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i have a really hard time trusting guys, let alone anyone. i can never tell if a guy is truly interested in me or just using me. i've like my good friend for about 4 years now, without telling him because i don't know if he just wants me for sex.
Reasons he might actually care:
-everytime i ask him about a guy or say something about a guy he will basically diss on the guy and be like oh my god he's ugly or he's not for you.
-when i'm sad, he can always tell.
-he always thinks i don't tell him EVERYTHING about me. he always says "why dont you tell me anything anymore!?"
-every time i see him and either one of us is about to leave, he'll give me a hug
-he always flirts with me when i see him
-he always texts me first
-he's the ONLY guy i trust
Reasons he just wants sex:
-last year he would try getting down my pants but i wouldn't let him because i wasnt ready, but he doesnt try that anymore!
-he will randomly text me saying "wannna fuck" or saying something and then be like "i'll just fuck you;)"
-he's felt me up before, but i liked it:)
i mean, he's never told me i'm hot, cute, beautiful or anything like that so i don't know how he feels! and when he says like "wannna fuck" i'll reply back like hell yeah:)! so he knows i'd have sex with him so its kind of like me saying that its okay for him to say that to me. we've never done anything though! not even kissed. he texts me that, but he doesnt act on it. i have a feeling if i did have sex with him i wouldn't regret it because hes the only guy ive trusted, ive known him for so long and i feel like he genuinely cares about me, but then i have those doubts...
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im going to be honest ok? even if you low grade me in going to share my opinion with you.
...He just wants sex. I dont care how much he expresses interest in you ...cause he is...only in between your legs..sorry to say it that way but its true. look I dont care what klind of friend he is i personally would never say somethign like that to one of my friends cause thats disrespectful. the only reason he has not tried is cause he doesnt see you get turned on but trust me hes just waiting like a scorpion just waiting for the right time to strike and poke you..seriously the guy knows your weak and he know hes throwing you off, making you feel unsure and thats his tactic to throw you off balance to make you feel that you can only trust and rely on him only so dont. Dont tell him everything cause he wants to know your weakness and hes putting other guys down cause he knows that there are better guys out there than him and doesnt want you to realize it. I need to say soemthing to you. YOU ARE EXTREMELEY IMPORTANT,EXTREMELEY INTELLEGENT, VERY BEAUTIFUL, HOT AND SEXY and i dont need to tell you wanna f*ck? neither should he (sorry for the caps) I do suggest one thing to do and that is please be honest do you think you are ready for sex? do you want to have sex? when you said " i wasnt ready" did you really mean that or do you mean I DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX or I Don Want to Have Sex YET/Now. theres a diffrence in telling a guy im not ready...never tell a guy im not ready always say NO or NO SEX or I Dont want to have sex...dont ever even mention i dont want to have sex yet....thats throwing blood in a pool full of sharks thats you letting him know "lie to me" you get me into bed..you can really really see his true inttentions just by looking closer, just take your time. NO he doesnt care about you...i had a female friend that had a "best" guy friend for about 4 years they hung out hed trust her with everything and she trusted him to they even spent a night in the same bed but no sex..he did suggest politely sex but she wasnt sure so turned him down he didnt get upset or anything but when she met a guy she and fell in love her "friend " went nuts and went off on her boyfriend confessiong to him that hes been trying to spread her legs all of that time and wanted him to back off!! could you believe that? his true colors were revealed when she got to hear him confess and yeah she never talked to him again. look your a smart girl you know your curious about sex...heck i can tell you are and i know you want to feel sexy and wanted and desired but please just dont give in please..just ...just be careful i ..i dont trust this guy..i dont..but ultimetly its your choice and your body and it will be your pain and sadness if your wrong and hes just trying to spread your legs and split..if im wrong at least you wont loose anything if your not careful oyoull gain alot of heartache...i really hop this helps and i really wish youd update me. see it this way ok you give it to him (sex) youtrusted him, he betrays you will it be worth it? what if he just wanted that and thats all? ...think...what if?...
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now has any girl actually gotten an orgasm from straight up penetration? if so is there any way to reach it faster like certain positions or something i just feel like it would take forever and a guy couldnt last haha i just want good sex!! (link)
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sorry to ask again but how old are you?
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I was wondering if anyone knew what they do to wax your bikini? I want to do it, since shaving is a hassle for me and I always get razor bumps, itching. I just wanted to know the process, if you could let me know it'd be greatly appreciated! (link)
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try using a battery hair clipper with #1 clip it wont shave but youll give your vulva that clean feeling and no pain then use some hair scissors and carefully trim your labias. some hair is nice to have and you can always be creative and trim in a heart or a nice phrase like "just 4 u"
hope this helps
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I got a text from my girlfriend last night saying that her parents are making us break up because they found out that I touched her in innapropriate places. She is only fifteen and I am eighteen. I need to know what to do to. I don't want us to break up but her parents can get me in a lot of trouble if I don't obey their wishes. If I could have a second chance, I wouldn't touch her anywhere. Right now, I just think I need someone to talk to. I have had suicidal thoughts and that's not normal for me and I don't like it. Please please tell me what I can do! (link)
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first of relax
second take it easy
third if you really want something withthis girl please...just stay alive guy if you kill yourself youll never have the chance to redeem yourself. As for the parents...just hear my opinion ok? You ARE AN ADULT SHE IS NOT! ok? You did a NO NO ok? so what should you do? let her be. You are not in california i imagine or else youd be writing here rather than typing. They are in their legal right to tell you to back off, and if they want to press charges they could very well do so...so like i said relax and give her the space her parents are asking for. im not saying this relationship is gonna work but i am saying that if they do not press any charges let her mature and in a few years if shes still interested in you then at least itll be legal. got it? You really need to be man right now and accept what you did was wrong and that the only reason you feel bad is cause you got caught not cause you regret doing what you did. be brave man!! you were brave enough to touch her a minor innapropriate ways so now you have time to make a diffrence in her and your life, dont even try and get near her to appologize right now you need to stay sane, be strong and of strong courage, DO NOT go and try to get sympathy your not the victim here you are an adult and adults accpet errors and accpet responsibility and the consequences, the only thing you will accomplish by doing something dumb or crazy is dishonor your name, i know it seem sharsh what im telling you regardless im not saying to go kill yourself. just obey and stay single for a while obviously sex is not important and nore is obeying the law so just listen to them and leave their daughter alone think about it howd you react if someone did that to your sister or daughter or wife? think about it!!
i hate to say this but i really dont care if you low grade me..but i really do hope this helps
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Okay so the other night i was fooling around with this guy and i wouldnt call what we did sex because it never fully went in and im pretty sure he never came.however he didnt use a condem, but ive been on birthcontrol for a good 3 years but this weekend i missed pills and lost my birthcontrol and am getting a new pack in like an hour. And my cherrys never even been popped. I know obviously theres still a chance i could be pregnant but i guess i need someone to reassure me that im just freaking myself out. Also i got over my period like 3 weeks ago but than was bleeding for a couple of days last week because i missed pills. Im supposed to get it next week, so what should i do till than? I reallly just need someone to calm me down about it.
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the chances of you getting pregnant is 50 50 but no one can really tell. I wint say that you are and i will not say you are not. I will say this though that the more you use the pill the more your body has a high chance of adapting and getting pregnant may not be easy but every body is diffrent. I will not lecture you on this but i will say this think about having sex and remember that it is a responsibility to take as many measure to prevent yourself from getting pregnant if that is what you want to do.
I hope this helps
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How much cum does it take to get pregnant?
I mean can it be a little bit or does there have to be a lot of cum to make you pregnant? (link)
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If you are asking does it take a lot of sperm to fertilize an egg? No it doesnt take much.
If you are asking about how much fluid is needed? Again not much. Now if you are saying two people had sex no contraceptive what are the chances of getting pregnant? let me say this and even though many people will say no it aint true it has happened alot of times...even if you have sex once or a penis enters a vagina once without a contraceptive you have a high risk of geting pregnant. semen carries sperm, and sperms only mission is to fertilize so haveing said that i will use the last example when a woman wants to have a child on her own and gets donor sperm she does not need a cup or not even a teaspoon or half a teaspoon she only need about the amount of half of a Qtip ..HALF of the Qtip!! wow huh? so you dont need much if thats what you mean.
hope this helps.
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Hello there! Recently i have gone to a famous chat advice website here where i live and this is how it went (bear with me);
Anna : My parents are hardcore christians and i grew up in this family. We came from ukraine when i was 6 years old and since then i havent changed one bit.
Anna : My mother..she wants me to go to church every sunday
Anna : and does not allow me to get earrings, get my hair done, etc.
Anna : Now the problem i have is
Anna : I had to grow up really early
Anna : I am only 17 now and i feel like im 23 inside and i just want to be myself
Anna : but i dont want to hurt my mother
Anna : and ive tried to talk to her
Anna : about it
Anna : she just starts crying and makes me feel guilty
Anna Netesova: for instance..she accused me of being cold hearted because i got offended that she told me to put a robe on..even though im wearing sweatpants and a high shirt thats baggy
Anna : I dont drink
Anna : I dont smoke
Anna : I dont go out
Anna : I dont even have any friends because she wont let me have any other then christian ones
Anna : i dont have a boyfriend
Anna : i dont fuck around, pardon my language
Anna : Its stressing me out and im getting very frusterated
Anna : its been going on for awhile
Hope Coach: You are growing up and becoming your own person. Your mom will eventually have let you. At the same time your mom is older and wiser. While extreme, she is your mom and you do need to respect her
Anna : I do respect her
Anna : I just want her to leave me alone! I'm a teenager and i need space
Anna : but she just doesnt get that!
Hope Coach: You will soon be old enough to go to move out and go to college. Hang on til then and you will be able to spread your wings
Anna : What can i do until then? I feel claustrophobic in this house. Shes always trying to get me to go to church but i feel like all the people there are fake to me. I do believe in god yes but the christian god..he has betrayed me and thats another story.
Anna : I just..i cant get back into that scene
Anna : it hurts me trying to pretend
Anna : ive tried telling her this
Hope Coach: She is right you need to be in church
Hope Coach: you don't go to worship people
Hope Coach: you go to worship God
Hope Coach: God has NOT betrayed you
Hope Coach: Sounds like mom is right to be concerned
Hope Coach: your path is not good
Anna: I'm not a bad person. I don't do bad things.
Anna: I'm nice to everyone
Anna: I know the entire
Hope Coach: You're disobeying God
Anna: commandments
Anna: and i follow them
Hope Coach: so does the devil (that is know the commandments)
Now my question is this; what should i do about the problem i originally had, that my coach did not answer and why the hell would someone shove god into advice? I have been there, done that i just cant believe that god can just up and fix my problems if i believe in him (which i have and believe ME he does not.) (link)
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Now i know this is not going to be good on me and i know its oing to come back and bite me but here goes...
You really have to be carefull where and who you get advice from. Even here. I try so hard in not to mention advice...i instead give my opinion because its just my thought. I dont know if youre ann but i will tell you one thing everyone has a very diffrent view on God from catholics to christian to muslims it doesnt matter but everyone views God in an incredible diffrent way .
In this case you mention christian. depending on what your cultural background is it will effect the religion and belief. My opinion is to always be patient and try to give yourself the opportunity to solve problems youd be amazed at how God made you capable of solving just about everything except death once your gone your gone. Your mom might give you a hard time and the only thing i can really say is from experience is try try try try and try. this works well with fathers too. for whatever reason my mom was the most strictest with me at a young age i had no clue why and felt unfair. as time passed i learned how to communicate with her, my sibblings werent treated as strictly and all of them dont talk to her, im the only one my mom has now and i dint take vengance on her thats not my job i now understand the stress and pressure she had in raising us and lets face it were not perfect we all make mistakes alot of our parents need help with us they also have questions and stresses and pressure and oh the list goes on and on... i guess what im trying to say is dont be so hard on yourself and on her. keep trying to talk to her reminding her that your her girl and even if you grow up you will always see and allow her to see you as that little girl, in other words remind her that you love her and that she loves you. talk talk and talk to her until you build a strong relationship with her i mean when you have a friend you talk right? and you grow feelings for one another? right? and you consider each others opinions anf feelings and views..i hope this helps really and ill understand your low grade
best wishes
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18/female.
me and this guy have been affectionate towards each other for a long time .. probably about a year now. i've known him for oh god 4 years. we've never had sex, but we always want to it just never happens. he recently broke his wrist playing hockey and got surgery on it, and thinks we can have sex! i was like ahhhh; babe pretty sure you need your wrist to heal first! and he was like hahah why? and i was like well because it may be kind of painful for you. i didn't know what he was thinking! i seen him the day he got his surgery and it looked like he was in pain. it sucks though, because i really WANT him, my hormones have been going crazy but i dont want him to be in pain. the ONLY way i was thinking we could EVER have sex while his wrist was healing is if i was on top, but i've never done that before and wouldn't know what i was doing, and i would want to be on the bottom but that would be difficult for him, right? because he basically has to hold himself up and he has a broken wrist. do you guys see this as any possibility? i've never broken a bone before so i don't know how long it takes to heal, if it starts feeling better after a while or what. i just want to know if you guys think that itd be at all possible for us to have sex? he seems to think so . . but that was BEFORE he had his surgery, but his wrist was still broken when he told me that. (link)
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....mmmk...Now before you go and low grade me because i wont tell you what you want to hear..my opinion is id wait. i mean the least that you want is for discomfort to play a role on stopping in ritual. I mean itl be safer and heck the wait will let you really think to yourself and ...really if you havent had sex before for so long and youre not even in a commited relationship...and his wrist is broken ...uh..maybe it isnt meant for you both to have sex...i mean think about it. I know youre at a legal age to decide to have sex but...i dontknow the way i see it it shoulda already happend if it was meant to be. Im not going to tell you teo go have sex with a random guy because of your ragging hormones and im not suggesting to masturbate cause thatll just tick you off more...i guess what im saying is let him heal and really find out if you guys are in love and ready for the next step. then if you still want to have sex and his wrist is healed heck go at it like theres no tomorrow...just take it easy
let me know if this doesnt help let me know
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a very long time. we went to our first dance tonight and it was kinda rough. we danced once and he told me he wanted to go see his friends and i was fine with that. Almost all his friends are guys so i didn't really worry and i went with my friends. i hadn't really seen him for like an hour but then i saw him dancing with a girl he used to date. they weren't quite grinding but it wasn't really innocent. theeir hands were clasped and their bodies were touching. then he went up to my very good friend and did the same thing with her. when they were done i ran up to her and asked her what that was about and she said he told her i was fine with it (which i was not). then he saw i was mad and came up to me. i told him that it bugged me and we ended up screaming at eachother. now hes mad at me for not trusting him. Am i overreacting, or am i right to be mad at him? i kinda feel now like it was my fault, but i don't know. Any ideas? (link)
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Should you be mad/upset? Yes! Do you have the right to be mad/upset? Yes! there isnt anything wrong with you feeling this way, imagine you dont react what will his limits and boundaries be? Im not trying to start trouble or anything but seems to me like he really isnt into you. I went through this with a past relationship and i had a long talk and ended the relationship. When a couple begins to scream and yell its way past respect. I always say here that respect is incredibly important if you respect him you will never grind someone else NEVER and he will do the same...put it this way would you ever ask him if you could have sex with one of his friend? how would he feel? would he say yeah its cool or would he be like NO so if you respond hey why are you being jealous its only sex! would he have the right to be upset? I think he would. I think you should let your friend know that it wasnt cool to have danced with him never be afraid to speak your mind ....of course there are ways of knowing how to express them. I do think it was not your fault so there was no reason to say im sorry. Its not about trust in this case its about knowing what you should and should not do again the example i used maybe a really strong one but see it this way he needs to accpet that he is in a relationship true he isnt married but then if hes not going to respect you then whats he doing dating you? if he wants to be single then fine give him his freedom and brake it off and forget about him in my opinion he is not going to chamge and hes still gots a lot of GROWING UP! Love has no age right?? or so thats what they say but that doesnt give you are him the right in disrespecting each other if thats the case split and find someone who has the same mentality and feelings. You are young and im sure extremley intellegent and best of all beautiful dont feel bad he isnt the first and only guy. I know theres a guy out there that will never think in ever doing anything that to you. True you are still a child but everone has feelings...even a child. Hes not a man cause a real man wont go and do that to his Queen. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know before low grading me
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Me and my bf had gotten Chlamydia. We didnt know who had it first but we both got antibiotics and thought we were cool we waited 9 days to have sex again. We had unprotected a couple times after that. Then recently i found out i had it again. He hasn't got tested again yet. I'm wondering how did i get it again? When we both only been with each other? I took a different antibiotic this time but we had protected sex only a day after i got antibiotics. So could i have reinfected myself again? Even if we used condoms and had no oral sex? (link)
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I agree with the advisor SIA...take the full treatment and please mention this to your Doctor. Make sure you understand how this bacteria/virus works and its treatments and do follow the Doctors advice. I hope this helps
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First off, I am a female and 17 years old and so are the boys I'm talking about...
Well, I was "together" with this guy, Bob for about 3 months and out of nowhere one night at a party he decided I was too much of a baby for not giving him head and he ended it, because he said I am perfect, but just not for him.. A few weeks later I began talking to one of his friends, Mike more. We had hung out before at parties and get togethers, but never really talked a lot. So, he texted me and asked to hang out and so we did and ended up hooking up and other stuff, but we didn't tell anyone. A week later we were all hanging out with all their friends and my friends and both Bob and Mike were there. Mike didn't talk to me all week, but I knew he liked me before because we hung out and he wanted to hang out again. Mike didn't sit next to me or talk to me all night. All he did was look at me and smile. I don't know why, because even after Bob left he was still acting the same. I'm not sure if it's because he doesn't want anyone finding out or if he is just not into it. I tried texting him and saying Hi but he never answered and instead told my friend to text him. I don't know what to do because I really like him. What do I do? Why isn't he talking to me anymore? (link)
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...uh...Im not sure he was smilling at you cause he likes you I think the news is out that you and Mike did "stuff" and in his mind he might be amilling on his accomplishment...he might have palyed you and he may not have a purpose with you anymore. Im afraid you might have been used and i think bob knows what you and mike did. Im sorry to say this to you but i dont think he wants anything serious with you. Im sorry if i offfended you and im sorry if you get upset if i dont tell you what you want to hear....sorry
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Okay so this girl has been my best friend for like seven years (we're freshman in highschool) and I love her to death but there is this one thing that bothers me SOO much about her. She is actually like really really pretty but she knows this and she also thinks she's like really really hot. And it is so annoying. She's a little slutty... She doesn't have a big butt at all but she buys pants that are crazy tight and then goes around like "oh my god my butt is so big!" and for some reason it bothers me so much. And she also has like the same exact size boobs as me. Like really, I've seen her cup size... it's the same as mine. But she's always like "I'm sorry (my name) but you have like no boobs" or she's like "Here's one of my old sports bras, you can just have it cuz it's too small for me. and you have like nothing there so..." even though I constantly remind her that we have to same size. And I would never say it but I always have the urge to say "Okay. We have the same cup size, you just wouldnt be able to tell because I don't dress like a slut and let the everyone see mine :)" I know... it's really mean but it really bothers me. And I don't want to get all sappy and be like "It hurts my feelings when you make comments like that" cuz then its me admitting that im insecure about it. I just don't know how to handle her right now! I love her so much and not being friends with her is NOT an option I just don't know how to work through this. Plus, she's a total flirt. She flirts extremely with every boy she's around. Whether it be somebody's boyfriend or the guy I like and she doesn't get it when I tell her that people kind of hate her when she does that and that it bbothers me too. What can I do?? I don't know how to handle her. (link)
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Im sorry shes making you feel that way. She might or may not know shes doing this to you...but the truth is shes hurting your feelings and intentionally or not its hurting you. What can you do ? I think you have way more delf esteem and self confidence than herand the best part is that you dont need to show off the great qualities you have. I personally dont think you should confront her but what you can do is distant your self. Depending on how you view a friend should be. If to you a friends always respects and helps you as you go throught the learning process in life is what youd like in a friend then thats great but if you feel that the way her character is what you want in a friedn then stay friends with her. In other words it really could be her that needs you more than what she thinks you need her
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okay this weekend i went up to my boyfriends college to visit & party.
i drank little amounts considering i cant drink for my life, and i didnt smoke. but i did sit in a room that people were smoking in. a closed room. also, on the way up, my friends were smoking in the car.
i havent smoked in about a month now. im trying to stay clean so i get back into school (long story!!) .. if this helps.. i weigh about 95 pounds and im 5 foot 3.
after hanging out in the room w/ my boyfriend and friends (i didnt wanna be at the party alone for about 20 mins) i felt a little woosy.. like high. but not really. did the second hand smoke get me high? i have smoked before, but it wasnt anything like the usual high. it was a little woosy dizzy feeling.
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will the second hand smoke trigger the drug test? (link)
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For urine my guess would be No the drug test should not show you as a positive for drug substance. However if you were to have had taken the drug test within days to maybe a week id say youd show traces of drugs substances in your system. However if you are going to take a hair sample test then yes you will show a trace of drug substance in your systems. With urine the reason you can "clean" out your system is due to your kidneys and liver they are filtering out impurities and the really best way to clean your systems is the hardest one 1. DO NOT USE DRUGs ar be surrounded by friends that get high with an area of a high concentration...if theres enough stuff in the air for you to feel even a slight high then its getting in your system however if you happen to pass say a group of people thatwere smoking but only smelled it and didnt stop to inhale then most probable no it isnt enough to get into your system. Water and time and antioxidants work well for the urine test but nothing will clean you out over night and using bleach to the urine will not make you pass a urine test. Again the best way to pass a drug test is not to have any illegal drugs in your system. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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My friend Jessica is Going out with Jason. Jason's Friend told Jessica that Jason had a lot of girls from nearby cities in his phone, and their numbers. He talked about how Jason always talks about them. Later on that night, Jessica calls Jason using a playful voice...she then realizes that he can't tell that its not her voice!.......so basically, it seems that her boyfriend is talking to girls without her knowing or flirting with them and all that. Jessica is my friend and i really care about her. When she goes to school tomorrow, what is a good way to confront her boyfriend about the whole situation without putting jason's friend in out there and without making it look like she was trying to trick him? (link)
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I personally do not think its a good idea to confront him. It might be a better idea to talk to your friend and express a concern for her and explain what you know that are facts and not just rumors or " I heard" i dont think you want to confront someone who might try to put your friend against you, thats why i say talk to her and you will have to accept that its going to be her final say if she wants to have this guy in her life and you rather him not know because in the end she miight stay with him and you dont want to have two people upset at you. Its best that you just talk to her.
I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know please
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Is there any way you can tell a guy isnt a virgin? (link)
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there are ways you can tell...again this is just an opinion..
You can tell if a guy has had sex by studying him, his ways his talk, body language, the way he looks at girls and the parts of the girl he looks at.
Alot of guys with sexual experience love to sweet talk and they do it not because no one notices thats its just talk they do it cause they get away with it women let themselve be stweet talked pretty much all of the time.
when they have sexual experience they just cant control their hands its like the want to touch and explore
They express the need for sex at a early point in the relationship...sex is addictive and they need it badly
they can always know exactly ho to do sexual positions,talk,acts and because of their experience they know how to remove girls undies and unhook the bra and how to rub a girl and eat and etc etc...oh and they know all of the sex positions angain experience = not a virgin
physically maybe only one clue that might be found on the tip of the penis at the urethra but studies are being done to see if this theory is true.
I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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17/f
My boyfriend broke up with me and I am having trouble figuring out why. I met Jake when I was lifeguarding a little over a month ago and he hit on me and was like "hey beautiful" and was completely smitten (like really...haha the other guards were teasing him about it) and told the other guards he felt this connection with me, etc. He even asked me to marry him that day. He asked me out and just two weeks later we became boyfriend and girlfriend. He always told me that he could see me being his girlfriend for awhile, would text me everyday, and just was an overall really great boyfriend.
He has had A LOT of girlfriends/hook ups while I have never had a boyfriend before and only kissed two guys before him. We are really different in the sense that I'm really conscious about my grades (i have a 4.0) he barely has a 3.0, he is a "hardcore" kid or whatever and goes to hardcore shows while i'm really "preppy" or whatever. we also go to different schools and live about 20 minutes away from each other.
i brought this up the day he went out, i told him i'm not into drugs and he told me he isn't either anymore, that he used to be a bad kid but he has changed. he told me he still does smoke but only two cigarettes a day, and that i would be his incentive for him to stop. i also brought up the distance and he kept insisting it's not that far away.
everything seemed to be going pretty okay, but we only got to see each other once a week since he is a senior and his parents wanted him to get his gpa up so i could only see him on weekends. what we would basically do is watch a movie/talk/makeout. before we did anything he told me that he liked me a lot and wanted to take things slow. he also told me whenever he was kissing me that i could say "get the fuck off of me jake" and that i didnt even have to kiss him if i didnt want to and that he just liked spending time with me. he would say so many romantic things when we were kissing like "i could do this all day" one day he started to finger me and he asked if it made me uncomfortable and if it did that i could just tell him to stop.
last week i met his sister and best friend. when i asked him what they thought of me he said his sister loved me and that was the very first time his sister had like any of his girlfriends, and he said his best friend said i was "tight". for some weird reason after that day he seemed less interested in me. he didnt text me the day after and when he did text me he was really short with his answers. when i asked if something was wrong he said "no why???" i said "okay nvm" and then he seemed suddenly worried and asked "no. what's up babe?" saturday was our one month and i hung out with him on friday night, he asked me if i wanted to go out to eat and that he wanted to take me out/pay for me but when i got there it didnt seem like he wanted to so i just told him i wasnt that hungry and we just went in his basement and watched a movie/made out. he then asked me since it was like our one month if i wanted to try anything, and i said sure...he could do what he wanted but if it made me uncomfortable i would tell him to stop. he started to go under my shirt/feel my chest and i told him "i'm not ready!" and he seemed disappointed but he stopped. then he unbuttoned my pants and started to finger me on top of my underwear and asked me if i was sure i didn't want him to go under (hes always done it on top of my underwear) and i said i'm sure. then later we were making out and he put my hand on his crotch and i started rubbing it. i asked him if it felt good and he said yeah but just do it a little harder next time. then later he asked me if i wanted him to pull down his pants so i could give him a better handjob but just on top of his boxers so i said okay and i think i did a better job and i told him "i don't know what i'm doing...i havnt done this before" and i asked him if it felt good and he said yeah and i'm pretty sure he was hard too so i could tell.
when we were just cuddling and watching the movie i kept asking him about his sexual experiences and for some reason it seems to have bothered him. i asked him if he remembered his first blowjob...if he has hooked up with a lot of girls...if they were from his school...if they were spontaneous hookups...if it was true that he hooked up with this girl in the guard office closet. before i left he kissed me and i was about to leave and i asked him "you liked everything? like it felt good?" and he was like "yeah! we'll talk about this later though you'll freeze." (it was raining/cold outside)
the next day he broke up with me in a text saying that i didnt seem comfortable with his lifestyle at all...but that i was an amazing girl and that i was gonna make a guy really happy and all of this bs. i was really angry and called him and he kept saying "you didn't seem comfortable about my past...plus we are too far away and only get to see each other once a week (something i reminded him the day he asked me out and he said he didnt care) and said i don't seem comfortable with his drinking (something said i didnt mind unless he drove) and said its hard for him to have a girlfriend because he needs to get his grades up and focus on college. i said i could come over more if he wants and could help him study, etc. but he wasnt even trying to make it work and just seemed set on breaking up with me. i asked if the questions i asked last night had anything to do with him breaking up with me and he said sort of.
so i'm basically asking...why did he break up with me? do guys hate it when girls ask about their past? he was COMPLETELY head over heels for me before...i cannot stress this enough. (his friend/the other gaurds would tell me this and would tell me how cool it was that people could see that we were in a relationship together on facebook) was it possible that his friend didn't like me anymore and was just lying when he said that he thought i was cool? i asked him if there was another girl and he said no...i asked him if he didnt think i was pretty anymore and he kind of scoffed and said that wasn't it at all and that he told me from the start that he thought i was beautiful. was i being too nosy asking all of those questions? or did he break up with me because he thought i gave a bad hand job/thought i was a bad kisser/thought i was too inexperienced? i also asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits and he said he doesnt do that and kept mentioning "pressure" or something when he was with me...he also says that he felt that we went out so quickly and that he wishes we got to know each other better before we became boyfriend and girlfriend. the breakup seemed random when he seemed into me the night before/we went farther than we have ever gone before. he seemed so set on having a long serious relationship with me. what is the deal?
by the way, saturday he went to a hardcore show or whatever and a girl gave him a blow job im pretty sure. they are talking and im pretty sure going to be hooking up. i feel so hurt that he went from me to this slut.
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As much as you may think theres something wrong with you....There isnt! The problem about guys is that they will say and do prety much about anything to get you very comfortable fast to get sex...now not all but the great majority will and especially if they have already had sex they become addicted but not do they get addicted to sex but so do the women. This may not mean to you anything but im Proud of you for thinking and going slow you although may not want to beleive it saved yourself from a HUGE heartache and from making a mistake of giving him sex. You did nothing wrong by letting him know you are not ready. This goes for both men and women..its bad when people just see sex and nothing else....sex does that to people who have never taken the time to really see what love is about they think that sex is love and sex is not love its part of love but it cannot always include sex. I honestly think he was just trying to get between your legs and got turned off by the fact that you were not going to give it to him just like that and THATS a very good thing you did. You have the right to know his sexual past ...many will disagree with me but i really do not care... my opinion is its your body and if you do not know hes past and are aware and accept full responsibility for any and all consequences of having sex with him. Now imagine what if he has an infection or STD and you didnt know or he wont tell you his past then it wouldnt be fair to you for him to withhold that info. Now if you choose to have sex with him after knowing that he has had a lot of sex and youll just be another than ..hey i respect that you decided and no one else. I think he was a jerk for breaking up with you the way he did he should have been a man and told you the truth. My advice is if you do decide to date again next time take it a little more slow. get to know the person and find out with time their past. I dont blame you for asking so many questions so early in the relationship after all he was trying to get some (sex) from you also early in the relationship. heres a tip sex should never be rushed into when you buy a house or a car or even choose what career you want you think thoughly right? if any guy sweet talks you the good ol rule of thumb is " if hes sweet talking you then hes sweet talking to other girls" then its your resposibillity to make sure this guy doesnt pull a fast one on you. And it wasnt that he had sex more than you it was the fact that you sort of questioned his sexual goal with you. as soon as he knew that your not in it for a "booty Call" he just said forget it and went on looking for easier prey. thats why im glad you didnt fall.. now yes itll hurt and theres nothign wrong with it hurting you .you are a serious relationship girl and beleive me MANY GUYS are out there wishing for an opportunity to love. youll have sex either now or later just have sex after youve really thought about it, no ones pressuring you, no ones trying to get sex from you, and #1 respects you your feeling and your body. In my opinion that guy came in to strong on you and thats a shame on him. You continue in taking care of yourself and understanding that you really wanted a special someone and he screwed up but not everyone will be like him BUT THERE ARE ALOT OF GUYS LIKE HIM so always on guard you have nothignto prove to them by doing the "love test" which is just another way of downgrading women. I would not chase him id let him go to hell. You continue to focus on yourself and your career goals that in my opinion expresses you as a very intellegent,respectable,brave,caring,devoted,responsible and sexy girl you are....and im saying this without even knowing you. Be happy you deserve someone better than that bum/jerk
I hope this helps. if it doesnt please let me know before low grading me. Thanks
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So, my friend got fingered the other night and she said it hurt really bad and it was only one finger but it hurt a lot. Her boyfriend told her she was really tight and he didnt even stick his whole finger in her, just a little and she said it still hurt her really bad. What should she do? (link)
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Its a good thing you are concerned over this experience that your friend went through it can also benefit you.
it is possible that he might have well...given her an indian burn..sorry thats the best way i can describe it. It more than likeley happened because she might have been nervous, unsure, uncomfortable, and it happened so unexpectantly. My opinion is that ...Slow down relax dont rush into sex take some thought into how and why things happend. The Bad thing and horrible mentallity in young men is that oh you put your finger there push and it feels good...but as your friend is sadly finding out it isnt that pleasant. time time and again time is what you need slwo down relax if you cant relax and feel comfortable dont do it theres aways tomorrow theres no rush into having a scary and painful experience. If her vulva is bleeding or gets irritated seek medical advice. I ALWAYS recommend females encouraging and teaching their lovers to have good personal hygeine a guy with freshly cut nails or untrimmed nails or Dirty Hands can introduce pain and unwanted bad bacterial into your body. I hope this helps if ti does not please let me know before you grade me
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alright im a 16 year old female. I am curretnly on a birth control pill for my cramps. I was on my sugar pills this week. Today i went to visit a friend at his house and things got a little more than friendly. I ended up having sex with him, twice It was my first time and it was unprotected. I know it was hugly iresponsable but it was one of those thing that just happend and then later your going oh my god i cant belive that i did that. He did pull out both times but im still worried. I am on my period also. Great combination i know. like I said it just happened. I am worried that he might have gotten me pregnant. I was just wondering what are the chances now? (link)
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The chances of you are pregnant right now is High. Because you are menstruating and nothing stood in the way between his sperm & Semen and your uterus and since the uterus does get dilated the sperm have even higher chances of fertilizng your egg. I would wait about 2 weeks and take a urine test and to be safe take another test a week after that. If your period arrives within its regualr schedule more that likely you missed the opportunity to become pregnant but gives you the opportunity to really think about sex and this guy...really think about it. Im not here to lecture you but before you low grade me let me know if it didnt help.
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i have a 1997 ford mustang and over the summer i hit a deer, causing my air bags to deploy. i have liability so all the damage to my car is being paid for out of pocket. we found some airbags but im confused as to how they'll be replaced since mine have been deployed and obviously broke through the steering wheel and dash. will my whole steering wheel & dash have to be replaced? does that mean my airbags have to come out of another mustang so that i can get these parts? any help would be appreciated, thanks! (link)
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This is EXTREMELEY IMPORTANT be very carful were you get your air bags i personally highly recommend OEM (orginial) Because unless you absolutley know that the donor car was never in a frontal collison or rear collison i would not buy it. Most air bags when deployed will only require to be replaced (air bag module) only but there are some models where the steering bag will melt or burn the steering wheel and youll end up needing to replace the whole assembly. On the passenger side it really varies some models youll have to only replace the module others require the dash and the windshield due to the air bag makes hard contact with the dash and or winshield to the point of craking or breaking it at time of deployment so it really depends, also not only will your air bags need to be replaced but also your "crash" sensors more than likely they got damaged or destroyed and the rule of thumb is if the air bags were deployed then new sensors need to be installed....wait theres more it is extremeley dangerous to work on air bags let me repeat EXTREMELEY DANGEROUS!!!! the system is designed to help save lives in case of collision ...so whats so dangerous?? well.... lets say you get ina crash and the battery gets damaged or destroyed...you need electricity to activate the system right?? well theres no power..!! so oh no the air bag wont activate!!.....wrong there are Back up power supply ( batteries...no not duracells) actually more like Capacitors that will provide the system (its the law) if a case like this should ever occur...so whats that got to do with the danger?? well im saying that even if you disconnect the cars battery the systems still armed...and if you remove the deployed air bags without removing the crash sensors (but disarming the system FIRST)...guess whats going to happen when you install the new one?? let me give you a clue 1. it will deploy 2. you can get your head severed off your body 3. you can seriously get a limb or other body part severley injured 4. DIE or 5. All of the above. When ever the SRS (safety Restraining Systems) needs service the system needs to be disarmed. So before you go and play with the system please have a ASE certified professional work on the vehicle. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know before you low grade me
he air bags will need to be for your application
year make model and a vin # can and will be able to assit in getting the correct #part. some people try and swap parts but its so tricky and seeing that this is a safety device i would get exact replacement.
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i have been on birth control for a about a month and two weeks almost three well im not very good at taking them like at all the other week i forgot to take the pill so i took two the next day. then the other day i was about to take it and the pill dropped and i couldnt find it OF COIURSE! that day me and my boyfriend were having sex and i told him not to cum in me but he did anyway. he almost alawys cums in me by the way. (we just started cuming in me thoug) and even missing the pills i dont take them all at the same time everyday sometimes i forget in the morning or i figure i dont have time and take it when i get home from school or b4 i go to bed. but sometimes i take it regurlary everyday in the morning but that lasts like three days. and i know there are chances of getting pregnant ALWAYS! and the way ive been doing things i have a greater chance of but. what are the sighns and stuff and percentage of getting prego. like the first week of getting prego do you have signs i have been pooping like three times a day now that mean anything! (link)
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Wel there is a slight chance you may not be pregnant. Im sure you understand why its so important to take your birth control pill every day on schedule. The first thing you both need to do is get 1. sex ed. 2. Get on the same mentality 3. find the best method that will fit your needs.
Sex education is extremeley important not only to prevent unwanted pregnancy or health risk but also to really think about the choice you will be making that will require you to be Resposible. Sex Is a resposibility. 2. same mentality is important if he isnt on the same level as you are then you are going to get pregnant like it or not so you need to tell yourself im i really ready for this? second you need to also think to yourself is he the guy i want to get me pregnant? if no is the answer get him to work with you on this or dont have sex with him or consider the thought that maybe the relatioship isnt going to work out...i kno you might get mad at me for saying that but hear my reason.. if you base your relationship on sex and not on anything else then girl there are guy out ther that can provide the sex and the whole deal so do think into that. 3. find the best method to help you be as much as resposible as possible. I have said it before there are other type of contraceptives out there if you are worried about pregnancy such examples as A. The Nuva ring which you or him insert into your vagina nearest to your uterus it is left iside your body for 30 days pull out the old one and insert a new one and after 90 days give your body a rest period not a bad way at all insert and forget about it and no pills and very discrete. B. Contraceptive gel its basically like a lubricant but it is recommended to insert an applicator into your vagina and apply the gel on your uterus the down side to this is that for every intercourse you need apply it and just applying the lube on his penis is not enough and you will need to carry the lube around with you. C. contraceptive film/ Vaginal deposotory both need to be inserted into your vagina and there is a waiting period to allow the contraceptive to flow downside is that you need to use this every time you have sex and carry it with you. D. Foam the foam is not that bad but there have been many stories out there that i dont really talk much about the foam. E. Vaccine/shot this method is very popular but has its downsides too once a dosage has been given there is no reversal until the time period makes it wear off meaning if you feel nausea or dizzy or feel like your on your period its pretty much going to be that way until the schedulled dosage so if it is good for 1 month your stuck with all of those feelings into the end of the month. And the #1 contraceptive is NO SEX!!. with what ever method you want to go with understand this it is not recommended to "cum" inside the vagina the method " pull out" is the best method that will work the best with all of the mentioned methods as for as i know. I kknow many many many couples really I mean really like IUD's but thats only recommended for women who had already given birth it is very VERY accurate in preventing pregnancy. Always ask you medical professional for any and all health concern advice. I hope this helps if it doesnt tell me dont miss grade me bacause i didnt tell you what you wanted to hear..ok?? =)
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