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She's REALLY bothering me!
Okay so this girl has been my best friend for like seven years (we're freshman in highschool) and I love her to death but there is this one thing that bothers me SOO much about her. She is actually like really really pretty but she knows this and she also thinks she's like really really hot. And it is so annoying. She's a little slutty... She doesn't have a big butt at all but she buys pants that are crazy tight and then goes around like "oh my god my butt is so big!" and for some reason it bothers me so much. And she also has like the same exact size boobs as me. Like really, I've seen her cup size... it's the same as mine. But she's always like "I'm sorry (my name) but you have like no boobs" or she's like "Here's one of my old sports bras, you can just have it cuz it's too small for me. and you have like nothing there so..." even though I constantly remind her that we have to same size. And I would never say it but I always have the urge to say "Okay. We have the same cup size, you just wouldnt be able to tell because I don't dress like a slut and let the everyone see mine :)" I know... it's really mean but it really bothers me. And I don't want to get all sappy and be like "It hurts my feelings when you make comments like that" cuz then its me admitting that im insecure about it. I just don't know how to handle her right now! I love her so much and not being friends with her is NOT an option I just don't know how to work through this. Plus, she's a total flirt. She flirts extremely with every boy she's around. Whether it be somebody's boyfriend or the guy I like and she doesn't get it when I tell her that people kind of hate her when she does that and that it bbothers me too. What can I do?? I don't know how to handle her.
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Im sorry shes making you feel that way. She might or may not know shes doing this to you...but the truth is shes hurting your feelings and intentionally or not its hurting you. What can you do ? I think you have way more delf esteem and self confidence than herand the best part is that you dont need to show off the great qualities you have. I personally dont think you should confront her but what you can do is distant your self. Depending on how you view a friend should be. If to you a friends always respects and helps you as you go throught the learning process in life is what youd like in a friend then thats great but if you feel that the way her character is what you want in a friedn then stay friends with her. In other words it really could be her that needs you more than what she thinks you need her
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It sounds to me like she wants you to feel insecure about yourself, for some reason. A lot of people like to put themselves up on this high place in life by putting people down, you just have to focus on making sure she knows it doesn't effect you. Example : Her : "Oh MAH,GAAWD. I look SOO much better than you today!" - She compares herself to you because she's actually insecure and needs to assure herself she looks good, when in reality she comes off trashy. These actions also shows she's probably jealous of some of your attributes, but covers it up with insults. The best thing to say to her for this situation would be "Yeah,Well i don't care, i like myself the way i am :}" This shows she can't effect you, and it'll take her aback- because deep down she probably doesn't like herself for who she is. And saying this doesn't come off as being rude or mean. Or you can say "How about we agree to disagree on that one?" This shows you have the upper hand and she can't decide who YOU are,you do. So, along with all this its no surprise to me that she's a flirt. But you know,with her clothing choice she's only attracting dogs that think they'll "get some". In that case, if a guy takes interest in her- you know he might not be that great for you; (if you're looking for a relationship). She'll probably grow out of this stage,but for now..buy her a sweatshirt XD. Just kiddin', but honestly, if she is acting flirty and what not, just walk away from the situation. If she asks why you left, just be like "you know i love you but i'm worried your attracting the wrong guys" You guys have been friends forever, she should understand. Besides, this makes you seem like you care for her safety, even if you don't :P, though I'm betting you do. Well that's my take on this! Hope i helped some :}
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