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Is it safe to have sex in a hot tub? I heard that the water can get up in you and cause infections or something. Also, is there a greater chance the condom will slip?

Yes its safe but you can still get pregnant.

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A few months ago, i had a really bad cold sore at the corner of my mouth. And it finally went away 2-3 weeks later. Now i have another one in the SAME exact spot. Is it possible it could be something else and not a cold sore? (Like an STD. Ive never given oral, but theres been contact outside of my mouth.)

I have really bad cold sores some times, Mine are sometimes cause buy my mouth! Go to the dentist and see if your having any oral problems to do with your mouth and brushing.

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so last month my bf fingered me and i gave him a handjob..he cummed and i wasnt sure if he had some on his fingers then fingered me...anyways i got my period the LAST day of february and i was totally relieved. well i havent got my period for this month...but i havent done ANYTHING what so ever this month...so yea i dont know whats up? could i be pregnant?

Yes you could be pregnant, Some times though girls miss there periods and usually its nothing inportant but it just might be go see a woman doctor and she can tell you.

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what is a vivid dream?

A vivid dream is one dream you remember!

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im really worried about my best friend she sleeps with anyone and anything that moves last week she slept with 5 different guys than last night at a party she slept with 3 guys gave head to 1 and let that guys brother go down on her and hooked up with my close mate now she saying she wont hang around me unless i change im out of ideas of things to do.

Talk to her about it if she doesnt listen leave her to it and find some new friends.

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my best friend is suddenly best freinds with my sister! we used to have like 3 hour conversations and now she always calls my sister! im losing her. please help. and dont say talk to her. please. thanks

Tell both your best friend and your sisters.
Say to your best friend that you feel that shes more of a best friend with your sisters rather than you! and you miss talking to her on the phone! which makes you unhappy.

Tell your sister that your not bothered that you talk on the phone with YOUR best friend but it upsets you that you talk about stuff that you would like to talk to both of you about.

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My question is, why does it seem like an overwhelming amount of the advisors on this web site are teenage girls? I'm serious about this. Is it because they have more time on their hands, have a stronger feeling of needing to give advice, need more advice.etc.etc? What do you think the reason is?

Girls are more sensative to talk to about problems, there is only one or two guys who are like that thats why there isnt many lads, Most guys would laugh at the problems rather than help.

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I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked only maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker?

Mabe he only sees you as a friend, If you think not get together talk to him and ask him if he would like to go out sometime. If he says yes woooohooooo! you go girl!

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thongs are like really in and i was wondering if anyone who has used one can give my pros and cons of wearing them since at this rate i'll never where one myself

Wearing thongs! there soo cool but sometimes you can get infections because of the thiness of the thong so when you go to the toilet be careful!
Guys like thongs they think there super sexy! dont have all of your thongs showing above your pants! that will look to tarty!
Any age of girls and woman can wear them id recomend starting from 11 and on wards nothing younger! And over 55 thats a no go!
If your on your period then you will have to wear a tampon if you want to wear thongs because a pad wont fit if its only small thong! Pantylinners to keep them fresh all day and you can get ones that are really thin!

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i have a homework assignment...and its to create and draw a political cartoon...im have no idea on what i should draw!...any suggestions?

Here are some ideas:
why not a dog in sun glasses.
A cat in boots
A hamster in a cool cap
loads search cartoons on google and they should be some to help you.

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me and my family are fighting alot lately.. I have a really bad attitude! and I need help! please give me advice! FAST! I'll try anything!

When you feel your going to shout stop! and take a deep breath and try working it out buy not shouting! Why dont you talk to your family about you lot fight tell them that your sorry about all the stuff in the past that you might have said that upset them. And get on with life!

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Is it possible to be suicidal, but to not have attempted suicide...?

Yes of course it is! but dont do it. be happy :D and smile.

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i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you.

Just be your self and act how you want to act! some idiots cant tell you how to act or what you do. If you want to try stuff just look at them and when they look look away that always works. Just talk to them and get used to what people say.

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ok...there is this girl at my school who is like friends with everybody...and shes is friends with me ...well at least i think... but everytime somebody has a party she is the one who hands out the invitations and she looks right at me and doesnt give me one (we talk all the time ) does she have a problem with me?

Why dont you ask her? Tell her that you never get invited to partys when she is handing out the invitations, and do you have a problem with me coming or been with you?

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My cousin is staying over my house for like 2 months and in the begining i thought i wasn't giving my sis any time with her but now i feal like they are leving me out of the picture. I was just in the room they are in and they sorta kicked me out, now i can hear them just laughing away. i don't know what to do and i know i sound really selfish but i want some atention from her to. should i say anything or just leave it alone?
what should i do?

Why not talk to your sis about it, Tell her that you feel left out and that you want to be partn of it! And that you miss having fun with her. Tell her your sorry for been so distant and never giving her time but your willing to talk to her and work everything out.

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hey, i just hooked up with my xboyfriend again, and this kid at school who i used to like got really mad at me and stopped talking to me beause i always complained about my xboyfriend and now im going out with him, but thats beside the fact, anyway i broke up with the kid i just went out with after like 15 minutes because we got into a huge fight over his dead brother because yesterday was supposed to be his birthday and well its a long story but anyway was it dumb of me to go out with him in the first place? how should i get the kid i like to not be mad at me anymore?

Tell him your sorry! be honest about it and say that arguing over his brother was silly and it was his birthday, Just let everything come out and be truthful.

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There's this guy I know, who I haven't really been friends with since I've known him. I don't NOT like him, but he went through a phase of punching me whenever he saw me, mocking my voice, and telling me to shut up a short while ago. However, he has stopped that and is being very nice to me.
A friend of mine has said that he thinks im hot, and quite a few people I know seem to think that this guy likes me.
I recently gave him my number and since then he has called me every day, sometimes more than once. I met him once and he was very friendly, but kept being very close to me.
I have no problem with this, having liked him for a short while now, but it has left me confused about his feelings for me.
Any clues? Its driving me mad...
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I think he likes you and is scared to admit it! why not ask him out on a date and then you can find out if he likes you, Not a date date like friends sort of thing and see if it goes well and what hes like when your on your own together.

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Hi my brother and his m8 ALWAYS make fun of me. Like today for example, my bro said that I'm gonna be well solid when I'm a teenager and when I said why, he said that you don't see many 10 year olds like, hunky(big and with broad shoulders)kinda. He always makes fun of my weight, and it doesnt rlly help that his friend, Marcus, always makes fun of me and I really hate them both. They KNOW that I get upset easily and use that option 2 wind me up. I just wanna end this and run away!! I'm no good here and I know that they both hate me. PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!! I NEED 2 GET AWAY FROM THIS!!!!!I NEED ADVICE!!!!

They dont hate you, they just think that your some sort of person that can handle put down! dont put up with it fight back when they say something be mean back! talk about when he was a baby to his mates and all the imbarrasing stuff hes done. If that doesnt work! tell your parents about what hes like with you.

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