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look...i haven't had the best of life and i just want to know how am i supposed to get my life back on track i was but now im starting to fuck off a bit agian and im gonna be going t school pretty soon and i want to at least make it through high skool and ill be happy but as far as i know thats not even going to happen...ive done so much shit it like a habit but i stoppe dbut now i think im gonna or i think i am already starting to do it agian... its like some one else is taking over me... i need help and i cant tell my parents becuz of some reasons... it would probably help if i told you wat ive done but im kinda ashamed of it all but yet i don't wanna stop but i do.... its just comfusing...ill just go now ... someone please help me...

You need to get a psychiatrist or someone that will make it so these things you do are ended, and you dont need a parent to see one. If you need a ride there just say you want someone to talk to. If you could tell me the things you did I wouldnt be ashamed of you no matter what. We all make wierd mistakes but i could understand how you wouldnt want to post it publicly. If you wish, you can send everything that you did to my inbox, and i will help you more specifically. Sorry i couldnt been of too much help, but i promise you'll get a good answer if you try my inbox.

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ok heres the deal.my friend told me that ryan was back stabbing me that i shouldn't belive nething she says..well yesterday i was talkn to this boi n she started talkn to him n lied n said they started datn that got me pissed.. should i belive that she is a back stabber

YES. she is a total back stabber. And therefore a sucky friend.

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so ever since my boyfriend dumped me ((about 4 days ago)) ive been having thots and dreams that sum1 is out to kill me.
i keep thinking that sum1 is guna come in my bedroom and shoot me or sumthin. i know this isnt normal, and im so confused why this is happening!
im scaring myself but i can help it! *i rate*

hmm.. thats odd but understandable. Maybe your just under stress in your life and because of that your thinking all these terrible things are coming after you, maybe a lil paranoid? But hm.. i know it sounds wierd but leave your door open and put on the hall light. Or try watching a lot of tv ((nothing scary!!) before you go to bed. Tv will take your mind off of everything, and leaving the light on might make you feel more secure. Good luck xoxo

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Okay im going on my 1st date next thursday, i have blonde hair blue eyes, i need to no wat to where and wat shoes, hair (haircut) make up,...lol yea..okay get it too me soon my sn is nOt So 1nnoc3ntt thanks

*Scared*

I wouldnt go cutting your hair. Theres no need, your date might think that your a little obsessive. But do what you wish. If you leave your hair, try scrunching it? That would look cute. If you dont know how to do that you can just ask hehe. Since I dont really know your wardrobe of shoes, i guess i cant be too specific, but trying wearing boots, a courderoy or denim skirt, and a cute simple tee. You can use some blue eye liner to brighten up those eyes, try putting eye liner in the corners, egyptian style, match the eye shadow to your top, and just use plain black mascara. Hope you have a fun time, and hope i helped.

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my two best friends never met eachother until i introduced them .. know they r leavin me out .. nd i told them how i felt nd noe they r doing it behind my back.. give advice plz

Ok, you need to get some other friends to resort to when these 'best friends' are on your back. So try hanging out with new people, invite people over you dont normally. Plus these people really dont seem like they're going to be nice about it, so tell them until they know how to include you in things your taking a break from your friendship with them. They'll have to understand. If they are good friends they'll ask for you back, or apologize, or whatever it is they have to do. Its basically like a test. If they're sucky friends, they'll never bother and you wont need them then anyway. Good luck, im really sorry for everything. Hope everything turns out ok ... :-D

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okm so this really hot guy from school. everyone likes him. started askin to come over alot for like a month during the summer, and he was like mmy best friend. then like the last nite since he's come over we mad eout, and after that i barely talked to him, on the internet a few times.. and now that schools started up again, like never. was ilike bad? or was he just waiting to make out with me or what? cuz when i think about it sometimes i wish we were still friends..

go straight up to him and ask him to hang out some time, if he says no, that hint$ that something went wrong, if he says yes hes probably just busy or whatever. But dont be afraid to make a 1st move, theres nothing wrong with it. Good luck xoxo

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i think i might have something wrong with my lungs. i get out of breath WAY too easy. i don't think i have athsma, cuz i've never had an attack, and i don't smoke, but my parents do. i'm getting bad grades in p.e. because i can't run. i COULD run...if i could breathe, because it doesn't tire my legs at all...but anyway, how can i tell if there's something wrong with me, or what do i do?

definetly see a doctor on that. Its too tricky to tell whats up without some help from a doctor b/c i wouldnt want to suggest anything that could totally mislead you. The doctor will tell you whats up and hopefully you'll have a way of getting out of running in gym, or you'll take some medication and be able to run. Im sure the outcome will be happy if you see some medical help :-D.

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what is the best way to get a babysitting job?

advertise in the area. Post some signs up, put soem in mailboxes, anything you can do to get your name out.

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ok well, me nd my mom fite constantly and i dont no what 2 do! its liek she never wants 2 help me out at all, if she drives me 2 my friends house one day i'll b hearing about it 4 the next 2 weeks. my friends parents always offer 2 drive me places ebcuase my mom wont, it makes me so upset that i have 2 ask other peoples moms 4 rides when my own mom wont. and my dad works alot but he'll drive me 2 my friends and stuff more then my mom will and he works ALOT more than her. and its usmmer so i have 2 stay home with my sister until 3 when my mom gets home but then shes always like im 2 tired blabalbal. i just dont no it may make me sound kinda selfsish but im reelie not its jsu like my omm never wnats 2 help me at all. i dont no what 2 do, and i get so upset sow e end up yelling at each other and i get in even more trouble, please help.

tell her how you want to have a closer relationship. Try and be patient about watching your sister. I mean, your mom and dad are out so you guys have a roof over your head and food on the table, which means your the only one left to make sure your sister doesnt run into any trouble, cause shes just a kid. So that you have to understand. But offer to do more chores and help her out so shes not always so tired. Ask her if you guys can make some sort of pact that will help you grow more loving then hating. Tell her your always there to help lift stress off her. Maybe instead of her doing the laundry you could do it, and return get a ride to your friends house :-D. Address the situation kindly, screaming, whining, crying will not help your scenario.

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The year I decided to try out for volleyball. Before the tryouts, we had 3 days of practice to get us ready. The 3 practice days are over, and they were pretty rigorous. After every practice, my wrists and legs would hurt for hours. It hurts to walk. Before practice, we run a few laps around the track and run up stairs to warm up. Tryouts are on Tuesday. Is there anything I can do to stop the pain from coming after practice? Or is it just because I'm not used to working out this hard and I'll get used to it after a while?

Hmm have you been stretching before you start? See a doctor before things get serious and you REALLY cant play. Before practices take a warm bath to loosen up your muscles. You need to relax so that you really arent hurting yourself. If the season just started it may be that you just need to get used to it, but i wouldnt wing it without a doctors help. Im very independant and i realyl dont like seeing doctors but if i realize the importance, it makes me go. So just think of how if you let things get worse, it may mean no volleyball whatsoever. If you see the doctor, you'll be playing volleyball and comfortably. Good luck hun.. xoxo

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ok my best friend likes this guy i've known 4-ever and i never liked him untill she said she did i don't if its cuz i'm jealous or what but i want to be happy for her but i just can't get over my jealously of her and him so what can i do to get over him and her

You need to find someone else. Start hanging around the guyz for a bit, see what goes down. I mean you have to get your own life and do your own things, do you wanna be a follower, or a leader? I say leaders sound 10x more interesting, but its all your decisions to be making. Just realize this guy isnt the 1 you want, hes just the one your friend wantz and your a little jealous. See how your best friend makes her life original and her own, and go ahead and use the same techniques but in your own lil style. good luck sweeetie

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ok so my best friend thinkz that theres a guy in our class who likes her cuz shes been asking him who he likes and hes giving off clues in a way. but i talked to him and from my point of view, it sounds like im the person that he likes cuz he said its a "very close friend of hers" that he likes. so if its ME that he likes and not her, and he told me not to tell anybody, should i tell her that shes not the one that he likes? this is a very serious question and i could loose my friendship with both of them if i just make one wrong move

dont tell her! Just dont. Let her keep thinking what she wants if you tell her shes not the one she might go back to him and he may think your like all over his case for telling her and then he may tell you nothing at all. So what I say you do, wait it out. Eventually he will ask the girl out. And if its you, its you. If its her, respect the fact that he likes her and she likes him and for then you cant do anything. I totally understand the extremity of your question it is important. But she cant get mad if you ever want out with him b/c then shes not a supportive friend and you shouldnt be friends with her in the first place. But im sure if shes a good person she'll accept it. Just dont say any rude comments or shove things in her face and you will be fine. Good luck hun

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Well. I'm 14 and I have been madly in love with my neighbor ever since I moved here when I was 9. We write each other e-mails and we sometimes talk on the bus and stuff. He's 18 and he's going to be a senior this year and I'm going to be freshmen, many people that are freshmen date seniors so I don't think its the age. My mom said that he's probably just waiting until I'm older cuz I'm young but I dunno. He knows I like him because my friend would always yell out the window to him that i was in love with him. He asked me last year if he wanted to get a ride to school with him everyday this year, and I said yes. I really like him alot. Should I tell him? Or should I get a friend to ask him stuff?! I dunno what to do. PLease help!! I rate!!

*amy

DONT HAVE friends do stuff for you . It gets messy. Just say look, i kinda have feelings for you. Or something simple, dont make a whole long speech stay simple and natural and unoriginal ((i like originality but not in that category lol)).. but best wishes hope everything goes down ok. He seems like the kinda guy thats into u. Good luck sweeeetie.. by tha way your mom might be right but theres no harm in figuring what hes feelin' for sure. good luck

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where is the place to get face plated for a cell phone?

TRY ICING OR CLAIRES

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I've been going out with my boyfriend fro two months. well lately he's been acting odd lately, but not in a bad way. but hes been mentioning 'love' alot but never said 'i love you', for example we were talking about wat our last names meant and i said i didn't know what mine meant and he said '(his last name) loves'. its so odd because he makes sure that i know that he cares about me. dont get me wrong i love the fact that he cares about me because i care about him to, but i'm scared hes gunna say 'i love you' to me, becuase i dont love him, i care about him alot, but its not to the point of love. if he says it to me tho, what am i supposed to say? thanks for the help
-confused love

well its really good you value these words. Appreciate the maturity level your at. Im sorry but many people come on here and there like -i love mah baby- and their twelve or something. Ok, those relationships are the ones that are the shortest. Love is soooo different .. love is like.. twisted..and such a sudden rush people have for eachother, i mean 2% of the time will anyone under the age of like 18 will ever find this. When your young its so hard to be serious. If he tells you 'he loves you' he really might, but instead of discussing your take on the whole love thing, just say i care about you alot, or i care about you so much. If you tell him how you feel about 'love' you'll make him feel like an idiot for trying to be sweet. so dont mention the topic. Everytime he says 'i love you' say exactly how you feel about him. And trust me, the truth will get you so far. In the end everything will come into place. But good luck, if you need more help, try my inbox.

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ok... thers this girl that i kinda like a lil more than a freind but i have a girl that im happy with and i dont know if thsi grl fells the same about me. i dont know if i should just ask her how she feels or keep hiding the fact the i like her.

no, ask her how she feels. It wont hurt you, it'll help your case and you wont always be just wondering what shes thinking. Trust me, even if she doesnt like you, most girls wouldnt be mean about it.

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in the past weeks since schools started..theres been this guy and his friends that have been hanging around my locker..and well this guy came up to me one day and asked me for my name...and well...we kinda talked like once in a while in the hall way..but today..he asked me for my number..ah so i gave it to him...1 problem..i have a boyfriend..and well this guy is really awsome..and so is my boyfriend, and i just dont know what to do..about this guy...idk i think i kinda have feelings for him but idk i jsut really dont know what to do...

follow your heart.Unfortunately no one knows what your feeling so you need to think up who you REALLY want to be with. But dont drag out the whole situation, pick asap.

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i used to cut for 2 years but my ex bf told after i went through a lot and he told so now im getting help...well the other day my friend came over and we were talking about cutting but i stopped so she said "well getting high takes it away like cutting does" so i got high, my friends would kill me if they found out...and theyd probably tell and i dont want that to happen...theyd probably all hate me too and i dont want that to happen cauze i love them all sooo much! but the only person who knows is that girl...help me please, what do i do?

tell your friends now your doubling your

1. insecurity
2.problems
3.and injuries!!!

Well, all i have to say is that you need to tell your friends. Maybe it will take some yelling at for you to atleast save your life. Please, tell them, you will benefit so much. good luck, if you EVER need me, just inbox one, i really am sorry for you.

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 2 weeks now. Everything is going great, heck we're even going to the movies this weekend. But, I'm just not sure he likes me the way he says he does. Sometimes it seems like he just likes me as a really good friend. I guess what I'm trying to ask is..well do you know how I can find out if he really does like me the way I like him..

hun he wouldnt go out to you if he wasnt all into you. Dont feel like that just cheer up, kiss him, do things friends dont and 'find out'. good luck

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ok well this is kinda long but ok..ever since i was little i fell in love with gymnastics, i was about 6 when i saw the olympics and was just amazed by it. i used 2 sit and do cartwheels in my livingroom and stuff. well i beged my parents 2 let me join gymnastics and they never did...about a year and a half ago they finally let me take a summer session but i didnt learn much..now the olympics are on tv and i dont no it bothers me alot that its liek my dream will never come tru and it makes me mad at my parents, i feel like they never encouraged me at all and it may sound stupid but i dont now hat 2 do 2 get rid of this feeling, and i just feel liek im not good at ne thing anymroe, please help

Ok well, girl keep up the motivation. No ones useless and no dream is shattered until you've lost all your hope, so keep the hope up. Try getting a job or doing some chores so you can make money and pay for gymnastics. What other rejection could they have to that? Explain how you feel and how you want to be good at something, and you really just want to have your own little hobby. After they see all this they'll be like wow, shes right. If your still having troubles come straight to me, my inbox is waiting :-)

good luck xoxo

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