship is good NOW before you decide this is really what you want. If there is things about him now that you dont like or he is controling at times, imagine what it will be like if your married.
Getting married wont make proublems you have now get better. Infact they'll get worse. SO make sure your sure about this. I think you two should live together first before you decide for sure, because thats when youll really know weather you two are good together. Me and my bf are mobing out together soon, and yes we have our fights but we can never stay mad at each other for along time. One of us always makes up with the other, how long have you two been together. I wouldnt say anything about marriage until youve been together for at least 2 years. I only say this because people are good at hiding things until the last minute, then the person you thought loved you turns out to be a complete jerk. Ill bet you money if your mom doesnt like that your together, that you havnt been together that long. This same thing happened with my mom, but weve been together for so long that shes now realized that this IS real. Lastly,
I want you to think about this tonight when you are alone, 50% of marriages end in divorce within their first year. Thats half girl!! Just take what ive said and think about that for the next few days. Feel free to e-mail me, if you wanna talk more. Darasweb@yahoo.com
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ok i like this gurl and i want to tell her and this is my plan but i want to kno if its corny or not. ok i was gonna ask her to take a walk with me and then take her hands and b like "i really like u and i was wondering if u could see me as a b/f?" abd then also if she says yes wat am i sapposed to do and wat do i do if she says no?
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Just wait until the right momment when your both alone together, the walking thing is good but if its not possible then just wait until your the only two in a room, then try it. You might try just asking "can you see us as more then friends?" Or ask her if shes ever thought about it. If she says no then just play it off, if she gives you an "umm i dunno know"
It means you might be on to something.
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Ok, this might be long and confusing, so I apologize in advance! I will give good rating even just for effort.Ok, I finally started crushing on this guy, lets call him Bob, like 3 months ago, or somehting like that. He and one of my guy friends got into a fight before that, so me and Bob never really talked. I didn't evn know who he was. Then..., I started noticing him, and realized his locker was like 8 aways from mine. I was really phsyced ... I mean I'm a freshmen, and I've had a ouple of crushes this year, but nothing serious, like more then 2 weeks until I started noticing Bob. I started to get all these butterflies. Finally, after two months, I got the courage to finally talk to him. I asked him to meet me in the library once and after that we started talking. That's when I reallly fell for him! =) And then we decidedto keep meeting after school at the library and stuff and I called my friend Alice, because I knew she USED to like him and she talked with him, so I thought maybe she could help a sista out. lol. Firstly, I asked if she liked him and she's like 'um, no, i don't think so ... ' and i explained the whole story and told fhger everything. She said she'd talk to him. So the next day, my friend Kyle calls me and says I saw Alice & Bob in the library on top of each other and flirting, so i was like wtf...?! And I called her, and she said she talked to him and he told her he didn't like me. SO I was like oh, ok, I mean what was I supposed to do? ANd she told me how HE *was all over* HER! And I was like, well are you guys gonna go out or what? And she's like no, he's too much, too fast. And the next day I asked him about her. He's like 'wtf, i hate her. what a jealous bitch. i'd choose you over her ANY day, he told me that like 21 times, lol. And he'slike she's just jealous, what a jealous hoe. So then, I just you know, went on with it and then I hear that he wrote here a not later on that say say said dont ever fucking o talk to me you fucking bitch i hate you dont look atme dont talk to me ... etc. so then she strats saying stiuff that the only reason I like BoB is cause she does, which SOO isn't true, cause I asked her in the first place. S me and her aren't talking and we USED to be best friends, so yeah. then here comes the problem, Monday, no school, Tuesday I saw Bob, and said HEY to him, i was shy, lol, and I havn't seen him since. I asked around, and I thought he had ACes(suspension!) but he didn't and I heard that he left to Siberia or somewhere (he's arabian) because its some arabic holiday. BTW, he'sonly 50% arabic. And i did notice that lots of Arabs were missing in school today, so I'm not sure if its that. then I also heard that he went to iraq or palestine or wherever for 2 years and he's coming back his junior year! i was like no, i seriously wanted to cry. then I heard, he moved/transfered. my one friend has class with him and she said he was moving or something bcz he returned his books and yturned in transfer papers so I'm not sure ... He was actually the first guy I've felt reall good about. I mean just when things were going good, things got screwed up. SO does anyone know if there *IS* an ARABIC HOLIDAY? and please I need help with all of this, I don't even know what to do. I'm like obsessed with the guy, I fell for him wasy too soon and he's just gone for sure now without a site. I'm still going to try to talk to his friends but I'm not sure. I just need some help, what to do about all of this. And I CAN'T moce on ... there is NO ONE else.! thanks for at least taking the time to read this!
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I know theres a persian holiday going on right now, because a co-worker of mine left work today and is having someone cover for her for the next couple of days. Maybe whoever told you that heard it from someone else and so on and so forth and it got all distorted and by the time you heard it, he was moving to iraq! Are you sure hes no persian?
This persian holiday is a few days long. i think its called et or eat or something.
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I dont know what the category of this is but.. Ok, heres the story this may be long but i'm not sure so if it is i'm sorry but I need all the help i can get with this question. Ok I recently spent the night with a friend of mine and while I was there her dad tried hitting on me asked me if I would have sex with him and asked me if he could kiss me and I said no, and I dont know what to do, her dad even pulled out his thing in front of me which is nasty and after all this happened I didnt go to sleep that night, I stayed up all night watching movies confused on what I should do, I mean should I get a lawer and get him sent to jail or what I am so confused and I dont know what to do, please if anyone can answer this for me I will rate high, and please who ever reads this and gives me an answer dont make jokes about it because this is very serious, thanks to everyone who answers, by the way I will rate high...Thanks advicenators! (link)
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YES tell your mom or dad or whoever, you were just caught off guard by your friends dad being a perv. You shouldnt feel embarrssed or anything none of this is your fault. The longer you wait to tell someone the easier it will be for him to get away with it. So let someone know as soon as you can.
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i got my gf pregnant and we havint told anyone yet should we tell someone like our parents
or should we not. and since i got her pregnant should we like get marryed or something i mean i am not ready for that i am only 15 (link)
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Well your going ot have to deal with this in the best way you can, i too think you should talk to your gf and ask her what she wants to do. If she wants to have an abortion, then let her, nether of you are ready for this kind of thing. I would say that an abortion is the best way to go in your situation, If you feel that both your parents will kill you so to speak. It would proubly be more painful to have it and give it up for adoption, knowing that someone else is raising it because you couldnt. That would kill me. If shes not to far along, take your butts down to planned parenthood ASAP!! If it hasnt been that long (say a day) go i think if im not mistaken you can still get the morning after pill.
What state allows 15 year olds to get married? lol
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hey! i really want to get highlights in my hair. but i dont know what colors to get. can anyone help me? i have dark brown hair, fair skin, and hazel eyes. thanx! (link)
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Are you gonna be doing theese highlights yourself, or going to a salon? if your going to a salon they shoudl know what type would look good and they will suggest things. If your doing this yourself, go to a beauty supply store and by some coloring brushes, some hair bleach, some hair clips and some pairs of rubber gloves. Thats all youll need, have a friend help you do it. They have kits that will lighten your hair for you and show you how long to keep it in the get the portions of hair to get it to the shade you want. (yes i do my friends hair all the time, so i know what im talking about)
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ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months now.
his ex gf is still in love with him and wont leave us alone. he feels guilty for leaving her for another girl and she wont stop trying with him. help ! (link)
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Who is hte other girl he left her for you?
he should feel guilty unless he did somethng wrong to her and he knows it. Ask him if he wants to go back to her, becuase it sounds like hes not over her and he needs to think things out. Tell him you dont want to be the rebound chick, because thats what you are if he left her and then got with you right after.
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wut does it mean when a guy says im not some 13 year old who's balls havent dropped mean..? (link)
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Its a term meaning that a boy who is younger and hasnt hit puberty yet isnt sexual mature. the testicles drop as puberty hits, and hes ready to have sex.
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Does anyone know how i can find a distance between one place from another like hackensack NJ to garfield NJ? (link)
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go to http://globeexplorer.com/ there you can try it for free and youll be able to see real pictures of the place you need to get too. Globe explorer has satilites that take real time pictures of the earth, and can zoom in as close as a helicoptor can see when in flight! or you might try www.streetwizard.com thats anouther good one
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Hi, right off the bat if you know nothing about the looks of classic cars from the early 70's and back dont even respond, if your going to respond just to say a color and dont know what a valiant looks like, go to google and type in 1968 valaint and look for one you lazy bum, but onto the question. Does anyone know of any good colors to paint a 1968 Valiant100 4 door sedan. i do ont want two tone, nor do i want metallica, also i do not want strips just one straight color that you think looks good on a valiant, you can also look at my profile picture and you will see my car. (link)
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I dont know what color would look best, but try to get something that matches the factory paint it came with, but maybe a diffrent color i say red or blue. Im training to be a mechanic and fabricator for classic cars. Yup im also a female!!
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