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all we do is fight!
ok well, me nd my mom fite constantly and i dont no what 2 do! its liek she never wants 2 help me out at all, if she drives me 2 my friends house one day i'll b hearing about it 4 the next 2 weeks. my friends parents always offer 2 drive me places ebcuase my mom wont, it makes me so upset that i have 2 ask other peoples moms 4 rides when my own mom wont. and my dad works alot but he'll drive me 2 my friends and stuff more then my mom will and he works ALOT more than her. and its usmmer so i have 2 stay home with my sister until 3 when my mom gets home but then shes always like im 2 tired blabalbal. i just dont no it may make me sound kinda selfsish but im reelie not its jsu like my omm never wnats 2 help me at all. i dont no what 2 do, and i get so upset sow e end up yelling at each other and i get in even more trouble, please help.
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My mom and me are totally the same way. I mean, she moved us out here into the boonies .. and it is sooo boring. And my family life is shitty, and i get real depressed about it sometimes ... so I know how you feel. I always ask my dad for drives everywhere, but with both of my parents, i'll hear about it for weeks on end. I really don't know what to say on this. Our mom's sound alike, which means they are irrational and mean and "tired" all the time. lol. So you can't sit them down and talk to them. lol. But anyways, your not alone hun!!!!
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Try and be a little bit more patient with her. Then talk to her about how you don't like fighting and that you don't like asking other people's mom's to take you places...you want it to be your OWN mom! Maybe eventually you all can work something out so you can spend more time together and figure out what's wrong.
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My mom and I were the same way. But I never took the time to sit and talk to her about it. I just assumed she knew how I was feeling. I mean shes a mom all moms know everything! She was ALWAYS yelling at me but when I was starting to be grounded everyday for the dumbest things I knew something was wrong and it wasnt me. I talked to her and told her that I hated fighting everyday and I wish we were more close like other moms and kids. Here I found out how she was under ALOT of stress from work and home just every day things. So e both workes at it. Sure she didnt take me every where I wanted to go but she tried. Now we talk about alot of things and we help EACH OTHER OUT when we can. Dont get me wrong cuz i still have things I cant talk to her about. But maybe if you talk to your mom and ask her how SHE is feeling and how things are going in her life maybe you can help each other and that will create a bond.
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tell her how you want to have a closer relationship. Try and be patient about watching your sister. I mean, your mom and dad are out so you guys have a roof over your head and food on the table, which means your the only one left to make sure your sister doesnt run into any trouble, cause shes just a kid. So that you have to understand. But offer to do more chores and help her out so shes not always so tired. Ask her if you guys can make some sort of pact that will help you grow more loving then hating. Tell her your always there to help lift stress off her. Maybe instead of her doing the laundry you could do it, and return get a ride to your friends house :-D. Address the situation kindly, screaming, whining, crying will not help your scenario.
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ok my mom is the same! she dosent work n her n my stepdad r gettin divorced she NEVER takes me newhere. i have to ask my friends moms to bring me over to their house. n its startin to get my friens in trouble...well yelled at.. n i hate it.
wat i have done is say "if u drive me there"...."my friens parents will drive me bac"
that works....ok.. hope i helpeded ~jinx~
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dude. no, you're not being selfish at all. i can totally see your point of view. i fight with my mom constantly, and its not because im a stupid obnoxious teenager. its because shes stubborn. my mom doesnt like ANY of my friends unless theyre picture perfect. she always makes my friends feel unwanted in my house, so everyones afraid to come over. and she makes me watch my brother constantly when she goes out and doesnt even thank me. we get in huge fights all the time. so i can see where you are coming from and i know how you feel. what i've found that worked for me is, to just stay calm when an arguement starts. dont talk in a cocky tone of voice. and then when she starts getting bitchy, be like "mom. STOP. listen to how rude you are being. i only asked a simple question." make her feel like an ass. and try to get your dad or someone on your side. i dont know, i hope i helped.
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Me and my mom are like you and your mom. She never drives me anywhere and when she does, like you said, I'll hear about it for like two weeks. It sucks. But, my dad isn't any better either. I think you should just have friends at your house more often. Or, try telling your mom, how come I get rides from my friend's mom more than from you? Lol, good luck!!
-xXoBrianna
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learn how to use the bus.
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