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OK, I've been dating this guy for about a month or so ...and a few of my friends think he just wants sex and im not quite sure either....One time he asked me to have sex one night but i said no. we've hung out since then and he tried to get me to give him head and stuff but i didnt and we still hang out and whatever but he hasnt asked me to be his girlfriend or anything yet so thats why im unsure nor even have we talked about it . all our phone conversations are pretty short and just consist of making plans and whats up how r u n stuff along those lines however we do talk once in a while for like 15 minutes....so my ? is do u think he just wants sex? and anyways to find out besides talking to him about it

sorry, but yes.

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just warning you, this may get long!

last night me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years were in my room and sleeping. not fooling around, literally sleeping. then my dad comes in and freaks out bitching like we had sex or something.

the situation is that i'm the only girl in the family and they treat me like crap. i do the dishes almost every night, take care of my sick grandma, do the laundry, clean the house, and do well in school yet they still look down upon me like i can't be trusted. i am a very responsible girl and i have had enough of them snooping through my room and checking up on me.

the only possible reason why i think they could be acting like this is that we don't communicate very well with each other, let alone get along. maybe bitching is their way of talking to me? even so, that doesn't explain the overprotectiveness!

my question is what can i do to make them trust me? i feel like i've done everything, all ending in failure.

i used to really HATE them for what they put me through, but when they made an effort to BE NICE things got better. our relationship has improved over the past two of months, but after what happened last night, my grudge against them has returned.

please help, i don't know what else i can do. it seems like nothing is ever good enough for them...

-frustrated

i guess i know what you feel, because i'm an asian female as well. asian parents tend to stick to their roots and sometimes it's hard to get them to think out of the box. i've been through hell to get them to understand me and my ways, and eventually, things came out pretty well. im eighteen now and i have a boyfriend of two and a half years, but when i was fourteen.. man.. they literally killed me. i know you dont want to hear it, but it is better to talk to them about your situation. you're an adult, and from what i see, you seem to be mature. let them know that. and let them know that you are living in america, not somewhere in asia. things are different here, whether or not they like it... i hope things work out with you.. if you'd like to talk, leave me a message.

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ok well i wouldnt say i was loose "down there" but the skin-like stuff inside the lips is really lose and nobody elses i know is liek that...i havent had sex...ive been fingered by the same guy about 4 times over a year n a half ago and jus about a half year ago i was eaten out and fingered for like 2 minuted by a guy..could this be why its so lose...im still a virgin so it cant be because i had sex i need help..i dunno if this is normal or not

you're not loose because of the skin. it's considered loose if the actually "hole" is.

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I currently live in London and may be moving to either Philadelphia in America or Melbourne in Australia. Iv'e been to Melbourne before but don't know what it would be like living there. What the would be schools like, e.c.t.
Iv'e never been to America and have no idea what its like there. Could anyone who lives in Philadelphia tell me what its like? Also, I'm really fit and thin at the moment, but Iv'e heard that in America its hard to get hold of healthy foods. I don't like this whole bribe thing, but I will rate high for any good answers.

hey, i live in philadelphia. it's pretty cool. i'm sure you'll maintain your fit and thin body. i'm 5'8 and 125 lbs. and i have no problem getting a hold of healthy foods. if you decide to come to america, you'll be fine. just make sure you eat the right food and not give in to temptation of that other junk

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Well,first of all Buddhism is when you worship an idol right?What kind of gift of life is one that makes you worship a statue..to me thats no gift,and God gives us a gift of choice.We can either accept that His Son died for us and go to heaven,or we can reject that and go to hell.God also gives us the Bible which is our guide to life.If you try reading the Bible,it can teach you so much.Just think about it..its God's word.God created you,and He loves you more than any boy,friend,or even family member.He loves you so much!and He wants you to accept Him and what His plans for your life are.If you put all your trust in God,then He'll take away all of your worries,and temptations,everything, and all you have to do is ask Him.If you want to become a Christian,all you have to do is follow God and ask Him just say sumthing like, Dear God,ino that i have sinned,please forgive me, i want you to walk with me each day and help me to remeber that you love me so much and i just want you to take over my life Father God.But make sure that you totally mean it from your heart and then that's your ticket to heaven!then continue to obey God,and pray to Him everyday,and just let Him take over.I promise your life will be changed!

i respect christians and christian teachings. for one, i go to a catholic high school, and i am also going to a catholic college in the fall. i also respect that you are spreading the faith. i'm aware of god, the bible, and its teachings. however, i grew up as a buddhist, because my parents are buddhist, and they came from a country where buddhism is their main religion. that is not only why i choose to be buddhist, but also because buddhism makes more sense to me than christianity. i take no offense in what you are trying to say, but honestly, i'd rather not worship a god that no one can actually prove that exists. attending a catholic school, father would say to us, "god works in mysterious ways," when him nor the bible could answer our questions. i very much have my reasons for choosing my religion, and again, i respect what you have to say. maybe you should educate yourself more of the buddhist religion. it isn't like i rejected god or jesus or anything either, i was once christian, and yes, i do go to a catholic high school, and i am going to a catholic college.

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i dont want 2 reject your religion but i think you should try Jesus insted!

tell me why you think so, and maybe i'll consider.

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well how to start... ok so me and my b/f have been experimenting alittle bit more lately, and the other day he started like kissing my boobs and sucking my nipples and stuff like that... well today they're really sore and they kinda sting/hurt... does anybody know why this is?? or what's causing it?

he may have did it too hard. theres nothing wrong, it happens.

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IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life.

a mother should always put their child before everything. i strongly encourage you to stay at your friends house for awhile, and have her mother speak to your mother. maybe then your mom will understand once hearing it from another adult.. i'm sorry you had to go through whatever you went through, and feeling the way you feel, and i hope things get a lot better for you soon.

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I've got a question about my friend. I think she may have some serious mental problems. This morning in first hour she was writing a note to someone (I didn't know she was). Well, I glanced over in her direction and she flipped the paper, turned to look at me, and said: "Stop reading my fucking note! God, are you ever going to leave me alone?!?!" So, I asked: "...what...note?" She rolled her eyes and moved to another seat. So, naturally, I was in my seat thinking "What the hell did I do?" Anyway, in third hour she sat beside me again. Again, she was writing notes and I didn't know that she was, so I turned around to talk to her. She FREAKED out and starts yelling about how I'm a nosy bitch. I was ...basically speechless. I mean, it's like she's got some mental problem with excessive paranoia. For instance, yesterday in our Study Hall my boyfriend and I were writing notes to each other. My friend wanted to look at them, and because I said no, she automatically assumed that they were about her and proceeded to call me a bitch. They weren't even remotely related to her. If I talk to anyone other than her she automatically thinks that I'm talking about her or telling them secrets about her. She spreads horrible lies about couples at our schools, including me and my boyfriend. Sometimes I wonder if I should get her some counseling to try to help her out. She's excessively paranoid. I think she may be bi-polar as well (either that or she has some SERIOUS mood swings). For example, in P.E. one morning she was on a different team than me and was so mad at ME that she rammed me up into the bleachers. After P.E. she cussed me out in the locker rooms for being a "complete asshole." Then at Lunch two periods later she acted like nothing was wrong, or that nothing had ever happened. In the hallway this afternoon, I was joking about her using her cellphone (which is strictly against the school rules) and she lost it. Is this just normal teenager behavior or does my friend need some serious help? All advice would be appreciated.

first of all, why is she even your friend when she's calling you a bitch? you need to drop her, seriously. i'm surprised you didn't even beat her ass yet.. well, if she wasn't like this before, then yes, maybe she does have some type of mental problem. if you really want to help her out, then maybe you should let someone know about this situation.. but then again, if you tell someone, she might call you a "nosey bitch" again and tell you to mind your fuckin business and stay out of her life.

she definitely has issues.

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my bf and i hav been goin out for 2 months or so.then we started to not see each other. also w/ xmas break. but we hardly talk to each other. every1 says hes cheating on me. i dunno wat 2 do. anyway, other ppl says he still likes me. wat should i do?:/...

first of all, has any of those other people saw him cheating on you? or are they just saying that because they just "think" he is? if they've actually caught him red handed, then you should definitely cut your dude short. if not, you should talk to him about it anyway. if he's still being distant, then just break it off, because no one has time for bullshit and you deserve better than being bullshitted.

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I am girl, and I would say that I have pretty wide hips but not that wide. I also have almost a flat butt. Whenever I go to buy pants, I always have a hard time finding ones that actually fit well. In the back, the belt loop line (whatever it is called ) always pops out from my back. I always need a belt to support that problem but then the back of the jean looks really weird. Should I go a size smaller or bigger? Should I get my pants tailored? Please help?! I will rate high!

i'd say try buying a size smaller at first, to try and see if that works, so that you wont waste any money getting it tailored. but i guess if that doesnt work, your best bet is to, yeah, get it tailored.

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i have a bf and icant tell him why i love him i mean its heard because i dont know what to say i mean i love him i sware i havent ever had this of a stong feelings for a guy as i do for him what should I do PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

i know that saying i love you can be hard, but you should never think twice about how you feel. if you believe that you love your boyfriend, just tell him. its never easy to say i love you to a person for the first time, so just let him know.

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okay, I didn't really think I'd get any more answers to my previous question, so I'm going to put my addition to my additional answer here.
Here is my question. When you cut yourself, which by the way I'm trying to stop, so I don't really need help there, I was wondering, will the scars ever go away? Because I cut first letter of my first name in my arm, and now I regret it, and it's not that deep. None of the cuts I made had actually bled, they jstu got scabs over them. So will the scars be there forever?

nope, not really. i still have scars from when i was 12. im 18 now.

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Hi, I'm a dancer and we are making up our own hip hop dances and I want a cool song to dance to. I also want a song that would be easy to make dance moves to. Any suggestions?

i agree with ciara- goodies. you can never go wrong with reggae either.

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I'm 14 i have bluish green eyes, long dark hair, and tan skin. although i have been told by guys that i am pretty, they all say they could never date me because of my body. i am 5'8 130 LBs (a size two pants) with a size B cup. i have never met a guy who liked tall girls. i am starting to get selfsonscience. HELP!

you sound pretty. im 5'8, also 130, and not to sound any type of way, but i'd say you have a nice body. youre not fat. im also a b cup.. and b isnt small. it isnt big either, but its still nice. besides, big boobs are ugly and make grls look triflin.. so why wouldnt any guy want to date you? theyre stupid. theyre probably intimidated by you. dont be self conscious about yourself. and dont let guys make you feel that way either. bluish green eyes? long dark hair? shit, i wish i had those features.

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yesterday i had sex with mi bf.we have had sex b4 but we hadnt ad sex in about 3 months.he is quite big.it hurt when he entered me and after we finished the condom has split and the end had came off n gone inside me,im not worried about bein pregnant because i am on the pill but this mornin i went to the toilet and the condom came out and i was bleedin like it was mi period.i had mi period like a week ago so i dnt no y this is happenin.please can someone explain this too me.thanx.

i dont know about the condom thing, but about you bleeding, that happens to me from time to time after i've had sex. its pretty normal to me.. i'd think what caused you to bleed is 1. the size, or 2. he does it too hard. i believe if it goes in too deep, that it can cause some bleeding. dont worry about it, but get yourself checked out anyway, since you are sexually active.

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I want to start taking double courses and graduate very early because in a weird way i cant stand high school. I need to go to a different place and begin something new. My Question: Does anybody know of any reallly good schools in New York State, Pennsylvania area? PLEASE help me here .lol thank you so much!

*-Janine

are you talking about high school? well, i live in philly in pa, and rittenhouse academy is an okay school, just to get your credits.

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in the past my boyfriend and i got into many arguments about times when he was high or drung..but he claims he doesnt do it anymore and PROMISES he wont do it again (he knows i'll break up with him if i find him high or drunk again) BUT on friday i think he was high cuz his eyes were a 'tint' redish BUT he wasnt actin it or nothin and he didnt smell like it so my question is what are the signs that someone is high? so next time I KNOW when he is high and if he wasnt i dont accuse him of something he didnt do? so how would they act? eyes look? All that? and how long does someones eyes turn red for? can u get high without ur eyes gettin red? HELP PLEASE!

some peoples eyes dont get red at all when theyre high. it all depends on the person. when a person is high, they can act funny, or they can just be normal. if your guy smokes a lot, or often, then the weaker the weed affects him. i know people who smoke more than 4 times a day, and their eyes never turned red. although, it does lower the eye lids.

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ok i broke up with my X boyfriend last year for the 2nd time. I don't kno y but everytime i read a story about a relationship tearing apart i think of him. I have a new boyfriend and hes the best and i love him but i realize i miss my X sooooo much. He was always there for me. He would make me feel better. I cry every time i think of him and all the things we talked about. What am i susposed 2 do. I kno i should 4 get about him cuz we go 2 dif. skools now and i never really see him n e more but i really miss him. help me!!!
sry this is so long
-confused

it seems like you dont know where your heart is. if you love the boyfriend you are with now, you wouldnt miss your ex. sit down and really think about which person youd rather be with. if you conclude that its your ex that youd rather with, work on it. who cares if you guys attend two different schools. if you two really care about each other, it shouldnt matter whether or not youre close or far, because the way you feel for him conquers all. do what makes you happy, you dont need to be crying.

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I'm in love with a girl called sarah , but she fancies a boy called J. Last night she got really drunk and snogged me....IT FELT SO GOOD!
I love every part of her what do I do?

can someone let me know what snog means?

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