I've dealt with a lot of stuff. Suicide, abuse, and that girl that's only like 13 and not a virgin. And tons more. I really enjoy getting questions from people, but if you just want to talk for no or any reason, or want a more personal answer, I like it even better when people e-mail me. I'm cool with any topic. I get on my email/ site at least once a week.
P.S: sorry for what looks like bad spelling/ grammar, but really I just have a realllly bad touchscreen. sorry!
E-mail: divergirl123_1@aol.com
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Location: California
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Age: 14
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Hi! Im about to turn 13 in a few months, going into seventh grade. I know this sounds strange but i recently got my period for the first time so my body and face have been maturing. I really like this boy and everyone says we would be perfect for eactchother but he barely notices me! How do i get him to like me...besides "being myself"??? (link)
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um... sorry to burst your bubble, but unless you want to act your way to this guy then youll HAVE to be your self. its fine to be single, ok? dont be like that just for respect, it'll ruin your rep.
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I mean, attractive ones, but they're sometimes the sort of guys who only get more attractive as I get to know them and then it's like I see them in a different way. cause it's easy to just see some jock and acknowledge he has good features but when he's dead inside that's like a total turn off, and I don't get why a lot of girls go for that, unless it's cause they're dead inside, too. the only problem is that these sorts of guys I like tend to be shy about the whole dating arena so what would I have to do to encourage one of these guys to ask me out? I like guys who are generally quiet in public (not really talkative like me, and definitely not cocky, or at least not overbearingly so) but with me I'd want him to generally be the dominant one, if that makes sense. I just feel like I just put myself in this weird situation cause sometimes I can tell that some guys like me.. but I'm definitely not going to make the first direct move, even though I think I'm giving them pretty good clues (just naturally). or did those guys really not like me, if they didn't take the chance to ask me out? or they were just too afraid and just kept things to themselves? cause it's not like i'd just shut someone's genuine offer like that, especially if we had been friends already
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no way is that wierd at all! every girl has a type. just dont overdo it, though. your smart to be friends with the guys first, because I know a girl who -literally- had sex with a guy she barely knew, and asked out a guy after 2 hours of talking to him! please, please (!) dont be like her, it'll ruin you. just be friends, and dont flirt to quickly, just be friends with a few guys for a while (but not to long or itll be awkward if you become like best friends) and then choose your pick and hopefully it'll work out :)
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Ok so I have this friend and I feel like we both kind of "find an excuse" to touch each other. Like if we're sitting in the car then we'll fall asleep (even if we're not tired) just because we want to lean on the other person. Or reach over to grab something just to touch the other. Ya know little stuff like that. But I'll give you a list of things that have happened:
1. We lay on each other during movies and put our legs on each other
2. One time we were in my pool and she untied my bathing suit and hers and said she wouldn't give it back until I got out of the water and jumped in with her and also later took her bottoms off
3. We were in my pool again and kept wrestling under water and she kept wrapping her legs around me
4. (I have a big butt) and she asked if she could grab it and I let her
5. We are always wrestling and getting on top of each other
6. She wanted me to tell her something and twisted my arm back and was like right behind me and we stayed there for a while
7. We grabbed onto each other during a scary movie and kept holding each other even after the part was over
8. We were watching a movie and her legs were wrapped around mine and she asked what would you do of this was a guy, like that would be awkward and I was like yea!
9. She lured me into one of our guest rooms in the basement that is kind of scary and weird things happen down there. But all of a sudden she acted scared and grabbed onto me and we were laying on the bed and just holding each other really close and all you could hear was us breathing (and we were in the dark) and then finally we got up and she was still acting like she was scared and was grabbed onto me and her body was really close to mine and then I got to the door and turned on the lights
10. She's always acting horny around me like randomly humping poles and walls
11. She had a remote control and got on top of me and was acting like she was raping me (using the remote control as her... Penis)
So yea also answer (based on what I just gave you) if you think that she'll be up for a kiss like if she'll do it. And also how do I go about kissing her? Its all I think about but I really don't just want to ask her so what do you guys think I should do? How do I make moves on her to get close and how can I find a way to kiss her? (link)
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(guessing you're a girl) yay lesbians! anyway.. well what I did to get my 'lover' to kiss me was we were in my room and i put on a movie and just kinda waited until the sex scene then she started to fall asleep, so i said stay up my friend said make me, so.. hehe... i did. lol anyway just like get her alone when your both relaxed maybe even truth or dare. good luck ;D
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I'm almost 19. Im madly in love with my bf. He treats me like gold and would never hurt me in any way. He's the most kind hearted gentle man in the whole world. We have sex 3-4 times a week, hes very respectful he stops at anytime if i ask him or need him too. I tend to feel ashamed, guilty and scared during sex even though he tries to make me as comfortable as possible is that normal? I want to have sex with him without these terrible feelings. Also, sex always hurts me we have to stop most times because it hurts so badly hes not being rough or going to hard or fast or anything so whys it hurt? How can i have a normal healthy non painful sexual relationship with the love of my life? (link)
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you might just be one of those slow maturing girls. im almost fourteen and I haven't even had my period! you may be ready, but that choice is really up to your body. i hope you eventually get it right.
ps: condoms only work 97% of the time
:)
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I'm 14 and want to get another piercing in my ear, but I don't think my mom is ok with it....do you always have to have a legal gardian with you to get a piercing? (link)
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oh. my. gosh. if your thinking of doing this behind your mothers back forget about it. if your so imatture as to do something that childish then you're not even responsible enough to get your ears pierced again.
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f/young teen
any tips you all have on:
flirty comments
was to break the touch barrier
flirty moves
and the like! thanks, xoxo hallagal (link)
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wear cute clothes, ALWAYS keep your hands cold so that way he know when you touch him, when you're near him quietly sing a dirty song, and he'll give you 'that look'. you know, that sexy crap guys crave so much.
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Will a guy want u more if you ignore him (link)
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sometimes yes, sometimes no. if he likes you, it'll either drive him crazy or give him the wrong idea. if he doesnt like you, he probably wont notice.
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why michael jackson became white? (link)
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he did not do it by choice. micheal jackson have a very rare skin deases that destroyed his cells that gave his skin color. have you ever heard of albino people? they have this same problem but with micheal jackson it happened after he was born. I am not sure what this deformation is called, but look it up. it is NOTtrue that he had surgery. look at pictures of him throughout his entire life very closely and you'll notice he got lighter over time, due to the skin cells dieing
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there is this guy in my grade that i really like and he use to like me too and he also said it to me and told me he loves me and everything and even when i said no didnt like him back i actually did and now we do not even talk and everything and i really like him but he doesnt like me the same way anymore so is there anyway i can get him to like me the way he did before? (link)
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you lost your chance. im sorry, but if you try to get him now, youll porbably just be hurting someone else
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For about, maybe... 1 Week, I have been going to this camp that my friends have been going to. And let me say... I've been hit on a lot. But not as bad. Im just going to sum up this story.
On the first day, I was called "Sexy" and "Hot" a lot. I wasn't really worried about it. And then this guy, he's a year older then me (Im 14), started getting really... "Colorful" with me. He started with just messing with me, and then it got to touching. I was laying down, just chillin', and he came over, and he got super close to me, and he whispered "I would f***ing do it with you."
And then that hit it off. He's been touching me, name calling me, and attempting to get with me. It's actually freaking me out, because one of my "friends" told him where I lived. And this guy is almost 3 feet taller then me, he's way stronger then me as well, he could easily rape me, no problems. That's why I'm so scared about this. I'm not good with words, and I'm afraid if I say something that'll make him upset, he'll freak and go to my house. x I've stopped going to the camp, but I really need help on this. I dont know where to turn.
What should I do?! What should I say?! (link)
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SEXUAL ASSULT!!!!!! i'm not sure but if he does 'do it with you' without your permission, he can be charged!!! just tell an adult or if your not comfotable with your mom alone, get a friend, tell her, and you guys can go to an adult together. plus, its more likely they'll believe you if you have a friend.
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I wrote this rap for the song "somebody that I used to know remix" and it's my first rap so tell me if it's good or things that could help the verse. If I should rap fast of slow. You could add more to the verse.
The Verse:
All these voices in my head come as I'm laying in bed
We had it all, I wasn't gonna let you fall
I was in rehab for something I thought I had
Everyone thinks I'm bad.
HEYYYYY
Stop eating your chicken and listen.
You were the one for me
What could be is a mystery.
Don't realized what you done honey bun.
While you were soaking in the sun, I was in the room thinking why do you make me cry, the anger, frustration, DENIAL.
Now I walk a mile with an empty heart and sadness.
Thinking I caused all this madness when it was all you. (link)
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im sorry, but please put down your chicken and listen. that was so bad. im sorry but try something else. not all raps rhyme every single line.
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hi im joy and i was wondering was is the average weight of a ten year old????? (link)
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when i was your age i was 4ft. and about 8 in. and i weighed about 70 lbs. and when we got health scores from p.e. i was 100% healthy. but if thats not how tall or much weight you are, its fine! different weight goes with different hieght. like if you're 12 ft. and weigh 2 pounds, i'd be worried. but if youre 4 ft. 5, its fine if you weigh 60-70 pounds. it all depends on if you're tall or short or in between. so, the answer to your question is, i kinda dont know. its all in genetics, really.
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hi im 12/f, am i stupid ?? ok so for the past few days all i hav been thinkin about is that i think ppl tht r waaaayy to young are thinkin about adult things(and u no wat i mean) but i think its bc their parents dont really hav a connection with their children which is y they do what they want..... now im confused is this a stupid thing to think or is it all in my head?????????????? thanks:)!! (link)
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trust me you are not the only one. I'm 13 and my friend has had sex twice. I think its wrong and we should just live our lives. and she barely even knew those two guys they werent even dating!! but yes, i totally agree with you. you are not stupid!!!!! :)
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I have had a rough start in life. Like I took it to the extreme that I wanted to commit suicide. I have a survival story that is so horrifying, it made others cry. People told me that I should talk to them if I need to be consoled. Recently there is a person that I really want to talk to about my life, but my grandmother/mother/therapist told me I shouldnt because I couldn't trust that this person could keep whatever I tell that person to itself. But this person is convincing me that I can trust them and I can always talk to them, but at the same time, I have to trust my grandmother's instincts when it comes to trusting people. What should I do?! (link)
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it's up to you. if youtrust them, you can. if you're afraid of what others will say, then just dont tell others you told this person. its your decision. trust me, ive been to your point.
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what do i say if sombody asks u out (link)
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if you like them- yes
if not- no, thank you.
if you know for a fact that they have a bf/gf at that moment- bitch slap them across the face and say no.
i do hope i helped :)
-scottishgal1
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18/f/usa
I can't feel anything, emotionally that is. I want so much to be happy, but when I'm filled in a room with my friends and family, I notice I'm usually forcing myself to smile. I'm so lonely. My best friend is always falling in and out of love and I've yet to. I miss having boyfriend, but all the guys that ever like me are creeps. I just want to be happy, to actually be able to feel something again.
*Note I am on antidepressants and have been for maybe like a year and a half? (link)
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yeah. I know how you feel. but if this friend is leaving you for her guy, leave her when shes lonley. iit may be harsh, but hey, she so deserves it. just dont get desperate for a guy, just kinda tiptoe into love, dont fall in, otherwise you will seem desperate. hope i helped.
-scottishgal1
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Last night my boyfriend and I decided to put an end to our relationship and this time for good.I feel that he's gone forever this time.
The thing is that we have always had these terrible arguments and misundestandings all the time,and he didn't trust me and neither did I.
Trust was missing in our relation and arguments had become the norm.
We both felt like it was over and decided to dump each other.I didn't even looked at his face when I left,and now it's really weard since I'm not missing him and I'm not expecting him to call me or text me either.
Is this time for real?Shall I start thinking that this is it?And that from now on my life's gonna be different?I mean,that I'm gonna be able now to make my own decisions?
What scares me is that I still love him.How can you love someone so much and cannot be with him?Why do I feel like staying away from him?And why do I think that this the best thing to do? (link)
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oh, my. oh so very many questions and yet oh so very little space in my brain to process it all. the only thing i noticed was-
i broke up with him
blah .blah .blah .
i still love him.
blah.
well if you 'love' him soo much, why'd you leave at all?? if he really was your 'the one' you should not have left him.
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I really want to die i cant stand my life anymore and i need a way to go painlessly please help me end my sufferring. (link)
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well you should stop bein so fuddleydudley and be happy. noone likes a sad suicidal person. most people pay attention to the friendly eccentric ones. try being happy and you might realize its better for you.
loveable
interesting
fun
entertaining
think of life that way :) it'll help.
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