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Boyfriend problems
Hey, well me and my boyfriend are havin problems. Basically since like the first couple months we started goin out. We fight almost everyday, and we know we have that issue. We like each other a lot, but we just fight all the time. We've talked about it a lot and now were trying to figure out ways to stop it. Breaking is definatley the last thing on our list to do. We wanna take a break, but im not sure what the break will consist of. Being that we have a class together, and we talk on the phone every night. So basically my question is, how can we stop the arguring, with a possibly of taking a break, but not aiming towards breaking up? If that didn't make sense, basically what should we do?
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Hey. This sounds really tough, but if you and your boyfriend both want to make an effort, I'm sure you two can work through it. Try to cool off your relationship for a while, don't talk on the phone as much or hang out every day. If you guys have a chance to miss each other, your less likely to argue in the time you have together. Plus if you really can't get past whatever it is your arguing about, ask a friend to try and help smooth things over, or come to a compromise depending on what you're fighting about. Good luck with your guy. ♥ fabulous
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This all depends on the things you argue about. If it's over little things, such as what the other is wearing or what you're going to do on a date, then it's most likely because you're subconsciously getting annoyed with each other. It's not a big deal, it's just that you probably see each other too much. A break can fix that. All you'd have to do while taking a break is not see each other for a few days, maybe a week. You don't even call each other. When the alotted time id up for the break, you'll most likely feel a lot better and you'll really want to see each other. This want will most likely eliminate the desire to argue.
However, if the fights are over really big things, such as fighting over things that are going on in your relationship, a break will NOT solve this problem. In this case, you and your boyfriend need to practice "positive" arguments. Whenever you feel a fight coming on, both of you need to try to stay calm. Put yourself in the other persons shoes. Positive arguing will allow you two to get your frustrations out without resorting to yelling or name-calling. When discussing the issue, keep your voice calm and allow each other a chance to speak and explain their side of the argument without interruption. If you can't reach a negotiation, agree to disagree and don't discuss it further. This method has greatly helped in my relationship, which has last a few years now.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend!
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