Hey, I'm Kelli, better known as fabulous ;)
after a very long break from this site, I'm back and ready to help out anyone who needs it.
A little bit about me:
I'm fourteen and in eighth grade.
I'm a crazy girl, and I always have a smile on my face.
I love to sing and dance, I spend most of my time doing one or the other.
I am nice to everyone, until they give me a reason not to be.
I have the best friends in the world, and without their love and support, I wouldn't be who I am today.
Ask me anything, I'm told I'm good at advice so don't be afraid to ask my opinion. I'll do the best I can to help you out! ♥
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Okay okay...Im 14/f and im dating this guy.
Hes so sweet. And hes perfect. And i love him.
And okay...ive dated guys in the past, but it was stupid and we never did anything. The farthest ive ever gotten with any guy was this one time, i got really drunk and we kissed. He was trying to make out with me but idk...he just sorta sucked on my lips until i pulled away. Like i said, i was drunk.
But this ones perfect. Hes been moving at a pretty good pace for me. We hold hands and cuddle and stuff and we've been on one date (to the movies with a bunch of friends) and it was great. So tomarrow night he wants to go to this great ice cream place, just me and him. Im really excited. Every once in a while, on the phone, he mentions something about kissing me. Ive never really kissed a guy, for real. And im nervous that i'll skrew i up or something. i dont need kissing lessons or directions really, just some pointers on keeping it simple and stuff.
like What do guys my age expect for their first kiss with a girl?
also, when you just do a simple peck, do you just brush up against his lips or like suck in or what????
idk...
help. (link)
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Hey. In my opinion, there really isn't a right age for a girl to get her first kiss. It really depends on the girl. As for what the guys expects? It also depends on the guy. Honestly, I haven't had my first kiss, but I can't picture a guy wanting to get his lips sucked on by a girl he's never kissed before. I would lean in and kiss him softly. If he kisses you back, thats when you can decide if your ready for tongue or anything other then simple closed mouth. Guys like confidence in girls, they find it sexy. So just work up your nerve and go for it. He's a guy so I'm sure whatever you do will be just fine. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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What does exactly"attached" to a friend mean?
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Hey. It means that although one person in the friendship usually latches on to the other person. Whereas the other person may want some space, the "attached" one may have trouble hanging out with other people. ♥ fabulous
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does smoothing shampoo make hair straighter? (example, Garnier Fructice Sleek & Shine) (link)
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Hey. I've tried multiple straightening shampoos and I really haven't notice any difference on my hair. Instead I would go for a smoothing shampoo with heat protection and then straighten you hair when its dry :]. ♥ fabulous
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when someone knocks on a bathroom door and your inside, what are you supposed to say? haha i know its a stupid question but i dont know what to say. (link)
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Hey. Haha you could say "someones in here" or "ill be out in a minute." hope that answers your question ahha ♥ fabulous
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Well I have been dating this guy for 4 months. He is SO sweet, like always saying, i love you, your pretty ect. Anyways, his bestfriend told me that my boyfriend told him that he wanted me to hug him sooo badly. I mean really badly. Everyday after school he looks like he wants a hug but instead we go seperate ways (which we have to) and say bye and i love you. and thats it! should i hug him or not? I want to but im realllyyyyyyyyyy shy. i really need help
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Hey. Aww he sounds like a sweetie! I think you should go for it. It's not as if its a big step - its just a hug! I mean I hug my friends all the time. As for being shy I wuouldn't think twice about it. It's obvious he already thinks plenty of you. ♥ fabulous
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okay so im annoyed. my parents dont let me hang out with guys. and it sucks because im friends with A LOT of guys in my school. and so sometimes (like today) my friend asked to come over my house friday and swim (a girl) and i said id ask my mom cause i wanted her to come and swim at my house, and then later on my friend asks if her AND this guy can come over and i told her i was busy but im really not, but i dunno what to do cause im just so mad my parents wont let me hang with guys. please dont say 'talk to ur parents' cause ive tried. but i can only hang with guys if its at someone elses house and my parents dont even know. i dont wanna say "i cant hang with guys' because ppl have seen me hang with guyys. (im SO sorry if this is confusing) i just dont know how to tell my friends, and a lot of them are guys and i just hate when people wanna hang out, i feel so excluded. (link)
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Hey.I`m pretty much in the same boat as you with guys. I hate to break it to you, but there really isn't anything you can do but talk to your parents. If you go behind their back and they find out, that pretty much kills any amount of trust they had in you and what privliges you had. Just tell them that not every guy out there is going to cause trouble with you. You just get along with a lot of the guys at school and have fun with them. Ask them to at least let you have a mixed group of your girl and guy friends over as sort of a trial run and they can see that you aren't trying to do anything you shouldn't be doing. I'm sorry if this really doesn't answer your initial question but there really aren't many options in a case like this. Good luck, hope I helped even a little. ♥ fabulous
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ok well my best friend asked me out yesterday and i said yes. we're both girls both bi. we're 14 and in 8th grade so our relationship is a secret. tomorrow we're supposed to go to the movies together and all but i was thinking maybe i should tell her i dont want to date her. i mean for me it would be better just to kiss her and see how that feels. ive never kissed a girl before but i really want to and see i can imagine doing things with her but not "liking" her. its very complicated. i just dont see her as someone i can relate to on that kind of level of girlfriend to girlfriend. she and i are cool as friends. but we could also be friends with benefits. how do i explain to her that i dont like her but would still like to make out with her. the thought of kissing her turns me on. haha i could even go father than that! hmm help? thanx (link)
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Hey. This tough, I know cause I have a friend that is bi. Anyway, I would just tell your friend how you feel. Since she is bi, she's probably been in the same boat. I dont see anything wrong with kissing her to get a feel for if your compatible. if you are then thats great! if your not, I wouldn't reccomend the whole friends with benefits thing because usually, one person if always thinking it could turn into something more and you don't want to destroy your friendship. If you don't know how she'll react, just kiss her. If she asked you out, she'd probably be way happy anyway. Good luck :D ♥ fabulous
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Well when my mom and dad were married, they adopted 4 kids, myself, my younger brother, my older brother, and my older sister.
We arent blood related, all different, but from the same country.
Anyways, they were married for like 22 years and then they got divorced, I'm 16 now.
They got divorced when I was too little to understand, but as I got older I did go through the 'every other weekend' at my dads house, and on 'wednesdays' where i would visit with my younger brother.
Well my dad got married again,
then he got divorced,
and then he got married again to a women named *jane
And currently he's married to her right now.
See my dads like 52, and his wife is in her mid fortys I guess. I'm not sure.
But recently we found out that they are expecting a baby. My mom said it didnt really bug her anymore, but today during church, she just started balling and left the service, it was about mothers day.
She said it was because she doesnt think its fair we didnt have a dad growing up really, and now he's going to devote so much time a new baby. I understand that, and I feel really bad for her. But I really dont think I need a father, my dad and I never really had a relationhip, a good one, and he has been verbally abusive and sometimes physically but not horribly, and I think that is the cause why I have such resentment towards "men" I dont like my friends dads, because they make me uncomfortable.. but thats not the point, I cant deal with that problem right now.
What am I supposed to do about this,
I mean how am I supposed to feel?
I honestly dont care, my dad hasnt fully come out to me and told me that they are having a baby, but he already told my older sibblings,
and they told me.
He wont flat out tell me and my younger brother yet, he said that he has good news to tell us but wants to tell us with *jane. I already know what it will be. His whole spiel that he told my older sibblings.. "i love you, and even if i hav e ababy it wont change anything... i wont love it more than i love you... ' blah blah, frankly I dont care if he did.
Its not a big deal to me.
I dont know, if I'm asking for a specific question, its just my whole life has been "this" kind of complicated. Having divorced parents, and just the little things that happened, the things that you cant just explain to people on the internet, you know, I'm jsut confused, and I dont know what at all to think.
But PLEASE dont tell me I shoudl accept the baby and everything, I dont want to be part of its life. (link)
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Hey. Boy you are one tough kid you have been tnrough so much and its really cool that you and your mom are so close. I can easily see how it bothers your mom and could make you mad about the baby. But in reality, the baby is only going to be your half brother or sister and if you want to get real technical, not even related at all since you were adopted. Your 16 which isn't necessarily an adult but close enough. You are old enough to make your own decisions and your parents should respect whether you choose to become a part of the babies life or not. Although I know it isn't so much the baby as the idea of him having a baby, but I don't think you should decide to not be around the baby. The innocent child has no idea what he or she is being born into and it would be pretty cool for him or her to have an older sibling they could trust and come to (even though they will have others) but to answer your initial question, its ok that it doesn't bother you so much. Maybe eventually it will or maybe it won't. Everyone handles things differently and this is just your way of dealing. Good luck and if you need anything else please feel free to leave one in my inbox. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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Hey, well me and my boyfriend are havin problems. Basically since like the first couple months we started goin out. We fight almost everyday, and we know we have that issue. We like each other a lot, but we just fight all the time. We've talked about it a lot and now were trying to figure out ways to stop it. Breaking is definatley the last thing on our list to do. We wanna take a break, but im not sure what the break will consist of. Being that we have a class together, and we talk on the phone every night. So basically my question is, how can we stop the arguring, with a possibly of taking a break, but not aiming towards breaking up? If that didn't make sense, basically what should we do? (link)
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Hey. This sounds really tough, but if you and your boyfriend both want to make an effort, I'm sure you two can work through it. Try to cool off your relationship for a while, don't talk on the phone as much or hang out every day. If you guys have a chance to miss each other, your less likely to argue in the time you have together. Plus if you really can't get past whatever it is your arguing about, ask a friend to try and help smooth things over, or come to a compromise depending on what you're fighting about. Good luck with your guy. ♥ fabulous
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Is it possible to drink TOO much water? If so, why??
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Hey. Yes it is but it is very hard and very unlikely that this would happen. Too much water washes out your electolytes but I have only heard of this when someone drank tons of gallons of water. You have nothing to worry about ♥ fabulous
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I saw a question about how to get guys to notice a girl at lets say a mall(asked by a girl), and i was wondering how to get girls to notice me in a public place. say like a mall for instance. and if i feel that i should approach a girl, what is a good way to get into a conversation and not make a fool of myself ?
im 16/m by the way(17 in june) (link)
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Hey. This made me smile cause I`m a girl and it seems that girls are always asking the same questions about guys!Anyway if you want to talk to a girl, just be yourself and talk to her! I`m sure she'd be flattered that you worked up the nerve to talk to her! I know I would. You seem sweet so just be yourself. That will be enough for the right girl. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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I have a problem because I really want to be in all the theater things and plays my school and town has to offer, but i'm only a good actress, not singer. I am a HORRIBLE singer. THis is so anniong because literally ALL of the productions in my town are musicals!! When I audition I have to embarass myself by singing, and I don't get a part/get a horrible part. Is there any way to solve this problem. Oh yeah and please don't tell me to take singing lessons cause there is no hope for my voice! (link)
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Hey. I am the other way around. Great singer, terrible actress. Anyway all I can say is practice practice practice. I know you said you don't want voice lessons, but nothing would be lost in taking them. They can show you techniques to steady your voice and hit high and low notes. Also, if you know what musical you are planning on auditioning for, pick the song you are going to sing in your audition and work on it over and over, especially the parts you have trouble with. Also, tell the people at your audition that your strong point is acting not singing, but you are willing to work very hard to get it right. With the right song, I think it is possible for everybody to sing well. Good luck, see you on broadway! ♥ fabulous
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I`m only 13 and my parents treat me like I`m 18 and they won't buy me ANYTHING! They make me pay for my clothes, my food when I go out to eat, staying at hotels for a family vacation, and basically everything. They won't even buy me a pack of gum! I'm only 13 and I can't really have a well-paying job and I already walk dogs but that can't pay for everything.. I can't even shop anymore because I don't have enough money for more then 2 shirts and as soon as I buy 2 shirts I have to save up for another 3 months until I have any money again.
It really annoys me because my friends always brag about how their mom took them to the mall and bought them 9 bags of clothes and they didn't have to pay. My parents haven't bought me any clothes since I was 11. My mom never takes me to the mall because she says "I don't like to drive and it's too far away." Yeah, the mall is literally 10 minutes away. I still have all winter clothes to survive in this summer because I have NO money to buy anything and my birthday has already passed.
Don't you think it's harsh to make a 13 year old pay for EVERYTHING including like gum and stuff?! The most I can do is walk dogs and it's not like they are punishing me for being a bad kid because I get straight A's and I'm never in trouble so it's not a punishment.. I think they are so harsh because clothes are a necessity and all of my friends sit on their butts and get everything handed to them and I`m trying to pay for everything and it's not going to work out.. I've already tried telling them that it's impossible to pay for my own wardrobe and food and stuff when my only way of getting money is walking dogs because my parents don't pay me for helping out around the house and stuff.. so how can I get them to lighten up and at least pay for SOME of my clothes and other stuff? because it would be helpful if they pitched in a little bit.
P.S if you think I should start babysitting to make money how do I bring this up with my parents?? and I ONLY want to babysit for my neighbors so should I tell them straight out I want to babysit or should my mom tell them? (link)
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Hey sweetie. It is absolutely rediculous for a 13 year old to pay for everything herself. I am 13 as well and I know for a fact that I wouldn't be able to do it so before I answer your question, let me just say kuddos to you, your a smart kid and you are going to be just fine. I would sit your mom and dad down and explain to them that you don't mind paying for some of the things that you want and don't necessarily need but that between school and your age, there really is no possible way for you to support yourself. And I hate to say it honey but if they don't listen to you, I would tell someone at school or another trusted adult whats going on. Maybe they could explain to your parents that part of the responsibility of having a child, is supporting them. Tell them you parents or at least your dad have good paying jobs and you are really not in bad shape money wise. If that doesn't work, Iw ould just put off buying clothes or food until your parents have no choice but to pay for you. As for the babysitting, let your neighbors know your available, dont have your mom do it, and maybe make up some flyers or put an add in the paper. Good luck, let me know if you need anything else. ♥ fabulouss
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my friend is going out with the guy i like and she knows i like him but i told her that i didnt like him but i told her i didnt so now i cant stand seeing them together help (link)
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Hey. Doesn't that absolutely suck? I'd tell your friend how you feel. Tell her you lied because you wanted her to be happy but it just hurts to see them together cause you really aren't over it. If she's a good friend, things will work out. ♥ fabulous
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this weekend brought a really big shock for me. i found out that a couple of my friends that i think very highly of have gone as far as 3rd base (theyre 14-15) and then my best friend ever whom i look up to has tried pot (didnt like it) and got drunk at a party (shes 18)
now i'm not trying to force them to stop doing these things, its their life and their body, but it deeply disturbs and saddens me. i understand that this is very common behavior in high school (i'm homeschooled) but like the most smartest people i know have done that.
how do i deal with this? i just really have a hard time imagining them doing these things, its almost like its their alter egos. idk.
oh ya ps they arent lying about it... trust me on this.
any feedback would be mucho appreciated. if it helps the furthest i've gone was making out (link)
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Hey. There is really no way for you to convince your friends to stop. You can let them know that you care about them and worry about their health, but as you said, its there body, their life. I don't see any reason to not hang around these friends especially if you are good at avoiding situations. If your friends start pressuring you to have sex or get high then drop them, your young you don't need people like that slowing you down. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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ok, so im 13 & my mom said that i could finally wear make up! im like really excited.. but im not sure what exacatly i should wear, cuz i dont want to look slutty or like really over do it ya know, cuz i dont think that i will wear make up every day... but my mom wont let me wear a lot of it, so it needs to be suttle, but nocitable, if you get what i mean...
I have redish blond hair, and im fairly tan but a little pale.. i have freckles across my cheeks and nose and i have hazel eyes..
anything will help!!
many many thanks in advance!!!!~ (link)
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Hey. What colors and products you decide to use are up to you but I`m thirteen to so I figured I'd let you know how the girls I go to school with and I do makeup. A light layer of black eyeliner inside your lower lid. Some people (like myself) wear light eye shadow but thats up to you. Black mascara is a must especially if you have short eye lashes. Top it off with some lip gloss and your all set. Pretty subtle and DEFINITELY not slutty. Hope I helped ♥ fabulous
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i like this kid named ronnoc. give me advice. i love you (link)
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hey. you should ask your friends to ask around and find out who he likes. Flirt with him in class and either work up the nerve to ask him out or ask one of your friends to do it. I know one who will ;-) anyway dont be so quick to think that he wouldnt go out with u. have confidence in yourself, if he doesnt like you move on cause hes not worth it. i love you to :-*
♥ fabulous
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OK, I have this bump on my lower stomach. it's huge, and it needs to be popped. yeah, groos, i know. but i can't pop it...because i'm a wimp. and advice on a way to pop it without hurting much? thanks much. (link)
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hey. im not sure what you mean by bump but if its on your stomach and it hurts to touch it, maybe you should go to the doctor before doing it yourself. im sure its nothing to worry about but your doctor should check it out just to be safe. good luck ♥ fabulous
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i wana redo my room. 13/f gothic and my mom hates goths but im gothic. so i cant do gothic well nothing she would think would be but any advice on what colors for walls and everything else.
so how could i make it look like a gothic room but not black walls.
i like purple black white red and pokadots or anything
i hate pink blue green (link)
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Hey. I would paint your room a dark red. But for a trim either on the top the middle or the bottom, you could put a strip of black. Then you can hang up posters of bands or celebrities you like and bam! A room that you and your mom can agree on. Hope I helped ♥ fabulous
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Well, heres the thing. I love a lot of different stores, but in my school its like, preps=hollister, emo= hot topic. sad,but true. i HATE it. i love both of those stores,but it seems like you cant be more than one! and, i know im going to wear them together,but can someone give me an example of an outfit? thanks ;;] (link)
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Hey. Don't you hate stereotypes? It is the EXACT same thing at my school.. maybe we go to the same school? Anyway I don't really have an outfit idea for you but I can tell you this.. with balance any outfit can work. Don't let other people influence you creative outfits are the cutest outfits. ♥ fabulous
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