ok so my best friend thinkz that theres a guy in our class who likes her cuz shes been asking him who he likes and hes giving off clues in a way. but i talked to him and from my point of view, it sounds like im the person that he likes cuz he said its a "very close friend of hers" that he likes. so if its ME that he likes and not her, and he told me not to tell anybody, should i tell her that shes not the one that he likes? this is a very serious question and i could loose my friendship with both of them if i just make one wrong move
SilentHelper answered Thursday August 19 2004, 11:39 pm: Hello. I think you should tell you're friend that you have a feeling this boy may like you and not her and explain you're reasonings. If she gets mad, calmly reason with her and explain to her that you deffinately aren't interested in forming a relationship with him and that you didn't want her getting hurt. It may be better for her to find out from you ahead of time rather than be let down by him and find out that he liked you the whole time, which would make matters worse. If things don't go well, then I'm sorry; however I don't think they will. Good luck, and thank you for you're time. Hope all goes well!
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Mercy_x_Me answered Thursday August 19 2004, 11:38 pm: dont tell her! Just dont. Let her keep thinking what she wants if you tell her shes not the one she might go back to him and he may think your like all over his case for telling her and then he may tell you nothing at all. So what I say you do, wait it out. Eventually he will ask the girl out. And if its you, its you. If its her, respect the fact that he likes her and she likes him and for then you cant do anything. I totally understand the extremity of your question it is important. But she cant get mad if you ever want out with him b/c then shes not a supportive friend and you shouldnt be friends with her in the first place. But im sure if shes a good person she'll accept it. Just dont say any rude comments or shove things in her face and you will be fine. Good luck hun [ Mercy_x_Me's advice column | Ask Mercy_x_Me A Question ]
chain_chica answered Thursday August 19 2004, 7:39 pm: ok this is easy if he asked to you keep your mouth shut do it.....she doesent need to know that its not her cuz if you tell her she will atomaticly assume that you know who it is and if you tell her its you you'll just probably end up with both mad at you....but if this guy reacts on his feelings well then if you find that you really like him back well just tell him to wait make sure your friend will be ok with everything then go for it but i'd say keep it shut until everything is right but right now i say she dosent need to know. hope i helped if you have anymore questions feel free to ask me [ chain_chica's advice column | Ask chain_chica A Question ]
charmed-cherry21 answered Thursday August 19 2004, 7:38 pm: He could like both of you but she could get mad at you if you tell her that he doesnt and she may not believe you and because he told you not to tell her i would just keep quiet and not let her find out.*Haleigh Ann* [ charmed-cherry21's advice column | Ask charmed-cherry21 A Question ]
Sherry answered Thursday August 19 2004, 7:36 pm: Dont say anything if you dont wanna lose your friendships. Sooner or later she'll figure out the guy doesnt like her. [ Sherry's advice column | Ask Sherry A Question ]
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